Diftfval^ 30 8 2012 • i5« i ''''fyf, fU ''''rtis 59 GIAO DUC GIA eiNH* Vai trb cua gia dinh trong hinh thanh nhan each cho thanh nien hien nay NGUYEN DDMH NAM PHAN XUAN P H U C N G Hpc vien Chfnh In TOM TAT[.]
Diftfval^ 8-2012 ã i5ô -:i:'fyf,:fU-'rtis 59 GIAO DUC GIA e i N H * Vai trb cua gia dinh hinh nhan each cho nien hien NGUYEN DDMH NAM - PHAN XUAN P H U C N G Hpc vien Chfnh In TOM TAT SUMMARY Trong bii viit niy, cac tac gii khang djnh qui trinh hinh In this paper, authors confirm that personality developthinh nhan each cho nien hien chiu sd tae dong eua ment of youth is influenced by various factors, but the most nhiiu yiu to, irong dd vai trd cda gia dmh la trde tiep, quan important and immediate lactor is role of family According Theo cic tic gii, vai trd the hien d cac noi dung ca ban: thff to them, the role includes: Firstly, family is the first school nhit, gia dmh ia mdi trUdng dau iiin trde tiep va thffdng xuyen that educates young people about good values of the nagiao due cho niin vS nhffng gia tri tdt dep cua dan tde, eua tion that have an important role in young people view formqui hffang va gia dinh gdp phin hinh the gidi quan d mdi ing; Secondly, family contributes much in building sample niin; thff hai, gia dmh gdp phin to ldn hinh of people with certain competencies and qualilies; Thirdly, nhdng biiu tffgng vi ngffdi vdi nhdng pham chat va nang the co-operation between family, school and society would Iffc cg thi hoat ddng thffe iiin; thd ba, sff phdi kit hap cua create a huge and comprehensive environment in which gia Hnh vdi nhi trudng vi xa hgi t^o nen mdi trudng rang Idn, personality of young people is built and developed; Fourthly, toin dien Irong tic ddng xay ddng, hinh nhan each d moi family contributes in detecting, preventing and managing niin; Ihd td, gia dinh gdp phan phat hien, ngan ehan va bad aspects, negative thinking and wrong actions of young khic phgc eie bieu hien tidu cffc, nhffng sai lech nhan people thdc vi hinh dgng d mdi nien N han cdch la loan bfl ndng lUc vd pham chat xa hpi • sinh IJ - tam ly cua ca nhan tgo thdnh chinh the dflngvaitrdchCithetp J thde, danh gia, tu khang djnh vd dilu chlnh mpi hogt dflng cua minh Do cung la sp ting hpp cua cdc yeu td sinh hpc, tdm ly, xahpi tao nen ddc trung ridng ve dl truyen, ve sinh IJ than kinh, ve hoan ednh sdng cOa ca nhdn theo cdch rieng cua minh, bieu hl§n bdn s i c vd gid trj cua xa hfli ngUdi Ddi vdi m i l nien, viec hinh thdnh nhdn each vPi tinh cdch Id pham chit vd ndng lpc cue ban than la mot vfin d l cin thilt gdp phan vdo viec hinh ngUdi mdl xa hpi chil nghTa ThPng qua sp liep thu nhDng gid trj phi biln cua vdn hda xa hpi, co sy sang Ipc cua cd nhan gdp phin hinh h$ thdng cdc gia trj lot dgp moi cd nhdn, Trdn cd sd do, moi men cd kha nang nhtn nhdn, ddnh gid, xem xdt va giai quydt cdc moi quan he, cdc v l n d l xd hdi theo dung chuan mpe cua xa hpi, Dong thdi hinh thdnh nfin nhan cdch ciia ban thdn mdi quan h$ vdi epng d i n g xa hpi Nhdn cdch khdng phai Id b^m sinh, nd dupc hinh thdnh vd phdt triln dudi sp tdc