Nghien ciiu Gia d i n h va G i i So - Sir tirong flong va Idiac biet quan niem ve lion nhan, gia flinii giufa cac tiie he ngiroi Viet Nam hien Tac gia: GS Le Thi Sach Nha xuat ban Khoa hoc Xa hoi phat hanh thang 11 nam 2009, dai 321 trang Trong cude sd'ng thudng ngay, viec nam nu ke't hdn, lap gia dinh didn rat da dang, phong phu vd hinh thQc, phQc tap ve noi dung va ludn bie'n dong Qua trinh mang y nghTa triet hoc cd tinh van hoa ciia eae the' he ngudi Viet Nam NhQng yeu td van hoa da tae dong de'n timg ca nhan, nhieu cdn manh hon cfic didu kien kinh te', ehinh tri, xa hoi Hdn nhan gia dinh Ifi nhung thie't che' he't sue quan trpng ddi vdi cugc sd'ng eua timg ea nhan, ddng ho va ddi vdi toan xa hoi, nhihig chQc nang vd eung to ldn, dai mfi nd dugc giao phd Muc tieu cua cudn sach Ifi tim hieu nhung quan niem nhan thQc vd hdn nhan gia dinh cua cac the' he hien dd giup chung ta cd each nhin mdi ve vfin dd hoan canh ddi mdi cita Viet Nam Ke't qua khao sat da eho tha'y rd su ddng thuan va su khfic biet cua cac the' he ngudi Viet Nam quan niem nhan thQc vd hdn nhan gia dinh hien Sach gdm chuang O chuong 1, tac gia da dua mot sd khai niem eo ban nhu khai niem the'he, khai niem nhan thQc vfi quan niem vd hdn nhan gia dinh Dae diem khfic giua the'he: tre, trung nien va cao tudi Nhung sy kien kinh te ehinh tri van hoa quan da anh hudng de'n cuoc sdng ciia eac the' he Viet Nam hien Cac chuang 11, III va IV trinh bay ke't qua khao sat thye te'vd quan niem nhan thQc cua eae the'he Viet Nam vd hdn nhan gia dinh hien Cuoc khao sat dugc tie'n hanh cudi nam 2007, dau nam 2008 tai hai diem ciia phd Hfi Noi gdm phudng Bui Thi Xuan, quan Hai Ba Trung va xa Phu Minh, huyen Sdc Son, Ha Noi Ngoai cdn diem d tinh Hung Yen la xa Me Sd, huyen Van Giang va thi trfin Van Giang Cuoc khao sat gdm phdng vfin dinh lugng 400 ngudi va cae phuang phap dinh tfnh qua cac euoe phdng vfin sau va thao luan nhdm vd hdn nhan gia dinh Ket qua khao sat tai diem thupc ddng bang sdng Hdng ve quan niem va Le Thanh Binh 91 nhan thQc vd hdn nhan gia dinh eiia eac the he Viet Nam hien tap trung vao ba noi dung chinh: a) Nhung van de dat ke't hdn; b) Quan niem ve td chuc cuoc sd'ng gia dinh sau ke't hdn va c) Quan niem ve hanh phuc gia dinh va giai phap xay dyng hanh phue gia dinh Nhung ndi dung ndi bat eua cud'n sach bao gdm: 1/ Quan niem chung cita ea ba the he, d phd va ndng thdn, ea nam va nu la rfit coi vfin dd hdn nhan va gia dinh Hon nhan la co sd de doi nam nQ xay dung va ciing ed gia dinh, dam bao quyen Igi va trach nhiem ddi ben, dae biet bao ve quyen Igi eiia phu nu va eon cai ho sinh Vi vay, sd ddng ngudi ea ba the he phan ddi viee sdng thu, chung sd'ng khong ket hdn, quan he tinh due ngoai hon nhan 2/ Ve lua chon ban ddi, the he tre cang cd dieu kien thuan Igi de tie'p xue, tim hieu nhau, ho tu tim hieu la chinh, ma khong phai su mdi lai eua gia dinh, cha me hay ho hang gidi thieu Ho quye't dinh viec