Tpp chi Cdng sdn Mua Xuan - Dat nudc '< • !.! U ' : \:,-i ;,; \h '•! f GIA DINH VIET NAM TRONG DIEU KIEN PHAT TRIEN KINH TE THI TRUING LE THAO "Gia dinh la te bao cua xa hoi, la cai noi nudi dudng ca ddi ngudi, la moi trudng quan trong giao due nep song va hinh nhan each" Tie bao doi nay, gia dinh Viet Nam luon Id cho dua vimg chdc, noi ^ •* ' ^ nudi duong, uom mdm vd gdn ket nhihig gid tri vdn hda tinh thdn cua ddn tgc The nhung, trudc nhihig doi thay nhanh chdng cua thdi dgi, nhihig y bien chuyen ciia xd hgi qud trinh cong nghiep hda, hien dgi hda, gia dinh Viet Nam cd cdn giir duoc nhimg net dep truyen thong nhu xua? Gia dinh Viet Nam truyen thong noi bao ton nhihig gia tri van hoa cua dan toe Tii xua den nay, d khap noi tren the gidi, quan niem ve gia dinh hau nhu ludn cd diem tuong ddng Gia dinh dd la noi tap hgp nhiing ngudi cd cung chung quan he huyet thdng gan bd vdi Trong xa hdi Viet Nam truyen thdng, gia dinh la mdt don vj co sd rat quan trgng ddi sdng cua mdi ngudi tu sinh ra, trudng cho den luc qua ddi Khac vdi xa hgi phuong Tay, noi ma gia dinh kieu mau bao gid cung chi nhat tdn tai mdt the he chung sdng vdi nhau, cai den tudi trudng thi viec d rieng, tach khdi cha, me da trd truyen thdng, gia dinh Viet Nam theo "chuan myc" truyin thdng bao gid cung la gia dinh "tam, tu dgi 82 Sri 796 (thiing nam 2009) dong duong" vdi nhieu the he cung tu hpp ben Ddi sdng kinh te theo kieu cung lam, cung hudng, cung sirdi sdng dudi mot mai nha Hinh anh gia dinh tap trung nhieu the h? nhu the cd the ndi la mdt dau an rieng, tao nen ban sac dac trung cho tinh than cd ket cdng ddng va ldi sdng trgng tinh, trgng nghia cua ngudi Viet, cd ngudn gdc tir truyen thdng ndng nghiep trdng Ida nudc Nghe ndng tiong Ida theo thdi vu rat can cd sy doan ket giup dd nen ngudi sdng rat gan bd, gia dinh nao ddng ngudi thi cang tang them siic ^ lao ddng, hd trg lan cdng vifC ddng ang de thu hoach nhanh chdng Cd die ndi gia dinh chinh la noi sinh mgi gia trj tdt dep coi tigng truyen thdng cua ngudi Vi?t: tinh than yeu thuong, gan bd, giup dd lln tiong hoan nan hay nhiing luc kho khan Khdng chi cd sy gan bd mat thiet giSa Mua Xuan - Da't nudc mgi vien nha, gia dinh truyen thdng cua ngudi Viet cung giu mdt mdi quan he than thiet vdi hang xdm lang gieng dl tuong trg lan mdi "tit lira toi den" Thdi^ xua, khoa hgc - ky thuat chua phat trien nen nghe ndng phu thudc nhieu vao thdi tiet Do dd, kinh nghiem cua nhiing ngudi ldn tudi rat dugc xem trgng Dieu cung da gdp phan hinh nhiing quan niem chuan myc tiong xa hgi bay gid - ngudi gia, nhiing bac cao nien bao gid cung dugc ca ne, kinh trgng Trong gia dinh, cung tu dd hinh mdi quan he theo kieu tdn ty, thu bac - ngudi sinh trudc la bac tren, ngudi sinh sau la bac dudi Trong gia dinh ngirdi dung dau la cac cu cao tudi, cd tieng ndi quyet diidi mgi viec nha va dugc chau ne trgng Ngudi ldn tudi quyet dinh mgi viec kinh nghiem va ngudi nhd tudi phai tuan dieo, truyen thdng "cha me dat dau ngdi do" cung xuat phat tir nhiing can tinh gdc re ddi sdng cua gia dinh Viet Nam Cung vdi nhiing mat tich eye the hien cac gia tri tdt dep nhu tinh than tuong than tuong ai, nhiing chuin myc dao due thi gia dinh Vi?t Nam vin tdn tai nhung mat trai cua nd la thilu tinh thin dan chu Mgi viec gia dinh (dac biet la tiong vin