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T A M L I H p c - I N H Ll HOC LUA T U d i THUC TRANG MLTC DO TUONG TAG GlOA ME VA CON TUOI THitU NIEN TRONG GIA DiNN O T ^oi thieu nien c6 vai trd dde biet quan trong cuoc ddi moi nguoi, dd Id thdi ki qud tu tre eon sang nguoi Idn voi nhieu thay doi nhdy vot ve tdm - sinh li Su thay doi dot bien ndy dd tqo su md't thdng bong tqm thdi dd'i voi cdc em, ddi hdi su giup d d vd cdm thdng cua nguoi Ion, dgc biet Id cijo cho me gia dinh Me Id nguoi i6u tien mong Igi tinh yeu thuong cho dua tre Tinh cdm sou ndy cua dua tr^ phu thugc nhieu vdo tinh me con, dugc dinh hinh bdi ngudi me; dnh hudng d d tri mdi mdi, ke ed eon trudng thdnh Khoa hgc d d ehung minh rang, nhOng dua tre song thieu tinh thuong cua me, Ian l§n de co ddi sd'ng tinh thdn mdt can b d n g , de ndi ndng, kho yeu thuong, «nhi/ng dua \rh khdng biet den su quan tdm diu ddng cOa me khdng chf Id nhung dua tre bdt hgnh Chung cd the Ion l&n thdnh nhung ngudi nhan tdm, dgc d c " ( l ) Nguoi me cung Id ngudi thdy ddu tien cOa dua tre dgy cho moi hdnh vi ung x u gia dinh vd xd hdi Trong qud trinh tuong tdc (TT), dnh hudng cuo ngudi me de igi dd'u d'n sdu sac nhan cdch cua tre vd theo nd sud't dot Nhieu edng trinh khoa hge nghien cuu cua J Bov/bly, Sontag, Kroger vd Freed dd ehung minh dnh huong cua quan he me - tdi su phat trien tdm li cua tre thdi ki thai nhl vd du nhi N h u vgy, TT giua me vd eon ndi chung vd TT giua me vd tud'i thieu nien ndi rieng Id mdi TT quan trgng qua trinh xd hdi hoa dua tre, cd dnh hudng to Ian v d true tiep toi qud trinh phdt trien nhdn cdch tre Do do, viec nghien cuu thuc trgng muc TT giua me vd gia dinh Id rd't cdn thiet N g h i e n c u u thuc t r g n g muc d o TT g t u a me v d g i a dinh Chung tdi tien hdnh nghien cuu tren 288 cap me va tud'i thieu nien cua trudng: Truong Tap chi Giao due so 7 (ki i - i/aoia) TS, L^ MINH NGUY^T* THCS Tbugng Cat - Tu Liem - Hd Ndi; Trudng THCS U Tu Trong - TP Thanb Hda - Thanh Hoa, dd ed 150 hoc sinh (HS) nam, 138 HS nu Cy th^: lop 6: 69 MS; Idp 7: 74 HS; lop : HS; Idp 9: 70 HS Viec ddnh gid muc TT giOo me vd eon dugc lugng hda bang diem sd' vdi cde muc nhu sou: TT cao: muc (5 diem); TT/ren trung binh: mue (4 diem); TT trung binh: muc (3 diem); TT dudi trung binb: muc (2 diem); TT thap: muc (1 diem) 1) Muc TT giua nien (xet chung} me vd tuoi thieu Bang Muc TTgiua me vd (xet chung) Cac tiiu chi danh qia DTB DLC Tl le % cac mijrc TT Th^p Di/di trunq binh Tnjnq binh Tren trunq binh Cao TT me - 3,20 0,65 2,41 26,88 34.30 22,65 13,76 Tu sd' lieu bdng vd sy phdn tieh edc tieu ehi bieu hien eua qud trinh TT giiJa me vd tudi thieu nien, cd the nhdn xet ve