Secrets Of Success Teens - Adam Khoo (FULL)

----VietNamese---- Nếu bạn đang trong độ tuổi ô mai, hoặc từng trải qua lứa tuổi này, chắc hẳn bạn sẽ đồng ý rằng đây là giai đoạn chúng ta gặp khá nhiều vấn đề về gia đình, trường học và cuộc sống: nào là các vấn đề với bạn bè, hoạt động ngoại khóa chiếm quá nhiều thời gian, bài tập về nhà chất đống, học thêm như chạy “sô”, lại còn rắc rối với anh chị em trong nhà, bất đồng ý kiến với cha mẹ, v.v… Có một TIN VUI cho bạn đây: Nếu biết áp dụng những phương pháp đúng đắn, bạn sẽ nhanh chóng vượt qua được những thử thách hiện tại, “hô biến” những ngày tháng tuổi teen đầy thử thách thành giai đoạn thành công rực rỡ trong học tập, gia đình và cuộc sống. Bạn có muốn mình: Cân bằng giữa học tập, vui chơi và gia đình một cách hiệu quả? Nằm trong tốp học sinh giỏi nhất trường? Biết cách biến cha mẹ thành đồng minh? Hoà thuận với anh chị em trong gia đình? Tự tạo động lực cho bản thân bất cứ khi nào bạn cảm thấy lười biếng? Kết bạn dễ dàng và được nhiều người trong trường biết đến? Tự tin đối mặt với bất kỳ thử thách nào trong cuộc sống? Đưa ra những quyết định khôn ngoan? Những mong muốn trên nghe có vẻ “khó nhằn” nhưng thật ra lại cực kỳ đơn giản khi bạn có trong tay quyển sách “Bí Quyết Thành Công Dành Cho Tuổi Teen” của hai tác giả nổi tiếng Adam Khoo và Gary Lee. Tiếp nối những phương pháp học tập đã được chứng minh hiệu quả trong “Tôi Tài Giỏi, Bạn Cũng Thế!” - quyển sách lập kỷ lục xuất bản với hơn 200.000 bản in được bán ra và được xem là hiện tượng giáo dục tại Việt Nam năm 2009 – 2011, “Bí Quyết Thành Công Dành Cho Tuổi Teen” tập trung vào những khía cạnh quan trọng khác của giới trẻ như: cách hòa hợp với cha mẹ, kết thân với những người bạn tốt, yêu thương bản thân,… giúp bạn tạo nền tảng vững chắc trong mọi lĩnh vực. Những bí quyết thú vị và dễ áp dụng trong “Bí Quyết Thành Công Dành Cho Tuổi Teen” không những sẽ khiến cho cuộc sống của bạn trở nên dễ dàng hơn, mà còn tạo điều kiện cho bạn gặt hái được những thành quả vượt bậc trên bất cứ con đường nào mà bạn lựa chọn. Hãy làm cho những năm tháng tuổi teen của mình không chỉ là những năm tháng đẹp nhất mà còn là những năm tháng thành công nữa, bạn nhé! *************************** *************************** *************************** ----English---- Being a teen can be tough. Between struggling in school, trying to make friends and fit in, and fights with the parents, it can be one hassle after another. So a book with a title like "Secrets of Successful Teens" may make you wonder if you even want to know. Maybe you've heard it all before (or so you think). And I can certainly relate... Don't you just hate it when you get advice from people who have no idea what you're dealing with? But here's the good news: This is not the case here. Adam Khoo actually knows what you're going through. He's been there himself, complete with getting kicked out of school for miserable performance. But if he was such a screw-up himself, why is he now writing a book on how to be successful as a teen? Because he has managed to turn his life around, and in a big way. From screw-up to millionaire in just a few years! How's that for a role model? And any teen who picks up this book has a chance to follow in his footsteps because he provides a detailed step-by-step guide for how you can do what he has done. In fact, his mission in "Secrets of Successful Teens" is to show you that it can be done -- and to take you by the hand and help you make a big success of yourself as well. That's great, you may think, but you hate reading big boring books, especially if they're telling you what's good for you. Well, believe it or not, this book is far from boring! For starters, it is illustrated. Practically every page features cool cartoons that make the information come to life. So it's a really fun read. Plus it shares some very powerful stories. Adam's story for starters, but many others as well. You'll be blown away by the story of Nick, for example, who was born without arms and legs! What would you do if that had happened to you? Well, Nick was not a happy camper either -- at first. But then he decided to change his mindset -- and he became a big success and a pretty darn happy guy. If Nick can do it, so can you. That's Adam's take on this, and if you take him up on his challenge, he will help you make the same transformation. Another cool feature of the book -- you won't just be reading about other people and endless lists of "secrets." No, it's a workbook as well. It features numerous work sheets that make you take action. You get to explore your mindset, your attitude, your goals, and so much more. So as you work your way through the book, enjoying the cartoons and the stories, you will be transformed, quite literally. I think the best part of the book is that it is the ultimate tool for self-empowerment, and it won't just leave you with the usual inspirational stuff (though there's plenty of that), but it contains all the practical information and the step-by-step guides you could possibly need to transform your own life. All you have to do is follow along and do everything Adam has laid out for you. Here's some of what's included: How to change your inner world -- and transform your outer world How to change your beliefs so they will serve you and help you accomplish whatever you want in life How to build up your self-esteem -- a must-have ingredient if you want to be successful How all that stuff you learn in school will come in handy in life (really!) How you can control your emotions -- another key tool for success How to set the right goals -- and how to make them happen! How to turn your parents into partners -- after all, they can be your most powerful allies! How to score A's in school (TWO meaty chapters!) And that's barely scratching the surface. Each section has many smaller parts where you learn some very powerful skills. You'll discover, for example, how to pick the right kinds of friends, and how to change your emotions by changing your body and posture. And so much more. I could go on and on. I've seen plenty of books that give you the Rah-Rah-Rah cheerleader kind of stuff. I've seen some that help you build up your self esteem. I've seen some motivational books. And I've seen plenty of books on how to study more effectively. What's different about this one is that it includes all of the above -- and a whole lot more. And by the way, Adam's study skills section is the best I've seen anywhere! And I've seen a lot of them. Of course, he made his first fortune by helping kids get better grades in school, so he really knows what he's talking about. The same is true for just about everything else in the book. Is there a downside to the book? Well... in spite of its fun and breezy tone and it's even more fun cartoons on just about every page, this book has a lot of substance. If you want to get the most out of it, it will require some actual WORK! Yikes! There, I said it. This book is meant to be worked with, not just read in an afternoon. But it's the kind of work that will pay so many dividends that you won't believe what happened when you find yourself on the other side of it. And here's the good part -- the work is actually a lot of fun, so you probably won't mind once you've gotten into it. It really won't feel like work. But you do have to do it, and set aside the time for it. So who would benefit from this book? Teens in trouble, and even teens who are doing just fine. This book is so chock full of the kind of information even a lot of adults don't know (powerful neuro-linguistic programming tools for one). that I think I'm going to go back myself and actually work my own way through this book once I've finished writing this review. It's that good! Adam Khoo has long been an expert on helping people create success, with a number of best-selling books to prove it. He has the millions to prove it as well. He lives what he preaches, and in his books, including this one, he generously shares the powerful tools he has discovered and used over the years. So if you're serious about wanting to find success in life, pick up this book and use it. If you take advantage of all the tools Adam provides, you'll be light years ahead of your classmates -- and the competition. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- From the Back Cover Bossy parents? Tough tests and exams? Peer pressure? Boring teachers? Too much homework? Stress? It's not that easy being a teenager nowadays. There are a gazillion things to worry about...from schoolwork to friendship problems. It doesn't help that we hardly have enough time to breathe and parents and teachers are constantly on our backs. Well, this book is packed full of ideas and strategies that can help you make your life a whole lot easier. You are going to learn the secrets of how to win the game of school and life! Here's just some of the stuff you will learn from this book... Discovering the power to take charge of your life How to handle and overcome tough challenges How to get along with parents & win them over How to make friends and be popular Dealing with peer pressure & nasty friends The ways to overcome laziness & motivate yourself Loving yourself and boosting your self-confidence The secret of acing your exams with minimal effort Product Details Paperback: 192 pages Publisher: Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group Language: English

