|>ang tinh than trach nhiem va su cham chiit. Dung bao gia go ep hanh vi hay lim each di ngugc lai quy luat tu nhien, vi nhu the, nhung tham vgng, nhiing tiiem muon ich ky se pha hiiy vu miia. Khong the co dugc thanh cong - diing jpghla hanh phiic va man nguyen - neu nhu luon co mgt su can thiep va thao lung ciia tham vgng va nhiing suy nghi khong trong sang. Chiing ta phai lam
ifi^c bang su ton trgng doi vai nhiing quy luat tu nhien va dieu tot dep von co
i hi^n ra tu ban chat su vi^c.
'Bdi so 132: Nghi luan xa hpi ve long khoan dung
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Trong cugc song, khong ai la hoan hao. Ai ciing mang trong minh nhung yeu duoi rat con nguai. Va vi the, ai ciing can dugc khoan dung... yeu duoi rat con nguai. Va vi the, ai ciing can dugc khoan dung...
Khoan dung la mgt pham chat dang tran trgng ciia con nguoi. Khoan dung la biet tha thu, bo qua cho nhirng sai lam thieu sot ciia nguoi khac; la biet chap la biet tha thu, bo qua cho nhirng sai lam thieu sot ciia nguoi khac; la biet chap nhan nhiing yeu duoi sai pham ciia nguoi khac va giiip hg dung len sau vap nga. Khoan dung, con nghia la tu tha thii cho chinh minh...
Khoan dung - ay la khi ban bo qua cho nguoi la vua v6 tinh dam len chan ban tren xe buyt. Khoan dung - ay la khi toi chan thanh don nhan loi xin loi ban tren xe buyt. Khoan dung - ay la khi toi chan thanh don nhan loi xin loi Ciia nguoi ban vua khien toi buon. Khoan dung - la khi nguoi me giang rong Vong tay 6m lay dua con trai sau nhiing chuoi ngay lang thang, nay da an han tro ve. Khoan dung, nhieu each bieu hifn, ehung mgt trai tim: Nhan ai!!!
Vay... tai sao phai khoan dung?
Truac het, khoan dung la su hieu biet ciia mgt nhan each cao dep, the hi$n mgt tarn hon rgng mo, giau long yeu thuong. Boi, chi khi biet mo rong tain mgt tarn hon rgng mo, giau long yeu thuong. Boi, chi khi biet mo rong tain Jong, chi khi tinh yeu dugc nhan ai hoa, con nguoi ta moi co the quen di nhijng thiet hai, nhCrng ton that ciia minh ma tha thii cho nguoi khac. Hay xem each dan tgc Vi^t Nam tha thii cho ke thu xam luge de tha'y dugc truyen thong nhan dao, nhan ai ciia ong cha ta dang kham phue den nhuong nao. Trong "Binh ngo dai cao", Nguyen Trai vieb ,, - ,
Ma Ki, Phucmg Chinh cap cho 500 chiec thuyen Vuang Thong, Ma Anh cap cho hang nghin co ngua.
Trong "Tuyen ngon doc lap" Bac da khang dinh: "Tux/ vay, dan toe Viet Nani
truac sau van give thai do khoan hong, nhan dqo voi ke thii that the"...
H k n la k h i viet lai nhO-ng hanh dpng khoan d u n g , nhan dao ay ciia dan toc
ta, cac tac gia phai t u hao biet bao!
K h o n g chi la bieu hien ciia mot tarn long nhan ai cao d?p, long nhan dao tham d u g m t i n h n g u a i , khoan d u n g con la pham chat ciia m o t con n g u o i biet m i n h biet ta. K h o n g ai la khong pham sai lam. C h i n h k h i khoan d u n g v6i n g u o i khac la ban dang chuan bj cho m i n h "mot 16'i d i ve"... B6i cung se den luc ban sa nga, ban p h a m loi. A i se tha t h u cho ban neu ban khong t u n g biet tha thu? A i se chap nhan ban neu ban t u n g khong doai hoai den su an nan hoi loi cua n g u o i khac? Va ai se khoan d u n g v o l ban neu ban chua tirng khoan dung voi ke khac day?
Vay, khong khoan d u n g v o i n g u a i khac la tan nhan v o i chinh minh...
K h o n g n h i i n g the^ bat cu k h i nao ban khoan d u n g cho n g u o i khac la ban dang rpng m o m p t d u o n g ve cho chinh ho. Long khoan d u n g se cam hoa duoc 161 lam, la dpng luc thiic day, khuyen khich ho nhan ra sai l a m va sua chiia. Chi can mpt anh mat thi^n cam thoi cung d i i cho n h u n g nguoi t i m g la t u nhan cam thay dupe don nhan, song c6 y nghia hon, chi can m p t n y cuoi khuyen khich cung d u de nhCing thanh nien vua ra trai thay m i n h khong bj bo roi, lac long...
