DANH GIA CUA CON VE PHUONG PHAP GIAO DUO GIA TRI CUA CHA ME ThS Truong Quang L i m Khoa Tdm ly hoc Trudng Dai hoc Khoa hoc ^ hdi vd Nhdn vdn, Dai hpc Qudc gia HdNdi TOM TAT Kit qud khdo sdt tren 245 Ire em a lira tuoi hpc sinh trung hpc ca sd tren dia bdn npi thdnh vd ngogi ihdnh Hd Npi cho thdy hpc sinh ddnh gid ve cdc phuong phdp gido due gid tri cua cha me chu yeu la ldm guang neu girang vd phdn tich gidng gidi Co sir khde cd y nghia thdng ke giira ddnh gid ciia hpc sinh nam vd hpc sinh nii: cha me dp dung phucmg phdp gido due ldm girang, neu girang vd phdn tich, gidng gidi ddi vdi gai nhieu han so vdi trai Da sd hpc sinh ddnh gid hdi ldng vdi phucmg pffKgido due gid In cua cha mf Tuy nhien, de viec gido due gid tri cho tre em dupe lot hom, hpc sinh mong mudn cha me lang nghe, hieu con, Idm su vdi vd quan Idm, chdm sdc, yeu thuong con, ddnh thdi gian cho Til khoa: Ddnh gid; Phuong phdp gido due gid tri; Gia dinh; Cha me; Hpc sinh trung hpc ca sd Ngdy nhdn bdi: 19/9/2016; Ngdy duyel ddng bdi: 25/9/2016 B i t van de Hien nay, tten thd gidi, cic qudc gia ddu quan tam ddn djnh hudng giao due gii ttj cho trd em Mdi nude deu cd nhitng chidn lupc ve muc tidu, ndi dung vi phuomg phip giio dye gii trj cho thidu nidn nham hinh v i phit ttien nhin cich tdt d the he tte Cd thd ndi, lham gia vio qua ttinh giio due Ire em la c i mdt he thdng tie ddng bao gdm gia dinh, nha trudng v i cic td chure xa hdi Trong dd, phii kd den vai ttd het sire quan trpng ciia gia dinh, bdi nhiing gia ttj nhan cich ma ttd cd dupe dau lien li tir gia dinh v i gia dinh ciing la mdi trudng thuan Ipi dd ttd thuc hanh nhiing gii tri dupe tiep thu lir bdn ngoai xa hdi Thdng qua co che ITnh hdi (hpe hdi, bit chudc, ddng nhit hda), ttd tidp thu cic gii trj lir dng bi, cha me, anh chj em [5], [7] Vide giio due gia tri cho trd em cd djnh hudng tir gia dinh li nhan td quan ttpng de tao nhiing cdng din tdt ttong tuong lai, ddng gdp vio sy phit ttidn cua mdt dit nude hda binh, dn djnh v i mang dim tinh nhin vin TAP CHl TAM Ly H(DC, Sd 11 (212), 11 - 2016 79 Ban \d khii niem giio due gii trj ttong nghidn ciiu chung tdi tan tiianh vdi quan didm ciia tic gia Truomg Thi Khinh Ha (2016) cho ring: "Gido ditc gid tri cho tre em Id hogt dpng cd mifc dich, cd npi dung, cd phuong phdp eda ngu&i dugc gido due nhdm hinh thdnh & tre ede quan diim, niim tin vi edi dung, cdi dep, edi quan trgng, cdn thiit vd ed y nghia ddi voi cuoc sdng eua ede em nhiing diiu kiin Ifch suxd hpi eu thi" [6; tt 66] Khai nidm na^ dupe hidu li qui ttinh tic ddng ddn txxttrdng,dao diic, hanh vi ciia ngudi dd nhan cich dupe phit ttidn diing hudng Trdn tiiyc Id, da cd nhidu nghien ciiu trdn khich tiid Ii cha me