ABOUT THE ILLUSTRATOR Teo Aik Cher is an educator whose words and illustrations have been featured in numerous publications He has illustrated for Adam Khoo’s best-selling books ‘Secrets of Millionaire Investors’ and

‘Nurturing the Winner & Genius in Your Child’; the Speak Good English booklet ‘Speak Well, Be Understood’; illustrated and wrote for the first and second Singapore Kindness Movement books His cartoons are also featured regularly in the Chinese Newspapers Lian He Zao Bao where he has a weekly weekend column.

He is the author and illustrator of two best-selling books ‘Why Procrastinate?’ and ‘Why

Take Action?’ which have been featured in Teenage magazine He was also interviewed

on 938 Live.

Aik Cher is also a Graduate of Conrad’s Wealth Academy Pattern Trader Tutorial.

He can be reached at teo.aikcher@gmail.com

About Gary Lee

Mr Gary Lee is the Regional Head ofTraining Division and Master Trainerfor AKLTG, training flagship programssuch as the “Transformation Teaching”

workshops, the “I Am Gifted, So AreYou!™” and the “Super Kids™” trainingprograms conducted by the company ATrainer since 2000, Gary has trainedparticipants regionally in countriesincluding Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand,Singapore and India

Gary has been involved in training programs and learning methodologiessince the age of 15 Having years of extensive experience with countlessadolescents and children ranging from those with academic difficulties

to those with learning disabilities and childhood traumas, he has helpedcountless teens and children to believe in themselves and overcome allodds in order to be the best they can be His core brain based learningcompetencies include the learning brain from a neuroscience approach,the fragile brain with learning disabilities, and applications of brain basedlearning from a classroom perspective He is also the co-author of thebook “Nurturing the Winner & Genius in your child”, which was on theNational bestseller list for 14 weeks

A licensed Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ (NLP), a brainbased certified trainer and an MBTITM accredited Facilitator, Garycoaches numerous people towards professional and personal excellence

in the adult programs that AKLTG has under its wing Today, he mentorsworking professionals to reignite their motivation and passion to bettertheir communication at work and at home As a certified Master clinicalHypnotherapist and hypnotist under the National Guild of Hypnotists(NGH) and International Association of Counselors and Therapists(IACT), Gary uses the knowledge he has to help organizations resolveconflicts, team build and gain personal mastery through emotionalintelligence, and also to help parents understand their children throughthe many ad-hoc parenting talks that he has conducted for many years

Once a below average student, Gary used the strategies and methodologiesthat he shares today to catapult himself to the top 5% students in his

About Adam Khoo

Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, a best-selling author and a peakperformance trainer A self-made millionaire by the age of 26, heowns and runs several businesses with a combined annual turnover

of over $30 million He is the Executive Chairman of Adam Khoo LearningTechnologies Group Pte Ltd, one of Asia's Largest Public TrainingCompanies and Education Group

Adam is also the best-sellingauthor of nine other booksincluding 'I Am Gifted, So AreYou!', 'How to Multiply YourChild's Intelligence', 'Clueless inStarting a Business' and 'MasterYour Mind, Design Your Destiny',which was the second highestselling book in Singapore in

2004 and has been on the StraitsTimes Life! best-sellers list forthirty-six weeks His others booksinclude 'Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires', 'Secrets of MillionaireInvestors', 'Secrets of Building Multi-Million Dollar Businesses' and'Profit from the Panic'

Adam holds an honors degree in business administration from theNational University of Singapore As an undergraduate, he wasranked among the top one percent of academic achievers and became

a pioneer in the Talent Development Program, which is the university'sgifted program

Over the last 20 years, he has trained over 550,000 students, teachers,professionals, executives and business owners to tap their personalpower and achieve excellence in their various fields of endeavor

His success and achievements are regularly featured in regionalmedia such as the Straits Times, the Business Times, the New Paper,Lianhe Zaobao, Channel News Asia, Channel U, Channel 8, Newsradio

938, The Hindu, The Malaysian Sun, The Star and many more In

2008, 'The Executive Magazine' ranked Adam among the 25 richestSingaporeans under the age of 40

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Acknowledgements By Gary Lee

To my dad and mum Victor and Carina, who have loved me unconditionallyall my growing up years and supported me in good and bad times

To my brother Gerald, who I know has got my back all the time

To Elsa, who has been my inspiration in the many things I do

To Adam for being my friend and bringing me onboard this journey

of empowering lives To Stuart, who has enlightened me in my lifeprofessionally and personally To Patrick, who has helped me become

a better manager by learning from him

To my fellow trainers Amin Morni, Ramesh Muthusamy, Leroy FrankRatnam, Melvin Chew, Danny Tong, Freddy Gomez, Andrea Chan,Pamela Chong, Yuan Yee, Anna, Iunia, Jeff, Hui Min and Siew Peng

To Candice Koh, who has taught me how to become a more

emotionally connected person

Special appreciation to Serene Quek, Katherine, Rossana, Andrew, JD,Natalie, Leonard and Desmond for your invaluable support To Chrisfor doing a great job in publishing this book Also, Special thanks toHuiwen, Ying Xian and Dhiraj from the Superkids/ 'I Am Gifted' team

Special thanks also to Fredrick Tan, Dr Peter Yan, Dr Cheah Yin Meeand Radiah from Adam Khoo Learning Centre To Queenie andWebster from Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group Sdn Bhd(Malaysia) and to Susanna S Hartawan, Alien Tan, Anni Bahar andSintawati Halim from PT Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group(Indonesia) And to all the staff who have contributed to building a greatplace where all of us love to work in…you know who you are!

To the entire staff of Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group, whohave dedicated their time and effort to make this company the number 1public training company in Singapore and a market leader in schools

To my friends, Shahnaz, Petrina, Marcus Tan, Cheryl Th am, Lydia

& Woei Tang, Kalai, Lin Kuek, Jaelle Ang, Kyrie, Kristy, Theresa,Vivian Lim and many more that I have not mentioned, thanks for being

an integral part of my journey and allowing me to appreciate the

Also By Adam Khoo

I Am Gifted, So Are You!

