Cách ứng xử của trẻ vị thành niên đối với cha mẹ trong quá trình giao tiếp phân tích từ một khảo sát thực địa

NghiSn ciiu Gia dtinh vii Gidi S6 -2012 Cdch lifng xur cua tre vj ihdnh nien do) v6l cha m@ qud trinh giao tiep: phdn tich tir mot khao sat thirc dja Trirong Thj Thu Thuy, Trln Thj Thanh Loan Vien Gia dmh vd Gidi Tom t^t: Bai vie't phSn tfch thUc trang cdch iJtng xii cua tre vi thdnh nien doi vdi cha me minh qua cu6c khao sat nho tai Bflc Ninh K§'t qua phan tich cho thfi'y h^u h§'t tre vi nien dUdc phong van co mot mo hinh iing xii chung la vang Idi bo me, phuong thiJc giao tiep mot chieu til bo' me den cai vin la bien Tuy nhifin, boi canh xa hoi hien dai, khong chi ban than tre vi nien, ma chinh gia dinh co tre vi nien cung dang phai trai qua giai doan thach thiic: thieu hut ki^n thiic, nhan thiic cua cac bSic cha me ve tam sinh Iy liia tuoi vi nien, khoang each th^ hfi, quj thdi gian it oi danh cho cai, nhu c^u boi dSp kie'n thiic vd kJ nSng song cua tre vi nien, nhu cau thfi' hien tu doc lap cua tre vi nifin, Hi^u nhflng suy nghi, mong muo'n cua tre co thfi' giiip Ikm giam mau thuin va xung dot vfi' loi sShg, suy nghi, hanh vi, gia tri vk ve ca niem tin giiia tre vi th&nh nifin vk cac bSc cha me, Tii khoa: Vi nien; TJTng xii cua tre vi nien; Quan he cha me cai; Gia dinh Gidi thieu Phan u'ch v^ "cai tOi" ciia tre Vifit Nam, D6 Long cho rang mOt diJa Ire Viet Nam vira m6i ddi la da b pham vi giao tiep khep kin vd'n 76 NghlAn cijru Gia dlnh vk Oidt Quyin 22, s«>6, tr 77-87 mang nflng quan h0 huytft thrfng, n6 dm;c gi^o due tCr tftp nbi d^ tir ximg minh v& gpi nguM khdc bfing vj irl vk vai m^ n6 c6 quan he tirong dtig DSng sau nh&ng vj trf vk vai xung hd ciia diia tre 1^ nhihig quy t k , quy phym cDa h^nh vi ihig xix vfln hrta tucjng iJng nghia \k giao titfp vdi nhOng thSnh vifin gia dlnh cung nhir ngoii hg h&ng, diia ir6 d6 phAi ling xii diing v6i vj ih^ da du^c quy djnh quan hfi vdi cdc dtfi tirpng "ngoiii n6" Ki ck cdc m5i quan he giao tififp xa hOi ihl ngirdi Vi$l vfin thudng Iflfy danh i£r chl quan h$ hp hing nhu c6, chii, bdc, d^ thay cho d^i lir nhfln xung - mO thiic iing x^ gia dinh dupc md rdng dtfn pham vi to&n xS hpi nky da dupc trao truyfin lu nhifin cho diia trd Nhu vfiy, "cdi tdi" cOa diia trd bj tan bitfn vko cdc quan hfi huytft thdng, quan hfi xd hpi, nfin bi che khutft vk lu md di, ft chiing bpc Id t^t cd ban sfic cua chfnh minh Ngiy diia tr^ Vifit Nam da cd xu hudng tu chu lu lap, tu tin, ddm tu th^ hi^n minh, tu khdng dinh minh tu va hdnh ddng, dd Id nhihig dflu hifiu cOa mdt chu th^ cd ^ thiic cao hon v^ "cdi tdi" ban than minh so vdi truy6n Ihdng (Dd Long 2001) Vi thdnh