dpng ciia nhieu y l u t6 td vipc phai dpa trdn tiln d l sinh hpc vd tu c h i t di truyln hpc mpt cd the sdng cao nhal cua gidi hij-u sinh; Id the gidi quan eCia mPi men va tap trung nha't la tU moi trUdng xa hpi, vai tro eua gia dinh la dac biet quan trpng NhU vay, sU hinh va phat Irien nhan each la sp thdng nhaf cCia cac yeu id sinh hgc, lam ly va xa hpi d l xac lap cai toi cua mfli ea nhan; ia trach nhigm ciia toan Dang, toan dan, toan quan va ca sU nfl Ipc, phan dau eua ban than mPi nien Trong gia dinh ludn dong vai tro trpc tiep va quan trong, Gia dinh, vdi tmh each la mpt "xa hfl! thu nho", mpt moi trudng tac dong IrUc tiep va thudng xuyen ddi vPi moi nien, co vai tro lo IPn viec hinh nhan each d moi nien, Dieu da dupc Dang la khSng djnh Cuang ITnh xay dffng dat nffdc thdi ky qui dp len chu nghia xa hdi: "Gia dinh la te bao cua xa hpi Id cdi noi than yeu nuoi duPng ca dpi ngUPi, la moi trudng quan trpng giao di,ic nep sdng va hinh nhan each", Tuy nhien, hien khong it gia dinh nhgn IhUc chUa diing v l vai tro eiJa minh van de nay, Xem vigc hinh thdnh va phdl trien nhan each la ban thdn ciia moi nguPi con, la trach nhigm cua nhd iruPng, xa hpi vd cdc t l chdc do^n the, thd d hodc khong quan tdm den van d l ndy D$c 60^ biet, dieu kien n l n kinh te thi trUdng hien nay, sp lo toan, bon ba ve cupc song da cuon hdt cac bac phy huynh vdo vong xoay cua kinh te, ma chii yeu la "dong tiln"; sp khd gid ddi sdng vgt chat cua khdng it gia dinh da tao cho nhilu nien cd Idi sdng ich ky, coi thudng, xa lanh mpi ngudi xung quanh Chinh dieu da anh hudng khong nhd den viec hinh nhan each the he nien Viet Nam hien Thuc chat vai tro cCia gia dinh xay dUng va hinh nhan each cho nien, dd la sp truyen thu nhDng gia Irj truyen Ihdng tdt dep cua dan lpc, que hUdng, gia dinh bdi the he di trUde cho the he di sau; la sp giao dye khdng cd Idp hpc, khong chUdng trinh, kd hoach cu the nham hinh thdnh each dng xis, thai dp dung dan cupc sdng; npi dung vd hinh IhDc phong phu, gan lien vdi thpc lien cupc sdng hang ngdy.,, Vdi dac diem do, gia dinh cd vai trd quan trpng htnh nhdn cdch cho nien hien Vai tro the hien cac npi dung cd ban nhU: Gia dinh la moi IrUdng dau lien trpc tiep vd thUPng xuyen giao due cho Ihanh men ve nhDng gia tri to't dep cua dan tflc, cija que hUOng va gia dinh gdp phan hinh thdnh the gidl quan mPi Ihanh men, DP la tinh yeu que hUOng, dal nuPe, yeu cflng ddng, gia dinh, lang xdm, ndi chdn cat rdn, biet quy trpng nhdn each ngUdi Viet Nam; la Iruyen thdng doan ket, yeu IhUdng, giup dd cupc sdng; la tliai dp ton trpng gid tri cua lao dpng, biet tu ddng vDng va vUdn len tren dfli chan cua chi'nh minh; la thai nghiem tuc va yeu cau cao ddi vdi ban than nhan Ihde vd hanh dpng, Ta't ca nhDng gia tri se dupe moi nien, vdi tinh each Id thdnh vien gia dinh, ITnh hpi mot each thudng xuyen, lien luc, Dieu giUp mfli nien co nhan thUc dung ddn ve nhdng gia tri phd bie'n cua van hoa xa hoi, gop phan hinh Ihdnh he thdng cde gia trj lot dep mPi ca nhan lien ldi hinh nhan each d mdi nien, Bdi nhan thdc dung la cd sd cho hdnh dflng