nhim tim hidu vd tiiyc tt^g giio due gia trj cho tre em ttong gia dinh Trong pham vi bai bio niy, chiing tdi lap ttung tim hidu dinh gii ve cic phuong phip giio due gii trj ciia cha me dudi gdc nhin ciia ttd Cd thd thiy vide giio dye gii trj cho ttd em gia dinh Ii mpt qui trinh dien Ihudng xuydn, lidn tyc vi liu dii Do vay, cd nhidu phuong phip giio dye ttong gia dinh, tiiy thupe vio sy phit trien tam ly lii'a ludi ciia tte d mdi giai doan Tin thinh vdi quan didm ciia cac tic gii Ngd Cdng Hoan, Nguydn Vin Tinh, Truong Thj Khanh Hi, Vu Hong Tien cho ring, cic phuong phip giio dye gii ttj phii hpp ddi vdi ttd d lira moi hpc sinh trung hpc co sd chii ydu la phdn tich, gidi thich; ldm guong; niu guong; khen thuong; trirng phgt; td chuc cdc hogt dpng trdi nghtpm thue tten [2], [4], [6], [8] Mdi phuong phip ddu ed uu - nhupc didm ridng, tiiy vio didu kien, hoan cinh cu th^ ciia timg gia dinh ma cic bic cha m? ip dyng phuong phip cho phii hpp doi vdi ttd Do dd, ciu hdi nghidn cim Avtgc d$t li: 1/ Theo ddnh gid cua tre, cha m? cdc em thu&ng xuyin dp dung phuong phdp gido dye gid trf ndo?; 2/ Di vipe gido due gid tri cho tre dpi hifu qud, cdc em cd mong mudn gi ddi v&l cha mf eiia minh? Myc dich ciia nghidn ciru nhim dua nhiing kidn nghj phu hpp cho cic b^c phy huynh qui trinh giio dye gii trj cho con, hudng tdi vi§c hinh tiianh vi phit tti^n nhan cich t6t d trd Khich the vi phucmg phip nghien cihi Nghidn cihi dupe khio sit trdn 245 hpe sinh t?i tiudng thudc dja ban Hi N0i: mpt ttudng d ngoai (Tnrdng THCS Quang Minh, huy^n Md Linh), mpt ttudng d npi thinh (Tnrdng THCS Ld Lpi, qu§n Hoin Kidm), gom khdi ldp hpc lir Idp ddn ldp 9, moi khdi chpn trung binh 30 hpc sinh Nghidn ciiu dupe tidn hinh tu tiling 2/2016 - thing 5/2016 trii qua qui ttinh didu tta tiiii vi didu tra chinh thirc Cic phuong phip chinh dupe sir dyng li nghidn cim tii l i ^ didu tta bing bang hdi vi phdng vin siu Thang dinh gii cua hpc sirih vd cic phuong phip giio dye gii ttj cua cha m? dupe tiiict kd gdm 15 m?tih dd vdi dp tin cay Alpha ciia Cronbach = 0,80 Cic mirc dp tri ldi dupe cho didm tir didm - "Khdng bao gi& su dim^" ddn didm - "Rdt thu&ng xuyin su 80 TAPCHiTAMLyHQC.Sd 11 (212), 11 -2016 dung" Didm trung binh cang cao phin anh miirc dp ip dyng cac phuong phip cing thuomg xuydn vi didm cing thip cho lhi\ mire dp ap dung cic phuong phip cang it thudng xuydn Sd lieu khao sit dupe XTT ly bang phan mdmtiidngkd loin hpc SPSS phidn ban 22.0 Ngoii ra, cdn cd cau hdi md ve nhiing mong mudn cua Me ddi vdi cha me dd vide giio due gia trj cho cic em dupe tdt hon Dir lieu thu dupe tii cau hdi md dupe xir ly bing \'iec tinh ty le phan ttam cac y kidn hpc sinh tra ldi vi dupe xdp theo