nifin Id mdt giai doan khdc bifit v^ tflm sinh 1^ qud u-inh phdt tri^n cua mdt diia tre d^ trd thdnh mdt ngudn Idn trudng thdnh Wi mat tflm ly, chdng cd nhung thay ddi thdt thu£mg, dfi vui, di budn, dfi n6i loan di roi vdo trang thdi cd dem sdu mudn vd cd, dfi bi tdc ddng bcri cdc nhdn td bfin ngodi, ndi chung Id di rdi loan cam xilc gap phai nhQng vudng mflc qud trinh giao tifi'p vdi ngubi khdc Vfly didu g] dang xay tucmg tdc giiia cha me vd U^ vi thdnh nifin hifin nay? Bdi vift dudi ddy phan tfch thuc U^ng cdch iing xit ciia irc vi thdnh nifin dd'i vdi cha me minh qua cudc khao sdt thuc dja pham vi d^ tdi cdp Bd nam 20112012 cua phdng Nghifin cihi vi Tre em Vifin Gia dmh vd Gidi Tu lifiu phan tfch Id ndi dung 12 cudc phdng vdn sdu vd thao ludn nhdm tre vi thdnh nifin b mdt phudng vd mdt xa cua tinh Bflc Ninh Lfng xuT cua tri vj nien giao tiep vdi cha me Thuc trang Giao tifip mdt chidu cha me - cdi Id xu hudng ndi bdt khao sdt thuc te' ndy Vflng Idi cha me da trd thdnh chudn muc ihig \ii cua mdt ngudi ngoan lu cua tih vi thdnh nifin Vdi c h u ^ muc da dupc xa hdi hda mdt cdch tu nhifin vdo suy nghT vd nhfln thiic ciia tre tCr ta'm bfi, da phdn cdc tre vi thdnh nifin diu rat sp mang cdi tifi'ng "con hu", mac dCi nhi^u trudng hpp, ban thdn tre khdng ddng y, khdng tan thdnh khdng thfch thii, tham chi ca thd'y cha me ndi khdng diing thi tre vdn nghe Idi cha me TrUdng Thj Thu Thuy & Trfin Thj Tiianh Loan 79 H: C^c em dfnh f}ghJa \h§ ndo /d m^t ngt/di ngoan? TL: Con ngoan Id tCr lOc minh bifit suy nghT khflng 6i bfi m? bufln vi minh, B6 m? bdo gi thl nghe TL: Ngudi ngoan Id ngirdri tflt, bidt quan tdm mpi ngirffi, chdm chf Id ngudi tfit xd hfli TL: Phdi bIdt yfiu thuang btf me, b(S me bufln ndn chia sd cCing, vd bfi m? mdng minh thi khflng ndn gidn dfii, vl bfi m? chf mufin tfit cho minh thfli, cfi gdng hpc tdp d^ theo nguy§n vpng cOa bfi me (TLN nam vi thdnh nl6n, phudng Kinh Bdc, thdnh phfl Bdc Ninh) H: Nhimg lOc b6m^ khdng dOng thi ldm thSndo? TL Thi chju thfli vi bfi me Idn tudi hon minh, bfi me cfl kinh nghidm ndn lufln nghT Id minh dung (TLN nff vj thdnh nidn, xS Kim Chdn, Bac Ninh) Quan nifim phdn Idm phai nghe Idi cha me, cha me lam gi cung chi vl mud'n td't dep cho cdi, tr^ chua bifit di^u gl tdt/xdu cho minh, hiu nhu da ddp tat nhiing phdn iing y^u dl cua iri vi nien trudc nhihig mdu thudn giao tie'p vdi cha me H: Khi minh co m$u thuSn v(W b6 me, phan iing cOa minh thS nao? TL: Vdn cai lai nhung chd Idm gi fiupc Cai khflng dupc Jal Idn glucmg ngoi TL: Tiic mudn khoe, v§n phdi nghe Icfi bfi me Nghi bfi me khflng hl^u minh H: Sau c6 trao dSi lai vdi b6 me khdng? TL: Minh phai chju thfll, minh Id chd