66 E l ^yfe^u •- SO 10-2014 D ^ v d H i V GIAO DUG GIA D I N H Giao due dung each de nang cao EQ cho tre ThS CAO HAI AN - CN LE THI HANG Trudng Dai hpc Cdng nghiep Quing Ninh I OAT VAN DE Trong tdm ly hpc ngUdi ta thUdng nhic d i n chl so thdng minh IQ (Intelligence Quotient) d l xem xet khd nang tU duy, ty cQa mdt dQa fre Tuy nhien, edn mdt chl sd Wide - chl so' thdng minh v l edm xQe EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient) ddnh gid v l ldi sdng, v l kha nang hda nhgp gia dinh va cpng ddng cung ddng vai frd to Idn frong trdi nghiem dem d i n sy thdnh edng vd hanh phQe eude sdng cua dQa frI sau EQ mdt phan Id bam sinh nhQng eung giao dye, ren luyen md ed dUpe Chfnh bdi vay, wee eha mp gido dye dQng edch d l ndng ego EQ cCia cdi Id dilu thdt sy can luu tam ILGIAO ogc DUNG CACH DE NANG CAO EQ cClA CON CAI Cdc nhd tdm ly hpc cdng ddnh gia eao vaifrocua cam xQc vd dnh hudng eua nd den ddi sdng eon ngUdi Tgi edc Trung tdm tu v i n tdm iy, giao dye, bdn cgnh nhQng dQa t r i bj rdi nhilu tam IJ, bj thilu nang, gap nhilu khd khan frong hpe tdp-., cdc ehuyen vidn eQng gap khdng it eae bae cha mp co dQa thdng minh, khod mgnh nhung Igi khdng de dang dat thdnh cdng nhu y Phan Idn edc bgc cha me ngdy nay, nhat Id vung dd thi, thudng tgp frung "boi dudng" eho eon hpc that nhilu, hpc cho gidi d l cd nghe nghiep on d\nh sau ma it quan tdm hode khdng bilt cdeh nudi dudng edm xQc cho Mdt dQa trd trudng thdnh khdng the ehl tang ehilu eao, can ndng, md edn phli dUpe phat triln v l mat elm xQe C^f s6 EQ jd ehf s6 ed t h i thay doi vd phu thude vao nhilu ylu to gido dye cQa xa hdi vd dge bidt Id ciJa gia dinh Ndi each khde, bd^mp vdi nd lye vd y thQc eua minh ed the nang cao chl s6 EQ eiia Vide gido dye tinh cam phai dupc thye hidn tU tre edn nho, he than kinh ehUa trudng thdnh, ed nhieu eP hpi tilp nhdn nhCfng edm xuc mdi EQ khdng ddi lap vdi IQ, md myc dfch eQa gido due la phdt triln song song hai ch? sd Cd nhOtig ngudi dupe thien phQ ea hai, nhUng khdng It ngudi Igi thilu ed hai Dgy eon tU lue edn nhd, dQ luc tre ehUa ndi dupe, nhung tre van hodn toan hieu dupe Cha mg khdng the ch? gidng gili cho v l EQ bang ngdn ngQ ma ldi sdng, each cu xii eiia bd mg mdi Id bai hpc thiet Uiye eho Gia dinh ehfnh la mdi trudng dau tidn md fre tim hilu v l cdc j^lrn xQe cua minh Mdi gia dinh cd nhieu kilu khdc de bilu Id cam xue, mdt so vien It ndi v l edc trgng thdi tinh cam eiia minh nhung mdt so ngudi khde Igi rat cdi md chia se edm xuc cua minh , Kieu bilu Id cam xQc cua cdc thdnh vien khdng quan trpng, van de quan trpng la gia dinh phai trd Uianh mdt npi md mpi ngudi cd t h i chia se an todn hay khdng Khi mpi ngudi phai che giau cam xuc hogc khdng kilm sodt dupc cdm xuc, thi mpi ngudi se bi ton thUPng Trd eon rut nhQng bdi hpc quyet djnh d i n ca ddi minh tQ nhQng tlnh hudng gia dinh Trong "ngdi trUdng" dau tien ndy, chUngjihan dupe sy gido dye xQe cam, Id n i n tang de tgo quan diem v l ban thdn, hpc dUpc each doan xem ngudi khdc se phsm Qng nhu t h i ndo vdi cam xOe cua minh, ddng