Toi eye k i len an thai dp t h a o lanh nhat ciia m p t so thanh nien hien nay. D o i v o i n h i i n g n g u o i da tirng pham sai lam gio dang m a n g trong m i n h can b f nh the ky, m o n m o i song trong su ghe lanh cua khong it n g u o i . C h i n h su tho a, lanh nhat, chinh long ich ky thieu khoan d u n g ay dang gian tiep tie'p tay cho tpi ac Ian rpng. N h u the'la d i i n g sao? La van m i n h , tien bp sao?
NhCrng anh mat ghe lanh ay, n h u n g con n g u a i v6 cam ay dang khien xa hoi nay ngay cang them lanh! Thieu thon tinh cam, thieu thon v i tha, long khoan dung,... tat ca se chi con la mpt xa hoi v6 t r i , v6 giac, lanh lung, v6 cam.... N h u n g , van con do n h u n g tarn long nhan ai, song v i m p i nguai, biet tha thu, biet khoan d u n g gop phan xay d y n g m p t xa hpi tot d?p hon, phat trien hon, nhan ai hon,... ' ' ^ ' ' ' '
Va chac han nhCrng n g u o i biet khoan d u n g do se l u o n nhan dupe t i n h yeu thuong, su k i n h trpng ciia m p i n g u a i .
Khoan d u n g vod n g u o i khac, rat can thiet, n h u n g chua d u ! Toi dau long khi khong it n g u a i t u dan vat m i n h , hanh ha tarn hon va the xac minh... v i hp cho rang m i n h da lam sai, m i n h khong dang dupe tha t h u . D u n g n h u the! Biet nhan
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ra loi lam la dieu tot, n h u n g cu song mai trong hoai niem t h e c o tot khong? Tai sao khong t u tha t h u va bat dau lai... mot su khoi dau m o i tot dep han...?
T u y nhien can biet phan biet gii>a khoan d u n g va bao che. That dang buon khi nhieu n g u a i tie'p tay cho tpi ac ma cu nghi la khoan d u n g . N h i n thay nguoi ban than quay cop bai, m p t Ian, hai Ian, roi ba Ian... lam ngo bo qua, hi vpng ban t u biet sua chCra. Khoan d u n g day u?
X i n nhac lai, khoan d u n g la tha t h u c h u khong la bao che.
Khoan d u n g - la chap nhan nhCrng yeu duoi ciia n g u o i khac va g i u p hp sira ichira - khong c6 nghTa la tiep tay cho hp. M o i nguai hay hoc each khoan d u n g
v o i ban than, v o i n g u o i khac bang long nhan ai, hang dire hi sinh. K h o n g chi
biet khoan d u n g , ben canh do, viee giiip n g u o i khac (hay chinh minh) nhan ra sai lam, d i n h h u o n g sira chu-a, cijng la dieu rat quan trpng.
Vang! Toi cung khong phai la mpt n g u o i hoan hao. Ban than toi cung tirng ac sai lam... do la k h i toi khong hpc bai va bj diem kem.... toi da v6 tinh khien
me va thay c6 that vpng... la k h i toi trach nham dua ban... la k h i toi da dirng d u n g truoe nhirng anh mat tho ngay eau x i n su giup d o cua nhirng em be danh giay tpi nghi^p... '' -utti t V ;
N h u n g nho do toi eiing riit ra bai hpc cho ban than minh... do la k h i nhin that anh mat b u o n eiia m?, toi biet m i n h can co gang. La k h i nhan dupe loi giai thich, eai 6 m xiet chat ciia nho ban, t6i biet m i n h can suy nghi chin chan hon. La k h i t6i nhan dupe su g i u p do ciia nhi>ng em nho danh giay nhat g i u p toi chiec v i ma t6i da v6 y danh roi, toi biet m i n h can rpng lupng... Sau nhirng vap nga, toi van dupe d o n nhan, dupe yeu thuong.
C h i n h t i n h yeu, sy tha t h u ciia m p i n g u o i khien t6i d u n g len sau n h i i n g that bai. Va t6i t i n la long khoan d u n g co sue manh cam hoa m a n h liet...
