[...]... of the way That part of your life, the significant relationship quadrant as it were, needs to be rock solid and stable and in such a good place it’s not clamoring about in crisis Your dream job is loud and noisy and needs your focus, so your relationship needs to be in order to avoid the explosions And even then you won’t avoid them all Want to throw an easy relationship into chaos? Quit your day job. .. careful, they’ll say And if you don’t have your day job, guess what? You will have to pacify them most of the time You will have to choose the safer but less rewarding route Remember that list of new bosses you got when you quit your job? Your bills and your financial commitments and your spouse’s expectations? Well, in addition to those Dons being demanding, they’re also incredibly tight and inflexible... because the Dons are hungry and refuse to go away empty-handed On the other hand, when you still have your job you don’t have to obsess about the consequences of saying no You can instead focus on the benefits of saying yes to the right opportunities When you keep your day job, all opportunities become surplus propositions rather than deficit remedies You only have to take the ones that suit your dream... demonize our day jobs when we dream We make them enemies of what we really want to do But if you dream the right way and learn how to quit the right way, your day job can actually be your dream job s greatest ally One last word about quitting your job, because maybe you should Initially I was tempted to slam this chapter somewhere in the middle of the book My fear was that the casual reader, the girl... first graders, “How many artists are there in the room?” they all eagerly raise their hands If you ask a roomful of third graders, only a third of the class raises their hands MacKenzie laments, The higher the grade, the fewer children raised their hands By the time I reached sixth grade, no more than one or two did so and then only ever-so-slightly—guardedly—their eyes glancing from side to side... he is sending out every day Nothing, and I mean nothing, fires up your love life like a discussion with your spouse about whether you’ve met your cover letter quota And I promise when he had a day job she never asked him how many reports he filed at work that day This is one of the largest quitting land mines we fail to see When you chase your dream, you need the support of your partner You need that... imperfect circumstances is not a purpose Quitting your job because it feels right is not progress It’s precisely the opposite Want to demonstrate love for your spouse or significant other? Keep your day job while you chase your dream job Want to learn how to be dedicated and focused on your dream? Practice being dedicated and focused at work Want to give your dream the best shot of success? Learn how to be... recognizing the hinge moments isn’t the most difficult part We’ve dreamed about our something for years We’re familiar with the 30,000-foot view It’s seeing things at 10,000 feet and then ten feet and then from the ground that’s so difficult That’s when the obstacles really show up Anyone can dream; it’s the doing that is such a hassle CHAPTER 3 What Lies Between a Day Job and a Dream Job You didn’t... need a project and some progress at all times (I think women need these things too, but having spent the last thirty-five years of my life on the boy side of the ball, this is the role I understand) I know men in their fifties who have not held full-time jobs for decades by their own decision They’re not injured or incapable of employment; they just don’t like to be tied down and so they flitter about,... Quitting a job doesn’t jump-start a dream because dreams take planning, purpose and progress to succeed That stuff has to happen before you quit your day job Often it should occur months and even years before You’ve probably heard the axiom “Success always comes when preparation meets opportunity.” 4 It’s true, and the opportunity to quit your job will always be there The real question is whether you’ve . The jobs I quit were 40-hour-a-week, 401(k)-offering, health-insurance–transferring, me-in-a- plain-colored-cubicle jobs. These were career jobs for most of my coworkers, and in a period of twelve. class="bi x0 y0 w0 h0" alt="" Quitter CLOSING THE GAP BETWEEN YOUR DAY JOB & YOUR DREAM JOB Jon Acuff © 2011 Lampo Licensing, LLC Published by Lampo Press, The Lampo Group, Inc. Brentwood,. Your Day Job CHAPTER 2 Removing The “I’m” From Your “But” CHAPTER 3 What Lies Between a Day Job and a Dream Job CHAPTER 4 Falling in Like With a Job You Don’t Love CHAPTER 5 Wait on the