Idm gi duoc, bfi me nghT bfi me Idn nhldu kinh nghifim thl nfll minh phdi nghe Mufin bfi me hi^u minh bfi me cung khflng nghe, minh khflng bifit Idm thfi ndo (TLN nif vj thdnh nifin, xa Kim Chan, Bac Ninh) Tre vi nifin cd nhu cdu chia se tam tu rdt Idn, nhu cdu xudt hifin b hdu het cac chii dfi hpc tap vui choi, sd Ihich, each dn mac sinh ly Ilia tudi, sinh hoat gia dinh v.v Tuy nhifin, d mdi chu d^ each iing xii cua tre vi nifin vdi ndi dung trao d6i, chla se hay phuong phdp giao tifi'p cua cha me lai khdc Thai dp chflp nhdn, lin tudng va ldm theo y kifin cua cha me cua tre vi nien th^ hien kha ro rfit xung quanh cdc vdn d^ hpc tap Cung CO mflu thudn xay qua trinh giao tie'p giu'a cha me va tre d chu d^ ndy, song vl hdu hfi't cac em y thiic dupc mong mud'n cua cha me mud'n 80 Nghltn cUu Qia dtnh v i Oldl Quytfn 22 sA' 5, tr 77-87 cdi hpc gidi di thi dd dai hpc cd cdng vi$c dn dinh "hpc d^ dm vdo thfln", nhifiu cm vdng Idi vd hfi lire hpc t^p d^ ddp iing ky vpng ciia cha mc, vl sp cha m? budn Idng; chfnh vl ihtf, nhttng mflu thudn ntfu cd xay thudng dupc hda gidi nhanh chdng vd ft d^ lai su dm tic Idng tre vj thdnh nifin H.VShQc h6nh chOng ta nghe Idl khuySn td ai? Tdt cd: Bfi m? TL: VI bfi m? sinh minh mongfildutfit cho minh Ban bd c6 ban tfit o6 b^n khflng tfiL TL: Hpc tfit 6i Idn Idn cfl cflng dn vide Idm TL: Hpc i i dm vdo thdn (TLN na vi thdnh mdn xd Kim Chdn, Bdc Ninh) Su phdn khdng tr^ xud't hifin nhi^u hon qud trinh ih^ hifin nhu cdu vui choi gidi tri tinh cdm cd nhdn cdch fln mflc/hlnh ihiic b^ ngodi (nhu nhudm tdc cat tdc theo mdt trang jAuc, trang di^m ) Dac biet sinh tinh cam vdi ngudi khdc gidi hoflc cd su tdn thuong tinh cam cd nhdn thl phdn Idn ca nam vd nfl vi thdnh nien d^u lua chpn cdch khdng trao ddi vdi cha me H: C6 vSn dS gl cu^ s6ng chdu cim thSy khd nfl/ chuyen v(sib6m^ khdng? TL: Khfl nfli chuydn vdi bfi mp Id vdn dd vui choi \n nfli vdn dd vui choi bfi me chdu bdo khflng dupc di choi nhldu, phdi chu tdm vdo hpc (PVS nam vj thdnh nidn 14 tufii xfl Kim Chdn, Bdc Ninh) TL: Khi em thich m^t ngudi thi chuy^ d6 em nghT khflng tflt ndn khflng ndi Sp mp mdng Thudng bfi me em hay Idng di ndi chuyen vd tmh cam Nfli chuydn hpc tdp cua em thl bfi mp rdt Idng nghe, cfln nhihig chuydn em hoi vdn dd gi W bfi mp khflng quan tdm (PVS nQ vi thdnh mdn, 16 tufii xa Kim Chdn Bdc Ninh) H: Cd b^n nio qui b^n nam kh6c khdng? Khi dd ch6u cd k4 vdi kt)dng? TL: Khflng k^ cho TL: Nfli vdi me, TL: Thfi 16 vfli ban than nhdt TL: Nfli vdi ban thi ban gflpy cho, khflng thi me nfli ranh niit mui yfiu duong gl, Bdo vdi ban thfln tfit hon, (TLN nff vi thdnh nidn, xa Kim Chdn, Bac Ninh) Trittftig Thi Thu Thuy & Trdn Thi Thanh Loan 11 Khi c(5 nhu cSu tim hidu Icie'n ihiic, nang cao nhan thiJc vi giai tfnh va sinh 1^ Ilia tufii, dfii tuong Ai tl^ chia s6 vii th6a man nhttng thac mac c6 huAig vi cha me, song ban b* vh internet v4n chiSm mi the'hon! H: Cd lin nio minh hdi vSn dili thi chiu tim hi4u d ^§u? nhi ti6mf khdng trim klidng? NSuli/llm hiiu TL: ChSu cht h6i mst siS vi viSc hpc hanh, vi^c gia dinh cUn vif c li nhj chSu l\f lim tOi iSy, khing dSm hdi han bS me vi thii nhSt chSu ngai, Ihii hai tam sinh iy cSa minh Ichfing tigt \6 di/pc, TL: ChSu tim hi^u d sach b4o hay hS thSng inlenel nha anh chau, nha chSu kinh t^ kam nan chua mua duoc, chl dll nufti anh em chau hgc thoi TL: Chau thudng trao ddi vi» nguOi ban than nhSt Chau khSng dam tam su vai b5 me vi ap luc cing viSc cua bO me chau da nhilu, nSu nOi v l Sp luc cOa minh S ngoai nita bi me chau se thSy ap luc nang hon nan chau khOng k l (PVS nam vj nian, 17 ludi, xa Kim Chan, Bac Ninh) TL Chac la internet va ban ba cO anh hucfng nhigu hon so vOi bd me Vi thOng tin Iran intemet c6 nhidu didu hap d§n va thu hot trd hon bd me Bd me thudng chl ndi nhOng didu gian dj, cOn ban be thi an mac, choi bdi thu hut hon, hap din hon, (PVS nif vj nian, 16 ludi, xa Kim Chan, Bac Ninh) Thuc trang trfin da dugc nhidu nghiSn ciiu Ichac tdng Icet Vi du nhu u-ong Didu tra Qufic gia ve Vi nien va Thanh niSn Viet Nam Idn thii nam 2009 (SAVY 2), cac dii lieu phan tfch cho thiy cac chi dd: tufii day thi, Icinh nguyet mfing linh, mang thai hay KHHGD va cac bien phap tranh thai, tinh due, tinh yeu va hfin nhan thl vi nien va nien nghe nhidu nha't tCt tivi, tie'p dd la 20% nghe ttr radio, 10% til sach/bao hay intemet Chii y la ty Ie thidu nien bidt thfing tin vd tinh due tir internet cao hon han ty Ie bidt vd chi dd cdn lai qua intemet (Tfing cue Dan sd-KHHGD va cac co quan khac, 2010: 119) Viec tre vi nien tfch cue thu thap cac thfing lin vd siic ichoe sinh san, cdc kie'n thiic ve tinh due tren cac phuong tien thfing tin dai chiing cfin thd hien mfii lien he ydu giOa cha me va cai, cung nhu vai trd mfi nhat cia gia dlnh viec giao due vi nien nhQng ky nang c^n thidt Ilnh vuc Hoac nhu kdt qua phan tich sfi Ueu didu u-a Gia dinh Viet Nam 2006 cho thdy, dfii vfii nhom tre tir 15 ddn 17 tufii, ban be van la dfii tuong chfnh de chiing tim ddn tam sir vd chuyen yeu duong, cac bac cha me noi chung gitt vj trf kha khiem tfi'n su tin cay cua con: ''nhin chung, cai thucmg chon ban be la ngufii tam sir, chidm 63,4% ngufii tra Icri, tidp 8C NghlAn cdru QIa dlnh vd 0161 Quyin 22, ttf 5, tr 77-87 theo td nguiri ihdn gia dlnh 8,4% rdi dtfn me 7.7% vd cutfi cCing Id cha vdi i;^ 1$ rdt thdp 