Psychology applied to modern life adjustment in the 21st century, 11e chapter 4

Chapter Coping Processes The Concept of Coping • Coping refers to “efforts to master, reduce, or tolerate the demands created by stress” • General points for consideration: People cope with stress in many ways It is most adaptive to use a variety of coping strategies Coping strategies vary in their adaptive value Common Coping Patterns 1.Giving up – People may develop learned helplessness – “passive behavior produced by exposure to unavoidable aversive events” – Sometimes, could then be transferred to situations in which the person is not really helpless – This then creates a passive reaction to stressful events, rather than active problem-solving Common Coping Patterns, continued Giving up, continued • Cognitive interpretation of aversive events may determine whether we feel helpless or not – People with a pessimistic explanatory style view aversive events as “out of their control”, feel helpless, and give up – This coping strategy is called behavioral disengagement and is associated with increased distress Common Coping Patterns, continued 2.Acting aggressively – Frustration caused by stressful events may elicit aggression, “behavior intended to hurt someone, either physically or verbally” – People often act out toward others who had nothing to with their frustration – Using a substitute target in this manner was called displacement by Freud Common Coping Patterns, continued Striking out at others, continued • Freud believed aggressive acts could release pent-up emotional tension and called the process catharsis • However, research finds that acting aggressively produces more, not less, anger and aggression Common Coping Patterns, continued 3.Indulging yourself – When stressed by events that are going poorly, some people seek out alternative sources of satisfaction: • Excessive eating, drinking, and smoking; • gambling & drug use; and • Internet addiction – “spending an inordinate amount of time on the Internet and inability to control online use” (see Figure 4.4) Figure 4.4 Measuring addiction to the Internet The questions on Young’s (1998) Internet Addiction Test highlight the traits that make up this syndrome You can check to see whether you exhibit any signs of Internet addiction by responding to the items and computing your score From Young, K.S (1998) Caught in the Net: How to recognize the signs of Internet addiction – and a winning strategy of recovery New York: John Wiley Copyright © 1998 John Wiley & Sons, Inc This material is used by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc Common Coping Patterns, continued 4.Blaming yourself • – People often become highly critical of themselves when stressed – Albert Ellis called this catastrophic thinking, which involves • Attributing failures to personal shortcomings; • Focusing on negative feedback; and • Being overly pessimistic about the future This pattern perpetuates negative emotional reactions to stress Common Coping Patterns, continued 5.Using defensive coping – Defense mechanisms are “largely unconscious reactions that protect a person from unpleasant emotions such as anxiety and guilt” – Defense mechanisms shield us from emotional discomfort caused by stress – However, most involve a degree of selfdeception, a distortion of reality Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Emotional intelligence has four components: Accurately perceiving emotions in yourself and others Knowing how your emotions shape your thinking An understanding of complex or contradictory emotions Regulation of emotions, especially negative ones Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Expressing emotions – Efforts to actively suppress emotions, especially anger, tend to increase stress and physiological arousal – In contrast, “emotional disclosure” is associated with better mood, more positive self-perceptions, and better health Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Managing hostility and forgiving others – When we feel “wronged”, our natural tendency is to seek revenge or hold a grudge – Forgiving others goes counter to these instincts, but is associated with better adjustment and well-being Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Exercising – Regular exercisers have increased emotional control and less emotional distress (Oaten & Cheng, 2006) – To achieve maximum benefits, follow these “rules”: You must want to exercise Engage in aerobic exercise Exercise on a regular basis Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Using meditation and relaxation – Meditation – refers to “a family of mental exercises in which a conscious attempt is made to focus attention in a nonanalytical way” • Benefits include – Decreases in heart rate, respiration rate, oxygen consumption, and carbon dioxide elimination that indicate a state of deep relaxation Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Meditation benefits, continued – Increased activity in the prefrontal cortex, which indicates a focusing of attention – Lower levels of stress hormones – Lower anxiety – Better mood – A sense of control Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Using relaxation procedures – One well-known technique is Benson’s “relaxation response” Four factors are critical (see Figure 4.14): A quiet environment A mental device (or focal point) A passive attitude A comfortable position Figure 4.14 Benson’s relaxation response The relaxation procedure advocated by Herbert Benson is a simple one that should be practiced daily From Benson, H., & Klipper, M.Z (1975, 1988) The relaxation response New York: Morrow Copyright © 1975 by William Morrow & Co Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers Application: Coping with Loss • • Death is a taboo topic in our culture, so Americans cope with death anxiety through avoidance This is facilitated by the death system – “ the collection of rituals and procedures used by a culture to handle death” – Individuals with well-formed philosophies about death have less death anxiety Application: Coping with Loss, continued • The process of dying – According to Kubler-Ross (1969, 1970), people evolve through five stages as they confront their own death: • Stage 1: Denial • Stage 2: Anger • Stage 3: Bargaining • Stage 4: Depression • Stage 5: Acceptance Application: Coping with Loss, continued • Bereavement and grieving – Bereavement – refers “to