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Thai di "Nhu tfil, bdi giao vdc hdn nhfin, gian dd Id di ldm gl a? ngudi nam vd ngudi nii phye vy vd gidp dd lan bing sy kit hpp mat tfiilt vdi Ddp: Cm thdi gian do, thir nhdt Id di cho mai ngudi mai day du hon Sy lifin kit mgt chiing nd tim hiiu ky han Thu heu nira tfiiet van Id sy ty hiln cua hai ngudi cho Id nd phdi hgc (gido ly) Mdt quyin sdch ong cdng nhv Ipi fch cua cdi bupe hai vp dy (chSng - gido ly vien hdn nhdn WH) dgy chdng phai hodn todn ttung tin vd ddi hdi kit m^l ngdy cdng hit, nhung khong thi Huge, chi hpp vdi bit kha phan ly" (2) dgy mdt vdi bdi rdi di cdc chdu nd suy nghi, nd tu tim hiiu, sau lai dgy tiip NhOng cdi Thdi diem tuyfin xung tinh yen cung nhv viec Id dng phdi cdt nghta dng phdi cdt SVtfiuyehung vd trdch nhigm ciia ddi nam nir ngMa ro rdng di chung nd hiiu (Phdng vin tiong tfidnh le hdn nhan d nhd did trudc todn sau, nii, 68 tudi, gido dan) die cpng dodn dfin Chda Id tfidi khic tfiifing hfing vong mdi quan hg vp chdng cua ngvdi Hpi didnh Cdng gido dl cao didi ky dinh gido dfin Cdng gido Thdi khie ndy, tivdc hdn cua cdc egp vp ehdng, vgy Hpi didnh Thien Chda va todn dil tfii dd gido dfin ddi bupe cdc bgc cha me vd nhiing ngvdi cd ti^ch nam nii phai niyen xvng Idm vp ehdng sudt nhigm nhv gidm myc, linh m u c cdc gido IJ ddi vd hiia giii Idng ehung dniy vdi vifin cd trdch nhigm "phai bilt gido dye dianh tfiinh vupng eiing nhu ldc gian nan bgnh tfiilu nien hpp tfidi vd hpp cdch vl phim gid, hoan Cling nhu luc manh khde phai yeu phgn sy vd hanh vi tfil hign dnh yfiu vp chdng, tfiuong vd tdn vpng mpi ngdy Dfiy Ifi nhit la vong ehfnh khung eanh gia dinh; nhd nguyfin tic co ban titing iing xu van hda giira dd, mpt da i6n luygn dl giii diic khilt tinh, vp - ehdng eua ngudi Cdng gido den tiMitfu'chhpp, ed dil tiln tdi hdn nhfin sau Thdi khic hai ngvdi vd didnh vp chdng da sdng ddng ddn giai dogn dfnh hdn" (I) dupc Thifin Oida vd cpng dodn gido dfin chiing Khi (E kit tfldc tfidi ky dinh hdn, ddi nam gidm cung Id mdi quan he giu-a ngudi nam nii se kit hdn vfi chfnh thuc tid dianh vp vd ngvdi nii diay ddi sang mdt giai dogn mdi chdng Giai doan chuyin tilp dvpc ddnh quan he hdn nhan gia (finh, Cung gidng nhv diu bing tfidnh le hdn phdi Nlu nhu vdi ede quan he xa hdi khde bdn nhfin Id mpt quan ngudi Viet khdng Cdng gido tfidi diem cd dfiu hg xa hpi dac bigt chiu sy chi phdi tit rat nhilu chd re bdi kiln id nfin ben nhdti^aila tfidi khic tdc nhan vd mdi ttudng sdng Van hpd ngudi chuyin giai doan di ddi sdng dan tfiin sang Viet ndi Chung, ngudi Vigt Cdng gidp ndi 12 rifing, dupc the hign rd qua van iiod gia