Master Your Mind, Design Your Destiny

Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires

Secrets of Millionaire Investors

Secrets of Building Multi-Million Dollar Businesses

Clueless in Starting a Business

Profit from the Panic

How to Multiply Your Child's Intelligence

Nurturing the Winner & Genius in Your Child

Acknowledgements By Adam Khoo

To my parents Vince, Betty and Joanne, who have given meunconditional love and support throughout the years

To my wife, Sally, who has been my pillar of inspiration and strengthfor the last 17 years To my two daughters Kelly and Samantha,who make me smile everyday To my partner, Patrick Cheo,who has been sharing my vision and continually pushing me to thenext level To my partner Stuart for being the ultimate tagteam partner on this amazing mission of empowering lives

To Gary Lee for years of friendship and support

Special thanks to my best buddy Jovasky Pang

To my friends and colleagues Conrad Lim, Keong Hee,Ramesh Muthusamy, Amin Morni, Melvin Chew, Danny Tong,Leroy Ratnam, Freddy Gomez, Candice Koh, Woei Tang, Yuan Yee,Hui Min, Andrea, Iunia, Benjamin, Pamela and Jeff, who keep bringingour programs to a higher level through their passion and dedication

To the entire staff of Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Groupand Adcom, who have tirelessly spent all their weekends and late nights

working to build the companies at an incredible rate

This book is also dedicated to the hundreds of coaches & Whooshmembers who have volunteered their time to continuously come back andcoach for the Superkids™, ‘I Am Gifted So Are You!™’,

‘Patterns of Excellence™’ and ‘Wealth Academy™’ programs

To all my principals, teachers & lecturers from Ping Yi secondary school,Victoria Junior College and The National University of Singapore,who have played a tremendous part in shaping the person I am today

Especially to Prof Wee Chow Hou, Mrs Lee Phui Mun,Mrs Ng Gek Tiang, Prof Kulwant Singh & Prof May Lwin

To my mentors and trainers who have helped me discover the true powerwithin myself To my first mentor, Ernest Wong, who taught mehow powerful I really was To my success and wealth mentors

Dr Tad James, Dr Richard Bandler, John LaValle, Brad Sugars,Robert G Allen and Anthony Robbins, who have all taught me

the invaluable strategies of wealth and success

Secondary School Gary has since graduated from the National University

of Singapore While studying in NUS, he balanced his time between hisacademic work and rigorous career as a trainer Today, while trainingand managing staff strength of about 30 people, he found the time topursue a financial MBA from Manchester Business School

He was also personally trained under many other gurus in their ownspecialized fields including Adam Khoo, NLP™ Master Trainer & creator

of Timeline Therapy™ Dr Tad James, Co-Creator of NLP Dr RichardBandler and, in the United States, Dr George Bein, NGH certified instructorand well known Hypnotherapist and Eric Jensen, author and pioneer ofmany well-known brain based learning materials and programs

Gary lives by the success paradigms he shares with the people he hastrained Amidst his daily training schedule, he is also currently a director

of a learning company and a co-founder of another company dealing inholistic health In his many entrepreneurial endeavors, Gary has learntand mastered the various challenges in business building and managingpeople which he infuses into his training

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wonders of what life has to offer To my business partners inBodynav Institute and best mates, Max and Wilson, thanks for holding

the fort and building the company with me

This book is also dedicated to the many coaches who have given theirheart and soul to make a Difference in the lives of many teens and children

in the “I Am Gifted, So Are You!™” and the “SuperKids™” programs

To my principals, teachers and lecturers from St Andrew's junior school,Secondary school, Junior college and The National University of Singaporewho taught me the good values and beliefs that have shaped me intothe person I am today To my mentors and trainers who have shared with

me invaluable knowledge about being successful in life, Dr RichardBandler, Dr Tad James, John La Valle, Paul McKenna, George Bein,Ernest Wong, Eric Jensen, Rich Allen and David Freeman

To the many schools and organizations that I have trained, thank youfor your invaluable support and opportunities to forge close partnerships

I look forward to greater bonds in many years to come

Also By Adam Khoo

I Am Gifted, So Are You!

Master Your Mind, Design Your Destiny

Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires

Secrets of Millionaire Investors

Secrets of Building Multi-Million Dollar Businesses

Clueless in Starting a Business

Profit from the Panic

How to Multiply Your Child's Intelligence

Nurturing the Winner & Genius in Your Child

Acknowledgements By Adam Khoo

To my parents Vince, Betty and Joanne, who have given meunconditional love and support throughout the years

To my wife, Sally, who has been my pillar of inspiration and strengthfor the last 17 years To my two daughters Kelly and Samantha,who make me smile everyday To my partner, Patrick Cheo,who has been sharing my vision and continually pushing me to thenext level To my partner Stuart for being the ultimate tagteam partner on this amazing mission of empowering lives

To Gary Lee for years of friendship and support

Special thanks to my best buddy Jovasky Pang

To my friends and colleagues Conrad Lim, Keong Hee,Ramesh Muthusamy, Amin Morni, Melvin Chew, Danny Tong,Leroy Ratnam, Freddy Gomez, Candice Koh, Woei Tang, Yuan Yee,Hui Min, Andrea, Iunia, Benjamin, Pamela and Jeff, who keep bringingour programs to a higher level through their passion and dedication

To the entire staff of Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Groupand Adcom, who have tirelessly spent all their weekends and late nights

working to build the companies at an incredible rate

This book is also dedicated to the hundreds of coaches & Whooshmembers who have volunteered their time to continuously come back andcoach for the Superkids™, ‘I Am Gifted So Are You!™’,

‘Patterns of Excellence™’ and ‘Wealth Academy™’ programs

To all my principals, teachers & lecturers from Ping Yi secondary school,Victoria Junior College and The National University of Singapore,who have played a tremendous part in shaping the person I am today.Especially to Prof Wee Chow Hou, Mrs Lee Phui Mun,Mrs Ng Gek Tiang, Prof Kulwant Singh & Prof May Lwin

To my mentors and trainers who have helped me discover the true powerwithin myself To my first mentor, Ernest Wong, who taught mehow powerful I really was To my success and wealth mentors

Dr Tad James, Dr Richard Bandler, John LaValle, Brad Sugars,Robert G Allen and Anthony Robbins, who have all taught me

the invaluable strategies of wealth and success

Acknowledgements By Gary Lee

To my dad and mum Victor and Carina, who have loved me unconditionally

all my growing up years and supported me in good and bad times

To my brother Gerald, who I know has got my back all the time

To Elsa, who has been my inspiration in the many things I do

To Adam for being my friend and bringing me onboard this journey

of empowering lives To Stuart, who has enlightened me in my life

professionally and personally To Patrick, who has helped me become

a better manager by learning from him

To my fellow trainers Amin Morni, Ramesh Muthusamy, Leroy Frank

Ratnam, Melvin Chew, Danny Tong, Freddy Gomez, Andrea Chan,

Pamela Chong, Yuan Yee, Anna, Iunia, Jeff, Hui Min and Siew Peng

To Candice Koh, who has taught me how to become a more

emotionally connected person

Special appreciation to Serene Quek, Katherine, Rossana, Andrew, JD,

Natalie, Leonard and Desmond for your invaluable support To Chris

for doing a great job in publishing this book Also, Special thanks to

Huiwen, Ying Xian and Dhiraj from the Superkids/ 'I Am Gifted' team

Special thanks also to Fredrick Tan, Dr Peter Yan, Dr Cheah Yin Mee

and Radiah from Adam Khoo Learning Centre To Queenie and

Webster from Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group Sdn Bhd

(Malaysia) and to Susanna S Hartawan, Alien Tan, Anni Bahar and

Sintawati Halim from PT Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group

(Indonesia) And to all the staff who have contributed to building a great

place where all of us love to work in…you know who you are!

