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Li L U A N G I A O DUC DAY HOC MOT VAI YEU TU ANH HUSNG UEN KET QUA GIAU UUG GIA UINH O ThS, OAlVI THj VAN ANH* ia dinh (GO) ddt nIn mdng cho vile phdt quon tdm d i n vdn di ndy, hg cho rdng bd m? vd triln nhdn cdch ngudi Chfnh vl vdy, gido dye GO giu mgt vj trf hit sue quon h-gng Tuy nhiln, trin thye t l , khdng phdi tdt cd cdc qud trinh gido dye (GD) GO d i u di dung hudng vd deu dgt dugc thdnh cdng gidng Oilu phy thudc vdo rdt nhilu y l u td: Cd'u hTJC GD Cd t h i khdng djnh, qud trinh GD nhi/ng GO ed mdt eon trai hodc mdt gdi gdp khd khdn hon rdt nhilu so vdi nhung GO cd hoi eon h-d lln O GD ed mdt eon, duo t r i sdm trd thdnh h-ung tdm cua ed nhd Sy ehdm sde cua ed bd vd me tdp h-ung vdo duo tre nhdt ndy Khi t r i bj dm hay xdy ro mdt chuyin gl dd khdng may, ed GO bj bao trum bdi khdng ndng n l , ndi sg hdi ndy thudng trye trin khudn mdt euo cha me Thudng nhCrng duo tre Id eon mdt ludn cdm nhdn dugc vj the quon trgng euo minh vd sdm trd thdnh nhOng «dng hodng, bd chua" thye sy Cdn cho me Igi rdt khd cd t h i dung tinh ylu vd sy ehdm sde euo minh vdi cdi, hg ludn lo Idng v l tdt cd nhCmg gi liln quon dl'n thiln thdn be nhd euo minh; h/ dd, vd tinh hg dd GD minh trd thdnh ngudi ich ki Cdn hrong nhi/ng GD ed hoi h-d l l n , sy ehdm sde euo cho me dugc son se dl'n tdt cd ede Trong GO ed ed t r i Idn vd h-l nhd, t r i Idm quen vdi mdi h-udng tdp thi K/ edn rdt nhd, h-ong tdt ed cdc hogt ddng nhu vui choi, sinh hogt, hgc tdp vd cd dugc kinh nghilm tdn trgng Idn nhau; gii/o chung hinh thdnh kinh nghilm tinh ylu vd tinh bgn frong nhilu hlnh thuc, giup \re ed khd ndng thich ung vdi nhCmg mdi quon he xd hdi khde Nhung gia dinh ehi ed mdt eon, h-e rdt it cd co hdi tilp edn vdi tinh ylu thuong ddi vdi anh, ehj vd vdi em nhd; h/ dd, tre khd chic si, thdng edm, ylu thuong ngudi khdc Muc dich GDGD Ddy Id yl'u td ddng vai trd vd cung quan trgng dl'n kit qud cua GDGD Nhung mgt sd GO khdng cdi chf cdn sdng cung vd hi vgng rdng mgi thu s§ d i l n ro tu nhiln Hg khdng ed myc tilu GD eon cdi cy t h i , khdng ed chuong frlnh GO cy t h i ndo Cudi cung, kit qud GD nhdn dugc thudng ngdu nhiln Mdi bde phy huynh edn bilt rd hg mudn GD eon cdi trd thdnh ngudi nhu t h i ndo; edn dua nhung myc hiu cy t h i md minh mong dgi d con: mgt ngudi cdng ddn chdn chinh, mdt ngudi am hilu, ndng ddng, h-ung thye, h-ung thdnh vdl Td qudc, silng ndng, vui ve, Ijch sy hoy mdt ngudi phdm hjc, thorn lam, h i n nhdt vd ich ki? Cha me hdy suy nghT that kT h w c nhOng edu hdi ndy vd lya chgn dung phuong thuc GD cho eon em minh O GO, sy yeu thuong vd dgy do, chi bdo euo cho me, cdi se trudng thdnh, se Id nhung ngudi chu tuong loi euo ddt nude Mdt dua tre