dp l y v i chung khong b i rao can cua n h i i n g suy n g h i yen thong n h i l cha me. H a y de n h i i n g y tiidng den ot each tvf nhien nhat. Trong cuoc dieu t r a cua chung 6i, k h i tre diidc hoi dieu gi se k h i e n chung thvfc hien
h i e m v u d l dang hdn, chiing noi r i n g : "Neu biet triidc lido t h d i gian de hoan t h a n h cong viec t h i chau c6 the
m t r o n g luc r a n h r o i , nhxl la t r o n g luc t i - v i chieu nhiJng
hildng t r i n h chan ngat chang han." M o t be khac t h i noi: Se de dang hdn neu moi ngUdi t i i l a u don sach sau k h i bay r a " . M o t be t r a i t h i tong ket r a n g nhieu thCing diing rac se giiip cong viec cua cau de dang hdn. Bon tre t h i n h loang Cling c6 n h i i n g y tiidng vien vong nhuf c6 may cat - t U chay hay c6 mot ngiidi giiip viec. M o t phan cua
l i n g t r a i nghiem nay giiip bon tre n h a n thiic diidc r a n g khong p h a i liic nao chiing ciing c6 moi thijf chiing muoh. Cac khoan tien tieu vat c6 the diidc sii dung vao thdi diem nay, mot v a i hang muc t r o n g ngan quy dac biet c6 the diidc de cap t 6 i , hoac mot k y nghi diidc len kehoach. M u c tieu cua ban c6 the la day cho tre biet r i n g c6 nhieu each de giai quyet mot van de. Cha me phai n h a n thay dudc n h i i n g giai phap c6 the c6 chiit khac biet. Phan t h u d n g la k h i con tre cam t h a y t r o n g quyet d i n h nao do
M o t phan quan t r o n g cua hoi dong gia d i n h la viec hop tac xay dUng t h d i gian bieu va difa r a n h i e m v u cua cac t h a n h vien. H a y thao l u a n ve t h d i gian l a m viec, cac cuoc hop, phan cong t r o n g em be, nhutng 16p hoc nhac
hay nang k h i e u , cac hvLa. tiec sinh nhat, va t a t ca n h i i n g
boat dong khac cua cac t h a n h vien t r o n g gia d i n h . Theo each nay, moi ngiidi se biet trui6c nhiJng n h i e m v u sap tdi cung n h i i k h o n g p h a i t h o t len k i e u : "O, con can t a m ta banh quy vao liic ba gid chieu." Dufng quen de cap den viec a i se l a m b a n h cho buoi gap mat, hay k h i nao t h i ban se di mua qua sinh nhat, c6 the ca viec ai se t r a tien cho mon qua do nQa.
Neu gia d i n h ban cung t h a m gia vao n h i e u hoat dong, hay dang phai danh vat v6i cac lich t r i n h Ion xon, t h i mot ban l i c h t r i n h chung cho gia d i n h la can thiet. Ban lich t r i n h nay can d u rong de viet ten n h i e m v u cua tCfng ngay va se dildc dan ci ndi ma moi t h a n h vien gia d i n h deu thay diidc - c6 the d bep, canh dien thoai. Cap n h a t lich nay i t n h a t mot t u a n mot Ian va dien t h e m neu can thiet. K ^ i c6 t h o n g bao hop p h u h u y n h hay c6 cac biic a n h cua 16p hoc, hay ghi l a i len lich. Dieu nay c6 nghia
ban CO the bo d i nhiJng td giay thong bao do. K h i c6 giay
mdi dam cii6i, sinh nhat, tiec..., hay dien bang b u t chi vao bang. Neu ban c6 d u khong gian t h i hay de mot bang t i n canh bang l i c h t r i n h de lutu giiJ cac loai giay mdi do cho
t 6 i k h i sii k i e n ay k e t thuc. Ben canh viec s U dung l i c h
gia d i n h t h i n h a Cooper da t h i e t ke r a mot phUdng phap
svi d u n g b i i t m a u de viet nhiJng cam k e t cua ho, v i the cac t h a n h v i e n t r o n g gia d i n h chi can liec qua bang neu c6 muc lien q u a n den m i n h . M a u miic do dUdc d u n g de neu cac hoat dong ciia ca gia d i n h , m a u x a n h l u c c h o bon tre, mau n a u cho me va m a u x a n h l a m cho bo'.
