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Eric Kim 31 Days to Overcome Your Fear of Shooting Street Photography Street photography has helped me become a better person. Before shooting street photography, I would always let myself get pushed around by other people. If you have this problem as well, stand up for your rights and stand your ground. Not only will doing this help your street photography, but your own personal life as well. 31 Days to Overcome Your Fear of Shooting Street Photography By Eric Kim erickimphotography.com/blog Last edit: 6/19/2012 Layout: okeden.com 2013 Introduction So why did I decide to write this book? Well one quote that I love is from famous hockey player Wayne Gretsky who said: You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. In street photography, one of the biggest problems that most aspiring street photographers is getting over their initial fear of taking photos of strangers in public (without permission). To photograph strangers without their permission is strange. Most societies in the world teach that it is wrong to take a photo of a stranger without their permission. In-fact, we are so socialized against doing this that we are worried what repercussions may happen to us if we do so. We are worried that the photos of others we shoot may become belligerent, yell at us, or even call the police on us. There- fore “normal” people don’t take photographs of strangers without their permission—but who ever said that street photographers were “normal” people? If I could estimate, I have probably shot over 300,000 street photographs in my last ive years in the streets. Out of all of these shots, I have only gotten around 3 really neg- ative responses. The irst encounter involves an old man grabbing my arm and asking me what I was doing, the sec- ond a man in Downtown LA trying to grab my camera from me, and the third being an old Chinese man karate-chop- ping me in the back of the neck (from a bike) when I took a photograph of him during the night with my lash. Needles to say I am still alive (and in great health) and haven’t ever gotten punched, stabbed, or killed (yet). Also if you do the math, 3 really negative experiences out of 300,000 is only .001% which is statistically insigniicant. You are probably more likely to get run over by a car, die in a plane crash, or win the lottery. But other than that, I rarely have issues when shooting strangers. I would argue that the majority of photographs I take of people—people are either charmed by it, honored, or ind it humbling. However it depends on how you do it. If you do it in a sneaky manner and get ‘caught’ – people are going to be pissed o. If you do it openly, honestly, and smile a lot—people won’t feel any negativity towards you. Sure you are going to get some people who look at you funny or some people who ask you to delete the photo—but that’s pretty much the worst that ever happens. For the purposes of this e-book, I wanted to create a 30-day course in which you could overcome your fear of shooting street photography. I am a huge proponent on the idea of “open source” knowledge—information that is shared openly and freely with others. When I irst started street photography overcoming my fear of shooting on the streets was the greatest hurdle for me. Now my heart barely lutters when I take a photograph even half a meter away from somebody. Feel free starting at whatever day feels the most com- fortable for you, and also feel free to skip around a bit if you would like. The rough order it is organized is in diiculty (irst day being that you are extremely afraid of shooting in the You must overcome your fear of success You must overcome your fear of success Bởi: Joe Tye “As far as I’m concerned, people who think they fear failure have got it wrong They really fear success If you truly feared failure, you’d be very successful People who truly fear anything stay as far away from it as possible.” Barbara Sher: I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was I know what you are thinking: when your world has turned upside down, the last thing you need to worry about is the fear of success But that’s not true In fact, that is often when the fear of success can be most insidious Why? Because when your world turns upside down, all sorts of new possibilities might open up Even something as daunting as cancer can create opportunities When Christine Clifford went through treatment for breast cancer, she found the inspiration to found The Cancer Club (www.cancerclub.com) and reach a wider audience as a speaker and author But as we start to imagine our new lives, say as a successful entrepreneur, the alarm bells start to go off If we fail, we’ve lost some time and some money, gained some experience and learned some lessons, and we go back and get a job doing what we were doing before But if we succeed – then we are committed And that can be a frightening prospect Fear of success is far more dangerous than fear of failure, because the subconscious mind works to prevent that which it fears People may fear success because of low selfesteem and a feeling of not deserving it; because it will increase the hassle factor in their lives and what others expect of them; or it will run them headlong into the Peter Principle The symptoms of fear of success include as anxiety, doing work that is less than your best, lack of focus and concentration, not working well under pressure, and not keeping your commitments Here are some steps to overcome fear of success: Clearly define your purpose and goals – what is your One Big Yes and why is it important to you? Why did you choose those goals? Why you deserve to achieve them? What is the service component; how will other people benefit from your success? 1/2 You must overcome your fear of success Study role models who have accomplished similar successes before What did they that you can emulate? Every day, visualize yourself in your new successful role; make it as tangible as possible, a “memory of the future.” Do the thing you most fear to but which you know should be done, and it now Fear of success is sometimes manifested as a sort of internal circuit breaker If it seems like things are going too well or too fast, and you suddenly run out of steam, ask yourself whether or not fear of success has pulled the plug on you, and if so, go plug it back in 2/2 [...]