C h i n h v i vay, de cupc song t u o i dep va giau tinh n g u o i han. M 6 i chiing ta hay s6'ng m p t each chan thanh, l u 6 n bao d u n g va dp l u p n g v o i nhirng n g u o i x u n g quanh. K h i do, ban se cam thay cupe song that dep va y nghia
^di so 133: N g h i l u a n xa h p i ve than t u p n g
Hien nay, xuat hien nhieu ngh§ si ca sT tre tuoi dang noi tieng trong gidi tre. H p tro thanh than t u p n g trong mat ciia nhirng thanh thieu nien va tao ra nhirng xu h u o n g m o i la. N h u n g lam sao de thanh thieu nien biet dupe each ham mp than tupng cua m i n h mpt each khong thai qua hay lam nhirng hanh dpng khong
diing doi vai than tugng cua minh. Do la nhung nghi van ciia nguai ngoai cupc khi thay nhung hanh vi khong dung dan cua thanh thieu nien gay ra.
Than tugng la hinh mau If tuong, mo thuc hoan hao trong llnh vuc nghe thuat ma nguoi ham m p muon, hoc hoi, noi theo va tie'p noi. H o tao nen nhung xu huong m o i la va khi do nguoi ham m g se noi theo, bat chuoc giong n h u than tugng cua m i n h . N h u n g nghe sT ca si danh bong ten tuoi cua m i n h bang hinh thuc n h u luon sang tac cac ca khiic, gay ra nhung tai tieng xau,... N h u n g gioi tre lai xem do la nhung dieu hay ma hoc hoi.
M g t so thanh thieu nien bat chuoc thai qua hoac giong hoan toan v o i than tugng ciia m i n h . Do ciing la van de ma cac bac phu huynh dang lo lang cho con em cua hp. N h u n g hg lai khong c6 thoi gian cham soc cho con ciia minh nen it quan tam den. V i vay, ngay cang nhieu nhung hanh dgng ham mp thai qua ciia thanh thieu nien.
Qua cac su viec dugc neu 6 tren cho ta thay dugc hai mat ve viec ham mo than tugng o thanh thieu nien: song c6 than tugng cung la mpt net van hoa. N h u n g van de la net van hoa ay can dugc nguoi ham m g the hien, kiem soat va dieu chinh mgt each phii hgp de giiip ban than v u g n len, tien bp khong ngirng. Va than tugng phai gop phan lam cho nguoi ham mp ngay cang tro nen hoan thien hon, song tot dep va song c6 y nghia hon. V i vgy, nguoi ham m g nen hgc hoi dieu tot dep t u than tugng chu khong phai siing bai mgtt each dien cuSng roi dua doi, bat chuoc theo nhi>ng thoi h u tat xau ma bo be hoc hanh c6 khi dan den benh hoang tuong.
T u n h i i n g hanh dpng ciia thanh thieu nien danh cho than tugng ciia minh mpt each thai qua cho ta riit dugc kinh nghiem: chgn cho m i n h mgt than tugng phii hgp de hgc 6 do thai do cau tien, de ra cho minh huong d i , 161 song diing dan... C h u khong phai b3t chuoc thai qua gay phan cam cho nguoi khac va co khi lam hai den ban than minh.
M o i ban tre can xac djnh cho minh nhiing each ung x u va lua chgn diing dan. Tran trgng va than tugng cai dep nhung khong thai qua ma van luon giii dugc mpt phuong cham song chuan muc va lanh manh.
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<8di so 134: N g h i luan xa h p i ve tinh t u lap
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Con chim sinh ra phai hpc each bay, phai hpc each kiem m o i ; Con ga hgc each mo thoc, boi giun; Con trau hgc each gam c6... The gioi nay m u o n ton tai thi luon luon moi sinh vat phai t u hgc each ti^ lap, khong the p h y thuge mai.
Con nguoi cung vay, khi long da d i i , canh da rpng thi phai t u cat len doi canh cua m i n h de vay d i , khong the phcS mac cho cugc doi m u o n toi dau thi toi, khong the i lai, niip d u o i bgng che ciia cha me. T u lap hay pho mac cho cugc doi la cau hoi ma nhieu ban tre hien nay dang ludng l u . . .
T u lap la gi? Do la mgt each song ciia con nguoi, t u lam lay, t u suy nghi, t u quyet djnh tuong lai, so phan ciia minh ma khong phu thupc vao quye't dinh y muon ciia nguoi khae, khong i vao su trg giiip ciia nguoi khac de rai tham cho minh buoc d i .