1.3% NguM m? b nhOng gia dlnh thdnh thi, c6 mac stfng cao hon thudng Id ngu&i dU(;ft: chpn d^ ldm su Ngui^c lai, ngu&i cha n&ng ihdn vd b nhChig gia dlnh c6 miJc stfng thdp hon lai duoc cdi tin tu6ng hon mdc d£i v6\ t^ 1? rtfl ihtfp" (Trdn Thj Vdn Anh vd c^ng si; 2011:23-24) Nguydn nhdn Nhffng nguyfin nhdn ddn dtfn thuc irang trfin d9 du^c cdc nhd nghifin cihi d^ cap dtfn vf du nhu su cdch bi^l thtf hfi, mdu thudn gitta khd ning ciia lr6 vj thdnh nifin vdi k^ vpng cua cha me, cha mc vd ilnh hay ctf ^ thdp 16ng lu irpng ciia tr6 bAng l&i n6i hdnh ddng (Phan Thi Mai Huong chu bifin, 2(X)7) Hodc vdi mdi chO dfi cu th^ Id siic khde sinh san vd tinh due tutfi vj thdnh nifin thl nhu mdi nghifin cihi vfi phu nfl vd gia dinh dd cho rdng: da s6 cdc bdc phu huynh hifin su hi^u bi^l vi gidi Unh vd tinh due cQng h^t sflc ngh^o ndn vd vdi chdu, cdc bdc cha me lai cdng khdng bao gid dd ddng dfi'n chuyfin ilnh due vl nhu thtf Id "vg dudng cho huou chay", "vdn di cdm ky gido due gia dlnh" (Nguyfin Linh Khitfu 2003) DDc kfi't tfl tu lifiu phdng vdn ci^a khao sdt ndy thdy bdt Ifin mdt thuc tfi rdng: da stf ede bdc cha me dang bfif ldc vfi phuong phdp gido due dtfi vdi nhflng dfla dd tutfi "lii khdng U^ eon, ngu£n Idn chua thdnh nguCrt Idn" Hon nfla, irong mdt stf chu di giao tifi'p cdc bdc cha me it tao dupc su tin tudng noi ire gidi thich/giai quytft vdn dfi cflng tre khifi^n tr6 khdng "ldm phuc khdu phuc" vd d&n dfi'n thdi dd phan khdng dtfi vdi Idi ndi hdnh vi, thdi dd cua cha me hodc tre se di tim ddl tupng khdc d^ tdm su vi vdn dfi cua ban thdn Nhflng cdch flng xfl trfin cua ire cd nguyfin nhdn nhifiu bdc cha me vdn hi^u khd chung chung vi tdm 1^ Ifla tutfi vj Ihdnh nifin; cdch thflc ndi chuyfin cua cha me thudng difin theo ki^u dp dat, mfinh Ifinh giai thfch khdng Ihd'u ddo, can ke; cd thdi dd "phu ddu" cdi di cdp dfi'n chuyfin yfiu duong; su lang Irdnh cua cdc bdc cha me v^ cdc vflji dfi dupc coi Id tfi' nhi hode khdng cd sir chu ddng "ddn ddu" md thudng td ire hoi thl cha me mu QIa dlnh v l GIdl, Quyjn 22, 6' 5, Ir 77-B7 m?); cfi trd nhfin Ihi^c ducjfc r&ng "mufin bfimc hidu minh thl minh nen hidu btf m? nhidu hon, ndu minh Ithfing hidu bfi me thl bfi m? cung khfing thd hidu dupc minh, minh ndn quan tfim ddn bfi m? nhidu hon" (PVS nS vi thfinh nien 16 tufii, xi Kim Chdn, B^c Ninh): Ihfim chf cfi t r i suy nghi rSl chQng chac: "Bfi me ndn bidt suy xdt, cdi ndn thfing cam vfii btf me, mtfi ngufii nhufing nhin mfit fl Con cfii cfi Ifim v i ^ sai btf me nen suy xdt xem nguydn nhfin tai ntf lai Ifim nhu IhC Vf du cfii ddnh l(hfing thd ti; nhien nd ddnh din;ic phfii cfi nhidu nguyen nhfin Ndu dtJa ddy ddnh minh tiatfic