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MARCH & APRIL 2019 04239 PREPARE YOUR TOT FOR YOUR NEW BABY 771023 927001 C O N T E N T S YB MARCH & APRIL 2019 REGULARS 98 04 From the editor 06 Letters 08 Little Angels 09 Baby & Me 10 Baby Talk 14 Shopping: Easter essentials 69 Shopping: Sippy cups FEATURES 16 Free fun this Easter 18 Lights, camera, action! 22 Eight reasons routine is important 26 Off to sleep 30 Intimacy after birth 34 How to raise a resilient child BABY FILES 40 16 38 Three exciting months 40 Secrets of self-soothing 43 Reflexes at work 44 Stool stories 46 Newborn Q&A 48 Guide to the milky way 50 Playful love 54 Steps to mobility 56 Germ truths 59 Baby Q&A 60 Off the menu 62 Fish fit for a king 66 Full of nonsense 68 Time for a cup? 70 Move aside, here comes baby 72 Ouch mom, I’m growing 74 Toddler Q&A 76 Crafty Easter 81 Health notebook: Dental care 82 Special needs: Emli the go-getter 84 Babies of the heart LIFESTYLE 85 The magic of books 86 Double cuddles 88 Puppy love party 92 Pain in the neck LAST SAY 98 Your public holiday plan MARKETING 47 Digital subscriptions 53 Print subscriptions 91 Bonus Corner 97 Classifieds COVER PHOTOGRAPHER Christine de Jager from Uit Die Hart Fotografie in Rustenburg C: 076 482 3485 | E: christine.dejager@yahoo.com CLOTHING Overalls, R249 – R449 from Keedo CONTENTS Gallo Images/Getty Images; Supplied On the cover Our adorable cover model Zimi Ashley-Zibele Junior Mbanga, was nine months old when this picture was taken 34 43 38 18 44 40 66 14 22 70 MARCH & APRIL 2019 | FROM THE EDITOR HELEN SCHÖER I recently spent a beautiful morning on a beach full of amazing boulders The beach was packed with big family groups – from those born in 2019 to those born closer to 1919! While I was sunning myself on a rock, I noticed something strange None of the little children were playing on the rocks In fact, none of the teenagers were playing on the rocks either And it wasn’t that they were trying to climb, with parents preventing them… They weren’t even trying The smaller children played in the sand and shallow water, and the teens lolled under umbrellas, phone in hand I found it a sad sign of our times and a clear result of the fact that children have become more cautious and sedentary than any previous generation The only people climbing rocks that day were middle-aged adults like me! We were probably the last generation to spend pretty much our entire childhood with grazed knees and elbows because of all the climbing and bike-riding and falls that were just a normal part of childhood Those rocks would have represented an irresistible adventure to me if I’d gone to that beach as a child That’s probably why I found myself nodding in agreement through our whole article on raising a resilient child, page 34 The message is clear: let go a little, and let your child explore, let your child struggle, and, yes, let your child fall – and fail Not only does it make them physically stronger, it builds character too! Enjoy the holidays, stay safe and stay active! Till next month, You could see your little one on Your Baby Magazine’s cover! Send an up-to-date photo to coverbaby2019@yourbaby.co.za to enter Your Baby Magazine’s Cover Baby Competition! See page 32 for more details | MARCH & APRIL 2019 Editor-in-chief Helen Schöer (editor@yourbaby.co.za) Deputy Editor Pearl Rantsekeng Art Director Denise Khoele Lifestyle & Shopping Editor Elaine Schoeman Digital Editor Sophia Swanepoel MARKETING Marketing Executive Zoë Smith zoe@pinpoint.co.za NATIONAL ADVERTISING Pinpoint: Zoë Smith: zoe@pinpoint.co.za, 082 457 6984 Brigitte Kolver: brigitte@pinpoint.co.za, 083 708 1588 SUBSCRIPTIONS, RENEWALS & ENQUIRIES Call: 087 353 1300, 021 065 0033 Email: subs@media24.com SMS: “YBSUBS” to 32361 (R1 per SMS) FAX: 086 296 6681 CONTRIBUTORS Zelda Ackerman, Margot Bertelsmann, Terésa Coetzee, Lori Cohen, Meg Faure, Georgina Guedes, Samantha Herbst, Phumzile Mavuso, Shanda Luyt, Lerato Mogoatlhe, Karen Read, Samantha Toweel-Moore PUBLISHING Publisher Nikki Rüttimann Circulation Manager Adele Minnaar 011 713 9440 Product Manager Janine Snyman 011 713 9918 General Enquiries (Cape Town) Anita Grindlay-Whieldon 021 408 1278 Office Manager Maphuti Mongatane 011 713 9961 CORPORATE Published by Media24, 19th Floor, ABSA Building, Adderley