khdng nhdn dugc sy GD tdt h> GO, Idn len cd thi trd thdnh ngudi xd'u, dd Id noi bdt hgnh khdng chi euo GO md euo todn xd hgl Vi vdy, cha me edn xdc djnh myc dich GD cdi cua minh, h> dd tim kil'm nhung phuong thuc GD phu hgp vd hilu qud nhdt Td'm guong mau myc cua cha me «Khdng gi cd t h i tdc dgng lln tdm hdn non ndt cua h-e mgnh hon quyen lye cua sy Idm guong, cdn giua mudn vdn tdm guong thi khdng ed gi gdy dn tugng sdu sdc vd b i n chdt bdng sy mdu myc euo cha me" Hdnh vi, cdch ung xu cua cho me ludn cd dnh hudng rdt Idn dl'n eon cdi Cho me khdng ehi GD tre ndi chuyen, gidng gidi hodc giao vile cho chung md cdn GD t r i cd chung to khdng d nhd Cdch cha me dn mdc, ung xu, vui, budn, tdt cd nhung d i l u dd cd y nghT rdt Idn vdi tre Con tre cd thi edm nhdn du chi mdt thay ddi nhd h/ng hdnh vi cua cha me minh, d i l u ndy ddi bdn thdn chung to cung khdng d l y Neu Idm nhCrng G * Tnrdng B^i hpc sir pham Ha Noi Tap ehi Glao due so 266 (ki - 7/201 D d i l u khdng tdt, cha me se d l Igi tdm guong xd'u ndy khdng chi Id ndi sg hdi cua nhung duo cho tre Ylu cdu euo cho me vdi bdn thdn, sy md Id ndi sg hdi cua cd nhi/ng ngudi me tdn trgng euo hg vdi GO mlnh, sy kil'm sodt cdc ciia chung Hg khdng GD dugc nhCrng d i l u tdt hdnh vi euo chfnh minh dd chfnh Id phuong dep cho tre, md chf hudng tre dl'n nhung hdnh phdp GD ddu hIn vd quon trgng nhd't Se khdng vi bqo lye, ndi dd'i, sy sg hdi, nhut nhdt cd mgt phuong phdp GD dilu ki ndo cd the Nhijng duo tre chju uy quyen dp ddo Idn lln giup qud trinh GDGD dqt kit qud tdt nlu bdn rdt de trd thdnh nhCrng ngudi cdu thd, ddc dodn thdn nhd GD cdn nhilu thieu sdt Trong sudt cudc ddi mlnh, tre se khdng boo Uy quyen cua cha me gid quin dugc tudi tho ddy dau khd dd Cd the hilu: uy quyen dd nhCrng uu dilm Uy quyen khoang each Cd nhi/ng bde cho euo ngudi Idn, Id sue mgnh Id gid trj euo hg me cho rdng, mudn cdi nghe Idi thi khdng dudi cdi nhin don gidn euo t r i nhd Cho me nIn ndi chuyin nhilu vdi chung, phdi tqo khodng mdt cua tre em cdn phdi ed uy quyin ndy cdch, vd cdn dd'i xu vdi nhu edp trin dd'i xu Nhung bde cho me ed cdi khdng nghe Idi vdi cdp dudi Kieu uy quyIn ndy thudng cd cho rdng, uy quyIn Id h/ nhien ban tdng Id mdt sd GO trf thuc cu: ngudi cho cd mdt mdt ndng khilu ddc bilt vd nlu khdng cd ndng cdn phdng rilng, hg dn rilng, nghi ngoi rilng, khilu ndy thi hg khdng t h i Idm gl dugc Suy nghT gidng nhu linh myc; ngudi me cung ed cudc sdng ndy hodn todn sol Idm, bdi le, uy quyIn cd the rieng, cd thu rilng, cd suy nghT rilng hlnh thdnh dugc, thdm chf Id khdng qud khd Cung NhOrng duo tre dugc bd hodc ngudi giup vile cd mdt so cho me mudn cdi nghe Idi hg mdt ehdm sdc Ddy khdng phdi Id cdch td chuc GO each hjyet dd'i, ddy chfnh Id myc