muc TT giua me vd tudi thidu nien nhu sou: muc TTgiua me vd chu yeu muc «irung binh", «dudi trung binb"vd «tren trung binb" Ndi cdch khdc, hdu het so' bd me vd tuoi thieu nien TT voi xoay quanh muc «trung binh", so' cd TT coo hogc thd'p ehiem ti le it Dieu ndy dugc the hien qua DTB v l mue TT cua me vd deu Idn hon diem vd qua phdn phdi cdc muc TT cua me vdi con: hem 80% sd' me vd eon TT vdi muc trung binh, tren trung binh vd dudi trung binh Mue TT trSn Id tin hieu ddng mi>ng quan he giua me vd d cdc nghiem t h i duoc nghien cuu, ddy Id co sd quan trgng cho viec me * Tnrongfiailioc sirpliam Ha tlpi vd eon tdc dgng Idn nhau, tqo dieu kien thudn Igi de quan tarn, chdm sde vd gido dye eon cdi gia dinh Tuy nhien, mue TT tren chua thyc sy cao nhu ki vgng cua me vd eon; van cdn H !e khd Idn me vd cd muc TT dudi binh, mot so' ed muc thdp N g u y i n nhdn, c6 the tu phia thieu nien vd tu phia me Do nhu cdu TT, sy hieu biet Ian nhau, tuong hgp tdm l i , dnh hudng Ian TT, k l ndng TT eua me vd chua thyc sy cao, dde biet Id sy hieu biet Ian cuo me vd TT cdn thdp 3-8 336 in Bieu DTB ve m&c tuong tac giua me vd (xet theo tuoi} 2} Mi/c TT giua me vd tuoi thieu nien (xet theo tuoi} dugc the hien bieu vd bdng Bdng Muc TTgii/a me vd (xet theo tuoi} Cac liSu chi danh gia Tile% cacmiid L6 M e va L8 L7 L9 Thap 2.89 4,11 4.13 5,36 DuSiTB TB Tr6n T B Cao 19.59 37.23 23.32 16.97 25,36 34,64 22,15 13,74 28,71 34,10 20,49 11,47 32,57 34.57 18,38 9.12 Dieu ed tinh phd* bien d bang vd bieu I Id: mue TT giua me vdi eon gidm dan theo tuoi cua tu dau den cudi tuoi thieu nien (gidm dan tu Idp den lap 9}, rd nhdt Id thdi diem tu Idp sang Idp N h u vgy, cd sy bien dgng khd Idn TT giiJa thieu nien vdi me theo chieu huong thieu nien mud'n tdeh ddn khdi me d ddu tudi thiS'u nien (Idp 6-7), edc em cdn nhd, cdn cd mot so' dde diem tdm li gid'ng vdi tud'i nhi dong n§n van thudng gdn bd vdi me, mud'n duoc gdn gui vdi me, edn thieu nien Idn (Idp 89), sy phdt trien tdm li dgc trung cua lua tudi, cdc em cd nhu edu TT vdi bgn be nhieu hon vd gidm nhu cdu TT vdi ngudi Idn, dde biet Id vdi cha me Thieu nien mong mud'n ngudi Idn (me) khdng can thiep qud ti mi vdo ddi so'ng rieng tu cua minh Nhieu bd me cho rdng: cdi ho «cdn nhd, cdn dgi dot " nen cdn dieu khien, chdm sde vd kiem sodt tf mi, dgc biet, edng nhd me edng quan tdm, !o long Chinh vi the, muc TT vdi me eua HS Idp 6-7 cao hon so vdi HS Idp 8-9 Thdi quen chdm sde eon qud muc cdn thiet Idm cho thieu nien khdng mud'n trd chuyen, TT vdi me, tim cdch xa ldnh me, vi cde em cho rdng, me khdng hieu minh vd khdng the hieu minh, khdng hgp vdi minh Nguge Iqi, da Idn, muc quan tdm cua me ddi vdi cung gidm di vi