Street, Cape Town, 8000 Tel: 021 406 2121 CEO: Media24 Ishmet Davidson CEO: Print Media Rika Swart GM: Lifestyle Minette Ferreira GM: Monthlies Nerisa Coetzee Head of Finance: Media24 Lifestyle Jameelah Conway Printed by CTP printers and distributed by On the Dot Copyright Media24 All rights reserved No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, without the prior permission in writing from the publisher While reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure the accuracy of advice and information given to readers, the editor, proprietors and publishers cannot accept responsibility for any damages or inconvenience that may arise therefrom Your Baby has the right to make alterations to any material submitted, and cannot be held responsible for the loss of or damage to any material submitted for publication All prices quoted were correct at the time of going to press, and may vary from shop to shop This publication is a member of the Publisher Research Council All our reader research conforms to best practice Our sample and survey results are audited by global experts to ensure that they provide advertisers with an accurate representation of our readers As the Happy Baby Company, it’s our mission to spread happiness across the land So help us make South Africa smile by sharing a photo of your happy baby at www.cuddlers.co.za and you could be a winner! 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LETTERS WINNING LETTER BREASTFEEDING IS COMPLEX As a new mom I was determined to breastfeed my baby come hell or high water From what I’d read online, the struggle most breastfeeding moms faced was that of having low milk supply So, in order to make sure I didn’t have the same problem, I got myself ready to boost my milk supply should the need arise Before the baby arrived, I had bought all the ingredients for jungle juice as well as for lactation cookies – I was prepared!  To my surprise, I had nothing to worry about From day one I did not just have milk, I had bucket loads of it While I was extremely grateful that this was the case, it was not without its own challenges – rock-hard, painful breasts, endless expressing of milk in the middle of the night to release pressure, as well as the baby struggling to latch due to full breasts A strong let-down, which meant lots of spit-ups and leakage Why didn’t anyone speak about this online?  I feel that what new moms need to know is that your breastfeeding experience is as unique as your own body It is complex and wonderful, easy some days and hard on others But, whatever your challenges, don’t give up if this is something that you really want to Know that there is help available! We saw a wonderful lactation consultant while we were still in hospital, and that really helped me get the latch right as well as make the most of my milk supply.  While I don’t know what the future will hold when I head back to work in three months’ time and have to start pumping to maintain my supply, this experience has taught me to persevere and take these challenges in my stride, while enjoying the hours spent breastfeeding as a chance to bond with my little one.  KRISTIN LOUW, JOHANNESBURG A R750 BABY CITY GIFT VOUCHER GOES TO THE BEST LETTER EACH MONTH SO SHARE YOUR VIEWS ON PARENTING, AND YOUR STORY COULD MAKE YOU A WINNER! | MARCH & APRIL 2019 MY DRAMATIC PREGNANCY – WITH A HAPPY ENDING Share your stories and connect with moms Send your comments to letters@yourbaby.co.za In November 2017 I went to a gynaecologist, as I suffer from severe period pains, and it was discovered that I had cysts on both my tubes I had to an emergency surgery to remove the cysts I was 30 at the time, and my doctor said having cysts at this age could mean that I’d have trouble conceiving, or perhaps never even have children I shared the news with my boyfriend at the time (now my husband) and my mom, who told me that she had been worried for a while that I hadn’t had a child by my age yet My boyfriend, who’s always wanted us to have a baby, suggested we try He was so excited He’d always wanted to be a father I was the one who kept saying I wasn’t ready But we started trying He was the one who first bought Your Baby – I was not even pregnant yet! – so I could prepare myself I must say, the magazine turned out