thii ty uu lien: y kien cd ty Id phan trim cang cao cho thay ttd cd mong mudn cing ldn ddi vdi cha me ttong vide giio dye gii trj cho irong gia dinh Ket qua nghien cuu 3.1 Dinh gii cua tre vi cic phucmg phip giio due gii tri cho eon cua cha me De tte cd dupe cic gii tri tdt dep thi cha me can phai cd nhiing cich thiic dpng phii hpp vio tim ly cua cic em Cic phuong phip giio due gii tri cho ttd gia dinh ciing rat linh boat vi da dang Nd didn ihudng xuydn vi gin vdi ddi sdng sinh boat hang ngiy ciia gia dinh, thdng qua giao tidp img xii giiia cac vidn Trdn thyc td, ddi liic, cha me cung khdng y thirc dupe minh dang su dyng phuong phip nio Do %ay tim hidu \e mirc dp ip dung cac phuong phip giio due gii trj cho ciia cic bac phu huynh, chiing ldi di dit ciu hdi cho hpc sinh: "Trong cdc phuong phdp gido due gid tri cho eon du&i ddy, cha me eua em thir&ng su dimg nhiing phuong phdp ndo di gido due con?" Bing 1: Cdc phuong phdp md cha me su dung di gido due gid tri cho tre em Irong gia dinh (theo ddnh gid cua tre) Diem trung binh Do lech chuan Phan tich, giang giai dieu hay le phai cho 3.76 1.02 Giai ihich cho v e y nghia ciia nhimg hanh \i va thai 6Q diing din 3,58 1,07 Tam af, chia se voi \'e nhiing hieu biet va kinh nghidm cua cha m? 3,35 1,14 Cic phmrng phip giio due gia trj cua cha me Phucmg phip phan tich, giai thich TAP CHI TAM Ly HC)C, Sd 11 (212), 11 - 2016 Diem truog binh chung Do lech chuan 336 1,07 81 Phiromg phap lam guong Phirong phap neu guomg Phuomg phap khen thucmg, trirng ph^t Phuong phip to churc ho^t d$ng trii nghidm Lam guong cho noi theo thong qua giao tiep ung xir vdi moi ngudi 3,50 Lam guomg cho bing vi?c tham hoi, eham soc ong ba, cha m?, ngudi than gia dinh 4,07 1,02 Neu nhihig tim guong tir truyen thong gia dinh cho noi theo 3,54 1,15 Neu nhimg tim guomg ngudi tot viec t6t xa hpi de giao due 3,61 1,11 Khen nggri, khich le co nhung hanh vi tot 3,29 1,19 Khen thuomg dat tich tot 3,63 1,1 Trach ming va ph^t co nhimg hanh vi khong tot 3,48 1,09 Sir dvng hinh ph^t than the don roi k)ii c6 thii dp vi hanh vi khong diing 2,46 1,09 Cho tham gia vio cac cong vi$c gia dinh phii hgrp nhu nau in, v | sinh nha eira 4,05 1,02 Cho tham gia vio cic ho^t dpng tinh nguydn, giup dd nhihig ngudi co hoan cinh kho khin 3,31 1,17 Khuyen khich tham gia cic ho^t dpng sinh hoat cpng dong, lang xom 2,94 1,18 Khuyen khich tham gia vio cac ho?it dpng phong trio a truomg, lop 3,44 1,13 1,12 3,78 1,07 3,57 1,13 3^1 1,11 3,43 1,12 Ghi chu: Diem thdp nhdt Id I cao nhat la Diem cdng cao, mde dp dp dung cdng cao Qua bing I cho thiy, hpc sinh danh gii phuomg phip ma cha m? thudng ip dyng rAiiha nhit de giio dye gii tii cho la ldm guang (DTB = 