... so you can avoid it Your fears keep you from living the life you want So look at what you re afraid of, and ask yourself what you would do if you weren’t afraid To follow your passion, realize that you don’t have to get rid of your fear You don’t have to be fearless You have to act despite your fear This takes courage And you may not have a lot of courage, which is why it’s important to start small You. .. “Faith means living with uncertainty—feeling your way through life, letting your heart guide you like a lantern in the dark.” You can’t know what your future holds, but you can follow your heart You can let it guide you through the dark You may not be used to listening to your heart You may be used to following your mind and living a “logical” life But have you noticed how illogical that logic is? It... Because what if you allowed yourself to bask in the uncertainty of life? What if you allowed life to take care of itself, while you followed your heart? Try it for a day and you ll notice how much lighter you feel Possible Roadblocks You don’t have to know what your passion is in order to take the next step The only thing you have to do is to listen to your heart and see what next step you FEEL like... example, you may think that you have to quit your job in order to follow your passion That’s an idea that is holding you back, because you don’t have to do anything radical You just have to be willing to start And you can start even if you have just 10 minutes a day to spare There’s no need to wait for anything Time to Write Just for a moment, forget about finding your passion Start by asking yourself, ... themselves Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t get this right away It takes practice to get good at going deeper And you have to let yourself be crappy before you get good You re already doing your best Let that be okay You don’t have to be someone you re not All you have to do is what you are able to do Sounds almost too simplistic, doesn’t it? Time to Write The only thing you have to remember is to... seem real, because that’s their job If your beliefs fell apart at the drop of a hat, your life would be a mess The job of your beliefs is to seem immovable So what would you have to believe in order to find and follow your passion? Do you think you re not worthy of doing something you enjoy? Maybe you think you have nothing to share with the world Maybe you think you don’t have enough time Whatever it... If it is, it’s a sign that you re changing This is a lot like going to the gym Right after, your muscles will hurt, but within a few days, your muscles will have grown stronger, faster and better 11 4 Mindset Question: What would Preface xv ity are present. The man with Alzheimer’s was able to grow tomatoes and vegetables, the woman with Alzheimer’s was able to cook and serve under supervision, and Robby is employed and takes wonderful trips to other cities even though he has a documented mental age of three. Ultimately, Robby has pro- vided his entire family with a gift of humility and love, and a reminder that with love from family, anything is possible. All of these individuals provide loved ones the ongoing lesson of what is really important in life, and they help us to prioritize our “stuff” in meaningful ways. Neural plasticity, the brain’s ability to be shaped by environment, is a miracle that gets nourished with proper environmental input regardless of health or disease. Understanding what that input is and applying it across the life span is the challenge and purpose of a proactive brain health lifestyle. The Brain Health Lifestyle Engage in something new and complex for you today, make a new friend, eat a delicious meal that includes salmon, stop to enjoy the moment or engage in prayer, and walk around your block. Simple tips like these offer a few of the easy changes we can make in our daily routine to begin the process of living a proactive brain health lifestyle. The chapters that follow provide more examples of brain-healthy behaviors for you to consider and to add to your new brain health lifestyle. Prefacexvi The primary message of this book is that we should seek the types of environments that promote brain health. It is from these environments, rich in the novel and complex, that our brains will thrive and build brain reserve to combat the poten- tial presence of neurodegenerative diseases, such as dementia. This underscores the importance of my proactive brain health lifestyle to help the brain delay the onset of neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer’s. I have been witness to so many who have lost access to their life stories and therefore have become disconnected from their loved ones. It is from these experiences that my work on the planet is now focused on helping everyone maintain as healthy a brain as possible. This is the rallying call and the personal message. This book is about you. I hope the message of this book motivates you to love your brain and to begin the process of caring for it from this day on. 1 Introduction You have no greater asset than your life story. It must be shared with your next great generation, the little ones in your life. 7 S itting across the table from a person struggling to recall his name can be an unsettling experience. Perhaps even more diffi cult is the realization on the faces of the family members that their father or grandfather is no longer capable of recog- nizing them and in some ways has forever been disconnected from them. Brain disease such as Alzheimer’s causes daunting experiences. It is at these moments that we can understand the sheer brilliance and, at the same time, the fragility of the human brain. It is your brain, after all, that contains and expresses your identity, enables your connection to others, creates and stores your memories, and most important, tells your life story. This book is written from the deep emotional reality that exists from sitting at that table hundreds of times in my life. It represents my attempt What is success? What is your definition of success? Before you can achieve success, you need to define what success means to you. Unless you have a clear vision of what success is to you, you cannot work towards it. Success means different things to different people. For some, monetary reward is a measure of success. Yet others have multiple definition of success. I asked several people what they thought success was. One person said that "Success is making loads of money." Another said that success is "Achieving your goals". Some one else said that success is "Fulfilling your potential". An interesting answer was that success is "Making others jealous". We evaluate the success over many areas. It could be career, health, spiritual, emotional, time or financial problems. This person can be successful or all such things. With the other, the other can complete. Success does not have a certain pattern.With me,the best definition I have come across is: "Success is the completion of anything intended." In other words success is finishing what you planned to do. Can not define success for everyone.So think hard about your own definition of success. .. .You must overcome your fear of success Study role models who have accomplished similar successes before What did they that you can emulate? Every day, visualize yourself in your new successful... tangible as possible, a “memory of the future.” Do the thing you most fear to but which you know should be done, and it now Fear of success is sometimes manifested as a sort of internal circuit breaker... like things are going too well or too fast, and you suddenly run out of steam, ask yourself whether or not fear of success has pulled the plug on you, and if so, go plug it back in 2/2