dung SO 8-2012 0%?P« cda xa hpi, nhOfng bieu tupng ve ngUdi vdi nhifng phim chat vd ndng Ipc cu t h l ma mdi nien tiep nhan dupc cd t h l chia thdnh hai khuynh hUdng khac Neu nhOng bieu tupng md moi nien tiep nhan dUpc la lich cpc, Id nhDng Idi ndi, hdnh dflng cua cac bdc phy huynh phu hpp vdi cdc c h u i n mpe ciia xa hpi thi se tac dpng theo chieu hUPng tich cpc ddi vdl su hinh thdnh nhan cdch tit dgp cLia nien NgUdc Igi, neu nhdng bieu tupng 1^ tieu cpc, trdi vdi cdc chuan mUc cua xa hpi se tac dpng theo chieu hUdng tieu cUc ddi vdi nidn, ldm cho moi nien co ldi sdng khflng tdt tUdng lai Nhu vay, qud trinh trinh hinh pham chat nhkn each cho nien phai dpa vao nhDng mdu mpe cu the, sdng dflng bieu hien nhDng tU tUdng va gid tn dao ddc, nhdn vdn ciJa dan lpc vd thdi dai Vi the, tdng gia dinh doi hdi cac thdnh vien, trUdc het la cac bac cha mg, cac the he di trudc phai thpc sp Id nhDng gUdng sdng ca IPi nfli vd hanh dpng, NhDng gUdng sang cy t h l va thiet thpc cd anh hudng giao dye ral Idn; no tdc dpng mgnh me de'n ly tn, cam xuc - tinh cam vd y chi cua nien, nd trd thdnh nhu cau ben vd ngUdi nien mong mudn: "bdt chUdc", noi theo Chu tich Ho Chf Minh tPng dgy: lay gUdng ngUPi tdt, viec lot, hang ngdy giao dye lln Id mpt nhDng each tdt nha't de xay dung ngudi mdi, cudc sdng mPi Mat khac, mdi gia dinh phai biet lua chpn, sis dung nhting tam gUdng tieu bieu nhilu ITnh vpc cua ddi sdng, hoat dflng xa hdl de gido dye cho nien: gUdng hpc tap, lao dpng san xua't, gUdng cdc ddanh nhan ljch sCf dan tpc vd the gidi, dac biel, cupc dpi va su nghiep cCia Chu tjch Hd Cht Minh la ta'm gUdng to Idn de tat cd mot nguPi noi theo Con ngudi b i t dau td gia dinh va cha me la ngudi dau tien bien dUa tre IP mpl thuc the sinh vat thdnh thuc the xa hpi Mat khae, vdi chdc ndng gido due, gia dinh dd trd thdnh mfli trUPng gan gui nhat, la cai ndi than yeu nufli dUdng eon nguPi, noi moi ngudi sinh vd hinh nen tang nhan cdch Giao due cua gia dinh vdi nhOng tinh cam he't sdc cu the se Id nen tang giup Ihanh men phdl tnen, hodn thien mpi mat budc vao thUc tiSn xa hfli, la hanh trang giup em hp vQng buPc P tUdng lai, Gia dinh gop phan to IPn hinh nhDng bieu lupng ve eon ngUPi vPi nhDng pham chat va nang Ipc CM the Irong hogt dpng thUc tiln, Cung ehung sdng dudi mpl mdi nha, mfli IPi noi, hdnh dpng, each dng xp eua tdng vien deu cd sp tac dflng den cae thdnh vien khde Ddi vdi the he Ire, td't ca nhDng dieu se tac dong den hp qua Idng kinh thi gidc hay thinh gidc nhu nhOng hinh m l u , nhDng bai hpe dau ddi khong the nao quen, hinh thdnh ndn nhDng b i l u lupng ban dau ve each song thpc te Va chinh nhdng bieu tUpng se chi phdi den each sdng cung nhu nhdn cdch cua mfli men budc vao ddi Sp phdi kel hdp cCia gia dinh vdi nha truPng va xa hpi lao nen mfli trUdng rpng Idn, loan dien tdc dflng xay dpng, hinh nhan each mfli nien, Mdt ca nhan tD chdo dPi den trudng hinh nhan each tfl't hay xau phu thuoc vao su gido due cua ba dja cht hpp Ihanh chinh the thdng nhat Id gia dinh, nhd trUdng vd xa hpi Nhd trudng vd cde td chdc doan the xa hpi co vai