de hdn nhan) hau nhu dugc quylt dinh bdi nhung ngudi cd vai vl ldn, nhiing bac tindng thugng vdi dc gia trudng nhieu den muc eye doan Tuy cd nhung diim ban chi, nhung nhin chung gia dinh Viet Nam ndng nghiep cd truyin vin la noi hdi tu nhung gia tii dao due tdt dep La noi ngudi tie tdn kinh, ne tigng ngudi gia, cha me thuang yeu cai, cai hiiu thao vdi cha me Do ngudi Viet Nam truyin thdng It chu trgng den ngudi ca nhan ma ludn dl cao cdng ddng tap the, chu tigng "cai ta" nhilu hon "cai tdi", diam chi gilu di "cai tdi", sin sang hy sinh "cai tdi" vi lgi Ich chung, xu hudng giai quylt cd xung dot la "hda cd ldng" nen nhung mau Tpp chi C d n g sdn thuan gia dinh Viet Nam truyen thdng hau nhu it xay va neu cd chi can cac bac be tren len tieng la giai quyet dugc ngay, tinh trang ly hdn hau nhu d sd thap va nhin chung, mgi vien deu cd y thuc giii gin hanh phuc, bao ve sy yen dn cua gia dinh Gia dinh va nhimg bien doi cua no thoi ky hoi nhap Xa hdi ndng nghiep truyen thdng dan chuyen sang thdi dai cdng nghiep hda, hien dai hda cung vdi qua trinh dd thi hda mdt nhanh chdng Trong gia dinh thdi hien dai, dac biet d cac phd phat trien khdng cdn ldi sdng nha ndng theo thdi vu niia, CO cau gia dinh cung bat dau cd nhiing bien chuyen manh me O thdi diem hien tai, kieu gia dinh "tam, tu dai ddng dudng" hau nhu da trd nen rat hilm hoi Phd bien d cac dd thj bay gid la gia dinh mdt hoac hai the he va hau nhu xu hudng chung cua cac cap vg chdng la sinh rat It Do ddi sdng hien tai phat trien nhanh chdng, mgi ngudi deu bj cudn hut theo cdng viec dl kiem them thu nhap nen viec sinh It cung la dieu de hieu Mdt mat, vira cd thdi gian tap trung cho cdng viec, tim ngudn thu nhap cao; mat khac, lai cd dieu kien kinh tl dl cham lo cho cai tdt hon Trong mdt xa hdi phat trien, ddi sdng cua ngudi dugc cai thien dang ke, thu nhap tang cao da tao diiu kien nang cao chat lugng sdng ngudi, moi vien gia dinh^ vi the ma cung cd nhieu co hdi de phat trien loan dien ban dian ' , Vin dl binh ding gidi cung dugc chu trgng va dl cao, ngudi dan dng - ngirdi cha gia dinh khdng cdn nam ddc quyen kinh te ma ngudi phu nu cdng da bat dau budc xa hdi dl khing dinh vi tri cua ndnb sy ddng gdp vao ngudn thu nhap cua ca gia dinh Nep sdng tdn ty, gia trudng theo kilu "cha me dat dau ngdi dd" cua gia So 796 (thiing nam 2009) 83 Mua Xuan - Dat nudc dinh truyen thdng dan dan bj xda bd Thay vao dd la tinh than dan chu hau bet cac linh vuc Dac biet ddi vdi the he tre cang cd nhieu co hgi, dieu kien de tiep xuc vdi nhiing tien bd cua thdi dai, khoa hgc - ky thuat va cdng nghe, tiep nhan nhiing trao luu, xu hudng van hda mdi cua the gidi Do dd, hg cung bat dau hinh nep suy nghl ddc lap, dan chu ban, ty ndi len y nghl, tinh cam cua minh ve mgi van de ma hg quan tam Va nhiing bac cha me thdi hien dai cung da quen thudc vdi dieu dd, chap nhan cho cai mdt "khoang trdi rieng" Tuy nhien, mdi trudng xa hdi mdi cung bat dau sinh nhiing mat trai cua nd Khi sd vu ly hdn - tai hdn cua gia dinh thdi hien dai gia tang da gay nhiing tac ddng xau den sy hinh va phat trien nhan each d nhung ngirdi tre tudi Chay theo cdng viec, nhieu bac cha me da "bd quen" cai cua minh, chi nghl don gian rang chu captienbac la du chung dang d tudi hinh nhan each, de bj anh hirdng bdi nhiing tac ddng xau cua mdi