Relationships building and sustaining of, 12, 66, 67, 68–71, 74, 82 flexibility in, 102 management of, 129–130 role in organizational savvy, 80 Rescuing behavior, 61–62 Resentment, as self-defeating emotion, 21 Resilience, as self-management competency, 12, 42–45 assessment of, 42–45, 50, 166 Resistance, 120, 124–125 Resumes, fraudulent or misleading, 141–142 Retention, of employees, 2, 116, 119 Sarcasm, 150 Self-awareness, 8, 11–12, 15–31, 157 in combination with self-control, 36 competencies associated with, 11, 16–24 accurate self-assessment, 11, 16, 26–28, 29–30, 157, 163–166 emotional and inner awareness, 11, 16, 20–26, 29, 157, 162–165 impact on others, 11, 16–20, 29, 157, 161–164 effect on sales performance, 16–17 interaction with self-control, 9 as internal function, 9 “in the moment,” 45–47 lack of, 16–18 Self-confidence lack of, 147–148 as personal influence competency, 13, 86–91, 107 assessment of, 87–91, 107 differentiated from arrogance, 87, 90 examples of, 87–88 relationship to narcissism, 90–91 Self-control, 8, 9, 11–12, 33–51 in combination with self-awareness, 36 competencies associated with, 12 courage or assertiveness, 34, 39–42, 158, 165–168 emotional expression, 34, 35–39, 157–160, 164–167 “in the moment,” 45–47, 167 planning the tone of conversations, 34, 47–49, 167 resilience, 34, 42–45, 158, 166 interaction with self-awareness, 9 Self-doubt, 147–148 Self-esteem, 2 Self-management. See Self-control Self-talk, 21 Seligman, Martin, 146 Senge, Peter, 75 Service orientation, 12, 54, 58–62, 63, 94 assessment of, 60–63, 169 Setting the Table (Meyer), 59 Skepticism, 150–151 Skills and abilities, self-awareness of, 11, 16 assessment of, 27–30 Skills audits, 2 Social bonds, 10 Social expertness, 8, 12–13, 65–84, 158 competencies associated with, 10, 12–13, 66–84 building relationships, 66, 68–71, 82, 158, 169–172 collaboration, 10, 12–13, 66, 71–74, 82, 158, 170 conflict resolution, 66, 74–78, 82, 158, 171 organizational savvy, 66, 67, 78–81, 83, 158, 171–174 as external function, 10 Social Intelligence (Albrecht), 68 Stress, job-related, 116 Teammates, 59, 75 Teamwork, aversion to, 148 Technical excellence/skills, 2–3, 78 Thoughts, relationship to behavior, 5 Trust, 135, 138 University of Texas, 152 University of Toledo, 151–152 Values, 139. See also Mastery of purpose and vision conflicted, 136, 138 corporate/organizational, 34, 136 one’s understanding of, 130–132, 139 Verification, of job applicants credentials, 141–142, 145–146 Victimization, feelings of, 146 Vision. See Mastery of purpose and vision Work climate, positive, 13, 116–121, 126 assessment of, 118–121, 126, 177–180 benefits of, 116 effect on job stress, 116 examples of, 117 Workforce, older adults in, 1–2 World’s Most Powerful Leadership Principles, The (Hunter), 115–116 184 INDEX ABOUT THE AUTHOR Adele B. Lynn is the founder of The Adele Lynn Leadership Group, an international consulting and training firm that helps leaders forge trusting relationships. She is a frequent keynote speaker who inspires leaders to create an emotional climate conducive to high performance. Her company also provides resources for trainers, coaches, and human resource professionals. 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