Bieu hi^n ciia t u lap rat phong phii. N o dugc the hien qua nhirng hanh v i tit
i-at nho cho den Ion lao. M g t nguoi neu c6 y thuc t u lap cao thi ngay t u nho hg
da CO the t u giat quan ao cho chinh minh. Khi di hgc, lam bai gap bai kho, hg
t v suy nghi d i i mpi each degiai dugc thi thoi, neu van khong the ra dugc, nam ! nggai kha nang ciia hp thi hp moi nho den trg giiip ciia ban be, thay c6. A y ; ciang da la t u lap. Chi hanh vi nho thoi da c6 the biet ban la nguoi t u lap hay khong. K h i Ion len roi, thi t u lap se co bieu hien phong phii hon. Nhieu nguoi khi lam sinh vien da bat dau di lam them kiem tien, lay kinh nghiem cho cong \c tuong lai ciia m i n h , khong phai xin tien cha me. K h i roi vao hoan canh
kho khan, cong viec gap tai uong trae tro thi hg khong de guc nga, no lue den eiing de v u o n len cho d u hp biet chi can mpt cu dien thoai nho de nho cay cha me giiip do thi mpi chuyen se de dang hon nhieu. Nhieu nguoi se nghi do la ngoc nghech, cai de dang khong ehpn lai d i chpn cai phiic tap. Do qua la mpt suy nghi sai lam. Viec nho trong kha nang ciia ban than con khong lam noi thi mai mai ban chi biet song nup d u o i cai bong cua nguoi khac, chi biet lam phien den nguoi khac ma thoi.
i N h i n lai cau chuyen ve Mai A n Tiem va qua dua hau, M a i A n Tiem la eon nuoi ciia vua H i i n g , muon gi dupe nay song chang t u lam ra tat ca. Chang co
f the ngang cao dau va t u hao rang: Tat ea nhung thii nay, tat ca co ngoi nay la
i do ban tay toi lam ra. Cau noi ay da lam cho vua H u n g tuc gian, day chang ra dao hoang t u sinh t u diet. Song, voi ban linh da dugc toi luyen, voi each song t u lap khong song phu thupc vao ke khac, chang da chung m i n h dugc cho vua
I H u n g thay ban ITnh ciia minh, dang len vua cha qua dua hau long do ngpt Ijm
I n h u tarn long va nhan each ciia chang. T u lap giup cho Mai A n Tiem diing
j vii-ng dugc truge song gio. Ta dat gia djnh chang chi la ke biet pho mac cugc doi, mgt ke song khong t u lap, n h u vay khi cao gigng nhan thanh qua ve minh
CO the duong d u o n g chinh chinh khong? Co the song tren dao hoang ma khong CO nguoi 6, khong thiic an nuoe uong, khong mgt tac sat trong tay
' khong? Toi dam chac la khong? Tham chi, noi thang ra la chua den 3 ngay da chet v i doi khat, v i nhu nhugc tren hon dao do.
Xa hpi ngay nay cai an khong thieu, nhieu gia d i n h c6 dieu k i ^ n t h i con cai ho tham chi khong can hoc hanh, khong can lam viec ho van an ngon, van mac dep, van tieu tien, song mot cuoc song day d u m l man. The n h u n g song n h u vay CO dang. Rat nhi>?u ban tre da chpn each song n h u vay: song bam vao cha m?, c u doi chut kho khan da keu ca am T, khong the t u v u p t qua. H o luon c6 y nghi la: Ke mac, den dau t h i den, d i i sao cung da c6 cha m?, anh chj, ban be nang do. Nhieu n g u o i hoc hanh khong can no luc, tham chi bo hoc suo't sa vao choi boi cho da v i biet clia me da lo lot truoc cho het roi. Can gi phai bang cao, hpc nhieu, kieu gi cha dupe ngoi vao v i t r i " n g o n " , l u o n g thang cao ma v i | c lai nhan r o i . . . Tieu n h u n g dong tien ma m i n h chang phai bo m a y cong sue t h i biet bao nhieu cho du? Bao gi' y m a i thoa man dupe long tham cua ban than. Khong biet dupe gia t r i cua m o hoi cong sue, tham chi nuoc mat va mau m a i ra dupe dong Hen, ra dupe thanh qua thi lam sao biet quy trpng dong tien, quy trpng cong sue lao d p n g . . . N h i r n g nguoi do ch^ng khac gi n h i i n g con b l i p be, n h u n g con lat dat de trang tri, de nguoi khac sap dat trong xa hpi nay, mac d i i b l i p be do luon luon sang trpng, luon sang choang long lanh, deo tren n g u o i n h i i n g t h u dep de gia t r j . . . n h u n g rot cue ciing chi la t h i i v6 hon, trong rong.
T u lap hay pho mac cho cupc dai - do la do quyet d i n h ciia ban. The n h u n g ban cung hay nghi xem m i n h m u o n la mpt con b l i p be sung suang hay la mpt nguoi lao dpng chan chinh biet t u hao ve ban than m i n h ; m u o n m i n h lam ke c6