the painful loss of a loved one through death” – Mourning – refers “to the formal practices of an individual and a community in response to a death” Application: Coping with Loss, continued • The grieving process – Bowlby (1980) describes grieving as a four-stage process: • Stage 1: Numbness • Stage 2: Yearning • Stage 3: Disorganization and Despair • Stage 4: Reorganization Application: Coping with Loss, continued • • Grief after the death of a spouse can take various forms: – Absent grief: low levels of depression before and after the spouse’s death – Chronic grief: high levels of depression before and after the spouse’s death – Common grief: increased depression shortly after the spouse’s death, followed by a decrease Common grief is not, in fact, the most frequent pattern (see Figure 4.15) Figure 4.15 Five reactions to spousal loss Researchers gathered data on 205 older individuals prior to spousal loss and months and 18 months following spousal loss Ninety percent of the subjects exhibited one of the five bereavement patterns shown in the figure Contrary to popular belief, “absent grief” or the “resilient pattern” was the most frequently experienced reaction, while “common grief” occurred relatively infrequently Traditional views of grief hold that the “common grief” reaction is the only healthy response to loss, but numerous studies contradict that view (Adapted from Bonanno et al., 2002) Application: Coping with Loss, continued • Coping with various types of loss – Mental health professionals offer the following advice: • Seek support while you are grieving • Care for your own emotional needs while grieving • Care for your own physical needs while grieving • Be aware and plan for grief triggers [...]... Problem-Focused Coping, continued • Using time more effectively – A common source of stress is feeling there is not enough time to accomplish tasks – Often, this can be improved by using the time we have more effectively Problem-Focused Coping, continued Using time more effectively, continued • The causes of wasted time 1 Inability to set or stick to priorities 2 Inability to say “no” to others’ demands... finding” in a bad situation (searching for something good in a bad experience) Problem-Focused Coping, continued • • Using systematic problem-solving Evidence shows that problem-solving skills can be increased through training (Heppner & Lee, 2002, 2005) and by using these steps: 1 Clarify the problem 2 Generate alternative courses of action 3 Evaluation alternatives and select a course of action 4. .. demands on our time 3 Inability to delegate responsibility 4 Inability to throw things away 5 Inability to accept anything less than perfection Problem-Focused Coping, continued Using time more effectively, continued • The problem of procrastination – About 70-90% of college students put off academic assignments (Knaus, 2000) – Many claim to benefit from this tactic (e.g., saying they “work well under... continued • Managing hostility and forgiving others – When we feel “wronged”, our natural tendency is to seek revenge or hold a grudge – Forgiving others goes counter to these instincts, but is associated with better adjustment and well-being Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Exercising – Regular exercisers have increased emotional control and less emotional distress (Oaten & Cheng, 2006) – To achieve... This example shows the kind of record keeping that should be done Problem-Focused Coping, continued Using time more effectively, continued 4 Protect your prime time – announce to others when you’re blocking off certain times to work so you won’t be interrupted 5 Increase your efficiency Try these tips: – Handle paper once – Tackle one task at a time – Group similar tasks together – Make use of your... Coping, continued • Enhancing emotional intelligence – Emotional intelligence – the ability to perceive and express emotion, use emotions to facilitate thought, understand and reason with emotion, and regulate emotion” Emotion-Focused Coping, continued • Emotional intelligence has four components: 1 Accurately perceiving emotions in yourself and others 2 Knowing how your emotions shape your thinking... Take action while maintaining flexibility Problem-Focused Coping, continued • Seeking help – It is often helpful to seek aid from friends, family, coworkers, and neighbors – Cultural factors in seeking help: • Asians, Asian Americans, and individuals from collectivistic cultures are less likely to seek help from others • This is based in a cultural tendency to avoid “burdening” others with one’s problems... Problem-Focused Coping, continued Using time more effectively, continued • Why do students procrastinate? – Desire to minimize time on a task – Desire to optimize efficiency – Close proximity to reward • Students often get rewarded for it • However, procrastinators also tend to experience more anxiety and health problems Problem-Focused Coping, continued Using time more effectively, continued • Time management... Realistic appraisals of stress and coping resources 4 Learning to recognize and manage disruptive emotional reactions to stress Constructive Coping, continued Constructive coping involves, continued 5.Learning to exert some control over potentially harmful or destructive habitual behaviors – There are three main categories of constructive coping strategies (see Figure 4. 6): 1 Appraisal-focused 2 Problem-focused... certain people.” 2 “I must perform well in all endeavors.” 3 “Other people should always behave competently and be considerate of me.” 4 “Events should always go the way I like.” Appraisal-Focused Coping, continued • Catastrophic thinking can be reduced by – Learning to detect it when it occurs – Learning to dispute irrational assumptions – Defusing stressful situations with humor – Reinterpreting stressful ... eating, drinking, and smoking; • gambling & drug use; and • Internet addiction – “spending an inordinate amount of time on the Internet and inability to control online use” (see Figure 4. 4) Figure... • The causes of wasted time Inability to set or stick to priorities Inability to say “no” to others’ demands on our time Inability to delegate responsibility Inability to throw things away Inability... signs of Internet addiction by responding to the items and computing your score From Young, K.S (1998) Caught in the Net: How to recognize the signs of Internet addiction – and a winning strategy