3,78) Cy tiid li cha m? "ldm guang cho bdng vlpc thdm hdi eham sdc dng bd, cha mf, ngu&t thdn brong gia dinh" (DTB = 4,07) vi "ldm guang cho eon thdng qua giao tiip ung xir v&i mpi ngu&i' (DTB = 3,50) Trdn tiiyc Id, cic hinh dpng chim sdc dng bi, cha me, ngudi than cua cic thinh vidn gia dinh khdng ehi tao biu khdng im ip, tin mdng doi vdi Ire, mi qua dd cic em cdn hpc hdi cich img xii, cich quan lim ddn tir cha me cua minh Tir dd, cic em ITnh hpi dupe cic gii tii ve sy quan tam, chim sdc, tinh cim gia dinh vi md r^ng li Idng nhin ydutiiuongddi vdi nhihig ngudi xung quanh [ ], [4] 82 TAP CHl TAM Ly HQC, Sd 11 (212)."ll T20I6 Tidp ddn li hai nhdm phuong phap mi hpc sinh dinh gii cha me ip dyng tuomg duomg li niu guang \kphdn tich, gidi thich (DTB = 3,57 vi 3,56) Niu guong li phuong phip "cha me dua nhiing hinh mau cy thd, tidu bidu, nhiing gii trj xi hdi chuan myc ttong cupc sdng dd cii hpc tap vi lim theo" [4; tt 169] Phuong phip niy giiip tte phit tridn dupe ning lyc phd phan dinh gii dupe nhiing hinh vi cua ngudi khic, rut dupe nhiing ket luan bd ich Trdn co sd dd, ttd bidt hpc tap theo guong tdt va ddng thdi biel trinh nhirng hinh vi xiu Cdn phuong phip phdn tich, gidi thich li phuong phip cha me dimg ldi ndi vdi thii dp an cin dd ttd bidt didu hay Id phii, didu ndn lim hoic khdng ndn lim cupc sdng Phuong phip td chuc hogt dpng trdi nghiem (DTB = 3,43) ciing dupe cha m? su dyng luong ddi thudng xuydn Cd thd ndi, ttong mdi trudng gia dinh, cd rat nhidu boat dpng khae mi cha me cin cho tte tham gia cung dd trii nghidm Qua danh gii ciia hpc sinh chn thiy, ndi dimg mi cha me thudng xuyen ip dyng la "chg cgn tham gia vdo ede edng viie gia dinh phii hgp nhu ndu dn, vi sinh nhd eira " (DTB = 4,05) Khi tham gia vio cic cdng vi?c niy, ttd sd bidt ^ n sd giup dd cdng vi^c cho cha me, ddng thdi se hinh ky ning vi y thiic ttich nhidm tu chim sdc bin thin trudng thinh Phuomg phip khen thu&ng va trirng phgt (DTB = 3,21) dupe hpc sinh dinh gii vdi didm trung binh thip nhit so cic nhdm phuong phip mi cha m? cic em ip dyng Khi dupe hdi vd phucmg phip niy, cd mpt ty 1? Idn hpc sinh dinh gii cha me thudng xuydn (33,9%) vi rit thudng xuydn (25,7%) ip dyng "khen thuong cd thdnh tich tdf vi "cha mf khen nggi, khich li khl eon ed nhiing hdnh vi tdt" cd 26,1% hpc sinh dinh gii thudng xuydn vi 18,4% rit thudng xuydn Bdn canh dd, cha m? vin ip dyng vi?c trdeh mdng vd phgt eon cd nhiing hdnh vi khdng tdt (vdi 34,7% sd hpc sinh dinh gii li thudng xuyen vi 18,4% - ril thudng xuyen) Cd mdt ty Id nhd cha me su dung hinh phgt thdn thi ddn roi cd thdi dp vd hdnh vi khdng dung (vdi 10,6% - thudng xuydn vi 5,7% - rit thudng xuydn) Trdn thyc td, vide cha m? ttich