ke't hdn va cd tranh thii su ddng tinh iing ho eua cha me Nhu vay da co su thay ddi vd quydn luc cua cha me ddi vdi cai xoay quanh viec ke't hon Quydn ty ca nhan ciia the'he tre da dugc khfing dinh viec lya chon ban ddi 3/ Ve tieu chuan ebon vg chon chdng ciia the he tre, sd ddng neu ro la tu each dao dQc la tieu chufin hang dfiu viec lya chon Ho coi ngudi cd nghe nghiep dn dinh, bie't lam an Hp eung eoi hinh dang ciia ngudi ban ddi minh chon Xinh gai, dep giai eung la mot tieu chufin thudng duge nien d phd chu y So vdi the'he trung nien va cao tudi, the'he tre khdng xem van dd mdn dang ho ddi giua hai gia dinh noi ngoai Hp quan niem Ifiy vg Ifiy ehdng chQ khong phai Ifiy gia dinh noi ngoai Mae dii vay, the' he trung nien va cao tudi edn quan tam it nhieu den vfin dd 4/ Ve cac thu tuc cudi xin, ca ba the'he deu mud'n giu lai eae thu tuc truydn tho'ng nhu eham ngd, an hdi, td chQc dam cudi, dang kf ke't hon Ddng thdi eung nhidu the' he cho rfing td chQc cudi xin hien edn rudm ra, tdn kem can gian tien hon de tranh cho ddi vg ehdng tre va cung cha me ho phai tra ng sau 5/ Ve quan he giua hai vg chdng, dae biet d the'he tre cd nhidu tie'n bo so vdi the' he trung nien va cao tudi Ho sdng binh dfing vdi nhau, eimg lam an, nuoi day eon eai, chia se viec nha Tuy nhien ngudi chdng thudng lam chit ho gia dinh, nen ed uu the hon vg viee quye't dinh nhQng cdng viee dai eua gia dinh, eung nhu viec sd huu va su dung tai san ldn ciia gia dinh Day la co sd dd tri sy bfit binh dfing ve gidi, sy ap dat quydn lye ciia ngudi chdng nhung vfin dd quan cung nhu quan he sinh boat thudng gia dinh 6/ Vd mdi quan he giua cha me va eon eai: Mong mudn ldn nhat cua sd ddng eha me la eon eai dugc hoc hanh, ldn len cd nghe nghiep dn dinh va eo gia dinh hanh phue Ndi lo Ifing ldn nhfit eiia ho la sg cai sa vao cac- te nan xa hgi dang didn xa hgi ta hien Do tu tudng nam khinh nQ d nhidu gia dinh vfin mudn sinh dugc eon trai, phai co trai de ndi doi tdng dudng, thd phung td tien Do nhieu gia dinh da pha vo ke hoach vi cd theo dudi viec sinh trai va nao pha thai bie't minh dang mang thai nhi nQ, khie'n vide mfit can bfing ty Ie gidi tfnh sinh cang trfim trgng 92 Nglnien ciiru Gia dinh va Gidi Quyen 20, so 5, tr 90-92 11 Vd md'i quan he giua ba the he dng ba, cha me, chau, vfin dd dat la nen song chung hay nen so'ng rieng Thuc te la phfii cd nhung dieu kien can thie't indi cd euge sdng chung thuan tien va em dep Vi vay xu hudng chung eiia ca the he tre va gia la sdng gfin nliau, khdng nhfit thiet phai chung sd'ng dudi mgt mai nha mgt khdng gian chat hep 8/ Cugc sdng gia dinh khd tranh khdi cd mau thufin, xung dot giua eac vien Viee su dung bao lye vfin tdn tai mgt sd gia dinh gap mau thufin, thudng la ehdng danh vg con, vg mfing md, chi ehie't ehdng De giai quyet xung dot mau thufin, eac the' he thudng nhfin manh viee vg chdng phai nhudng nhin xay xung dot "mgt didu nhin chin dieu lanh", khdng