to be very helpful I learnt a lot and even got to know there is an illness called colic In March last year I discovered I was pregnant, and in October, at 38 weeks, I was rushed to hospital My doctor told me that I was in labour I ended up having an emergency caesarean, as my baby was getting tired I’ve never been so scared in my life When I couldn’t feel my legs, due to anaesthesia, I started crying, thinking I was paralysed The doctors tried to calm me down, but they failed My boyfriend came into the room, calmed me down – and even managed to the breathing technique with me In no time, there he was, a healthy baby boy we named Leago – which means to build up I am so thrilled I have my bundle of joy at home with me I’m so grateful that I was introduced to your magazine early in my pregnancy It has been of great help I don’t know if I would have managed on my own DIPUO MOSHAKGA, CLAYVILLE  BABY NUMBER FOUR – AND THIS ONE CAME WITH A DIFFERENCE I recently gave birth to my fourth bundle of joy six years after getting a job as an early-childhood educator Despite my life being hectic, I am enjoying the presence of little angels around me The fact that my life is a roller coaster makes it worth living I was excited and yet nervous when I got the news that I was pregnant with baby number four But I am enjoying every experience and all the challenges that come with having a new baby My experience this time around has been a lot different from the previous three births, as my baby was born with clubfoot I was scared I was not educated on the condition before, and most people around me also had no clue what it is So I felt like I was all alone But just having you read and publish our letters gives “supermom hope” to all of us Let’s stay beautiful with our stretchmarks, let’s stay strong with our kind advice and never stop believing and trusting in God and his word LUCILLE JOHNSON, DURBAN THANK YOU FOR JOURNEYING WITH OUR FAMILY My eldest daughter, Ashleigh, just turned 16 this year She’s older sister to Sarah-Leigh, who’s now 11 years old When I was expecting Sarah, we all hoped she was going to be a boy On none of the scans did she ever reveal whether she’s a boy or a girl When Sarah was finally born and we came home to Ash, who was with grandma, she said the cutest thing to her baby sister when she held her for the first time: “Daddy told me that you’re a girl, but we wanted a boy, but it’s okay that you’re a girl You can stay.” Sarah tells everyone she wonders if we would’ve given her back if Ash didn’t give permission for her to stay She says she would’ve been a “homeless baby” We constantly reassure her that it was never up to her sister whether she could stay or not We also tell her that we were blessed with a healthy addition to our family, and that’s all we should’ve asked for in the first place Your Baby magazine was a real help when Ashleigh was a baby, because I was only 19 years old when I had her And we continued to read the magazine even while I was expecting Sarah It was of such great help, especially when it came to deciding on new baby products to buy We also entered a few competitions through the magazine and won a few hampers I’d recommend the magazine to any expecting parent and family with pre-school kids Thank you for journeying with my daughters and me during the formative years of their lives DENISE BARNES, KUILS RIVER, CAPE TOWN FACEBOOK COMMENTS What’s your family-gathering protocol when it comes to the kids and less-familiar family members? Do you think forced affection is okay, or you allow your child to choose? Images: Gallo Images/Getty Images Teri Ferreira “It’s my daughter’s body, and I’m teaching her consent, so she never has to hug or kiss anyone if she doesn’t want to She must greet people and be polite though I get a lot of grief from older relatives They either the guilt trip, or they laugh in my face at how ridiculous I’m being I don’t care It’s important my daughter knows that she doesn’t have to anything with her body out of guilt, obligation or pressure.” Nonkululeko Pertunia Ndlovu “I allow my kid to choose.” Sarah Dan Steenson “My boy decides for himself Also, I think if he barely knows them, I would stop him cuddling them anyway.” Jason Carrie Helmholt “We don’t force our boys to it If they do, they do; if they don’t, they don’t But I wish they would.” WHY GENDER STEREOTYPES ARE A NO-GO ZONE IN BEYONCÉ’S HOUSE In an interview with Vogue last year, the megastar opened up about motherhood, revealing that her sincerest wish for her children is that they grow up empowered and free to be themselves She’s starting with the simplest way young ones experience stereotypes: their gender.  “As the mother of two girls, it’s important to me that they see themselves as CEOs, as bosses, and that they know they can write the script for their own lives – that they can speak their minds and they have no ceiling.” The Carters aren’t the only celeb parents who have chosen to keep gender stereotypes out of their home Here are some others: ZOE SALDANA AND MARCO PEREGO-SALDANA Her husband has taken her name, so it’s no surprise that the Saldanas have opted to keep things genderneutral The Guardians Of The Galaxy star is mom to three boys: twins Cy and Bowie, and Zen “I get to a lot of male things, which is, I don’t know, put a TV together, fix things that break,” Zoe has said “We’re sort of a very gender-fluid household I think it’s important to raise boys in that environment and girls as well.” WILL AND JADA PINKETT SMITH The celeb parents have always been vocal about making sure their children reach for their dreams, no matter how unorthodox they may be The power couple are parents to Trey, Jaden and Willow “We encourage our kids to experiment and seek who they are more than who we want them to be,” Will Smith has been quoted as saying   MARCH & APRIL 2019 | Little Angels Lesedi and Naledi Mosella, 10 days old, from Johannesburg WIN A BABY CITY VOUCHER VALUED AT R350 Send a clear, good quality photo to littleangels@yourbaby.co.za Each photo published receives a R350 Baby City Voucher Husseinat and Hussein Kaka, six months old, from Zakariyya Park, south of Johannesburg Aimee, Ava and Aniya Saayman, 13 months old, from Wynberg, Cape Town Aphiwe and Aphelele Khanyile, eight months old, from Durban Khanya and Khanyisile Maseko, seven months old, from Soweto Kelebone and Keleabetswe Ramafoko, 12 months old, from Soweto Carter and Finley Naidu, three months old, from Durban Mahlatse and Rorisang Maisela, three months old, Centurion Baby & Me WIN AN OH SO HEAVENLY HAMPER VALUED AT R650 The Oh So Heavenly Mum and Cherub range, dermatologist-approved and tearfree, is lovingly created with the same caring ingredients you’ve come to expect from Oh So Heavenly All products in the Mum and Cherub range are gentle on your skin as well as the skin and hair of your bundle of joy Lebogang and 10-day-old Oresiametse Mobe, Pretoria Farzhana and two-monthold Aaron Mickleburgh, Durban Thabang and seven-month-old Tokelo Nyalungu, Alexandra Jessica and 10-day-old Claire Faith Kruger, Benoni Nomi and 12-month-old Leruo Tlhalefo Masilo, Carletonville Busisiwe and 10-day-old Kopano Machabe, Sasolburg Merle and four-month-old Raphael Friedman, Johannesburg Dikeledi and two-month-old Relebogile Moyo, Pretoria Send a clear, good quality photo to us at littleangels@yourbaby.co.za BABY TALK The latest in parenting buzz and trendy finds their tomorrow starts when you don’t drink ADOPT A COT AND SAVE A BABY Here’s a really easy way to some good for babies in need For just R100 a month, you can sponsor a cot (or more, up to 10 per person) at the TLC Children’s Home in Joburg’s Kibler Park Founded almost 30 years ago, this child care centre is one of the country’s best Your R100 goes towards caring for your sponsored baby’s needs, including formula, nappies, clothes, food, medicine and “anything else they might need to thrive as happy, healthy little people”, according to the TLC website Fill out a form that’s available on the TLC website (tlc.org za/adopt-a-cot), and you can either an electronic fund transfer or a direct deposit We say, sommer set up that repeat payment for a year Meet Hunadi, a little girl with “big hair and even bigger dreams” who’s new on the market And it’s about time, we say, as up to now black dolls have really been pretty absent from local toy shelves Sassy Hunadi was modelled on a real girl from Limpopo, says Afro Girl founder Stacey Rethman, and she really rocks her pink and green reversible shwe-shwe dress, handmade beads and bracelets and leather sandals Keen to