dinh md quan hg hdn nhfin la co sd Vdi ngudi Cdng gido, quan he ndy diiwc dya dren ca sd cua dnh yfiu ddi lua, Aipe thdnh hod qua hdn le nha did, dd eiing Id khac bigt ca ban ca sd quan hg hdn nhfin giira ngudi Viet Cdng gido vd ngudi Viet khdng Cdng gido (19) - 2015: NGHIEN Cl/U VAN H A thong nhit cda mpi thdnh phin gia dinh Md hinh "chdng ldm thp vp lam rudng" da dupe hinh tu rat Ifiy vd ngdy cang phdt tiiln mgnh me d nhilu xir hp dgo Cdng gido Khdng chi Io toan gdnh vdc trdch nhigm gia dinh vl mgt kinh tl ngudi chdng ludn Trong quan hg gia finh, ddi sdng vp phai die hign Id mpt ngudi chdng tdt ti"ong chpng, vdi nhiing lo toan nham vun dip cho cdch ling xu vdi vp eon, ti-ong vigc giii gia dinh dupc hanh phde, diy du vl kinh tl, ph6p tic gia phong vd nhit Id giii d^o Vong mdi quan hg va chdng khdng phai ldc Ngvdi dan dng cdc gia dinh Cdng gido ndo cung diuan hda, nhung vdi ngudi Cdng dvpc khuyen day "khdng nfin ghen ghfit gido, quan hg vp chdng dupe xfiy dyng V-fin chui rua nhirng ldi ngng nl xiu xa hogc dl dnh than cdng hudng tdi sy haan thign, cho cha me minh ldm khd vp, Neu vp cd loi, sy bii ddp nhiing khdc bigt giiia vp vd ehdng chong dupc qud trdch siia bdo bing ldi le vdi Theo gido IJ Cdng gido, "tinh yfiu ma thdi Chiu khd lam lyng, khdng chai bdi chfin thgt Id thiy rd khuylt diem eua ngudi du dang, phung phd, tifiu phf cda ti"ong nhd khdc, nhung vui ve ddn nhgn, ddng didi vd fch, dl cho vp cpn phai ddi khdt, rdch khdm phd nhiing uu dilm cua hp vd kh6o nidi Phai lo ligu eho vp giii iiy dgo, dd Id Mo phdt huy" (3), Trong quan hg hdn nhfin phep tic, dpc kinh, xem Ie, xung tpi, chju le gia dinh, giira ngudi vp vd ngvdi chdng, xiing ddng" (Phdng van sfiu, nam, 72 tiidi, ngvdi Cdng gido ludn iiy tinh diin dgi chirc vigc) Ivpng, sy vi dia, nhin nhye de vp chdng dupc hda hpp trpn ven va bin vung, Vdi ngudi phy nii Cdng gido, ti"ong gia dinh cung dupc mdi gpi tfiye hign vai ti'd Id Trong gia dinh, ngvdi vp vd ngudi ehdng vp vd Id me, hp ludn ddng vaiti"dquan Vpng ludn cd nghia vy cham sdc cho nhau, cham Io ddi^vdi vigc "xfiy to im" Vl mgt nhfin cho cdi, cdng lam an xfiy dung quyen, vp vd chdng diu hodn todn binh hgnh phdc; xfiy dyng gia dinh vp chdng dang ti-ong quan hg hdn nhfin vd xd hpi cd nghia vy ehung diuy vdi nhau, yfiu Chfnh bdi vgy, nhigm vy cua ngudi vp vd divong, quJ ti-png, cham sdc vd gidp dd ngudi chdng Id tirong ddi cdng bing Nlu ciing din bp Ben cgnh dd vp chdng cdn ed ngudi chdng cd bdn phgn phai yeu thupng nghia^vy cdng sinh de cd trdch nhigm cham sdc vp, dii ngvpc Igi ngudi vp cung vd chdng phdi tgo dilu kign cho vp diyc hign phdi cd trdch nhigm yfiu diupng