dich cua hg, dd thdng minh cung Id mdt sol Idm Uy quyIn vd sy vdng Idi - Uy quyen ngao man Day Id dqng ddc biet khdng t h i trd thdnh myc dich GDGD Myc dfch euo uy quyIn khodng cdch nhung ed hqi hon nhdt, dd Id sy GD dung ddn O l dqt dugc rdt nhieu Cd bde cho me cho rdng, hg Id nhung myc dich ndy edn sy cd gang vd nd lye rdt Idn ngudi ddc biet quon trgng, cd dnh hudng Idn Sy vdng Idi euo tre ehi Id mdt nhi/ng dl'n cdng vile, dl'n nhCrng ngudi khdc vd hg dudng ddn dl'n myc dich ndy Tuy nhiln, nhieu the hien sy quon trgng d'y vdi cd nhung duo bde cho me khdng xdc djnh myc dich thye sy euo mlnh: hg ludn ndi v l nhCrng thdnh tich, vile GD cdi, hg chi cdn cdi vdng uu diem cua mlnh vd cd cdch cu xu nggo man Idi, nhu the, hg edm thd'y on tdm vd nguge Igi vdi ngudi khdc Con cdi hg cung ddn bj dnh Uy quyen dugc hlnh thdnh trin co sd cua sy vdng hudng vd cd nhung hdnh dgng gid'ng cha me Idi tuylt dd'i ehi cd ich mdt thdi gian ngdn, mlnh Kieu uy quyen ndy ddi cung xudt hien sou dd bj phd vd hodn todn: cho me khdng cdn d ngudi me: qudn cdu ki, nhi/ng cudc gdp uy quyen, cdi cung khdng edn nghe Idi hg gd quan trgng, di mua sdm, di spa NhCrng nua Mdt thye te khdc a nhieu gia dinh, cdi dieu ndy tqo co sd cho sy nggo mqn, phdch rdt nghe Idi bd me, nhCrng duo tre ndy Idn len trd Idi, tqo ro sy khdc bilt gii/a cdi hg vdi thdnh nhung ngudi rdt nghe Idi, nhung Iqi rdt nhung tre khdc yl'u dudi; nhu vdy, myc dfch thye sy euo GDGD Uy quyen cd chap Ddy Id mau nhCrng bd Iqi bj bd quin me ludn quon tdm chu y dl'n cdi euo minh Co nhiiu ki&juy quyen cua cha me, dnang han: Hg cho rdng tre cdn phdi nghe theo mgi Idi ndi Uy quyen ap dao Ddy Id logi uy quyIn euo hg; Idi hg ndi, dd Id «thdnh chi" Id «dilu khung khil'p nhd't nhung khdng phdi Id nguy hgl ludt" Hdng ngdy hg deu rdt de y xem nhCrng quy nhd't Uy quyIn ndy thudng cd d ngudi cho djnh, trdt ty mlnh duo ro cd bj phd vd N l u ngudi cha thudng qudt mdng, gidn dCr, hoy khdng Hg khdng quan tdm dl'n mudn ludn Idm dm T, trd Idi thd Id trude moi cdu hdi gl, hgc hdnh ro soo, md chi quon tdm dl'n euo ngudi khdc, cdi phqm Idi thi bj trung nhCrng mlnh llnh cua mlnh phgt ddy chfnh Id kieu uy quyIn dp ddo - Uy quyen li thuyet suing Cho me thudc kilu Kieu uy quyIn ndy chi ed d nhCrng bde cho me uy quyIn ndy chi quon tdm din vile thuyet gidng thilu vdn hdo Nhung ngudi cho «khung bd" dqo due cho Hg Hn rdng, vile hg dong Idm Tap ehi Giao due so 6 (ki • 7/2011) chua dyng tri tul thdng thdi Trong nhung GO ndy thudng xuyIn thieu vdng nilm vui vd nhi/ng ny cudi Cho me ludn ed gdng trd thdnh nhOng cha me tdt nhdt, khdng boo gid mdc sai Idm, hg phdi Id ngudi hodn hdo mdt hg Nhung hg quin rdng, t r i khdng phdi Id ngudi Idn, chung ludn sdng Hnh edm hon, nhilt tdm