mfi nfi mufin nfii vfii bfi me, nfi ngai dfinh tir xCr thfii Bfi m? hay bdo mfiy nghjch ngcm, nghe chung nfi xili, lilc dfi cdi biic xdc, nfi cfii, mfi cfii bfi me lai dang buc minh ndn chac chfin sc iihfing bao gifi nghe nfi N«n dd sau mfit Ihfii gian sd giai quydt" {PVS ntt vj thfinh nidn, 14 tufii, phufing Kinh Bdc thfinh phfi Bac Ninh) Thfing didp mfi hfiu hdt trd vj thfinh ni4n irong cufie khao sfit nfiy mufin giri gdm qua cfic cfich ling phfi trdn Ifi cfic bfic cha me hay Ifin iipng vfi ldng nghe J kidn/lfim sir ciia trd, cfi kidn ihiic dd hidu tfim \f Ire hon, dfinh thfii gian dd chia se vfi phfin Ifch IhSu dfio cfic vin dd trd mutfn llm hidu, nhu vfiy, cha me cfi Ihd trd thfinh "ngufii ban Ifin" dfing lin cfiy dtfi vfii tre TL: Ndu cha me Ifi nhOng ngutf ban cOa em thi em se Ifim sir duoc nhidu hon, ndi that I6ng hon Em sd thdy Ihofii mfii hon vfi cudc sdng y nghia hon (PVS no vj thfinh nifin, 16 tudi, xd Kim Chfin, Bdc Ninh) TL: Bd me nfin ldng nghe TL; Bd me nfin dfit vfio hofin cdnh cOa minh dd suy nghi TL: Bd me nfin tim hidu thfing tn vd dfic didm vd ludi nfiy TL: ThuOng xuyfin chia sd viji minh TL: Mudn bd m? em hidu dOng hon, aung tido vfi minh nhu minh bd lam, IXS me cdn nghT minh lOn rdi, dd cho minh tu theo y cua minh, khOng nfin cdm dofin qufi TL: Em mong mudn bd me em quan tfim ddn em hon Bd me chttolam vific Dfinh cho em nhidu thOi gian hon TL:Khiconc4ivabdmecdy kidn khfic nhau, bd me nfin phfin tich cho chung em hidu chij khfing nfin dp dfit (TLN nil vi thfinh nifin, xa Kim Chfin, Bac Ninh) Ngay ca vfin dd nhay cam Ifi giao due gidi tinh, cac sfi lieu thfing kS cho tha'y u-e thuong llm ddn cdc dfii tuong khac nhu ban be, tivi, intemet (Tfing ciic Dfin sfi'-KHHGD va cac co quan khac, 2010), ngliia Ifi Tri^rfng Thj Thu Thuy & Trfin Thj Thanh Loan 85 ttfn tai mdt spi day giao tifi'p md nhai giiia cha m? vd cdi Vfi v&n di ndy thl tii vi thdnh nifin vdn cd mong mutfn cha me trd thdnh didm tim hi^u ddu tifin, mutfn cha me cdi md han, idm 1^ hem di chdng cd thtf htft e ngai vd lo sp gidi bdy nhQng ban khoan khd ndi ciia minh H: Kjgfi (hiJt cua b6 m? cung cSp c/io minh vS gidn tinh so via m^ng th! d ddu t6t han? Tdt cd: lit btf me vdn ttft hon TL: Vi btf me sd t§n tinh chi bdo minh hon c6n Irdn mang chl n6i so so thdi H: Cd ndo minh cim th&y kiSn thdc b^n bd treo d6i bi sai khdng? TL: Chdc Id c6 Nhimg md sai hay khflng thl khflng bidt (TLN nd vi thdnh nifin xd Kim Chdn, Bdc Ninh) Dang tifi'c Id vific gido due tinh due siJc khoe sinh san gia dlnh hifin gap khd khdn nhifiu nguyfin nhdn: "Mdi mat md'i giao tifi^p ndy bj han chtf bdi cam gidc xdu htf hay sudfi dat uong giao titfp eiia ca