ming, ph^it ho^c sir dung hinh phat ddn roi la dd nhan loi vdi cic hinh vi khdng ddng Tuy nhidn, diy li each thiic khdng phu hpp, di ngupe lai vdi quan diim cua Tim ly hpc giio dye, vi ttong nhidu trudng hpp, cha m? khdng kiim soit dupe cim xiic, hinh vi ciia bin thin ky luit trd Didu niy tao d ttd tam Iy t6n thuong, lir dd hinh tiiinh ndn gii trj tidu eye vd bin thin eua trd [ ], [2], [4] So sdnh ddnh gid cua hgc sinhve phuong phdp gido due gid tri cua cha mf - So sinh theo gidi linh TAPCHlTAMLyHQCSdIl (212), 11-2016 83 Bang 2: Ddnh gid eua hgc sinh ve phirangphdp gido due gid tri cita cha me Cac phiromg phap Lam guomg Neu guong Phan tich, giai thich Khen thuomg, trirng phat To chuc hoat dpng trai nghidm Gidi Diem trung binh D9 lech chuan Nam 3,66 0.91 Nif 3,92 0.85 Nam 3,42 0.9: Nu 3,74 0,84 Nam 3,41 0.81 Nif 3,73 0,83 Nam 3,25 0,90 Nu 3,36 0,89 Nam 3,37 0,84 NCr 3,50 0.79 P 0,026 0,005 0,002 0,443 0,210 Ghi chii: mircy nghTa khip < 0.05 vdp < 0,01 Qua sd li?u d bang cho thiy, khdng cd sy khic biel danh gia ciia trai va eon gii \ c vide cha me ip dung phuong phip khen ihir&ng, trirng phgt vi Id chirc hogt dgng trdi nghiem ddi vdi cac em Tuy nhien, sy khic bidt cd y nghTa thdng ke (so sinh diem trung binh vi kidm djnh T-test giiia hpc sinh nam vi hpc sinh nii) dinh gii vd phuong phap giio dye ma cha me Ihudng ap dung la ldm girgng, niu guong va phdn tich, gidi thick Cu thd, ca phuong phip nay, diem trung binh d nir cao hon so vdi nam Didu dupe ly giai li sy phit trien lim ly cua hpc sinh nir phit tridn hon so vdi hpc sinh nam vd ngdn ngii, nhin thirc cic em nii ua dupe khuyen bio nhe nhang Ben c?nh dd, dudi gdc dp gidi, cd the thay cic em nii cd xu hudng chip nhan quan didm cua ngudi khae hon va dupe dinh gii cao hon nhirng ITnh vyc cin sir dung ngdn ngQ; [6; tr 144] Vi v$y mi cha me ip dung cic phuong phip niy vdi gii thudng xuydn hom so vdi trai - So sinh theo khdi ldp: Nhin chung, cd sy luong ddng giira danh gia ciia hpc sinh tiieo dia bin (npi tiiinh vi ngoai tiiinh) tiieo khoi ldp vi theo ket qui hpc tap vd cic phuong phip giio due gia tri ciia cha me Chi cd phuong phap td chiie ede hogi dpng Irdi nghiim la cd sy khic bidt dinh gii cua hpc sinh theo khoi ldp (so sinh diem ttung binh vi kidm djnh T-test) Cy tiid, d bang 3, didm trung binh ciia hpc sinh khdi Idp cao hon so vdi hpc sinh khoi ldp (DTB = 3,63 va 3,21; p = 0,008), cd 84 TAPCHlTAMLyHQCSdIl (212), 11 -2016 nghTa li cac em khdi Idp dinh gii cha metfiudngsu dyng phuong phip td chiirc boat dpng ttai nghidm nhidu hon so vdi hpc sinh khdi ldp Didu dupe giii tiu'ch bdi vdi hpc sinh khdi ldp 6, cic em bit diu budc vio hidi daytiii^nhin thiic ciia cic em cdn ban chd, vay cic em