vd chdm sdc tdt chiic nang cua ngudi me Trong gia dinh, chdng minh "Cd hai vp chdng diu cd nhigm ngudi ddn dng vita Id chdng, viia la cha Ddi vy vd quyin Ipi bing tit cd vdi vp, ngvdi chdng phai Id ngudi ban ddi nhung gi lifin hg din ddi sdng cua vp tfian thiet Ngvdi Cdng gido, tinh nghia ehdng" (4) Ngudi ddn dng Cdng gido thodt vp chong budc^ngudi chdng phai diyc sv tdn ly ngodi di ldm thp xfiy, thp go, md cdng trpng nhfin phim cua ngvdi vp nhu kit ty kinh doanh, Idm hdng did cdng, Idm cfiy hdn hp da tiiyfin dig trudc Thien Chda Vi canh, v.v cdn ngudi phy nii, vl co bdn d die, ti-ong mdi gia dinh Cdng gido, ngudi dan nhd cham lo cdng vigc gia dinh, ndi tip, ong dupc coi la tin cpt viing ehie la dilm ddng dng Tir lfiu, md hinh "ehdng Idm dip tya cd ve vat chit vd tinh diin eho cupc sdng vp Idm rugng" dd cho thiy vigc phdn cdng cna vp hp diing bao dam sv phdt viln lao dpng Vong gia dinh Cdng gido d nhilu j ^ g xi> van hoa mdi quan he vcr - tAdng noi Qua quan sdt diye tl vd qua nhung eupe ti-d ehuygn phdng vin ngudi dan Cdng giao, ehdng tdi nhan diiy phy nii gifl mpt vai vd quan trpng vong vige td ehiic gia finh, ti-ong vige giu eho quan hg vp ehdng tfiuan hoa eon cdi ngoan ngoan, hiiu tfiao, gia dinh nl nip, cd ldi sdng Idnh mgnh nhu nhilu gia finh ngudi Vigt khdng Cdng giao Khdng ehi vay, ngudi phu nu Cdng gido cdn ed vai vd quan trpng vong vigc day do, giao dye eon edi gift dgo, ti-ong vigc Idm sdng dpng ddi sdng due tin Cdng giao vong gia dmh, nhu gido due cai diam gia ciu n p y e n ehung d gia dudi, dpc kinh sdm tdi, eau nguygn, Idm diu thdnh Vude vd sau ede bua an, v.v Cd tfil thay, ngdy phu nii Cdng gido Vigt Nam giu vai vd quan tipng tiong vigc xay dyng va phdt viln gia finh Ngudi ptm nu Cdng gido vfia tfiyc hign vai vd ddng gdp vc kinh tl, npi tip, viia diyc hign vigc cham sde chong con, gjdo dye tiimg van hod cua gia finh Cdng gido nhung van vong ddng van hod Vigt Nam Trdch nhiem va vdi chdng vdi gia etinti, nhu nhd toi ndy tdi thdy Id dd di chdng nira minh cUng Id ngudi ndi tra, minh phdi lo toan cdc viec, tu nghTa vu phdi lo toan day bdo cdi, nhiing cdi viec ldm dn hay nhQng cdi viec ndi irg Id nghTa vu cua ngudi ddn bd Thi cdn nhimg cdi viec lo tdt thi Id trai, cdc dng Thie nhdt, hin thuc cBng hem liin bd Liin bd chi nhiing cdi ngi tro thoi, hogc Id nhiing cdi nip s6ng gia mnh nhu ddu con, gdi ri thi cdi ngudi me Id phdi trdch nhiem, gdn giii v&i ngudi ddu han thi Id me Thi cdn chdng nUiy cdc dng liin dng dinh vdo cdc viec vdi ddu, chi cd me chdng vdi ddu Ihdi Tfti cdn nhOng viic trai hay viic hgc hdnh thi cdc dng (Phdng vin sfiu, nii 68 tudi gido dan) Ngodi