know her story? Well, press her tummy, and she’ll tell you all about herself… in your own language That’s right, Hunadi, which means blessing, speaks no fewer than four of our official languages: SeSotho, IsiZulu, IsiXhosa and English You can buy her directly from afrogirl.co.za (free delivery) or from takealot.com At R850, Hunadi’s probably a gift for a bigger occasion like a birthday But it’s worth it just to hear her say, “Igama lam ngu Hunadi.” Say cheese! Western Cape turophiles (that’s the fancy term for cheese-lovers, btw), listen up! The National Cheese Festival is on in Sandringham outside Stellenbosch the weekend after Easter, from Friday 26 to Sunday 28 April The main focus is cheese, obviously, and a really wide variety of the stuff But you can also expect all the good things to go with the cheese: pomegranates, olives, herbs, mushrooms, 10 | MARCH & APRIL 2019 nuts, honey and indigenous tea Plus there will be (live) music to eat cheese by and activities (and supervision!) for the little ones Plus daily cheese-carving competitions, which should be fun to watch if nothing else Get tickets from Computicket and Shoprite/Checkers at R180 for adults, R120 for seniors and R20 for children from two to 13 years See cheesefestival.co.za for more PREGNANT? THINK BEFORE YOU DRINK It’s always good to remind ourselves of the dangers of alcohol – and especially of drinking while you’re pregnant If you do, your unborn baby is at risk of developing foetal alcohol syndrome (FAS), “the leading cause of preventable birth defects and developmental disabilities in children around the world”, according to aware.org, the website of the local Association for Alcohol Responsibility and Education FAS is more common than spina bifida, autism and Down syndrome combined South Africa is said to have the highest rate of FAS disorders in the world Go to the website, and read about FAS – even if you think you know all the dangers, a reminder is good And consider taking the pledge, symbolised by the reef knot above, to stay away from the bottle DADS NOW GET PAID PATERNITY LEAVE Thanks to some new legislation – the Labour Relations and Labour Amendment acts, to be precise – recently signed into force, new dads can now take up to 10 consecutive days paid parental leave And it doesn’t matter if children are biological, fostered or adopted – if you’re a dad, you get the leave The laws have come about specifically to allow for more bonding time between fathers and children, and for dads to hopefully be more involved in their kids’ lives from the get-go “The bill responds to the current and changing socio-economic conditions that are prevalent in the country,” explained Lemias Mashile from the national Department of Labour He also said the new laws will help narrow the child-care gap between moms and dads and contribute to a more equal domestic situation, where both genders can be seen as main caregivers YB D E C O R double Elaine Schoeman creates a beautiful, nature-inspired nursery for your twins Mid Term Wallpaper R545/m2 Cara Saven Wall Design Oakley Six-drawer Unit R3 500 Mr Price Home Lion Scatter Cushion R170 But Why Not at hellopretty.co.za Hogback Chair R7 700 esque.co.za 86 | MARCH & APRIL 2019 D E C O R YB Charleston Rug R3 300 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cleverly puppy-inspired treats like bowls filled with paw-tato chips, pup-corn and pup-cakes Designer Cupcakes and Cakes made the delicious vanilla pup-cakes Inspired by the twins’ favourite Disney Junior TV programme, Puppy Dog Pals, Chaneah Petersen planned her twins’ first birthday bash at their Athlone home in Cape Town All the little guests were treated to chicken nuggets and triangleshaped hash browns for lunch Each child got to take home a toy puppy with a kennel-shaped party box filled with sweets They also received a colouring book, crayons, bubbles and doggy ears to wear. Even the parents got their own party packs!  