. MM 11 T I M DEN NHtJNG M O I QUAN HE
O tudi 50, Carolyn ling dung bai hoc nay mot Ian niia: " T o i biet truoc khi buoc sang tudi 60, toi se mudn minh c
'quyen chpn lua' va 6 vao mot vi tri tao nen su khac biet. V i vay toi chon mot nhom hoat dong chinh tri de giiip do. O thcri diem do, toi chua tung tham gia van dong quyen gop tien bao gio. Toi chon mot trucmg dai hoc. Khi do, toi chua tung ly luan truoc cong chiing, cung chua giang day trong mot truong Ion. T o i tu hoi, ' M i n h c6 the ung dung kha nang lanh dao cua n u gioi 6 nhiing cho khac nao ngoai cong viec?' The rdi, toi chon gia nhap cac quy dau tu. T o i con chpn tham gia vao nganh dupe nhu mot mang cong viec mod me."
Loi khuyen cua c6 la hay chii trpng va danh thoi gian cho viec gay dung mang luoi quan he cua ban. "Ban khong the dgi cho den khi can thi mod bat tay vao xay dung," c6 chi ra van de. " V i khi ay da qua mupn. Ban phai xay dung no t u truoc. Nghe
CO ve sac mui 'ke hoach'. Nhung no gidng m o uoc hon."
V o l vai tro la mot giao vien va cd van, Carolyn da chia sc rat nhieu ve ly do tai sao mot so phu n i i khong phat huy ban nang trcri phii trong viec thiet lap mdi quan he noi cong so. "Chiing ta xay dung cac mdi quan he dua tren viec t i m hieu nhau trong doi sdng ca nhan," c6 noi. "Nhung khi dinh dang den cong viec. chiing ta cam thay minh phai mang kha nang xay dung mdi quan he vao cong viec. Dieu nay gidng nhu la ap dat vay, ma phu nu thi khong mudn ap dat ban be minh; phu nCi chi giiip do ban m^i thoi. Chiing ta phai nhan thiic rang viec xay dung mdi quan ht? khong phai la chuyen ap dat, nhat la khi ban chii trpng vao viec
minh c6 the giiip do ngudi khac nhu the nao." if Jh
Dich gia: Uong Xuan Vy - Vi Tfiao Nguyfin
"Phu n u d i ngupc lai quy trinh. Chiing ta dupe trdi phii cho kha nang cho d i , va chiing ta lai khong cho d i . Y tuong ciia toi ve dong m i n h chien lupc da pha bo rao can do. Ban khoi xuong mot qua trinh trao ddi day gia tri. T o i quan tarn den nhiing gi ban dang lam. Ban c6 the cung quan tam den nhung gi toi dang lam. C h i i n g ta hay ciing chia se thong tin. Ban khong bao gio biet dupe k h i nao chiing ta can den nhau dau." ., •
Ngay nay, ban do diem den moi nhat ciia Carolyn da mang den cho c6 nhieu mdi quan he trong kinh doanh, giao due va hoat dong t u thien. Co con c6 mot thii ma c6 gpi la ban quan tri dupe c6 dich than sang Ipc ky luong - 6 con nguoi
ma CO chpn lam hinh mau de noi theo. " H p c6 mot su nghiep
thanh cong rue ra va toi mudn minh gidng hp," c6 noi. "Trong nhieu nam, toi gap tung ngudi trong sd hp va de nghi hp gia nhap vao ban quan t r i . M o i ngudi c6 mot muc tieu va mot ky nang ma toi danh gia cao. H p biet nhau, boi vi hp deu la ban cua toi, nhung hp chua bao gid gap nhau trong cung mot nhom. H p thiic day toi de dam bao toi lam diing viec, diing muc dich. K h i toi can thong tin phan hoi, hp la nhung ngudi dang tin cay. H p khong chi giai quyet nhiing van de trong cong viec. T o i con nhd hp giiip do trong nhiing linh vuc that su quan trpng trong cupc sdng ca nhan toi, bao gdm vai trd lam me, lam
con, lam vp." ' D d i vdi Carolyn, ket ndi vdi mpi ngudi thong qua nhiing
diem den chinh la dieu giiip ban dinh nghia y nghia cupc sdng.
Joanna Barsh, Susie Cranston va Geoffrey Lewis
n o i . " N e u tat ca nhOing gi ban c6 chi goi gpn trong m o t t h i i duy nhat, cong viec chang ban, t h i ban chua tan huang bet cac gi^ t r i cua cuoc song. D o i v o i t o i , k h a m pha va tao ra y nghia cuoc song chinh la dugc tham gia cung liic nhieu d u an quan trong - d u an cho cong dong, d u an n u o i duang t i n h ban, d u an hoc hoi ky nang m o i , d u an ho t r g gia d i n h , bat c i i dieu g i . "