To the entire staff of Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group, who

have dedicated their time and effort to make this company the number 1

public training company in Singapore and a market leader in schools

To my friends, Shahnaz, Petrina, Marcus Tan, Cheryl Th am, Lydia

& Woei Tang, Kalai, Lin Kuek, Jaelle Ang, Kyrie, Kristy, Theresa,

Vivian Lim and many more that I have not mentioned, thanks for being

an integral part of my journey and allowing me to appreciate the

wonders of what life has to offer To my business partners inBodynav Institute and best mates, Max and Wilson, thanks for holding

the fort and building the company with me

This book is also dedicated to the many coaches who have given theirheart and soul to make a Difference in the lives of many teens and children

in the “I Am Gifted, So Are You!™” and the “SuperKids™” programs

To my principals, teachers and lecturers from St Andrew's junior school,Secondary school, Junior college and The National University of Singaporewho taught me the good values and beliefs that have shaped me intothe person I am today To my mentors and trainers who have shared with

me invaluable knowledge about being successful in life, Dr RichardBandler, Dr Tad James, John La Valle, Paul McKenna, George Bein,Ernest Wong, Eric Jensen, Rich Allen and David Freeman

To the many schools and organizations that I have trained, thank youfor your invaluable support and opportunities to forge close partnerships

I look forward to greater bonds in many years to come

About Adam KhooAdam Khoo is an entrepreneur, a best-selling author and a peak

performance trainer A self-made millionaire by the age of 26, he

owns and runs several businesses with a combined annual turnover

of over $30 million He is the Executive Chairman of Adam Khoo Learning

Technologies Group Pte Ltd, one of Asia's Largest Public Training

Companies and Education Group

Adam is also the best-selling

author of nine other books

including 'I Am Gifted, So Are

You!', 'How to Multiply Your

Child's Intelligence', 'Clueless in

Starting a Business' and 'Master

Your Mind, Design Your Destiny',

which was the second highest

selling book in Singapore in

2004 and has been on the Straits

Times Life! best-sellers list for

thirty-six weeks His others books

include 'Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires', 'Secrets of Millionaire

Investors', 'Secrets of Building Multi-Million Dollar Businesses' and

'Profit from the Panic'

Adam holds an honors degree in business administration from the

National University of Singapore As an undergraduate, he was

ranked among the top one percent of academic achievers and became

a pioneer in the Talent Development Program, which is the university's

gifted program

Over the last 20 years, he has trained over 550,000 students, teachers,

professionals, executives and business owners to tap their personal

power and achieve excellence in their various fields of endeavor

His success and achievements are regularly featured in regional

media such as the Straits Times, the Business Times, the New Paper,

Lianhe Zaobao, Channel News Asia, Channel U, Channel 8, Newsradio

938, The Hindu, The Malaysian Sun, The Star and many more In

2008, 'The Executive Magazine' ranked Adam among the 25 richest

Singaporeans under the age of 40

About Gary Lee

Mr Gary Lee is the Regional Head ofTraining Division and Master Trainerfor AKLTG, training flagship programssuch as the “Transformation Teaching”workshops, the “I Am Gifted, So AreYou!™” and the “Super Kids™” trainingprograms conducted by the company ATrainer since 2000, Gary has trainedparticipants regionally in countriesincluding Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand,Singapore and India

Gary has been involved in training programs and learning methodologiessince the age of 15 Having years of extensive experience with countlessadolescents and children ranging from those with academic difficulties

to those with learning disabilities and childhood traumas, he has helpedcountless teens and children to believe in themselves and overcome allodds in order to be the best they can be His core brain based learningcompetencies include the learning brain from a neuroscience approach,the fragile brain with learning disabilities, and applications of brain basedlearning from a classroom perspective He is also the co-author of thebook “Nurturing the Winner & Genius in your child”, which was on theNational bestseller list for 14 weeks

A licensed Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ (NLP), a brainbased certified trainer and an MBTITM accredited Facilitator, Garycoaches numerous people towards professional and personal excellence

in the adult programs that AKLTG has under its wing Today, he mentorsworking professionals to reignite their motivation and passion to bettertheir communication at work and at home As a certified Master clinicalHypnotherapist and hypnotist under the National Guild of Hypnotists(NGH) and International Association of Counselors and Therapists(IACT), Gary uses the knowledge he has to help organizations resolveconflicts, team build and gain personal mastery through emotionalintelligence, and also to help parents understand their children throughthe many ad-hoc parenting talks that he has conducted for many years.Once a below average student, Gary used the strategies and methodologiesthat he shares today to catapult himself to the top 5% students in his

Secondary School Gary has since graduated from the National University

of Singapore While studying in NUS, he balanced his time between his

academic work and rigorous career as a trainer Today, while training

and managing staff strength of about 30 people, he found the time to

pursue a financial MBA from Manchester Business School

He was also personally trained under many other gurus in their own

specialized fields including Adam Khoo, NLP™ Master Trainer & creator

of Timeline Therapy™ Dr Tad James, Co-Creator of NLP Dr Richard

Bandler and, in the United States, Dr George Bein, NGH certified instructor

and well known Hypnotherapist and Eric Jensen, author and pioneer of

many well-known brain based learning materials and programs

Gary lives by the success paradigms he shares with the people he has

trained Amidst his daily training schedule, he is also currently a director

of a learning company and a co-founder of another company dealing in

holistic health In his many entrepreneurial endeavors, Gary has learnt

and mastered the various challenges in business building and managing

people which he infuses into his training

Table Of Contents

About Adam Khoo & Gary Lee iv

Chapter ONE : Unleash the Winner Within 1

Chapter TWO : The Awesome Power You Have 23

Chapter THREE : If You Believe You Can, You Can! 39

Chapter FIVE : School, Is It Really Important? 75

Chapter SIX : Mastering Your Mind for Success 89

Chapter SEVEN : Think Big And Make It Happen! 109

Chapter EIGHT : Friends Make You or They Break You 141

Chapter NINE : Making Parents Our Partners 163

Chapter TEN : The Big Secret to Scoring ‘A’s [Part I] 183

Chapter ELEVEN : The Big Secret to Scoring ‘A’s [Part II] 207

THE WINNER WITHINCHAPTER ONE

Unleashing the

Winner Within

Hi! My name is Adam and I’m the guy who wrote this book

I don’t know about you, but when I was younger, I never liked to read

anything but comics I found books boring and preferred to entertain

myself gaming or watching TV

So, if you are like me, I can understand that reading this book may seem

like a big stretch This is why we have packed this book with lots of

pictures, snazzy designs and fascinating stories to make our learning

journey as exciting as possible

I don’t know if your parents bought this book for you to read, or you

picked it up yourself Whatever the case, I promise that I will be sharing

with you answers to questions and problems about life and school that

you have been searching for

I know because I was one bored teenager (and near bottom of the class)

not too long ago So here in this book I will show you how to deal with

all the problems you face as a teen

The ideas and strategies I will reveal will not only make your life a whole

lot easier (yup! being a student can be really stressful and tough), but also

show you how to make your teenage years exciting and successful

Playing the Teenage Game Can Be Tough, So Here are the ‘Cheat’ CodesFeeling overwhelmed by so manyproblems everyday? Demandingparents, peer pressure, extra curricularactivities, homework, depression Ormaybe tough exams, boring teachers,class projects, tuition teachers, irritatingbrothers and sisters, nagging mothers

the list goes on

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ONE

To say that teenage life can be overwhelming and stressful is anunderstatement! Playing the teenage game can sometimes be tougherthan playing the latest PS or Xbox RPGs! In real life, there appear to

be a whole lot more ‘enemies’ we need to tackle simultaneously, manythings we cannot seem to control, and levels which are a whole lot moredifficult to get pass

At the same time, in real-life we can’t hit

the restart button If we make big

mistakes & mess up, we can’t start all over

again from square one We have to face

painful consequences for wrong decisions

This is why it is really important to

play the game of Real-LIFE armed

with the most effective tools!