hai phia vific ndi chuyfin vfi tinh due Mat khdc dudng nhu nd cd xu hudng cang phdt tritfn vd ecri md hon bcri su bOng ntf thdng tin lifin quan dtfn tinh due hodc nhiing hinh anh thue itf vfi cac hdu qua c6a hoat ddng tinh due trfin cac phuong lifin thdng tin dai chiing hay cdng dtfng Hon nfla, cho du nhu cdu gido due tinh due, siic khoe sinh san ed tang Ifin d mdt bfl phan btf me, nhung su tang Ifin bi han chtf Wri ytfu ttf kitfn thiic eua ho, cae bac bo me cho rdng ndi chuyfin v^ tinh due se khuytfn khich cac em sdm cd quan hfi tinh due, va su ihitfu kifi^n thiic ciaa btf me vi vdn de la nhiing rao can lam han chfi'miic dd va chi^u sau giao tifi'p" (Trinh Van Tliang, 2004 Ddn lai lu Dang Bi'eh Thuy, 2011) Ket luan Cupc khao sdt lai Bdc Ninh cho thdy phai chang ed biic tudng vd hinh da sinh tir ehi'nh su khdng ddp iing dupc mong mutfn ky vpng v^ nhan thiic, thai dd, hanh vi giiia cha me vdi ire vj nifin xa hdi hifin dai nay? Cha me dat nhitfu hy vpng, mong udc vdo cai, ngupe lai, tre vj nifin cung udc mutfn nhi^u di^u lit phfa cha me minh; nhung giiia hai t>Sn lai cd ft difi'm giao nhau, khdng dfi tim dupc sir chia se, thdng cam va i^dng cam vdi nhau, vi vay, mau thuin va xung ddt la khdng th^ uanh khdi Hdu hfi't tre vi thdnh nifin f thiic dupc nhu thfi' nao Id ngudi eon ngoan, song tre cung mong mud'n dupc khang dinh "cai tdi" ban th^ va dupc cha me ihfira nhan Difiu gay nfin mdu thuin chfnh suy nghi va hanh •^ong cua tre Tre dupc day rdng cai lai cha me Id hu, nhung uong vd van e« NghfAn cUu Ola dlnh v* GIdl QuyJn 22, stf 5, tr 77-87 cdc Ilnh hud'ng giao titfp thudng ngdy xdy ra, tre vdn cdi d^ khang dinh cdi " I f cOa minh, vd dudng nhu, phdn Idn nhQng diia tr^ vj thdnh nifin se vdn phdi chiu Ihua uy quy^n cua cha me bdi quan nifim "cd khdng dn mutfi cd uon cdi cha m? irflm dudng hu"! Nhu vdy, vdn dfi d ddy Id Idm d^ cha me vd eon cdi lim dupc nhi^u didm giao ihoa cOng chia dupe nhifiu gid trj vd muc dfch stfng md vdn tdn trpng "cdi Idi" cOa phfa bfin kia? Tinh uang cdc b^c cha m? "coi thudng" khd ndng nhdn ihiie eiJa tie, eho rdng trS vj thdnh nifin vdn Id lr& eon khdng bifi'l gl u-ong cdc vdn di xa hdi vd cutfc stfng gia dlnh, ddc bifil Id thdi dtf ldng trdnh hodc giai Ihi'ch khdng ddng, khdng ihdu ddo nhQng vdn dfi gido due gidi tfnh tinh due vd siic khde sinh sdn Id mdt sai ldm vdn dang litfp didn Nhifiu cudn sdch cd y nghTa gido due eao dupe xudi ban cdc hdi thao, chuyfin dfi vi chu di ndy dupc ttf ehiic song da dO ddp ting nhu cdu cua cha me vd ue vj thdnh nifin chua hifiu qua eiJa nd nhu thtf ndo pham vi tdc ddng cua nd dtfn ddu so vdi nhQng ngutfn thdng lin khdc ludn sdn sdng chd ddn tre