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What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt
and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job
Gary Namie, PhD & Ruth Namie, PhD
“ is is the best book on what workplace bullies do
and how to stop them in their tracks.”
— Robert I. Su on,
Stanford professor and author of e No Asshole Rule
Gary Namie, PhD
and Ruth Namie, PhD
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data for the first edition:
Namie, Gary
The bully at work: what you can do to stop the hurt and reclaim your dignity
on the job / Gary Namie, Ruth Namie.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
1. Bullying in the workplace. I. Namie, Ruth. II. Title.
HF5549.5.E43 N348 2000
650.1’3—dc21
00-024737
Printed and bound in the United States of America
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In memory of Lillian and Florence and to Pat,
the three women who always gave unconditional love and support.
In memory of Heinz Leymann and Andrea Adams, pioneers.
Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot
of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of
hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy
and daring, those ripples build a current which can sweep down the
mightiest walls of oppression and injustice.
—Robert F. Kennedy
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Dear Reader:
This book contains information, suggestions, and opinions about
improving the quality of people’s lives from the authors. The use,
misuse, understanding, or misunderstanding of the material, in whole
or part, is the sole responsibility of the reader.
Neither the publisher nor authors assume responsibility or liability,
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contained in this book. The authors do not represent themselves as
licensed psychologists or mental health professionals.
Readers are advised to use this material in a safe and logical
manner. In some cases, this material is most effective when used in
conjunction with professional legal and/or counseling services.
Disclaimer
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Acknowledgments ix
Preface xi
Introduction xiii
Section One: The Workplace Bullying Phenomenon:
Silent Epidemic
1. Bullying at Work 3
2. Understanding Bullies 21
3. Targethood: An Undeserved Burden 53
4. The Irreconcilable Difference 75
5. Witness Paralysis 85
6. Help from Family and Professionals 97
7. Getting Ready to Confront 115
Section Two: After the Assault, Restoring the Lost You
8. Work Trauma: Understand the Injuries Done to You 133
9. Assess the Bully’s Impact 149
10. Establish and Protect Personal Boundaries 163
11. Avoid Unattainable Standards 179
12. Counter Your Inner Critic 185
13. Control Destructive Mind Games 191
14. Escape the Trap of Self-Blame 197
Table of Contents
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15. Satisfy Your Needs and Wants 207
16. Anger and Shame: Emotions of Bullying 217
Section Three: What Can One Person Do?
17. Make Yourself Safe 231
18. Facing the Future 245
Section Four: Making Employers Responsible
19. The World Declares War on Bullying 255
20. America Wakes Up 267
Appendix A: U.S. Workplace Bullying Survey
—September 2007 289
Appendix B: Employer and Co-worker Response Survey
—Labor Day 2008 315
Bibliography 323
Index 329
The Drs. Namie: North American
Workplace Bullying Pioneers 335
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The Bully at Work
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Acknowledgments
S
ome of the most beautiful things in Nature are the giant sequoia
and redwood trees that grow in Ruth’s native California. Nature,
in her wisdom, only allows new growth of these trees to come from
destruction of the seed pod by fire. It was through personal destruction
and pain that our cause was born.
At the top of the list to thank are the thousands of anonymous
people who visit with us virtually at the website or by telephone to
share their stories, seek advice, or look for support. They, in turn,
launched the Workplace Bullying Institute, the U.S. anti-bullying
movement, with their sacrifices.
Friend and ally David Yamada, Suffolk University law professor,
is the legal pioneer whose treatise on workplace bullying in 2000
launched the legal reform aspect of our work. He authored the
language for the Healthy Workplace Bill introduced in state legisla-
tures throughout America. We are also blessed by the friendship of
overseas experts who encourage the introduction of bullying aware-
ness to the United States—Andy Ellis, Susan Marais-Steinman,
Michael Sheehan, Charlotte Rayner, Helge Hoel, and Ståle
Einarsen—and domestic academicians Loraleigh Keashly and Joel
Neuman. The growing group of citizen lobbyist volunteers who
comprise the WBI-Legislative Campaign Coordinators inspire and
motivate us constantly.
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[...]... frustrated the person by ignoring or denying repeated complaints about mistreatment at work That is, when the victims are an EEO officer, a Human Resources staffer, or the boss of the bully, then we can attribute the 17 The Bully at Work violence to unaddressed bullying Sadly, the knee-jerk, simplistic story told is that the shooter was a wacko Reporters interview the bullying supervisor who defames the employee... Introduction bullying All international laws firmly fix responsibility for prevention and correction on employers The United States is dead last The final chapter shares the hopeful story of the WBI-Legislative Campaign and its attempt to have U.S worker protections catch up with the rest of the world xv Section One The Workplace Bullying Phenomenon: Silent Epidemic Chapter One: Bullying at Work All the great... for them, there is no reason to change At work as adults, 14 Bullying at Work they do what they do best—bully others An unknown percentage of workplace bullies have a lifelong record of disrespecting the needs of others Of course, the cues given off in a super-competitive workplace will draw out the dark side of many others who were not bullies in a prior life, witnesses perhaps, but rarely Targets The. .. cooperation and communication, violence has occurred —Bernice Fields, Arbitrator Zero-tolerance workplace violence policy clauses enable a manager to provoke workers over the course of several years and to terminate them immediately if they dare to counter with an emotional verbal threat The workplace has become a police state for some based on irrational fears 16 Bullying at Work One federal worker,... Interviews began The Bully at Work when we offered toll-free advice starting in 1998 Financial complications from the practice compelled its termination, but we learned much of what we know from those who shared their suffering The Namies educate the public Their bullying- related research and work have been featured numerous times on network TV—CNBC, The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Early Show,... require that Targets make tremendous sacrifices to stop the bullying In our WBI-Zogby Survey, we asked what stopped the bullying Forty percent of Targets quit their jobs, which represents the preventable loss of 21.6 million workers (based on the estimated 54 million who are bullied) at a time when employers face critical shortages of skilled workers Further, if one makes the conservative estimate that half... fight for justice began in 1998 with the founding of the Campaign Against Workplace Bullying The nonprofit organization morphed during its first decade into the Workplace Bullying Institute, which serves Americans and Canadians The accomplishments of which we are most proud are that we imported the British term “workplace bullying to the United States, started the national dialogue, and sustain it in... helplessness Bullying is DV in which the abuser is on the payroll Co-workers are the do-nothing witnesses Executives and senior managers are apologists for the bully Soon, the Target comes to doubt her or his ability to get to safety again The paycheck and the perception, real or imagined, that no alternatives exist form the bars that imprison the Target In 2005, the National Institute for Occupational... and strategic assaults to prevent the Target from performing work well It is illegitimate conduct in that it prevents work from getting done Thus, an employer’s legitimate business interests are not met The bully puts her or his personal agenda of controlling another human being above the needs of the employing organization That control is typically a combination of deliberate humiliation and the withholding... Americans are affected by it 4 Bullying at Work According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 146 million Americans were employed in July 2007 That means an estimated 54 million Americans have been bullied at work, using the 37 percent rate Even the more conservative 13 percent rate (those currently experiencing it) places 19 million American workers at risk It’s an epidemic The epidemic is hardly discussed, . Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data for the first edition:
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