cin dupe cha me hudng din, chi bio tiidng qua cic boat ddng trai nghidm nhu: tham gia vao cac cdng vide gia dinh (nau in, v? sinh nhi cua), tham gia vio cic boat ddng tinh nguyen cac hoat dpng phong trio, cic boat ddng sinh boat ciia cdng ddng dd hpc hdi va hieu vd hinh vi ung Xli, qua ddtidpthu, ITnh hdi cic gii tri cho ban thin Trong dd, hpc sinh khoi Idp cd nhin thde cao hon vi ttudng hon ndn cha me ip dyng phuong phip it hon so vdi cic phuong phip khic Bing 3: Sg sdnh theg khoi l&p ^ Phiromg p h i p Tieu chi To chirc hoat dpng trai ngh if m Lop 3,63 0,84 Ldp 3,21 0,87 Diem trung binh Do lech chuan P 0,008 Ghi chu: Mucy nghiap < 0,01 3.2 Mong mudn cua tri vi phucmg phip giio due gii tri eda cha mf De qui trinh giio dye dat hidu qui, cha me ciing cin hidu vd nhihig suy nghT, mong mudn cua con, tir dd cd nhirng didu chinh phii hpp Tim hidu mong mudn ciia hpc sinh vd cich giio due ciia cha me ddi vdi cii ttong gia dinh, chiing tdi dit cau hdi: "Di cha mf gido due gid tri cho cdi dugc tdt hon, em CO mong mudn gi & cha me minh?" Vdi cic y kien dupe hpc sinh dua ra, kdt qui dupe thd hidn qua bing Bing 4: Mong mudn eda tre vi cdeh gido due gid tri eua cha mf (ty H %) (n = 210) Stt Cic mong muon ciia Tong soy kien Ty If % Ling nghe, hi^u con, tam sir vai 86 41,0 Quan tam, chSm soc, yeu thuong con, dinh thai gian cho 84 40,0 C6 hieu biet (ve kien thuc, ky ning, phuomg phap) d^ day 36 17,1 Khong d6n roi, trich ming, ph^t 34 16,2 TAPCHlTAMLyHQCSdIl (212) 11 -2016 85 Giii thich, khuyen bao cho hieu :6 12.4 D^ tu lap, tin tudng Lim guong cho Khong cai nhau, xung dot, yeu thuomg 22 10,5 3,8 3.3 Qua bang cho thiy, hpc sinh cd rat nhidu mong mudn khic danh cho cha me Trong dd chidm ty Id cao nhit li cac em mong mudn cha m? ldng nghe, hiiu eon, tdm su v&i (41,0%) \a quan tdm, chdm sdc, yeu thuong con, ddnh th&i gian cho eon (40,0%) Didu niy hoan loin phii hpp vdi lam Iy liia mdi hpc sinh THCS, cic em cd nhidu thay ddi vd sinh ly, vd nhin thirc, vd ciu tnic nhin cich va vj thd xa hdi Bdn canh dd, vdi cim giic minh la ngudi Idn, cic em mong mudn tu quyet djnh nhiimg vide minh lam, mong mudn dupe cha me, thiy cd tdn ttpng va ddi xii binh ding [5; tt 180 - 195] Cic nghien cim dudi gdc dp Tim ly hpc di chi ring, sy quan lim, chim sdc ciia cha me giiip tte cim thiy dupe tin tudng, dupe an toin vi dd Ii didu kidn dd phit trien nhidu mil, lim cho cac cd cim giic minh li ngudi cd gii tri, cd ning dang tin cay chinh vi thd mi miic dp ly lin ciia tte phit ttidn So sinh vdi nghidn cim cua tic gii Truomg Thj Khinh Hi (2016), chiing tdi nhin thiy cd su tuong ddng vdi kdt qui nghidn ciiu ma tic gii di chi ra: Cic nhdm nguydn nhin chinh khidn ttd chua hii ldng