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Listening: 20 TED Talks hours of Gap-filling for better listening Book 1: Talks 1-10 By T u Pham (IELTS Speaking 0) and I PP Prep Team Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and s trategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham Contents LINKS TO TALKS 2 EXERCISES 3 How to raise successful kids without over parenting 3 Perspective is everything 11 My stroke of insight 25 The global food waste scandal 36 The missing link to renewable energy 43 Do schools kill creativity? 49 The rise of the new global super-rich 67 Why I must speak out about climate change 74 How public spaces make cities work 82 10 What we when antibiotics don't work any more? 89 KEY 98 How to raise successful kids without over parenting Perspective is everything 98 108 My stroke of insight 121 The global food waste scandal 131 The missing link to renewable energy 138 Do schools kill creativity? 145 The rise of the new global super-rich 163 Why I must speak out about climate change 169 How public spaces make cities work 177 10 What we when antibiotics don't work any more? 185 1 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham LINKS TO TALKS How to raise successful kids without over parenting https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_ how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_par enting Perspective is everything https://www.ted.com/talks/rory_sutherland_per spective_is_everything My stroke of insight https://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_my_ stroke_of_insight The global food waste scandal https://www.ted.com/talks/tristram_stuart_the_ global_food_waste_scandal The missing link to renewable energy https://www.ted.com/talks/donald_sadoway_th e_missing_link_to_renewable_energy Do schools kill creativity? https://www.ted.com/talks/sir_ken_robinson_do _schools_kill_creativity?language=en The rise of the new global super-rich https://www.ted.com/talks/chrystia_freeland_th e_rise_of_the_new_global_super_rich?language =en Why I must speak out about climate change https://www.ted.com/talks/james_hansen_why_ i_must_speak_out_about_climate_change?lang uage=en How public spaces make cities work https://www.ted.com/talks/amanda_burden_ho w_public_spaces_make_cities_work?language= en https://www.ted.com/talks/maryn_mckenna_w 10 What we when antibiotics hat_do_we_do_when_antibiotics_don_t_work_a don't work any more? ny_more?language=en 2 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham EXERCISES How to raise successful kids without over parenting 00:04 You know, I didn't set out to be a parenting _1. In fact, I'm not very _2 in parenting, per se. It's just that there's a _3 style of parenting these days that is kind of _4 kids, impeding their chances to _5 into themselves. There's a certain style of parenting these days that's getting in the way. 00:28 I _6 what I'm saying is, we _7 a lot of time being very concerned about parents who aren't _8 enough in the lives of their kids and their _9 or their _10, and rightly so. But at the other end of the _11, there's a lot of harm going on there as well, where parents feel a kid can't be _12 unless the parent is protecting and _13 at every turn and hovering over every _14, and micromanaging every _15, and steering their kid towards some small subset of _16 and careers. 01:02 When we raise kids this way, and I'll say we, because Lord knows, in raising my two teenagers, I've had these tendencies myself, our kids end up leading a kind of checklisted childhood. 01:16 And here's what the checklisted _17 looks like. We keep them safe and sound and fed and watered, and then we want to be _18 they go to the right schools, that they're in the right classes at the right schools, and that they get the right grades in the right classes in the right schools. But not just the grades, the 3 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham scores, and not just the grades and scores, but the accolades and the _19 and the sports, the activities, the _20. We tell our kids, don't just join a club, _21 a club, because colleges want to see that. And check the box for _22 I mean, show the colleges you _23 about others. 01:49 (Laughter) 01:51 And all of this is done to some hoped-for _24 of perfection. We expect our kids to perform at a level of perfection we were never asked to perform at ourselves, and so because so much is _25, we think, well then, of course we parents have to _26 with every teacher and _27 and coach and _28 and act like our kid's concierge and personal handler and secretary. 02:19 And then with our kids, our precious kids, we spend so much time nudging, cajoling, hinting, _29, haggling, nagging as the case may be, to be sure they're not screwing up, not closing doors, not _30 their future, some hoped-for _31 to a tiny handful of colleges that deny almost every applicant. 02:46 And here's what it feels like to be a kid in this checklisted childhood. First of all, there's no time for free play. There's no room in the _32, because everything has to be enriching, we think. It's as if every piece of _33, every quiz, every activity is a make-or-break moment for this _34 we have in mind for them, and we absolve them of _35 around the house, and we even absolve them of getting enough _36 as long as they're _37 the items on their checklist. And in the checklisted childhood, we say we just want them to be happy, 4 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham but when they come home from school, what we ask about all too often first is their _38 and their _39. And they see in our faces that our _40, that our love, that their very worth, comes from A's. And then we walk alongside them and offer clucking praise like a _41 at the Westminster Dog Show 03:45 (Laughter) 03:46 coaxing them to just jump a little higher and soar a little farther, day after day after day. And when they get to high school, they don't say, "Well, what might I be interested in studying or doing as an activity?" They go to _42 and they say, "What do I need to do to get into the right college?" And then, when the grades start to roll in in high school, and they're getting some B's, or God forbid some C's, they frantically _43 their friends and say, "Has anyone ever gotten into the right college with these grades?" 