Isn’t it great when you can get

your hands on ‘game strategy’ books

and cheat codes, where they tell you

how to easily win certain games? You know exactly where the weaponsare, which shortcuts to take, where the enemies are coming from, how toperform secret moves, and how to give yourself extra ‘power ups’!The good news is that there are winning strategies and ‘cheat codes’

in the game of real life as well! Read along and I will show you the secretsand strategies you can use to stop losing and start winning

I have discovered that confident, happy and successful teens are NOTnecessarily born with ‘superior talent’, ‘extraordinary intelligence’,

‘motivated genes’, or ‘super good looks’ (although it may seem so) It’sjust that they have discovered the right strategies of how to win at thegame of life

Imagine yourself being able to

✌ Balance your work, play and family effectively

✌ Achieve top grades in school

✌ Get along with your parents(even though they may still drive you crazy at times)

✌ Motivate yourself whenever you feel lazy

✌ Make friends easily and become popular in school

✌ Confidently deal with any challenges

✌ Make smarter decisions

All these things may seem a million miles away if you are not doing too

well right now However, let me tell you that no matter how lousy your

results have been in the past, they can improve really fast when YOU

want to make that change, and when you have the ‘cheat codes’ to make

the best decisions and take the right actions Plus, if you are already doing

‘okay,’ think about how much better you can do with the right tools

So What Makes Me the Expert?

Now, you may be thinking to yourself that

all this sounds really good, but what makes

me such an expert to tell you how to make

your life more successful?

Well, what makes me a super expert

at turning failure into success is

that I used to be a super screw up!

That’s right! I hate to admit it, but I

used to be a total loser, with a capital ‘L’

Every stupid decision and mistake that

could have possibly been made by a teenager was made by me

Yet, despite all my failures and mistakes, and my starting out way behind

everybody else, I managed to finally turn my life around 180 degrees

and achieve success in every area of my life, in school and beyond

My Story…Starting Way Behind

I know that there are some really lucky people who are born ‘gifted’,

‘talented’, ‘full of confidence’ and with superb physiques

I was NOT one of them

In my younger days (back in Primary School), I was a blur, pimple-faced,skinny boy who was not very good at learning anything at all I found itdifficult to understand anything I had to read, or anything the teachertaught the first time round.

I kept forgetting what I had learned, made careless mistakes and wasespecially bad at Math and Chinese language

As a result, I did not like school or studying I found it all too boring anddifficult I preferred to read comics, watch TV and play computergames At school, I got bored during lessons, so I would entertainmyself by picking fights and annoying my teachers Sure enough, myaverage grades were ‘D’s and ‘F’s, and each year I landed in theworst class in St Stephens Primary School Things got so bad that I wasexpelled for fighting in class when I was in Primary three (age 8).Fortunately, another school (Ngee Ann Primary) took me in the next year.However, I still did not learn my lesson and continued fighting and foolingaround When I sat for my National Exams (Primary School LeavingExams) at age 12, I did so badly that I was rejected from all six secondaryschools that my parents had chosen

In the end, I was posted to a new, neighborhood school called

‘Ping Yi.’ Although I had great teachers there, I chose to mix aroundwith the wrong group of classmates Because of all the negativeinfluence and peer pressure, I started smoking, fighting and foolingaround once again

Sure enough, my grades continued to suck big-time By the end ofsecondary one, I was failing six out of eight subjects and was rankedamong the bottom students in the class I felt totally hopeless andbelieved that I could never do well At that time, I believed that I wasnot as 'smart' or as 'intelligent' as other students I believed that no matterhow hard I tried to study, I could never do well anyway

It did not help that many people around me reinforced this negativeself-image I had My tuition teachers, my relatives and some of myschool teachers kept saying things such as, 'why are you lazy?', or 'what

is wrong with you?', or 'why can't you understand such simple things?'There are some people who are not too good in their studies, butexcel in sports, CCAs or other activities, right? Again, I was NOTone of them I seemed to suck in my studies AND everything else I did

I was a weak, skinny kid who had very little confidence in himself In

secondary one, I thought it would be cool (as I was always fighting) to

join the National Cadet Corps for students (a Military Corp) as part of

my school's extra curricular activity requirement Guess what happened?

I fainted during the first parade, after standing at attention for 30 minutes

My application was subsequently rejected after I failed the entry tests

(I could not run fast enough, nor march in rhythm)

At the same time, I had constant coughs and colds, and poor stamina

I would get breathless whenever I ran for more than ten minutes As

a result, I could not pass the annual National Physical Fitness tests, and

was totally embarrassed when the girls in my class overtook me

All these lousy experiences sank my self-esteem and confidence to

rock bottom As a result, I never bothered to take any kind of initiative,

nor did I volunteer for anything I preferred to 'act blur' and 'take cover'

whenever opportunities were offered

It did not help that, at the same time, my parents were getting a divorce

As I was an only child, I became even more depressed and withdrawn

I felt that everybody was looking down on me

In my family, most of my cousins were straight 'A' students in

prestigious schools, and winners of scholarships, while I seemed to

be the 'black sheep.'

To make things worse, my father remarried and the next thing I knew,

I had a stepmother and a stepsister When I found out that my

stepsister was a straight ‘A’ student in Raffles Girls School (one of

the top schools in Singapore), and in the Gifted Programme to boot,

the mere comparison made me feel like an even bigger loser

Discovering the Winner In Myself

So how did I get from a total loser

to a super successful teenager, and

to where I am today?

Well, at the end of secondary one,

when my life had hit absolute rock

bottom, I actually got totally sick and tired of being a

‘nobody’ and a ‘loser.’ I wanted really badly to change

my life, but had no idea how to do it

The turning point in my life came when I was 13-years-old In desperation,

my father sent me to a motivational camp conducted during one of myschool holidays It was at this Camp that I was exposed to life transformingideas and tools

You see, I used to believe that other kids were more successful becausethey were born 'smarter', 'more talented,' 'more motivated' and also hadbetter teachers and perfect parents I used to believe that I could never beanything like them

Then, in the camp, I was totally inspired when I learned that actually,deep inside, we are all born WINNERS We all have the power to achieveany kind of success we want It is just that we have not learned how touse our power (you will learn about this power in chapter two)

I learned that every person has the same potential for success If anyonecan achieve anything he/she sets his/her mind to do, then so could I Itwas only a question of using the right strategies

Fully charged up and wildly excited after that 5-day camp, I started toread books on HOW to motivate myself, how to improve my memory,how to speed-read, how to improve my concentration, how to make notes,and how to manage my time effectively

(I share all these learning strategies in the later chapters of this book, aswell as in my first best-selling book, 'I Am Gifted, So Are You!')Aiming for the Sky

Once I changed my beliefs and attitudes about myself, and learnedthese powerful learning strategies, I decided to aim for the sky!