M o t each sap xep khac la de m6i t h a n h vien c6 mot cuon so r i e n g va cap n h a t no t r o n g buoi hop m a t gia d i n h . Viec nay ton k e m hdn mot chut, n h i f n g t r o n g mot gia d i n h v6i n h i i n g ban tre da tiJdng doi 16n, dieu nay se
CO h i e u qua hdn. ,
T h d i khoa bieu gia d i n h se giiip cho ca gia d i n h de dang h i n h d u n g cac hoat dong cua n a m . No giup cac t h a n h vien t r o n g nha gop cac hoat dong 16n l a i de t r a n h
svf chong cheo. N h a Monson s\i d u n g Thdi khoa bieu gia
d i n h de g h i l a i cac boat dong van hoa, t h a m quan bao
tang, vxibn t h i i va cac dip sinh n h a t cua cac t h a n h vien
t r o n g gia d i n h . Cac t h a n g se t r o i qua r a t n h a n h ma ban c h i n g k i p l a m nhijtng gi m i n h muoh. Cac n h i e m v u k h o
hoac can sd dau t\i thdi gian c6 the b i thay doi dot ngot.
Neu ba t h a n h vien t r o n g gia d i n h ban c6 ngay sinh n h a t vao t h a n g Bay t h i dCfng len ke hoach d i d u l i c h vao t h a n g do. N e u t h a n g N a m ban ban ron v6i viec don san va l a m
chiJdng t r i n h c( trUdng t h i k h o n g nen hit dau cac Icip hoc
buoi t o i hay d i n g h i . Co the gia d i n h ban quyet d i n h se
CO mot ngay d i chdi hang thang, hay d i an toi, xem p h i m ,
hoac t h a m bao tang. N e u c6 Thdi khoa bieu gia d i n h ci tru:6c m a t t h i t h a t de dang t h e m vao n h i e u hoat dong khac, bao gom ca nhiJng sd t h i c h cua cac t h a n h vien
trong gia dinh. Lich trinh ca nam (hay nvia nam) c6 the
diidc lap ra vao thang Mot hoac thang Bay, va viec quyet dinh thdi gian cu the de thiic hien mot hoat dong nao do nen vao dau moi thang. ( T H O I K H O A B I E U G I A D I N H - hay tham khao lich trinh m i u trang 60). • THIET LAP C A C Q U Y T A C TRONG GIA DINH
Mot muc dich nuta cua hoi dong gia dinh la de thao luan cac quy tac va chinh sach. Tai mot trong nhiing buoi hop
gia dinh, nha Anderson quyet dinh viet ra cac quy tic
trong gia dinh d\Xdi dang mot tuyen bo ve cac quyen. Ho thiidng diem lai cac quy tac va svfa doi khi can thiet.
Giii mot danh sach cac quy tic ddn gian va mang tinh
tich ciic, nhii "hay de do chdi gon gang" se hieu qua hdn "duCng vijft do chdi bijfa bai." Nhan manh vao hanh vi dvfdc mong ddi. Co qua nhieu quy tac se lam giam tinh hieu qua. Ban c6 the dvfa ra mot loat cac quy tac roi chon ra nhiing cai quan trong nhat, nhiing hay givL cho danh
sach do chi trong khoang 15 quy tic thoi. Nhieu quy tac
thUdng la bat thanh van; chung chinh la mot phan phong each song ciia ban. Nhiing tieu chuan bat thanh van nay doi k h i rat dang chu y v6i nhiing ngiidi ho hang, ban be con den chdi nha ban. V i du, ho c6 the lay keo ra khoi hop
hay sii dung but viet bang ci trong phong khach. Khi bon
tre nha ban da hieu diidc quy tac, chiing se noi v6i ban
chung rang: " 6 nha td thi bon td khong lam vay dau."
Tim kiem va sii dung nhijfng y ttfcing hay tijf nhieu nguon khac nhau. V i du, nhiSng ky thuat trong kinh doanh c6 the dvfdc sii dung ci nha, nhUng diing giong nhut
ngvidi cha trong phim The Sound of Music, ngUdi dieu
hanh ngoi nha cua minh v6i luat le v a cd cau cua mot con tau ma khong them quan tam den ngifdi khac. Mot ciJfa hang bach hoa se khong the hoat dong tot neu thieu
mot vai he thong quy tic nh\X phan cong nhiem vu cho
tijfng nhan vien. Mot so gia dinh cil de moi viec dien ra t\i nhien. Hay biet svf dung cac nguyen tic quan ly va len ke
hoach, nhifng tinh yeu thiidng va sU than mat vkn phu
TUY^N B6 V e QUY^N VA TRACH NHlfM •< " CUA GIAOINH ANDERSON