vdi phuong phip giao dye ciia cha me dd li; / Phuong phdp gido due cua cha mf qud nghiim khde, a'mg nhdc, dpc dodn Cha mf chira hiiu tdm ly eua eon, chua thau hiiu Cha mf hay dp dpi, chua lang nghe y kiin eda Vi ttong sd cic y kidn mong mudn ciia trd doi vdi cha m?, xdp vj tri dau lidn dd li "Cha me cd gdng hiiu, yeu thuong, ldng nghe, cMa si vdi con" vi "Cha mf nen tin tu&ng, khich li, khong tgo dp luc, khdn so sdnh v&i ngir&i khde" [6; tt 208 - 227] Nhu viy, kel qui nghidn cim ciia chiing ldi mdt lin niia chi ring, dd giio dye gii trj cho hi?u qui, yeu td quan ttpng li cha me can quan tim, ling nghe y kien ciia con, dinh thdi gian cho dd hidu nhimg suy nghT, tim tu, tinh cim ciia con, tir dd cha me cd nhiing phuong phip giio dye phii hpp de ttd hinh thinh nhiing gii trj tdt dep Bdn c^nh dd, cic mong mudn khic ciia hpc sinh ddi vdi cha m? ciia cic em ciing la bd sung cho 2-y kidn nduttdndd li: Cd hiiu biit (vi kiin thire, ky ndng, phuong phdp) di dgy cgn (17,1 %); Khdng ddn roi trdeh mdng, phgt eon (16,2%); Gidi Ihich, khuyen bdo cho hiiu (12,4%); Di tu Igp, tin tu&ng (10,5%) Ldm guang cho (3,8%); Khdng cai nhau, xung dpt, yiu thucmg (3,3%) Dd hidu rd hon didu niy, chiing tdi di tdng hpp mpt sd y kidn ciia hpc sinh dudi diy: 86 TAP CHl TAM Ly HQC, Sd 11 (212), 11 - 2016 - "Em rru>ng mudn cha mf vd eon ed thi tdm su v&i rthiiu han di cha mf cd Ihi hiiu cdi mmh, tii cimg gidi quyit cdc vdn di md eon gap phdi cupc sdng" M i QM9_06 -"Em mong mudn bd me eniyiu thuong vd trdn trgng em Em mong mudn mdi ldn em ldm sai diiu gi, bd me em nin khuyin bdo nhf nhdng" Mi QM9 08 - "Em nghi bd mf cdn ldng nghe eon di hiiu suy nghT cua Cho eon khoang khong gian tu do, tin tu&ng eon di dpc lap, tu chdm sdc bdn thdn vd gia Smh Cha me can gidi thich nhe nhdng cho eon hiiu vdn de" M i LL9_19 - "Cha mf cdn hgn chi cdu gian v&i eon, khong nin sir dung ddn roi vi nhu vdy se tgo khdng gia dinh edng thdng, ldm cgn sg hdi' Ma QM7_16 - "Cha mf can tim hiiu xem eon thich gi, muon gi, can quan tdm, rpng lugng v&i ldi sai eua eon, cdn tim hiiu ro ly tru&c trdeh mdng eon" M i QM7_30 - "Em mong mudn cha me cdn hiiu ro bdn thdn vd hiiu edi Cha mf \ld mpt ngu&i bgn thdn thiit di cho erp tdm su, khdng nin tgg chg eon thdi dp lo sg khl noi chuyin v&l chg me" M i LL8_22 - "Em mong muon chg mf ed biin phdp gido due phit hcrp vai cgn, khdng sir dung din ddn roi vi em cOng da l&n vd ed thi hieu vdn de Cha mf cdn ldm guong cho con, nhf nhdng chi nhirng khuyit diim de em hiiu vdn di Cha mf can yiu thuong vdyiu thucmg eon cdi' M i LL6_30 Nhu viy, vide tri mdi quan he tinh cam gin bd, tin tudng giflra cha me v i li didu hdt sire quan trpng ttong vide giio due gii trj cho