trudng xung quanh va rat can sy dinh hudng cua gia dinh O khIa canh nay, chuc nang giao due, thda man cac nhu cau tam - sinh ly, tinh cam cua gia dinh hien dai hau nhu hoan toan hi lang quen Theo sd lieu dieu tra cua Uy ban Dan sd, Gia dinh va Tre em, Bd Van hda The thao va Du lich, Tdng cue thdng ke phdi hgp vdi Quy Nhi ddng Lien hiep qudc, sd vu ly hdn ludn cd chieu hirdng tang nhanh theo cac nam Nam 2000 gin 52.000 vu, nam 2001 cd 54.000 vu, den nam 2005 tang len 65.929 vu Cung theo dieu tra nam 2006, ty le ly hdn d thj ludn cao ban d ndng thdn (3,3% so vdi 2,4%) Trong dd, hau bet nhung ngudi tra ldi phdng van deu la ngudi da lap gia dinh va cd cai Trong gia dinh Viet Nam truyen didng, biia com gia dinh la mdt hinh anh diin hinh nhat, the hien tinh cdng ddng, su gan ket giiia cac vien gia dinh Tuy nhien, 84 S(i 796 (thiing niim 2009) Tipp c h i C d n g s d n thdi hien dai, nhiing phan an fastfood tii phuong Tay da bat dau xuat hien d Viet Nam thi nhiing biia com gia dinh cung dan thua vang Hinh anh ca gia dinh nhilu ngudi quay quan quanh mam com nhu truyen thdng da trd nen hiem hoi, bdi le cha me thi lo cdng viec, cai cung ban hgc hanh (hpc chinh quy rdi lai hgc them) Cho nen biia com gia dinh - vdn rat quan trgng ddi vdi ngudi Viet Nam truyen thdng, cang trd nen chieu le, ngudi da quyet dinh "hy sinh" nhung nhu cau trao ddi tam tu, tinh cam cda minh qua biia com, chap nhan nhiing bira an qua loa de "dam dau" vao cdng viec - cung ddng nghia vdi viec cang tien gan hon den ldi sdng thirc dung phuang Tay ma xa rdi nhung gia tri van hda cd truyen cua phuang Ddng Cac the he trudng bdi gia dinh hien dai hau nhu cung khdng cdn vi tri "chu dao" nhu ddi vdi gia dinh truyen thdng Da sd cac cu dng, cu ba deu khdng the sdngtiongmot khdng gian chat hep vdi tdc phat trien nhanh chdng nhu d cac dd thi ldn Con chau cung It cd thdi gian quan tam den dng ba mdt phan cdng viec qua ban rdn da tao nen tam ly tdi phan, cd don ddi vdi nhiing ngudi cao tudi Cho nen giai phap bien la hau nhu ngudi gia chgn each d lai que, bam giu mardi dat que huong chu khdng the sdng cung chau noi phd phudng chat hep, thieu su quan tam, cham sdc lan Mdt dieu quan trgng nua, xa hdi hien dai da hinh nen mdt khodng ngdn cdch vo Kinh giiia cac the he dng ba - cha me - chau Do mdi ngirdi deu ban rdn viec rieng nen hau nhu sdng chung dudi mdt mai nha ma It cd thdi gid trd chuyen vdi It cd nhiing biia com gia dinh dam am, mgi ngirdi chia se vdi nghe nhung vui budn cudc sdng Cho nen mdi cd tinh trang: Ong khdng the hieu tai chau lai cd nhung each cu xii "ky quae", nhiing ldi an mac "quai dan", nhihig ldi ndi "khd hieu" Chau dii Mua Xuan - Dat nudc khdng the tin dugc dng lai "co Id si" din the, khdng "thuc thdi" din thi, khdng the hieu dugc tham chi may tinh la cai gi Cd the ndi, ldi sdng thyc dung, Ich ky, ddi hdi ty ca nhan thai qua thdi hien dai da dan lam niai mdt nhung gia tri dao due tot dep, vdn la nen tang truyin thdng cua gia dinh Viet Nam - khiin nd mit di cai ban sic van hda vdn cd Ma mit di ban sic van hda, nghia la chung ta da tij danh mit chinh ban than minh Tumig lai cua gia dinh Viet Nam Gia dinh la mdt tl bao cua xa hdi, cho du phat trien theoxu hudng nao thi diiu cdt ldi cua gia dinh vin phai tri dugc cac chuc nang co ban cua nd bao gdm chuc nang tri