I set four big goals for myself and wrote

them on a big sheet of paper that I pasted

up on the wall in my room My goals were:

#1: Become the top student in my school within

a year (Remember that I was failing 6 out

of 8 subjects at the time)

#2: Get into Victoria Junior College (VJC)

#3: Get into the National University of Singapore.

(You have to be among the top 10% of students in the country to

qualify for a place)

#4: Start my own business and become a millionaire by the age of 26!

(This seemed pretty crazy too)

I must admit that setting those four goals seemed totally impossible

and crazy at the time But you know what? The excitement of possibly

achieving them really challenged me to give my very best

I started doing things that I had never done before: paying attention in

class, asking questions whenever I did not understand, making effective

notes, using memory techniques, learning from past mistakes, and actually

preparing for exams

Achieving the ‘Impossible’

After a year of taking action and applying everything I had learned,

I received my secondary two report card with my exam results

I did NOT top my school However, I managed to climb from the

bottom of my level to among the top 20 students! Although I did not reach

my goal, I felt tremendously successful because of the big improvement

I had made

So, the next year, I set my goal once again to top the school Did I make

it this time? No! However, I improved again, this time to rank among the

top 10 students in secondary three

The next year, I set my goal to score straight 8 ‘A’s for the Cambridge

‘O’ Level Examinations When the results came out, I found out I did

not get the 8 ‘A’s I had aimed for; still, I achieved 7’A’s! The results

qualified me to get into Victoria Junior College, helping me achieve my

second goal

After scoring straight ‘A’s for the Cambridge ‘A’ level examinations,

I achieved my third goal of getting a place in the National University

of Singapore, where I studied Business Administration

Once in university, I continued to give my very best and apply all the

highly effective learning strategies I had mastered (you will learn these

in chapter 6) Within a year, I was ranked among the top 1% of academic

achievers in the university, earning a place in the elite Talent DevelopmentProgram (the university’s gifted programme).

Within three years, I completed my 4-year honours degree; I had beenplaced on the Dean’s List every consecutive year The best part aboutlearning super fast and knowing how to manage my time effectively wasthat I wrote my first book, ‘I Am Gifted, So Are You!’, and started twobusinesses while I was still an undergraduate

Achieving Success Beyond School

By the time I graduated (at 24), I had built two profitable businesses:

a mobile disco company, 'Creatsoul Entertainment', and 'Adam Khoo

& Associates.' The latter was a company that I set up in order to trainschool students to achieve good grades and personal success I was earning

$1,000 an hour as a trainer, and was featured in the local newspapers.Over the next two years, I expanded my businesses, became the ChiefExecutive Officer (CEO) of my own companies, and also investedintelligently in property and the stock market; All of these led me toachieve my first million by the age of 26

I had finally completed all four goals I had set 11 years before, at theage of 13

If I, a 'Total Loser,' Can Do It, Then So Can You!

What I want to impress upon you is that ANYONE can change If Icould turn my life around, from a total loser to a spectacularly successfulperson, so can you You have the same potential I have and, in the chapters

to come, you will soon learn to use your latent power

If you are ready to begin, I am going to share with you my first secret…

The Ultimate Success Formula

One of the first secrets I discovered was thatthere is a formula for success People who achieve

success in studies, in sports, in makingfriends, in relationships, and later

in their careers and wealth-building,

do so NOT because of luck or luckycircumstances

What I found was that people who succeed follow a series of steps that

I call the ‘Ultimate Success Formula’ There are 8 steps in this formula

Let’s now learn what they are

Step 1: Set a Goal

The first step to achieve success in anything

take the necessary steps to hit it?

So what do you want? To score 90% for Math? Score 8 ‘A’s for the

coming exams? Be ranked fifth in class? Become a student leader? Win

a scholarship? Win a sports competition or a talent quest? Which college

are you aiming to get into?

If you have no idea what goals you should set for yourself or what you

really want, don’t worry 97% of people have no idea either In chapter

8, you are going to learn about the awesome power of setting goals and

how to use it to create the future you want starting Today

Step 2: Use the Right Strategy

Once they set their mind on a goal, the second step that all successful

people take is to find the right strategy to achieve it For any kind of

goal that you want, there is ALWAYS a strategy to achieve it

If you want to get 100% for a Math paper, there is a strategy to do it If

you want to be a millionaire, there is a strategy to do it If you want to

make friends easily and have people really like you, there is a strategy

behind it

So how do you find the right strategy? The fastest possible way would

be to study people who have already achieved the goals that you have

By taking them as role models and learning exactly how they did it, youcan achieve those goals as well

Again, this is exactly what I did To achieve my goal of scoring straight

‘A’s and becoming a top student, I learned the strategies that top studentsused To achieve my goal of becoming an effective leader, I modeled theway good leaders behaved and communicated to others

In chapters 10 and 11, I will reveal to you the strategies of how to scoredistinctions in exams In chapter 8, you will learn the secrets of how

to make friends and become popular, and in chapter 9 you will learnthe strategies of how to get along with your parents

Step 3: Take Action

The third step is the most important step of all It is to simply TAKEACTION! To give it your best shot

Many people never succeed because they may set great goals, knowexactly what to do, but don’t take action Instead, they keep procrastinatingand saying things such as, ‘I will do it later’, or ‘I will do it tomorrow.’

So what stops most people fromtaking action? What stops themfrom practicing daily for the nextbig game? What stops them fromcommunicating positively to theirparents?

There are usually two emotions thatstop them: ‘Laziness’ and ‘Fear.’ Dothese emotions stop you from takingaction as well? Well, in chapter 6,you are going to learn how to programyour brain to overcome laziness, andmotivate yourself instantly

Again, I took step 3 as well Once I set my goals and learned the rightstrategies, I went back to school and took massive action I appliedthe strategies consistently and started getting results

Step 4: Achieve Success or Get a Learning Experience

When you take action and attain the goal that you have set, you will have

achieved ‘Success’ For example, if you went all out to run to become a

student leader, and you got elected, then (again) you would be successful

However, do you ALWAYS achieve success when you take action? Of

course not! Many times, you may take action but you will not achieve

your goal Most people call this FAILURE! People tend to be so afraid

of ‘failure’, that they rather not even set goals in the first place ‘What if

I set a goal and fail?’ is what most people think ‘It would be a lot safer

to just stop dreaming and accept whatever life gives me’

Many of us are taught to believe thatsuccessful people are those who neverfail and always get what they aim for

Well, let me shock you with theTRUTH about successful people

Successful people not only fail, butthey fail EVEN MORE than averagepeople do This is because they tend

to go for it a lot more!

