His need her need Hiểu ngưởi bạn đời của mình cần gì, quyển sách nên đọc cho mọi người. Dựa theo cuốn sách His Needs, Her Needs: Building an AffairProof Marriage của Willard F. Harley Jr đã đưa ra những yếu tố giúp gia đình tránh lừa dối dựa theo những nhu cầu cần thiết của cả hai người. Trong đó gồm cô ấy cần sự dịu dàng và anh ấy cần chuyện chăn gối. Một chút lãng mạn và những cử chỉ quan tâm sẽ giúp phụ nữ cảm thấy hạnh phúc. Còn nam giới nếu anh ta không yêu thì có thể chuyện chăn gối của hai người cũng sẽ không xảy ra.
Revised and Expanded Edition His Needs, Her Needs BUILDING AN AFFAIRPROOF MARRIAGE Willard F Harley, Jr © 1986, 1994, 2001, 2011 by Willard F Harley, Jr Published by Revell a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.revellbooks.com E-book edition created 2010 All rights reserved No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording— without the prior written permission of the publisher The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews ISBN 978-1-44123-369-1 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Versionđ NIVđ Copyright â 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan All rights reserved worldwide www.zondervan.com To Joyce— my one and only Contents Preface Introduction How Affair-Proof Is Your Marriage? Why Your Love Bank Never Closes The First Thing She Can’t Do Without—Affection The First Thing He Can’t Do Without —Sexual Fulfillment The Second Thing She Can’t Do Without—Intimate Conversation The Second Thing He Can’t Do Without—Recreational Companionship She Needs to Trust Him Totally— Honesty and Openness He Needs a Good-Looking Wife— Physical Attractiveness She Needs Enough Money to Live Comfortably—Financial Support 10 He Needs Peace and Quiet— Domestic Support 11 She Needs Him to Be a Good Father —Family Commitment 12 He Needs Her to Be Proud of Him— Admiration 13 How to Survive an Affair 14 From Incompatible to Irresistible Appendix A The Most Important Emotional Needs Appendix B Emotional Needs Questionnaire Appendix C Recreational Enjoyment Inventory Appendix D Financial Support Inventory Preface In 1978 I was asked to teach a thirteenweek course on marriage at the church I attended The topic was: what must a couple to stay happily married? The Christian Education Director taperecorded the course for me Over the next few years, I used those tapes in my counseling practice to support the advice that I gave couples One couple volunteered to transcribe the tapes so that I could give them to other Dr Willard F Harley, Jr., is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, marriage counselor, and bestselling author His popular website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem Dr Harley and his wife, Joyce, host a daily radio call-in show, Marriage Builders They live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota IS THE HONEYMOON OVER? Are you losing the love you once felt for each other? Learn to avoid the six most common Love Busters that may have gained a foothold in your marriage Once you throw out these bad habits, your love for each other can be restored and your conflicts more easily resolved www.RevellBooks.com The best marriage workbook just got better! ive Steps to Romantic Love will help you and your spouse to know F and meet each other’s needs and overcome the habits that destroy your love This workbook is a supplement to Dr Harley’s Love Busters and His Needs, Her Needs—books that have helped countless couples fall in love again and enjoy intimate, passionate marriages www.RevellBooks.com Put the sizzle back into your relationship! It isn’t easy to keep a marriage passionate And with children underfoot it can seem downright impossible But if you take Dr Harley’s advice, you can have it all— happy children and a terrific marriage www.RevellBooks.com ENJOY A ROMANTIC, PASSIONATE, lifelong marriage! r Harley has spent more than thirty years helping couples create, re-create, and sustain romantic love In this foundational book, he provides you with all the tools you’ll need to fall in love and stay in love with your spouse D www.RevellBooks.com Why people fall in love? Why they fall out of love? What they want most in marriage? What drives them out of marriage? How can a bad marriage become a great marriage? Dr Harley’s basic concepts address these and other important aspects of marriage building At www.marriagebuilders.com Dr Harley introduces visitors to some of the best ways to overcome marital conflicts and some of the quickest ways to restore love From the pages of “Basic Concepts” and articles by Dr Harley to the archives for his weekly Q&A columns and information about upcoming seminars, this site is packed with useful material Let Marriage Builders™ help you build a marriage to last a lifetime! www.marriagebuilders.com