thdi hpc dupe edch phin Qng hpp ly Sy gido dye dUpc thye hi§n qua edch d l i xQ cQa cha mg vdi eon eai: khie nghidt hay thdng edm, dQng dung hay ydu thUdng Ben canh do, chQng edn thu ludm nhilu bdi hpc tQ cdeh bo mp t h i higntinhcam vdl Dau hieu ciia bae cha mp bilt each Idm diem tya cho edi td dupe eon cai ludn ydu thUdng vd mudri tilp xQc, T£f dd, cai hp se de lam chu xuc cam, ty tran tTnh gap chuyen ngodi y mudn va ft bye minh Ve mgt sinh hpc, chOng cd tjr le hormone eCia stress vd ch? so rli nhieu xuc cdm thfc, hQa hpn sQc khde tdt V l mgt xa hdi, ehQng dupe bgn be, thay cd yeu qu^ b6i edch Qng xQ thdng mmh, tinh edm Cha mp can dgy eho sy ty tn, bilt ro nang lyc eiia minh Nhieu bdc cha me thudng ddnh gid kha nang eiia eon qud ml^c khiln eho dQa frd ty eao, hode ddnh gia qud thip se khiln cho dQafrety ti, ho^ nghi vdo khd nang eiia minh Khi eon phgm sai Idm, eha me vdi qudt thdo, la mang thi khdng the dgy kha ndng kiem ehl NhQng xung ndng ban nang phli dUpc kilm soa! va binh tiiih giai quylt v ^ de nlu khdng xung nangtinhcam cda dQa eon se bpc phdt mdt each tieu cyc DQa tre se phCi nhdn, ca lgi Chfnh sy khdng kiem che cQa ba mp d i n d i n sy khdng kilm c h l cua dCte eon Mdi eon vap nga, bj diem kem , cha me khdng nen ch? la ray con, ma biln dd cd hpi d l luydn cho ddng cd phan dau, kien tri vUpt qua Trong edng vide cua minh, gap IQc khd khdn, cha me cung hay cho bilt rang minh dang co gang vUdt qua ChQng ta biet rang elm xQc giQp chQng ta giai quylt hidu qua cac v i n d l cupc song NhQng ngQdi co kha ndng kilm sodt edm xuc se t ^ kha ndng kilm che cdng thing tot hdn vd cd nhQng mdi quan hp tot hdn Hpc cdeh phdn bidt va kiem sodt cam xQe cQa minh khdng bao gid Id qud sdm hay qud mudn Trong phgm vi gia dinh, cha mg can phdi dieu ch?nh cam xQc dgy cai Mdt dQa tre hU hdng, nghjch pha, dng bo lgi qud gidn dQ, ba m? lai qua mim mdng; d i eha m? deu can dilu chfnh cam xuc, d l dQa trd hilu nd cin phai thay doi hanh vi nhu the nao Sy thau cdm is fre Igi Id Idng nhdn di, bilt thUdng cd vat, cay co Phdt huy sy thIu cam cOa edi bang each hUdng ddn fre bilt each giup dd, chia sd vdi nhQng ngudi bat hgnh, kem may man Va culi cung Id tfnh thdn Igc quan Mdt d n j bd, bd me ludn rdn rf, trdch mde cu6c ddi till dQa frd eung de bj nhiem khdng khf ndng n l dd„ III KET LUAN Tdm lgi, nlu IQ danh gid v l ndng lyc tu duy, IJf, m6t dilu Iden can d l dgt v l mat hpc thudt, thi EQ Id ylu td quyet djnh sy thdnh dgt v i loi s6ng cupc ddi NhQng diJa tre dupc bd me quan tam vd nudi dUBng ^ t v l mdt d m xuc ludn thdnh cdng hdn v l mat thiet ldp cdc quan hd xa hpi, m$l nhCmg y l u td rat quan frpng, de dgt d i n trii nghiem hgnh phuc TAI UEU THAM KHAO: [1 ] Till Anh - Minh Chdu, JVuo/con mau/dn vddn'con fhdnfitf, 2005, Nxb Thanh Hda [2] M^ Huong (tuyln sogn), K/v(rnft yeu cdn dbbng, 2005), Nxb Vdnhdath&ngtin [3], PhUdng Nga, Lam Trinh (bi§n sogn), IQ - EQ ndng cao, 2007, NxbLaodOngxahpl [4] Vidt PhUdng, Tdn Ngha (bidn sogn), Nudi dgyfrdtrd ldn thfing minh, tai gi6,2007, Nxb \«n hda thdng tin