The ultimate difference between people who eventually succeed and those

who never ever succeed is what they do when they fail When ‘Losers’

fail, they will tend to give lots of excuses, blame other people and

quit People with this ‘loser’ mentality will obviously never ever achieve

any kind of success in their life

Do 'Winners' fail? Of course they do

The difference is that when people

with the 'Winner's mindset' don't reach

their goals, they don't see this experience

as failure (as most other people do)

They see it as a 'Learning Experience':

their strategy is not working Instead

of feeling bad, they get motivated

because they have 'learned something'

and are closer to their goals than those people who have never even tried

at all Winners believe that the only way they can fail is to not even give

it a shot Not taking action is the greatest failure of all.

The Winner: “When I Fail,

I Learn from My Mistakes Until I Succeed.”

The Winner: “When I Fail,

I Learn from My Mistakes Until I Succeed.”

The Loser: “When I Fail,

I Give Lots of Excuses,

Blame Others and Quit.”

The Loser: “When I Fail,

I Give Lots of Excuses,

Blame Others and Quit.”

Step 5: Keep Changing Your Strategy Until

So, what do winners do when they get a learning experience? Well, theydon’t quit Instead, they learn from their mistakes, change their strategyand take action again

They will keep repeating this process UNTIL they succeed

“You Miss 100% of the Shots You Never Take”

– Wayne Gretzky, World’s Greatest Hokey Player

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My Mandarin Challenge

So, did I ‘fail’ many times before I eventually succeeded in achieving my

goals? You bet!

In Singapore, it is compulsory to pass Chinese in order to qualify for

junior college and university My big problem was that Chinese was my

worst ever subject, one that I could never get close to passing, let alone

excel in The trouble was that I come from a family where nobody can

speak Mandarin

So, when I entered Primary one, I had no idea what the Chinese

teacher was talking about After she insulted me for being ‘stupid’,

I developed a mental block for the language and vowed never to

learn it My Chinese became so bad, that I would score an average of

20%-30% for any test or exam

In secondary school, I continued tofail all my Chinese tests, gettingmarks of 20%-30% (I did not evenbother to study) Then, at the end

of secondary three, I started to panicwhen I realized that I had to pass

my Chinese to get into JuniorCollege So, I set a goal to score a

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STEP 5

Chinese words and prepare for the exam I took massive action for myfinal year exam (secondary 3) However, instead of hitting my goal ofgetting a ‘B’ (above 65%),’ I still failed! Only this time I managed to get40%+.

Failing Again and Again But Never Quitting

I took it as a learning experience and starting learning from all my mistakes

in grammar, spelling and vocabulary I set my goal again to hit a ‘B’ forthe National ‘O’ Level exams in June of 1990 (secondary 4) When theresults came out, I found out I had failed with an ‘F’ (Below 40%)! Itturned out that the national exams were even tougher than I had expected,and so I fared even worse

I started to have doubts that I could ever pass this tough subject It didnot help that even my Chinese teacher told me I was a hopeless case.However, I renewed my self-motivation and knew I had a chance toretake the paper at the end of the year So, I reviewed what I haddone wrong, changed my study strategy and gave my very best forthe 'O' Level exams

When the results came out the following year, I was devastated to learnthat I had gotten only an 'E' (40%-45%) Although it was a slightimprovement, the fail mark meant that I could NOT get into junior college(even though I had scored straight 'A's for all my other 7 subjects).Officially, it was my last chance because I had to leave school to serve

in the Singapore Army

However, I still didn't quit my dream of being accepted into VictoriaJunior College I knew that I had one final slim chance I could retake myChinese exam as a private candidate while serving time in the Army Thistime, I totally changed my strategy I learned and applied a special memorytechnique to memorize the entire Chinese dictionary within six months,and I memorized over 50 Chinese essays

A year later, I went to sit for the Chinese paper in my Army uniform, stillkeeping in mind my target of getting a 'B.' I knew that this was my verylast chance to achieve my dream When I got my results three monthslater, I found that I had gotten a 'C' - pass! Although I did not hit mytarget, I got close enough to qualify for junior college

One of the most important lessons that I would like to share with you isthat in life you don't always hit your goal, but success is about getting as

close as you can to that goal You will always achieve that success if you

are committed to constantly changing your strategy and taking action!

So, what kept me going? Why didn't I give up? Well, the one thing that

kept me going was that I learned to have absolute faith that 'I CAN do it',

and that 'I will ALWAYS find a way to succeed.' So, step six is…

Step 6: Empowering Beliefs

The sixth ingredient that you must have in order to succeed is a very

strong set of empowering beliefs that 'YOU CAN SUCCEED.' It is only

when you strongly believe in yourself that you will dare to set high goals

and keep going on, without ever giving up

Losers never succeed because they lack strong beliefs As a result, they

never dare to set any goals, thinking 'I could never do it' or ‘It is impossible

for me.'

In chapter three, you will learn about the awesome power of beliefs and

how they can turn the 'impossible' into 'possible.'

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Step 7: High Self-Esteem

The 7th factor that all successful people have is a high level of self-esteem.When you have high self-esteem, you will have a strong sense ofself-worth, and the confidence to set high goals, take action and learnfrom your mistakes

Teens with low self-esteem will never dare to 'go for it' and 'make mistakes.'Their fear of 'looking bad' will keep them from achieving anything in life

In chapter 4, you are going to learn how to measure your self-esteem,how to love yourself, and how to build a strong sense of self-worth thatwill bring out the best in you

Step 8: Get Support from Your Environment

While you can do your best to take charge of your life, there are twomajor factors in your environment that will constantly shape your happinessand success They are your FRIENDS and your PARENTS

Our friends and parents are constantly affecting how we think, how

we feel and what we do, aren't they?

You can set great goals and do your

best to believe in yourself,

but if you surround yourself

with negative friends, they

will soon pull you down and

make you feel bad In chapter

8, you will learn how smart

teens choose the right friends

to help them achieve success

Parents can affect us a lot too,

right? Sometimes, over-protective,

nagging and over critical parents can make us feel really lousy aboutourselves But don’t worry, you are going to learn the secrets of how

to win your parents over and rope them in to become your partners - Nokidding! This is in chapter 9!

How to Get the Most Out of this Book

Now that I have given you an idea of what this book is all about, let me

share with you how YOU can get the most out of it

Many people ask me this question: 'Can reading a book really change

my life?' My answer is always: 'No! No book can ever change your

life It is only YOU who can change your life.' The book can only

give you the tools to help you create success for yourself However,

all this knowledge that I will share with you is worthless UNLESS you

take action and apply it!

So, I encourage you not to just read this book like any other ordinary

book If you allow me, I would like to be your personal coach; to talk to

you as if I were right there with you As I coach you, I am going to ask

you to do some really important activities so you can reflect on your

thoughts and immediately use what you are learning

On the pages that follow, please feel free to underline important ideas and

jot down notes and whatever personal thoughts you may have The more

you participate actively, the more benefit you will get from this book

Reflection 1: What Challenges Are You Facing?