hon, chung cd cudc sdng rilng cua mlnh vd cudc sdng dy cdn dugc tdn trgng L/y qu/en A/n/j/lu Ddy Id dgng eo bdn nhdt cua dqng thdm quyen soi Idm Nhilu bde phy huynh Hn rdng, dicon cdi vdng Idi vd ylu thuong minh vd di xung ddng vdi Hnh y l u dy, cho me cung phdi chung td Hnh ylu euo mlnh vdi cdc bdng «sy mua chude Hnh cdm" N l u t r i khdng nghe Idi, Idp h/e xudt hiln cdu hdi «Nhu vdy Id khdng' ylu bd me?"' Tuy nhiln, nlu khdng cdn thdn, dong uy quyIn ndy cd t h i too ro su fch I I L.L-' L - I L ' ' ^L-? -^ ' • Lmo Ichong the hoac Icho co the yeu quy nhung -LL' ^ i LL-' L L nguoi khac, va t r i cung khong muon cho me minh son se Hnh y l u dd cho bdt cu oi khdc Ddy chfnh Id sy nguy hil'm cua kieu uy quyIn ndy vd ngn nhdn ddu HIn chinh Id cho me, nhdt Id ho ed duo thu hai Uy quyen tot byng Ddy Id kilu uy quyIn khdng dugc thdng minh ldm: cho me ddng vai thudng Id nhung thiln thdn tot byng Hg khdng Hec bdt cu dilu gl, hg sg nhung mdu thudn, Idm tdt cd vl bdu khdng khf hda thudn GD vd sdn sdng hi sinh tdt ed chi vl mong mudn dem Iqi sy^binh on GO Trong GO ndy, cdi ed the dua ro bdt cu ylu cdu gi vd bd me nhd't nhd't Idm theo, hg ddp ung mgi ddi hdi euo tre Dilu ndy thye sy nguy hilm - Uy quyen ban be Ngay h> tre chua dugc sinh ro, bd me chung dd giao ude se trd thdnh nhCrng ngudi ban Idn euo eon mlnh That Id tuylt vdi, neu nhu bd trai, me gdi ed the thdnh ban euo nhau, ho Id nhung thdnh viln h-ong mdt tdp t h i GO Odi cdi edn ddng vai trd • ?L T h • L'^ / - n j - ' i '• L' L L lo nho GD doi vol chinh cho me cua minh Tuy i.» J - • I I IX nhien, sy yeu thuong, sy ton h-gng, kinh trgng Ion dd Id hlnh thdnh nhung co so nIn tdng ddu HIn cho t r i budc vdo cudc sdng Cho me ludn phdi xdc djnh myc tilu vile GD vd nhung k l hogch, phuong phdp de dgt dugc myc tilu d'y Cho me khdng nIn ylu eon mdt cdch mu qudng, edn ludn vui v l , vj tho Cho me cung can \Jj bd nhung thdi quen yd sd thfeh khdng tdt de Idm guong cho t r i Bdt ki mgt phuong phdp GDGD ndo cung cdn ed muc dd, vi vdy, cha me edn y thuc v l muc euo mdi phuong phdp GD GDGD thdnh cdng ed the nhi/ng nguyin nhdn gidng nhau, nhung that bqi euo GDGD Iqi co the nhilu nguyin nhdn Ddy Id d i l u md chung to, nhung nhd GD cdc bde Idm cha me edn chu y.U T^i li^u tham khao • • P^^^ ^^h^^^ ^ ^ ' " ^ g - ""^^ ^'^'^ ^.a dmh NXB Gido J^., , ^^ ,i x TA i-u ,» u KTVO r> • NgO COng Hoan TSm li hpc gia dmh NXB Dgi , « u onno hQcsu phgm H 200% j^^^ J^^.^ j^^^^ Q^^^ (^hi bien) Giao due hpc ^ X B Dgi hgc suphgm, H 2005 —— U A « * A ' ^ k ^ ^ ^kA'a M U M M ^A^U Wlot SO phani cliat nhan each (Tiep theo trang 17) ^h^^g tdi thd'y rdng: so nhdm phdm chd't nghiln cuu ndi h-ln, rilng nhdm phdm chdt dao ^^^ deu t h i hiln d cdc muc khde vd chu yg'^