ndi gidng, bao dam kinh tl va to chuc ddi sdng, giao due va thda man cac nhu ciu tam sinh ly, tinh cam Danh gia cao tim quan trgng cua gia dinh sy phat triin cua thdi dai mdi, Dang va Nha nudc ta da dua nhiing chien luge, djnh hudng co ban dung dan muc tieu xay dyng gia dinh mdi thdi hien dai: Mgt la, xay dyng gia dinh mdi d nudc ta hien phai tren co sd ke thua, giii gin va phat huy cac gia tri tdt dep cua gia dinh truyen thdng Viet Nam, ddng thdi tiip thu nhung gia tri tien bd cua thdi dai ve gia dinh Ngirdi gia hudng ndi, la noi luu giu nhung gia tri truyen thdng Ngudi tre hudng ngoai, la noi tiep thu cac gia tri mdi dinh hinh Giua nhiing the he can thudng xuyen cd sy quan tam, cham sdc, thau hieu lan de tiao truyen cho nhiing gia tri tdt dep ma minh dang sd hihi Cd nhu vay mdi thuc hien dugc muc tieu vira giu gin, phat huy nhung gia tri truyen didng, vua tiep thu nhung tien bd cua thdi dai mdi Hai la, xay dung gia dinh mdi tren co sd quan he hdn nhan ty nguyen, tien bd, bao dam quyIn ty ket hdn va ly hdn Tpp chi Cdng s d n Hdn nhan Ur do, ur nguyen tren co sd tinh yeu chan chinh la diiu cdt ldi dl giu gin hanh phuc gia dinh, gdp phan chong lai nhung mat tieu eye ddi sdng hdn nhan nhu nan bao hanh, ngoai tinh Tuy nhien, quan he hdn nhan tu nguyen cung cin cd sy trao ddi, ddng gdp y kien cua cac bac cha me bdi dly la nhung ngudi di trudc, da cd nhilu kinh nghiem Nhung y kiln dd cd the giup ngudi tre tranh roi vao tinh trang quen bill chdng vanh, ket hdn chdng vanh rdi cung chdng vanh ly hdn, de lai nhung vd mit mat ldn ddi sdng tinh thin Quan he hdn nhan ty cung bao dam quyIn ty ly hdn ddi sdng gia dinh cd nhung mau diuln, xung dot khdng the hda giai Ba la, gia dinh mdi a Viet Nam dugc xay dyng tren co sd cac quan he binh ding, thuong yeu, cd trach nhiem ciing chia se, ganh vac cdng viec cua cac vien de thyc hien cac chiic nang co ban cua gia dinh va nghia vu xa hdi ' Binh dang gidi thdi hien dai phai dugc phat huy, khdng cdn kilu chdng di lam, vg d nha ndi trg niia ma ngudi phu nu hoan toan cd ty de deo dudi cdng viec yeu thich cua minh, ngudi chdng cung chia se vdi vg cdng viec "tham lang khdng ten" Sao cho mdi ngudi deu cd trach nhiem vdi gia dinh, yeu thuong lan de cung xay dip mdt gia dinh hanh phuc ben vung Bon la, xay dyng gia dinh mdi d Viet Nam hien gan lien vdi hinh va xac lap, cung cd tung budc cac quan he gin bd vdi cdng ddng, vdi cac thiet che, td chdc ngoai gia dinh de mgi ngudi gia dinh khdng chi cd trach nhiem, yeu thuang diim bgc lan ma cdn phai xay dyng nhiing mdi quan he tdt dep, se chia vdi nhiing ngudi chung quanh va de ciing xay dyng mdt xa hdi tien bd, cdng bang, dan chu va van ndnh • So 796 (thiing nam 2(M»9) 85 ... theo cac nam Nam 2000 gin 52.000 vu, nam 2001 cd 54.000 vu, den nam 2005 tang len 65.929 vu Cung theo dieu tra nam 2006, ty le ly hdn d thj ludn cao ban d ndng thdn (3,3% so vdi 2,4%) Trong dd,... la ngudi da lap gia dinh va cd cai Trong gia dinh Viet Nam truyen didng, biia com gia dinh la mdt hinh anh diin hinh nhat, the hien tinh cdng ddng, su gan ket giiia cac vien gia dinh Tuy nhien,... dc gia trudng nhieu den muc eye doan Tuy cd nhung diim ban chi, nhung nhin chung gia dinh Viet Nam ndng nghiep cd truyin vin la noi hdi tu nhung gia tii dao due tdt dep La noi ngudi tie tdn kinh,