gianh phfin thfing ve minh Ddng thdi mdi ngudi phai tu rut kinh nghiem, ty nhan ldi pham sai Ifim, dae biet la tranh dung bao lye, bao lye tinh than cung nhu bao lyc than thd Day la diem tdn tai dang de dga, pha hoai sy dn dinh ciia gia dinh, dfin de'n ty le ly hdn dang gia tang d nude ta phu nu dQng don ly hdn vugt trgi hon nam gidi 9/ Quan niem ve hanh phuc gia dinh cua cac the' he ddu thd'ng nhat ve ca ban la vg chdng binh dang, sdng chung thuy, thuong yeu nhau, kinh te'dii an du tieu, eon cai ngoan ngoan, hai ben ngi ngoai yen fim Dong thdi theo hg ye'u td quan trgng nhfit la vg chdng tdn trgng Ifin nhau, sd'ng binh dang vdi 10/ Giai phap quan trgng nhfit de xay dung hanh phuc gia dinh theo hg la phai ty phfin dfiu Sy giup dd cua eha me, hg hang, cgng ddng thdn xdm cung nhu chinh quyen dia phuang la thQ hai, chu ye'u dd tao didu kien thuan lgi cho hg ty phfin dfiu vuon len xay dimg gia dinh hanh phue Diem qua nhung nhan thQc cua ca ba the' he d bdn didm khao sat, cud'n sach nhfin manh rfing nhQng chuan muc van hoa truyen thdng td't dep vfin the hien kha rd cugc sdng cua ddng dao ngudi dan Viet Nam, dae biet la viee hg xem trgng eac gia tri ciia hdn nhan gia dinh Ddng thdi gia tri ca nhan cang dugc de eao, ngudi phu nu dugc ehii dgng ban cugc sdng gia dinh day cd sy gfin ke't giua nhung gia tri cua hdn nhan gia dinh truyen thdng vdi nhQng gia tri van hoa hien dai, dae trung eho dinh hudng van hoa mdi cua ldp tre hien TQ ke't qua nghien cQu tren day, da cd mgt sd dd nghi nhu sau: a Tang cudng viec bdi dudng giao due eho the' he tre mdt so kie'n thQc trudc lap gia dinh va kien thuc td chQc cugc sd'ng gia dinh sau ke't hdn b Dfiy manh cugc dfiu tranh cho'ng lai bao lyc gia dinh c Thuc day euge van dgng chdng viec phan biet ddi xu giua trai va eon gai gia dinh va chdng su bfit binh dfing vd gidi quan he ddi xu giua vg va chdng Ddng thdi kie'n nghi vdi Nha nude day manh viec thye hien eac chinh sach phap luat cd lien quan de'n hon nhan va gia dinh Nhin mgt each khai quat, tac phfim "Sy tuang ddng va khae biet vd quan niem hdn nhan gia dinh cua cae the'he ngudi Viet Nam hien nay" da cung cfip cho ngudi dgc nhung kidn thQc bd ich, ddng thdi da phac hoa mgt buc tranh vd thyc te sdng dgng cua sinh boat hdn nhan gia dinh cua cae the' he ngudi , Viet Nam hien • Le Thanh Binh (gidi thieu) ... trgng eac gia tri ciia hdn nhan gia dinh Ddng thdi gia tri ca nhan cang dugc de eao, ngudi phu nu dugc ehii dgng ban cugc sdng gia dinh day cd sy gfin ke't giua nhung gia tri cua hdn nhan gia dinh... nhan gia dinh eiia eac the he Viet Nam hien tap trung vao ba noi dung chinh: a) Nhung van de dat ke't hdn; b) Quan niem ve td chuc cuoc sd'ng gia dinh sau ke't hdn va c) Quan niem ve hanh phuc gia. .. dfing ve gidi, sy ap dat quydn lye ciia ngudi chdng nhung vfin dd quan cung nhu quan he sinh boat thudng gia dinh 6/ Vd mdi quan he giua cha me va eon eai: Mong mudn ldn nhat cua sd ddng eha