MARCH & APRIL 2019 | 89 YB P A R T Y If you would like your child’s party featured on these pages, please send some photographs and information to letters@yourbaby.co.za The beautifully decorated guests’ table with their doggy ears Guests snacked on candy “fetch sticks” The adults also got to take home their own doggy bags pt-a -puppy A cute addition was the ado 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laundry wash suitable for the whole family The hampers include products from Purity & Elizabeth Anne’s and a set of educational books or toys SMS the following information to 36480: your prize code, your name and surname, physical address, email address and your contact number Each SMS is charged at R1.50 and free minutes not apply Entries close 30 April 2019 By entering a competition, you agree to receive further communication and direct marketing material from Media24 (Ltd) Winners will be published on parent24.com 15 days after closing date Go to page 97 for terms & conditions MARCH & APRIL 2019 | 91 PAIN NECK IN THE Stretch and strengthen your neck for a super strong posture that beats breastfeeding neck and back pain in and of itself and is not only accompanied with fatigue and a variety of niggles, but also commonly leads to neck, shoulder and back discomfort This is primarily due to incorrect posture while feeding There is hope, though We’ve come up with a few exercises and guidelines that will help prevent excessive pain When looking at your spine from the side, you’ll see that it has an S-curve formation to it This is to assist the discs between your vertebrae with necessary shock absorption When the curves are compromised and are either flattened or over exaggerated, you run the risk of increasing inflammation in the spine and overworking certain muscle groups This could result in muscle spasm and pain All of this starts in your pelvis, which is the foundation of your spine If your pelvis is tilted or arched [A] your spine follows suit Your head, being the end of a leverage system, will also position itself according to your pelvis and spine position If your lumbar curve (lower-back curve) is flattened [B] or over exaggerated, your head position compensates by placing itself over your centre of gravity to counterbalance what you have done with your lower back All of these posture positions cause your shoulders to hunch up and place stress on your spine This ends up in neck spasms, among other things A neutral pelvis is achieved when your hip bones rest on top of your pubic bone [C&D] This is especially important when you’re breastfeeding 92 | MARCH & APRIL 2019 Images: Gallo Images/Getty Images BREASTFEEDING IS RATHER demanding E X E R C I S E YB [A] N E CK S TR E TCH E S All three of the neck muscles involved in breastfeeding – the levator scapulae, the upper traps and the sternocleidomastoid – start on your shoulder girdle and end on the cervical vertebrae of your neck They are the main muscles responsible for headaches and neck pain To combat this, each of the muscles gets its own stretch [B] [C] LEVATOR SCAPULAE STRETCH UPPER TRAPS STRETCH [D] ✓ Sit on a chair with your right hand under your right buttock with your palm flat against your bum ✓ Keep your nose pointing straight ahead, tuck your chin in slightly and gently tilt your head to the left ✓ Once you feel the stretch in your neck and shoulder, stop and hold for 10 seconds ✓ After the hold, lift your shoulder to the ceiling as if you are doing a shoulder shrug and drop it Repeat 10 times This shoulder movement is designed to help with flexibility of the neural structures of the neck ✓ Swap and the other side ✓ Assume the same position as with the upper trap stretch, but this time turn your nose so that it is pointing to the armpit of the opposite arm ✓ Tuck your chin in as much as you can within pain limits, and pull your shoulder down away from your ear ✓ Once you feel the stretch in your neck and shoulder, stop and hold for 10 seconds ✓ After the hold, lift your shoulder to the ceiling as if you are doing a shoulder shrug You should feel a different area of your shoulder and neck stretch, especially as you lower your shoulder again after the shrug Do the shrug 10 times ✓ Swap and the other side MARCH & APRIL 2019 | 93 YB E X E R C I S E WHY YOU NEED CORRECT POSTURE Posture is more than just how you sit or stand It also has an impact on how much pressure these positions place on your lower back, muscles and joints Poor posture affects your body’s natural alignment, causing physical stress, soreness and pain, whereas good posture minimises the amount of excessive force that your muscles and joints need to absorb