lim hidu 24/24h chi vdi mdt ihao ldc click chudt mdy tfnh? Vdy ihl ma cdc bdc cha me vdn cdn chua xdc dinh dirpc phuong phdp gido due ciia minh nhu thtf ndo Id vCra du ldc dung "'ve dudng" ldm dfi khdng "ve dudng eho hupu chay sai" thl tre vj thdnh nifin khdng chd dpi dupc chiing phai lim cdch dfi' bifi'l, dil tu chiing thdy hoang mang vfi dd lin cdy ciia thdng lin tim dupe vdn edn hon bj chfi Id "khdng bitfl gl"! Thuc ttf hifin khdng chi Id tifi'ng chudng bdo ddng vfi su btf tdc phuong phdp gido due eCia cha me ddl vdi tre vi ihdnh nifin, md cdn Id vdn dfi cdc nhu cdu llm hidu kifi'n thiie vd ky ndng sd'ng cua ue da dupc ddp ling diing vd ddy du tdi dau?B Tdi lifiu Iham khdu Tdng cue Dan sd-KHHGD Tflng cue Thting kc ADB 2010 Dieu ira qudc gia ve Vi ihdnh ni^n vd Thanh nifn \ 'let Nam iJn ihd hai Dff lifiu phdng vdn sfiu vd thao lufln nh6m tre vi thdnh nifin Khao sdt thuc dja ciia Dfi l^i edp Bfl phdng Nghifin cihi vfi Tre em nam 20U-20I2 thuc hifin tai Bie Ninh Dfl Long 2011 Su hinh ihknh "cdi tdi" d ire Viet Nam dudi tac dflng ciia van hda Trong: Tie em van hda gido due Ky yfi'u Hfli thao Viet - Phap vi iSm IJ hoc Odette Lescarret Le Khanh & H.Ricaud ddng chu bien 2001 Nxb.Thfi gidi Hd Nfli Nguyen Linh Khifi'u 2003 Nghien ciiu phu nd gidi vd gia dtnh Nxh Khoa hoc TrUdng THJ Thu Thuy & Trfin Thj Thanh Loan 87 Xa hfli Hd Nfli Phan Thi Mai Hucfng chii bifin 2007 Cdch I'fng phd ciia ire v/ thdnh niin vdi hodn cdnh khd khdn NxU KHXH Hd Nfli Sn TTii van Anh Nguyfin HOu Minh vd Hd Thj Minh Khuong 20U "Quan h? cha me vd cdi chira trudng thdnh" TYong: Bd Vftn hfla Thd thao vd Du lich Vifin Gia dinh vi Gidi UNICEF Vi^t Nam 2011 Cdc md'i quan hi gia dinh Viil Nam (M^l sd kit qud phdn tich sdu Dieu tra Gia dinh Viil Nam 2006 Trinh Van Thdng 2004 Giao tifi'p gida bfl' m? vd vj thdnh nien vfi linh due; Nfli dung, rdo cdn vd nhflng d^ng co giao tifip Nxb Y hpc Hil NOi Trfch lai t£r Dang Etch Thuy 2011 Thuyi't minh D4 idi cdp Bd ndm 2011-2012: Md'i quan hi cha me - cdi v/ ihdnk niin giai doan 2011-2020: Nhung vd'n d^ cdn quan ldm r ... tinh Bflc Ninh Lfng xuT cua tri vj nien giao tiep vdi cha me Thuc trang Giao tifip mdt chidu cha me - cdi Id xu hudng ndi bdt khao sdt thuc te' ndy Vflng Idi cha me da trd thdnh chudn muc ihig ii... viSc cua bO me chau da nhilu, nSu nOi v l Sp luc cOa minh S ngoai nita bi me chau se thSy ap luc nang hon nan chau khOng k l (PVS nam vj nian, 17 ludi, xa Kim Chan, Bac Ninh) TL Chac la internet... b4o hay hS thSng inlenel nha anh chau, nha chSu kinh t^ kam nan chua mua duoc, chl dll nufti anh em chau hgc thoi TL: Chau thudng trao ddi vi» nguOi ban than nhSt Chau khSng dam tam su vai b5 me