trd quan trpng sp phat trien loan dien ciia mdi cong din, dd co sp hinh vd phat trien cua nhan each Tren thUe le, nhilu nfli dung dUdc khdi quat hoa, trdu tUpng hoa, mang tinh khoa hpc vd cdch mang dUdc he thdng chUdng trinh cu the nham gido due, dinh hudng nhan cdch tdt dgp cho nien cae nhd truPng vd td chifc doan the xa hpi (doan nien, ddn vj qudn dpi,,.) ma moi gia dinh khong cP dupc, Dd la he thong nhDng quan dilm, IJ lugn, tri thdc khoa hpc, kien thdc long hpp, la truyen thdng cPa ddn tpc, J thdc dpc lap sdng tgo; la y thdc giac ngp giai cap, linh than sSn sdng chie'n dau va hy sinh vi Td quic, pham chat lot dgp cua ngUPl qudn nhan each mgng, phim chat "Bfl dpi Cy Ho"., Tal ca nhDng npi dung dd se trang bj cho mfli nien v l the gidi quan khoa hpc, phUdng phip ludn bien chung vd nhan sinh quan cpng san Til dP, moi men cd kha ndng dpc lap xem xet, ddnh gia dung ban chat eiia cac van de xay cufle sdng; cd each giai quyet khoa hpc, phu hpp vdi dudng ldi, chu IrUdng ciia Dang, chfnh sdeh, phdp ludt ciia Nha nudc, chuin mpe gia tri ciia xa hpi Tuy nhien, neu xet theo goc dp la gid Iri, chuan mpe Vi vgy, moi gia dinh phai chii dpng lien hg vdi nha 0«»!^! 61 tW^ trudng, cdc td chdc doan the xa hdi d l ndm llnh hinh mpi mdt cua cdi minh, ldm cd sd de danh gid chlnh xde cdi, CO bien phap gido dpc dung hudng Sp k i t hpp dd bSng nhilu hinh thdc khac nhu; gia dinh phdi ihudng xuydn tham gia cdc cupc hpp, sinh hoat cua nha trudng, dodn t h l xa hpi; nen Irao ddi thU ID hpgc den thdm ddn vi md em minh dang dong quan; qua ban be cua em minh hodc thong qua ede phong trao,,, d l cdng trao dot, bin bge thdng nhat cac bidn phdp gido dye dinh hudng nhan cdch tdt dgp cho cdi minh, Gia dinh gdp phan phdt hien, ngan chdn vd khde phyc cdc bilu hien tieu cpc, nhdng sai lech nhan thdc va hdnh dpng d mdi nien, Nhan thdc dung Id ed sd ciia hanh dpng dung, nhung khong phai lal ca nhOng nhdn thdc ddng deu mang lai ket qua hanh dflng dung Ben canh van de nhan thdc lech Igc ve cdc gid tri cua xa hfli, hang ngdy, hang gid sp tac dpng cua cdc yeu id tieu cpc khach quan nhU: mat trdi cita kinh te thj trudng, mfli IrUPng xd hfli khflng Idnh manh, cupc sdng khd khan cOng d l lam cho nien hien nhdn thdc bj Igch lgc hay bj "khde xa" cdc gid trj cua xd hot, hogc hanh dflng sai trdi, ddnh mat nhan each, thgm chi vi pham phdp luat Vi vdy, vi^c cac bdc phy huynh thudng xuyen ndm bat tu ludng, hinh vi ctia em minh de kjp thPi phdt hien, ngan chgn vd dly liii nhDng lieu cue ldi sdng cua em minh l i hit sPc can Ihiet Trong moi gia dinh cac thdnh vien gdn bP vPi bSng hdn nhdn vd huyet thdng, y thdc trdch nhiem ve sp phit triln eua tdng vien Iuon dupc de cao, la mdi trudng trpc liep, thudng xuyen tiing vien the hign ro llnh cdch cCia minh Do do, gia dinh la noi phdt hien kjp thdi cdc hipn tupng tieu cpc, eac le ngn xa hpi ma em minh bj dnh hudng, mde phai TP dd, cde bdc cha mg cd sp djnh hudng, dieu chfnh vd phdt tnen cho em minh theo dung cdc chuan mUc gid In cua xd hpi, gop phan dinh hudng nhdn cdch dung dan cho em minh, Mdl khac, gia dinh cd the