mot mat, eon khdng thich me quan tdm nhutrudc, mat khdc, me cijng cdm thd'y tin tudng vd an tdm dd cung cdp Tliyc ra, sy gidm muc TT cua thieu nien vdi me theo tuoi (tu ddu den cudi tudi thieu nien) Id hien tuong binh thudng qud trinh phdt trien tdm li hjo'i thieu ni&n Dieu ndy phdn dnh xu the vcran len Idm ngudi Idn vd xu thd' md rdng quan he cua cde em ben ngodi, hudng d i n cde bqn cung lua tudi Vi vgy, cdc bgc cha me co cudi tud'i thieu nien cung khong nen qud lo long ve mue suy gidm ndy cua vdi minh Tuy nhien, cung cdn phdi thudng xuyen quan tdm vd tim CO hoi de tri d mue cdn thiet sy tiep xuc, trao dd'i vdi cdc em, nhdt Id cdc vd'n de quon trgng ddi song, hogt dgng, hgc tdp vd quan he cua cdc em 21 / 18 // ^ Bieu DTB ve muc tuong tdc giua me vd (xet theo gidi tinb} 3) Muc TT giua me vd tuoi tbiS'u nien (xet theo giai tinb} Cdc ket qud nghien cuu vd tinh todn ve TT giua me vdi tud'i thieu nien theo gidi tinh dugc tdng hgp bieu 2, bdng vd bdng Cdc so lieu ve DTB ehung ve TT giua me vdi (bieu 2} vd phdn phdi cdc muc TT (bdng 3), cung nhu DTB v l mue cua td't cd edc tieu chi (bdng 4} deu cho thdy, cd sy khdc bi§t Tap chi Giao due s6 7 (ki i • i/aoia) Bdng Muc TTgiua me vd eon (xet theo gidi tinb) Cac tiSu chf Me v^ danh gia Con trai Con qai DTB 3,21 3,18 Thap 3,83 4,59 Ttle% DuaiTB 25,94 29,04 cac TB 33,74 34,06 mfjrc Tren TB 22,60 21,08 Cao 13,89 11,23 Bdng DTB cdc tieu ehi ddnb gid mue TT me vd (theo gidi tinb} Cac tiSu ch( Nhu cau TT Hi^u biet lin Tuonq hap tarn ii KF nSng TT T^nscfTT Anh hu6nq lln Me Cton trai 3,64 2,87 3,44 2,82 3,89 2,87 TTme -con Con -me Con Con C^jn qai trai qai 3,51 3.54 3,32 2,60 2,67 2,55 3,17 3,44 3,17 2,91 2,82 2,91 3,71 3.89 3.71 3,03 3,21 3,05 Q u a nghien cuu, TT giDa me vd eon tuoi thieu nign d nhieu gia dinh ehu yeu chi d mue trung binh; ed sy khdc biet ve muc TT giua me vd theo lua tudi vd gidi tinh cua con, d d , muc TT giija me v d gidm theo tudi Idn ten cua Mue TT eua me vdi Id t h i l u nien nhd (Ic^ 67) cao hon vdi thieu nien Idn (Idp 8-9) Muc d d gidm khdng dong deu, tdc d o gidm nhanh nhdt Id giai dogn giua Idp vd Idp ; muc TT giua me vd trai cao hon giua me vd gdi Tu thyc te ndy, cde bd me edn t h ^ dugc vai trd, trdch nhiem cua minh TT vdi con, dde bi§t Id dang d tudi thieu niĐn ã (1) Kail.V.R- Cavanaugh C, J NghiSn cihi ve su- phat trien nginii (NguySn Kim Truong djcti) NXB Vdn hda thdng tin, H 2006 Tai liSu tham khSo Sontrork J W Hm hieu th^ ^(H tStn U cua lua tudi vi th&nh nien (Trdn Thi Lan Huong djcti) NXB Piiu nQ khd ro giua TT cOa me vdi trai vd vdi eon H2004 gdi Cy the, DTB cuo td't cd edc tieu chi dugc Campbell R Teen cSn gi cha me? NXB Vdn iida thdng tin, H 