n U n g trdeh nhiem, nghia vu] vdi gia finh ndi chung, ngirdi g i d o d d n P giao ludn dl eao su ehung diuy tinh yen trudc va sau bdn nhan Su ehung thuy Id: khdng bao gid dupe ly di vi nhung mau tfiDan, bat ddng hay nhflng khd khan hay bat eii mpt Iy nao khde eupe sdng, da firpc Thifin Chda ehung gidm Vdi ngudi Cdng gido, chung diuy nghia la finh yeu vudc sau khdng tfiay ddi, dd la tinh yeu vinh viln khdng lay ehuygn Ngvdi Cdng gido quan nigm vige gift dgo vp chdng, sdng chung tfnky vdi nhan Id phai gift nhung ldi die nguygn ma hai ben da dig udc Vong didnh ll hdn phdi ttudc mat TTiien Chda va trudc loan ^ edng dodn giao dan Cdng gido Nhung ngudi khdng cham sde vp hogc ehdng cude sdng hdng ngdy, bd be vp/ehdng dau dm ldcti^digid tidf vdi, khdng quan tam den sue khoe, each sinh hogt eiia vp/ehdng Id vd vach nhigm Id nhvng ngudi kh&ig giu dao vp ehdng Ngudi Vigt khdng Cong gido, nlu sau kit hdn, va chdng sdng vdi mpt tfidi gian tfiiy khdng hpp nhau, hoac vi mpt vdi IJ ndo dd, khdng tfli Chung sdng firpc nua hp cd tfil Iy dj dl xfiy dung mdt cude sdng mdi Nhung vdi ngudi Cdng giao ly di la filu bj ngan cim bdi gido luat Ngudi Cdng giao khdng chap nlign vige ly di dd hit kl Iy gi Kit qua dilu va finh lupng tgi xii dao No Lye (Phd Thp) cho tfiiy, cd 75,3% sd ngudi duoc hdi khdng chip nhgn vigc ly di vi bit kl IJ ndo Trong quan nigm eua ngudi Cdng gido, nhftng ngudi Uidng gift dgo vo ehdng eiing khdng dupe sdng Iy difin khdi gia finh vi nhfing mfiu itailn, hay nhung bit ddng khd giai quyet dupc Cd 87,8% khdng chip nhgn viec ly tfian khdi gia finh, bd be khdng cham sde vp/ehdng hay cdi Ty lg phdn ddi vige kb&ig chung tfniy gifta vp vd ehdng a ngudi Cdng giao tgi film nghien cm ndy chilm 85,4% SisraOMtlMGIW VAN m "V^"Ti"innr^=ii/ 14 (19)-2015: NGHIEN Cl/U VAN H A Bdng I: Quan niem vi nfaing ngudi khdng giu dgo va chong cua gido ddn Cdng gido Ndi dung Khdng cham sdc vp hoa: chong cupc spng Khdng chung thuy vdi vp/chdng Tdi hdn sau vp hogc chdng chit sdng Iy than khdi gia dinh Ly dj vi bat ke IJ gi Cd(%) 84,3 85,4 67,6 87,8 75,3 Khdng(%) 15,7 14,6 32.4 12.2 24,7 Tdng.«) (%) 100 100 100 100 100 (Ngudn: Kit qua diiu tra dinh luang tgi Nd Luc thdng 12-2009) Qua nghifin ciru thyc te cho thay vigc gift dung, chia se vdi Nhftng budi kinh dgo vp chdng cd nhirng khdc bigt vdi nhiing nguygn chung cua gia finh Cdng gido Id gido fieu dupc quy finh bdi gido luat Cdng nhftng didi dilm gia finh se chia vdi gido Neu gido luat Cdng gido bit budc mpi tin nhung khd khan, vui budn, nhiing khdc mic sau kit hdn ludn ludn "bit khd phfin ly", cupc sdng hdng ngdy de rdi bd qua cho khdng dupc ph^p ly fi