k i t hpp vdi nhd trUdng va xa hpi khac phyc nhQng lieu cpc le nan xa hpi gido dye men nhQng cflng ddn lot, gdp phan xay dpng gia dinh vdn hfla, Idng xd vdn hda Nhuvgy, su hinh thdnh va phat trien nhdn cdch cua nidn hien Id ca mpt qua trinh vd can thpc hign ding bp nhilu giai phap Song, vai tro to ldn ciia gia dinh l i khflng the phii nhdn, D i u bie'l rang, higu qua cua qua trinh gido dpc hinh thdnh nhdn cdch cho nien d mfli gia dinh dgt dupc d mde dp nao lufln phai dal mdi quan h§ vdi cde lpc lupng, cac id chdc xa hot, Trong do, gia dinh giO vai trp trpc liep va quan Irpng, Khang dmh vai ird ciia gia dinh gido due nPl chung, gido dye xdy dpng vd hinh thdnh nhan each ndi rieng, Ddng ta dd chf ro: giio dpc ngudi Id chiln lupc cua mpi chiln lupc, nhdm xdy dpng nhdng ngUPi mdi vd t h l h$ Ihiet tha gan bo vdl IJ tudng dpc Igp vd chu nghTa xd hpi, cd dgo ddc sdng, cd nhdn cdch cd J chf kidn cudng xdy dpng va bio v$ T l qudc- Hoan thdnh sp nghigp dd trUdc het phai thpc hl$n cd higu qud vide gido dye ndt chung vd gido dpc III sdng ndi ridng m i l gia dinh VI vdy, m i l gia dinh hiOn cfin phdi xfiy dpng thpc sp Id id I m , Id mdi IrUdng tfit d l cdc thdnh vidn cung phdt tnen La Mong khien mpi ngiTGfi kham phuc (Hay trang bj kiin thffe cho minh, nhat dinh se khiin mgi ngudi ne trgng) Nude Ngo Ihdi Tam Qude eo dai tudng La Mflng rat gioi cam binh danh Iran, lap khflng it chien cdng, dupe Ngd vUOng Ton Quyen rat coi trpng, NhUng La Mong co mot nhupc diem Id khflng Ihich dpc sach Mot lan, Tfln Quyen cd anh la di Iran giOt vung trpng ye'u Trudc di Ton Quyin dan dP: "Ngudi bdy gid ndm gid binh quyen Idn, khong chju dpc sach sd binh phap, la khong dupc dau" La Mong nghe xong, \kc ddu* "Viec quan ban rpn, than khflng co thPi gian dpc sach" Tfln Quyen nghe xong not mflt each chdn thanh- "Ndi nhu vgy khflng dung, Thdi gian eo the thu xdp dUpc Ta phai xem xet viec qudc gia dgi sp, viec ching nhe khPng ban bang ngudi? NhUng la v l n c6 thdi gian ddnh cho vigc nghien cdu sach sif binh phap, Quan Vu trieu Hkn cam qudn Iran Irong tay van cdm sdeh, ngUdi cdn cd li gi md khdng dpc sach?" La Mflng rd'l ngUpng ngung V l sau anh la bdt dfiu chuyen ldm dpc sach Sau ndy La Mong vd Lo Tuc mpl vi danh tudng khde tranh ludn ve quan sp Lo Tuc nggc nhien ndi: "Ta vdn nghT anh vdn que mua it hpc, khdng ngd anh dd IrP Ihdnh nhd dgi hpc van roi" La Mflng cudi ndt: "Thdi gian qua dl, cdn cd cdch nhln khde! Anh ddng nghT tdi nhU trUdc nOa" (KIM BINH sdu tim) ... dac diem do, gia dinh cd vai trd quan trpng htnh nhdn cdch cho nien hien Vai tro the hien cac npi dung cd ban nhU: Gia dinh la moi IrUdng dau lien trpc tiep vd thUPng xuyen giao due cho Ihanh men... hien Thuc chat vai tro cCia gia dinh xay dUng va hinh nhan each cho nien, dd la sp truyen thu nhDng gia Irj truyen Ihdng tdt dep cua dan lpc, que hUdng, gia dinh bdi the he di trUde cho the he di... hign ding bp nhilu giai phap Song, vai tro to ldn ciia gia dinh l i khflng the phii nhdn, D i u bie''l rang, higu qua cua qua trinh gido dpc hinh thdnh nhdn cdch cho nien d mfli gia dinh dgt dupc