04:21 And our kids, regardless of where they end up at the end of high school, they're _44. They're brittle. They're a little _45. They're a little old before their time, wishing the grown-ups in their lives had said, "What you've done is enough, this effort you've put forth in childhood is enough." And they're withering now under high rates of _46 and depression and some of them are wondering, will this life ever _47 to have been worth it? 04:53 Well, we parents, we parents are pretty sure it's all worth it. We seem to behave it's like we literally think they will have no future if they don't get into one of these tiny sets of colleges or careers we have in mind for them. 5 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham 05:09 Or maybe, maybe, we're just afraid they won't have a future we can brag about to our friends and with stickers on the backs of our cars Yeah. 05:22 (Applause) 05:28 But if you look at what we've done, if you have the _48 to really look at it, you'll see that not only do our kids think their worth comes from grades and scores, but that when we live right up inside their _49 developing minds all the time, like our very own version of the movie "Being John Malkovich," we send our children the _50: "Hey kid, I don't think you can actually achieve any of this without me." And so with our overhelp, our _51 and over-direction and hand-holding, we _52 our kids of the chance to build self-efficacy, which is a really _53 tenet of the human psyche, far more important than that _54 they get every time we applaud. Self-efficacy is built when one sees that one's own actions lead to outcomes, not There you go. 06:21 (Applause) 06:25 Not one's parents' actions on one's _55, but when one's own actions lead to _56. So simply put, if our children are to develop self-efficacy, and they must, then they have to do a whole lot more of the thinking, planning, deciding, doing, hoping, _57, trial and error, dreaming and _58 of life for themselves. 6 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham 06:52 Now, am I saying every kid is hard-working and motivated and doesn't need a parent's involvement or interest in their lives, and we should just back off and let go? Hell no. 07:04 (Laughter) 07:06 That is not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is, when we treat grades and scores and accolades and _59 as the purpose of childhood, all in furtherance of some hoped-for _60 to a tiny number of colleges or _61 to a small number of careers, that that's too _62 a definition of success for our kids. And even though we might help them achieve some _63 wins by over-helping like they get a better grade if we help them do their homework, they might end up with a longer childhood _64 when we help what I'm saying is that all of this comes at a long-term cost to their sense of self. What I'm saying is, we should be less concerned with the _65 set of colleges they might be able to apply to or might get into and far more concerned that they have the _66, the mindset, the skill set, the wellness, to be _67 wherever they go. What I'm saying is, our kids need us to be a little less _68 with grades and scores and a whole lot more interested in childhood providing a foundation for their success built on things like love and chores. 08:19 (Laughter) 08:22 7 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham (Applause) 08:26 Did I just say chores? Did I just say chores? I really did. But really, here's why. The longest longitudinal _69 of humans ever _70 is called the Harvard Grant Study. It found that professional success in life, which is what we want for our kids, that professional success in life _71 having done chores as a kid, and the earlier you started, the better, that a roll-up-your-sleeves- and-pitch-in mindset, a mindset that says, there's some _72 work, someone's got to do it, it might as well be me, a mindset that says, I will _73 my effort to the _74 of the whole, that that's what gets you ahead in the _75. Now, we all know this. You know this. 09:08 (Applause) 09:11 We all know this, and yet, in the checklisted childhood, we absolve our kids of doing the work of chores around the house, and then they end up as _76 in the workplace still waiting for a checklist, but it doesn't _77, and more importantly, lacking the impulse, the _78 to roll up their sleeves and pitch in and look around and wonder, how can I be useful to my _79? How can I _80 a few steps ahead to what my boss might need? 09:39 A second very important finding from the Harvard Grant Study said that _81 in life comes from love, not love of work, love of humans: our spouse, our partner, our friends, our family. So childhood needs to teach our kids how to love, and they can't love others if they don't first love themselves, and they won't love themselves if we can't offer them _82 love. 8 Follow & Subscribe for more learning materials and strategies Fb: w ww.facebook.com/phamquangtu | Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/thaytupham 10:08 (Applause) 10:13 Right. And so, instead of being obsessed with grades and scores when our precious _83 come home from school, or we come home from work, we need to close our _84, put away our phones, and look them in the eye and let them see the _85 that fills our faces when we see our child for the first time in a few hours. And then we have to say, "How was your day? What did you like about today?" And when your teenage daughter says, "Lunch," like mine did, and I want to hear about the math test, not lunch, you still have to _86 in lunch. You gotta say, "What was great about lunch today?" They need to know they matter to us as _87, not because of their GPA. 11:03 All right, so you're thinking, chores and love, that sounds all well and good, but give me a break. The colleges want to see top scores and grades and accolades and awards, and I'm going to tell you, sort of. The very biggest brand-name schools are asking that of our _89, but here's the good news. Contrary to what the college rankings racket would have us believe 11:29 (Applause) 11:35 you don't have to go to one of the biggest brand name schools to be happy and successful in life. Happy and successful people went to _90 went to a small 9 ... https://www .ted. com /talks/ rory_sutherland_per spective_is_everything My stroke of insight https://www .ted. com /talks/ jill_bolte_taylor_my_ stroke_of_insight The global food waste scandal https://www .ted. com /talks/ tristram_stuart_the_... kill creativity? https://www .ted. com /talks/ sir_ken_robinson_do _schools_kill_creativity?language=en The rise of the new global super-rich https://www .ted. com /talks/ chrystia_freeland_th e_rise_of_the_new_global_super_rich?language... climate change https://www .ted. com /talks/ james_hansen_why_ i_must_speak_out_about_climate_change?lang uage=en How public spaces make cities work https://www .ted. com /talks/ amanda_burden_ho w_public_spaces_make_cities_work?language=
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