GENERAL PRINCIPLES ! LOOK OUT FOR • Work within your pain boundary Don’t push past that point • When doing the shoulder shrug, lift the shoulder directly up to the ceiling and avoid the temptation to pull the shoulder forward STERNOCLEIDOMASTOID STRETCH ✓ Assume the same position as the traps stretch but turn your cheek so that it is pointing to the ceiling ✓ Tuck your chin in as much as you can within pain limits, and pull your shoulder down away from your ear ✓ Once you feel the stretch in the front of your neck, stop and hold for 10 seconds ✓ After the hold, lift your shoulder to the ceiling again as if you were to a shrug Do the shrug 10 times ✓ Swap and the other side 94 | MARCH & APRIL 2019 Using a lumbar cushion (or even a rolled-up hand towel) just above your belt line to support your lower back and assist in positioning your pelvis into the neutral position is always a good idea, whether you’re breastfeeding or sitting at a desk the whole day The next most important thing to remember is that the baby needs to come to your breast, and not the other way around For this to happen, you would need to support the baby and the arm holding her sufficiently with pillows to prevent your shoulders from hiking up or pulling forward Your elbow should be resting in a near 90 degree bent angle, while your shoulder is totally relaxed Get this right to prevent neck spasms Prevention is always better than cure Achieving the perfect breastfeeding posture is 80 percent of the battle against your neck pain won, but there are also stretches and strength exercises that you can include just to keep the muscles you are contracting supple and the neural structures flexible These stretches not have to be done in a particular order and are therefore convenient to at any time of day provided you have a gap Go ahead and space them out if you like through your day E X E R C I S E YB PE C S T R E T C HE S Pectoralis muscles (those under your breast tissue) contract for extended periods of time when in a breastfeeding position or even when holding your little one The muscle is divided into two parts called the pec minor and pec major, and you need to stretch both This helps to open up your shoulders and prevent slouching and hurting your neck WHAT TO DO ✓ Sit on a Pilates ball and begin to walk forwards so that eventually you are lying with your head and upper back resting on the ball ✓ Tuck your chin in as much as you can within your pain limits ✓ Extend your arms in a V shape above your head with your palms facing the ceiling This will stretch your pec minor Hold the stretch for 10 seconds ✓ Once done with the hold, move your arms down, so that they are perpendicular to your body, again with palms facing the ceiling Hold for 10 seconds This stretches your pec major ✓ After the hold, bring your arms back in, and walk backwards, tucking your chin in until you are in a sitting position again ALTERNATIVE MOVE If you don’t have a ball, the alternative is to use a door frame ✓ Stand inside an open door frame ✓ Tuck your chin in as much as you can within pain limits ✓ Extend your arms in a V shape with your elbows, forearms and palms placed onto the doorframe and higher than shoulder level; this will stretch your pec minor Hold the stretch for 10 seconds ✓ Once done with the hold, move your arms down, so that your elbows are in line with the height of your shoulder joints, again with palms, elbows and N E C K S T R EN G TH E N I N G E X ER C I S E When the day is done and you flop into your bed, take a minute to this easy exercise It is designed to strengthen all the little muscles that support and stabilise the vertebrae in your neck And because you can it lying down, it’s the perfect precursor for bedtime WHAT TO DO ✓ Lie on your back on your bed with your knees bent ✓ Put the fist of one hand between your chin and your chest ✓ Keep your chin resting on your fist, and gently push your head back into your pillows ✓ Hold the position for 10 seconds and repeat five times forearms placed onto the doorframe Hold for 10 seconds This stretches your pec major ✓ With this stretch you might need to lean forward slightly, but remember to work within your pain boundaries If you experience any pain, stop doing the exercise ! 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