MOST OF THE love we have is possessive: itÕs aboutthe self. That is not true love; it is self-love. When yousee someone who attracts you that feeling is not aboutthe person. We like the person because we have a goodfeeling inside of us when he or she is around. The goodfeeling is all about us. As a result, we want to possessthat person. But what we really want is the goodfeelingÑnot the person! It is an important distinction.
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MOST OF THE love we have is possessive: itÕs about the self That is not true love; it is self-love When you see someone who attracts you that feeling is not about the person We like the person because we have a good feeling inside of us when he or she is around The good feeling is all about us As a result, we want to possess that person But what we really want is the good feelingÑnot the person! It is an important distinction
If love is only about the self, then this relationship will not last Maybe you feel stale or bored The initial excitement and infatuation wears off When the person can no longer give you that good feeling, what do you do? You change partners
If we are able to start relationships with friendliness and loving-kindness, love will develop You will feel a sense of closeness, a softness and tenderness That is when we truly open up We are able to embrace and accommodate We become more understanding and accepting This love is a form of kindness It is not only about caring, protecting, givingÑthere is also in it forgiveness and acceptance You accept the person whole You see their strengths and weaknesses You relax Then you are able to open your heart and mind and accept them
That is a true love
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