2007 nghien cuu TT me vdi trai deu cao BiJi Van Hue Hi^u miri day dirgx NXB hem so vdi TT g i u a me vdi eon g d i Gidodiic, H1997 Ngugc Iqi, DTB eua cde tteu ehi d d TT NguySn Xu3n Huong - VQ Quj'nti Ngh£ thujit irng xirsur me vdi eon trai deu cao hon so vdi DTB pham Ilia tud'i day thi NXB Bgi hgc qu6c gia Hd Ndi TT me - eon gdi (chdng hqn, nhu cdu TT me - 2007 trai; 3,64, me - gdi; 3,51) Ve phia Thanh Son (chu bifin) 101 dieu sai iSm md^i ngudi con, cdc so lieu cung tuong ty quan he gifla cha me vol cii NXB Hd Ndi, 2006 Nghien cuu tren cho thd'y, gidi tinh cua SUMMARV cd lien quan chgt den muc TT giua me v d Interaction tietv/een mother and teenage chiidhas eon Cy the, muc d d TT giua eon trai vdi me an important significance in the process of socializing that child, considerably and directly influencing the cao hon giua gdi v d me M u c TT giua trai vdi me cao hon TT development of his/her personality The article discusses the level of interaction between mother and teenage giCro eon g d i v d me Id hien tuong rd't ddng child - a necessary issue in family education quan tdm Cdn Idm r d n g u y i n nhdn cua tinh trgng ndy, mdt khdc, edc bd me cung cdn ung x u phu hop, trdnh sy eye doan khdng cdn thiet quan he giua me vdi TAP CHf GlAO DUG nam 2012 dieu chinh Nguyen nhdn sy khdc biet ve mue d o TT gia ban la 16.000d/cu6'n giiJa me vdi trai v d me vdi g d i bdt Kinh mong ban doc, cac dan vi giao due (sff, ngudn tu quan he me vdi con, duqe hinh thdnh phong tnrimg) thong cam va tiep tuc dat mua vd phdt t r i l n h> tr6 cdn nhd v d d d dugrc TAP CHi GlAO DUC (ma so tap chi C192) phdn tich tdm li hge Ngodi ra, c d t h i tai cac buu cue dia phuong hoac dat mua true thyc te ung x u , cha thudng chieu tiep tai toa soan (so' luong Idn), theo dia chi: gdi hon me; nguge Iqi, me Igi c h i l u trai TAP CHf GIAO DUC, Trinh Hoai Bac, vd nghiem khdc vdi gdi hon cha Chinh vi HaNpi DT: 04.37346363; Fax: 04.37346363 t h i d d dan den nhu cdu TT giua me vdi TAP c m GIAO DUC trai cao hon me vdi gdi THONG BAO Tap chi Giao due so 7 (ki i • i/aoia) ... -con Con -me Con Con C^jn qai trai qai 3,51 3.54 3,32 2,60 2,67 2,55 3,17 3,44 3,17 2,91 2,82 2,91 3,71 3.89 3.71 3,03 3,21 3,05 Q u a nghien cuu, TT giDa me vd eon tuoi thieu nign d nhieu gia. .. deu cho thdy, cd sy khdc bi§t Tap chi Giao due s6 7 (ki i • i/aoia) Bdng Muc TTgiua me vd eon (xet theo gidi tinb) Cac tiSu chf Me v^ danh gia Con trai Con qai DTB 3,21 3,18 Thap 3,83 4,59 Ttle%... nhdn sy khdc biet ve mue d o TT gia ban la 16.000d/cu6''n giiJa me vdi trai v d me vdi g d i bdt Kinh mong ban doc, cac dan vi giao due (sff, ngudn tu quan he me vdi con, duqe hinh thdnh phong tnrimg)