ttd, nhit li ddi vdi ttd d liia mdi hpc sinh THCS Bdi day li liia mdi dang ttong qui trinh hinh bin sic, phit ttidn cii tdi c i nhin manh md Kdt qui niy d i cho thiy, nhflmg mong mudn ciia cae em ddi vdi cha me cua minh Do viy, cha me ciing cin ling nghe nhflmg tam tu, nguydn vpng cua ttd, dd hidu v i ban chd nhiing miu thuan vd thd he giira cha me v i cii ttong gia dinh Ket luan Giio dye gii tri cho trd em ttong gia dinh li mdt qua trinh didn thudng xuydn v i lau dii, cimg vdi dd li vide cha me van dyng cic phuong phip linh boat thyc lidn Kdt qui nghidn ciiru vd phuong phip giio due gii trj ciia cha m? dudi dinh gii ciia ttd d Ilia tudi hpc sinh THCS da phin inh phin nio thyc td giio dye gia dinh hidn Cy thd, li cha m? chu ydu sir dung cic phuong phip lam guong, ndu guong vi phin tich giing giii v i phuong phip it dupe sii dyng nhit li su dyng hinh phat than tfid ddn roi Tuy nhidn, de vi?c TAPCHlTAMLyncpCSd 11 (212), 11-2016 87 giio due gii tri dat hidu qui thi cha me can tao mdt mdi trucmg gia dinh am ip, quan lim chim sdc li hdt sdc quan ttpng Cha me cin ling nghe, quan tam, chim sdc, hieu nhu ciu ciia tte dd tii dd cd nhiing phuong phip giio due phii hpp vdi Ilia mdi cic em v i phii hpp vdi tam ly ciia timg em, bdi khdng cd phuong phip nao li tdi uu hoin toin Tai lieu tham khao Do Ngpc Khanh, Nghien ciiu su tu ddnh gid cua hpc sinh trung hpe eo sd d Hd Npi, Luan an tidn sT Tam ly hpc, Vien Khoa hpc xa hpi Viet Nam, 2005 Ngo Cdng Hoan, Gido trinh Gido due gia dinh, NXB Giio due, 2008 Nguyen Cdng Kheinh, Phuong phdp gido due gid trj sdng vd ky ndng sdng, NXB Dai hpc Su pham, 2014 Nguyen Vin Tinh, Ngd Cdng Hoin, Gido irinh Gido due gia dinh, NXB Dai hpc Quoc gia Ha Noi, 2015 Truomg Thj Khinh Hi, Gido Irinh Tdm ly hpc phdt triin, NXB Dai hpe Quoc gia Hi Npi 2013 Truomg Thj Khinh Hi Gido due gid trj cho tri em gia dinh, NXB D^ii hpc Qu6c gia Ha Npi 2016 Trucmg Quang Lam, 5M- hinh thdnh gid tri d tre em, T?p chi Tim ly hpc, So 8/2015, tt 92 - 99 Vu Hong Tidn (Chii bien), Gido Irinh Gido due gia dinh, NXB Giao due, 2007 88 TAPCHlTAMLyHQCSd II (212), 11 -2016 ... vdi phuong phip giao dye ciia cha me dd li; / Phuong phdp gido due cua cha mf qud nghiim khde, a'mg nhdc, dpc dodn Cha mf chira hiiu tdm ly eua eon, chua thau hiiu Cha mf hay dp dpi, chua lang... ttong sd cic y kidn mong mudn ciia trd doi vdi cha m?, xdp vj tri dau lidn dd li "Cha me cd gdng hiiu, yeu thuong, ldng nghe, cMa si vdi con" vi "Cha mf nen tin tu&ng, khich li, khong tgo dp luc,... cho hi?u qui, yeu td quan ttpng li cha me can quan tim, ling nghe y kien ciia con, dinh thdi gian cho dd hidu nhimg suy nghT, tim tu, tinh cim ciia con, tir dd cha me cd nhiing phuong phip giio