Before you can achieve the success that you want, youmust first be aware of all the challenges that arestopping you right now

So, in the space on page 21, write down all thechallenges you are facing in school The challengesyou face in your relationships The challenges youhave with your family The challenges you havewith life in general

(P.S I prefer to use the word 'challenges' instead of 'problems' because

the former seems a lot more exciting)

Challenges That Other Teens Face

Now, let's look at the problems that other teens all over the world arefacing Here is a list of common challenges I have compiled after askingthousands of students who have gone through my programs

Not enough money

Addicted to computer games

Lack of focus

No confidenceFear of failureProcrastinationSlow learnerBad memoryPeer pressureBullied in schoolToo demanding parentsFeel depressed

Easily boredDiscouraging teachers

Are your problems similar to the ones listed above? If they are, then don'tworry You are 'perfectly normal.' The difference between successful andunsuccessful students is that successful teens have found strategies toovercome these challenges, whilst the latter have not

Reflection 2: What Do You Want to Achieve from this Book?

In order to get the most out of this book, you mustalso read it with a purpose in mind When you have

a clear outcome of what you want, your brain will helpyou get there a lot faster

So, if there were at least 5 CHANGES you would like

to make in your life, what would they be? To be moremotivated? To learn much faster? To make smarterdecisions? Write down your answers in the space below

Great! Now that you know what you want to change and what is stopping

you, let’s begin this learning journey by discovering

THE AWESOME

POWER YOU HAVECHAPTER TWO

The Awesome

Power You Have

When I was younger, I always wished I had magical powers, just like

the ones of my favourite super heroes I believed that if I had such

powers, all my problems would magically disappear! I could stop

my parents from nagging, make myself a hundred times smarter, predict

all the test questions, or turn my teachers into cute babes

Alas, I was a very ordinary teen I felt like I had no control over any of

the things that were happening in my life I had no control over my bad

memory, my negative teachers, my nagging parents or my friends

I couldn’t even control my moods As a result, I felt pretty hopeless

I felt that things could never change for the better

Do you feel the same way sometimes?

You Actually Have an Awesome Power

My life started to change when I discovered that

I actually did possess an amazing power within

me and that if I tapped into it, I could changeanything in my life It is a power that I started touse in order to change how I felt, change mygrades, change how my parents treated me, and,most of all, change myself from a loser to a winner

I am here to tell you all that YOU have this same power too!

So, what is this power? The power I am talking about is the power you

have to make CHOICES

You can choose to be a winner, or choose to be a loser You can choose

to be rich and successful in your future, or choose to be poor and

unhappy You can choose to be lazy, or choose to be motivated

Success or happiness is not something that happens to you by accident

It is a choice that you make

CHAPTER

TWO

You May Have Not Chosen Your Outer World,

But You Choose Your Inner World

Now, you may be thinking to

yourself: ‘Wait a minute there

are many things in my life that

I had no choice over! I could

not have chosen my parents

I could not have chosen to

be born rich instead of poor,

nor could I have chosen to be

smart instead of slow, good

looking instead of average’

Yes, while you may have no choice

over what happens to you in life (I

call this the outer world), you do have 100% choice over your ownTHOUGHTS and ACTIONS (I call this your inner world) Yourthoughts and actions are what really matter because they are the onesthat determine your success and happiness

By choosing the right thoughts and actions, you have the POWER

to change what happens in the outer world You have the POWER

to achieve any result that you want!

Let’s say you get a new History teacher one day This teacher is superboring and uses difficult words that nobody understands!

Does this mean that you are definitely going to flunk History? No!Although you cannot change that teacher, you have a 100% choice overyour thoughts and actions If you choose to sleep in class, stay blur andnot bother to study as the other students do, then you will very likely fail

However, you can choose to keep awake by writing notes and raising

your hands to answer questions At worst, you can spray some water on

your face and slap yourself a few times (just kidding !)

While no one in class understands what the heck the teacher is talking

about, you could choose to read the textbook on your own and ask him

(or another tutor) questions after class until you do understand

In this way, you will be in control of your success! In fact, the boring

teacher may actually be a blessing in disguise for you Because of him,

the rest of the class may fail, and you can easily become the top student!

When You Change Your Inner World, The Outer World Will Follow

One of my friends, Kate, shared her story with me Ever since she was

young, her mum has had this habit of putting her down She would say,

‘you are always so lazy’, ‘ you are so forgetful’, and ‘how can you succeed?’

At first, Kate let herself be discouraged by her mum’s words; she felt

inadequate and didn’t dare to reach for her goals She kept wishing that

she had a more encouraging mum

Then one day, after talking to me, Kate learned that she had the power

to change her life Although she could not change her mother, she could

choose to change her thoughts and actions She decided to think positively,

‘I can do it! I will prove it to my mum!’, and she started taking positive

action by believing in herself and working harder

When she started to change her inner world, her outer world began

to change Sure enough, with a lot more motivation & self-confidence,

she started to achieve more success in her grades and her tennis When

her mum saw her success, she changed too Instead of putting her daughter

down, her mum now praises her in front of their relatives The funny thing

about life is that when we change, the people around us all begin to change

You have a Choice in Life.

So, Choose to Win!

Winner Or Loser? Your Choice!

What makes winners different from losers is NOT what happens to them.Rather, it is the different choices they make

I know many winners in life who were born with pretty lousy deals! Some

of them were born to abusive parents, born with low IQ, born into verypoor families, or even born paralyzed Yet, they became super successfuland happy because they chose positive thoughts and actions I will sharewith you their stories in the pages to come, so stay tuned!

At the same time, I know many people who were born smart, rich andgood looking However, because they chose negative thoughts and actions,they ended up broke, addicted to drugs and miserable

Let’s find out how people choose to become winners or losers in life

The Loser

When losers have problems,

they always choose to do

three things First, they

choose to give excuses

For example, if they lose

a competition, they will

give themselves excuses

such as, ‘there was no time to train’, ‘I was

unlucky’, ‘the referee was not fair’ or ‘the

weather was too hot’

Secondly, losers choose to blame everyone

else For example, they may blame their

coach (‘he’s a lousy coach’) They may blame their parents (‘I inheritedtheir lousy genes’ or ‘they did not encourage me’)

Finally, instead of improving themselves, losers like to spend their timecomplaining about why everything is so bad

If you have found yourself doing any of these three things, don’t feelbad It is pretty normal Most teens unknowingly go into ‘loser mode’

I must admit that I was stuck in ‘loser mode’ when I was in school

So what happens when you keep going into ‘loser mode’? You become

a loser!

Here’s the problem:

although blamingmakes us feel goodtemporarily, it doesn’tchange anything!

We will still keepplaying badly Wewill keep on losing

in the future, and then

we will feel evenworse

When You Blame Something or Somebody,

You Are Giving Away Your Power

When you blame someone (or something), you are giving him/her

your power! For example, if you fail English and blame your teacher

for being lousy and boring, it means your teacher is the one controlling

your success! So, you have no power to change your results; only your

teacher can do so

This is why losers feel powerless and helpless They believe that for

things to change, other people must change So, they let their life get

controlled by everyone and everything around them They like to say

things such as, ‘that’s just the way I am’, ‘there’s nothing I can do’, ‘it’s

not my fault’, and ‘they ruined my day’

The Winner

Do winners have great things just happening to them all the time?

Nope, in fact some of them may be born into

poor families, have abusive parents,

have mean teachers, or be given less

opportunities However, they always

have the power to make their life the

way they want it

This is because winners choose to

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for everything that

is happening in their life For example, if they fail

an English test, winners will take responsibility

for the situation