dd bit ke hinh thiic ndo, nhau, tha thii cho nhau, de cdng dpng vifin nhung ngudi Cdng gidp van ed quan nigm sdng titmg tinh yfiu thuong ban Sdng khdng dupc ly i^ nhung ed dil Iy difin tiong Vong mpt mdi trudng ma cpng ddng tdn gido, mpt sd trudng hpp ndo dd Khi hai ngudi tinh Idng nghia xdm bin chgt, ngudi gido dfin khdng cdn gift sy chung thuy, khdng cdn yfiu Cdng gido ludn nhgn dvpc sy chia se khd nua, ngudi ta khdng dil sdng vdi khan, vui budn cua hp hang tfifin thfch, bd nhau, gia finh hp hdng hai ben va cpng dodn gido dfin vd cda cdc hpi dodn Khi gia finh cd gido dfin da hoa giai khuyfin can nhvng khdng nhung mfiu diuan, bit hoa, khd khan dil cpng dupc, bp cd dil sdng Iy difin khdi gia finh dl dodn gidp dd, sg chia ti-fin dnh diin ygu suy ngam ve cupc sdng, vl hdn nhfin eiia hp, divong dtim bpc Ngudi Cdng gido nhung cim dupc ly fi Tuy nhifin, ngdy cd diay mpt gia dinh ddng dgo cd nhftng bit hod, mpt bp phgn ti'n dd quan nigm idng, da tdeh mfiu thuan se khdng xa ldnh ddng dgo ciia Iy khdi gia dinh, khdng dil chung sdng vdi minh Kit qud dilu tra finh lupng cho tfiiy, cd dil Iy dj, mgc dd dd Id dilu cim ky, dd 99% gido dfin cd tfidi dp ung xii ndy vdi Id sy phgm tipng tpi nhung ngvdi khdng gift dgo vp chdng Khi cd Vdng, hdn nhdn v&i ngu&i Cdng gido, tru&c bit hod, VTidc hit ngvdi ti"ong nhd, md bdn thfin ddi vp chdng dd Id nhung ngudi tiyc dip anh chi hgc ding cd biit Id ngu&i Cdng ndi chuygn, hod gidi vdi vfin tinh tfian vj gido khdng duac bd nhau, ddy Id cdi chu chdt dia, yeu thuang dire dn cda ngudi Thi cdn ve cdi gia dinh cSng cd nhiiu cdi phiic Cdng gido Dfiy Id mpt Vong nhvng dfic dilm tgp vi dg nhu anh chdng nghien ngdp, thi rdi noi bgt van hda vng xu giua vp - chdng cUng cd mdt vdi ddi li di vi ruau che, ti-ong gia dinh Cdng gido Nlu hai vp chdng cUng cd ngu&i di gdi gu, thi cung xung ddt khdng die giai quylt dupc nhvng mfiu diuan, Cd mdt ddi bdy gi& vdn chua vi duac v&i dli hp hdng hai bfin, ldng xdm, bgn be ddng (Phdng vin sfiu, nu, 75 tudi nft m) dgo va nhat Id cdc hpi dodn vong hp dgo se Bdi gido filu "bit kha phfin ly", nfin ngudi cilng gdp J, khuyfin gidi deti"dnhnhung Cdng gido nhin chung Vong vdn hda iing xii mfiu thuan bit ddng k^o ddi gfiy dnh hudng diudng cd gift dgo vp chdng, sdng chung diuy den gia finh vd cdi Hinh thiic gjp gd vdl ddi ddi Trong cupc sdng cd nhung nhftng gia finh khdng gift dgo vp - chdng dl mfiu diuan, bat ddng gifta vp vd chdng tfiudng gidp dd hp, gidi difch cho hp hieu vl nhihig dupc giai quylt ven tinh tfiin vi dia, bao vigc hp ldm tfiudng dvpc ngudi gido dfin j ) ^ '^siFvy^iT 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