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TE AM FL Y YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR THAT?! How to Win at Money Without Losing at Love Natalie H Jenkins Scott M Stanley William C Bailey Howard J Markman YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR THAT?! YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR THAT?! How to Win at Money Without Losing at Love Natalie H Jenkins Scott M Stanley William C Bailey Howard J Markman Published by Copyright © 2002 by PREP Educational Products, Inc., Natalie H Jenkins, and William C Bailey Jossey-Bass is a registered trademark of John Wiley & Sons, Inc No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning, or otherwise, except as permitted under Sections 107 or 108 of the 1976 United States Copyright Act, without either the prior written permission of the Publisher or authorization through payment of the appropriate per-copy fee to the Copyright Clearance Center, 222 Rosewood Drive, Danvers, MA 01923, (978) 750-8400, fax (978) 750-4744 Requests to the Publisher for permission should be addressed to the Permissions Department, John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 605 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10158-0012, (212) 850-6011, fax (212) 850-6008, e-mail: permreq@wiley.com Jossey-Bass books and products are available through most bookstores To contact Jossey-Bass directly, call (888) 378-2537, fax to (800) 605-2665, or visit our website at www.josseybass.com Substantial discounts on bulk quantities of Jossey-Bass books are available to corporations, professional associations, and other organizations For details and discount information, contact the special sales department at Jossey-Bass This title is also available in print as Bookz ISBN 0–7879–5888–3 Some content that may appear in the print version of this book may not be available in this electronic edition CONTENTS Acknowledgments Introduction ix PART ONE: THE INVISIBLE FORCES Marriage, Money, and Real Life The Master Key 11 33 An Introduction to Invisible Forces 48 The Full Monty: Exposing Hidden Issues Great (and Not So Great) Expectations Where Expectations Come from 72 90 Just How Opposite Is the Opposite Sex? Going Deep 58 108 125 vii .. .YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR THAT?! How to Win at Money Without Losing at Love Natalie H Jenkins Scott M Stanley William C Bailey Howard J Markman YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR THAT?! YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR. .. or two However, we’ve found that You Paid How Much for That?! it’s important to reward yourself for your efforts—whether you succeed or not— and keep getting back in the canoe As long as you keep... and you d have no trouble following it Money is complex because money and finance symbolize so much about how we view life, 14 You Paid How Much for That?! what we think is important, and how