eye contact and handshaking

 Introduction:  Body part:  Eye contact The definition Eye contact in different cultures In the United States In Western Europe In the Middle East In Asia, Latin America and Africa  Handshaking Origin and definition of handshake Various ways and meanings of handshake  Conclusion:  Questions and suggested answers Definition of eye contact • Eye contact is a non-verbal communication It means one person looking directly at another person’s eye Eye Contact in the United States • If you have good eye contact with a person, it generally signifies that you are interested in the person you are looking at and in what he or she is saying • If you look down or away from a person while he or she is talking to you, you are considered to be distracted or uninterested in him or her • Also, if you neglect to make eye contact with a person, you may be thought to lack self-confidence • A person who makes eye contact with another person is thought to be confident and bold In summary, making eye contact is generally considered a good thing in the United States Eye Contact in Western Europe Eye contact is a custom in Western Europe, especially in such countries as Spain, France and Germany It is considered proper and polite to maintain almost constant eye contact with another person during a business exchange or a conversation In some cases, using eye contact in Europe is very different with the U.S – In the U.S., people often avoid eye contact in crowded impersonal public situations—such as while walking through a busy downtown or riding public transportation – In France, a stranger may feel quite free to look at someone he is interested in and try to show his interest by making eye contact  To sum up, it is important for a visitor to understand the full implications of what his or she partner may be implying by returning the eye contact initiated by the partner Eye Contact in the Middle East • Eye contact is much less common and considered less appropriate in many of the cultures than it is considered in the USA • Middle Eastern cultures have strict rules regarding eye contact • These rules are connected to religious laws about appropriateness • Western women traveling in Muslim areas should not expect that no man will attempt to make eye contact with them Eye Contact in Asia, Latin America and Africa • Eye contact can be taken as a challenge of authority • It is often considered more polite to have only sporadic or brief eye contact, especially between people of different social registers (like a student and a teacher, or a child and his elder relatives) • The rule of thumb is to be careful about the eye contact you make with anyone that could be seen as a social superior Staring at a superior will be seen as a challenge or a sign of disrespect Antiochus I of Commagene, shaking hands with Heracles 7038 BC, British Museum Funerary stele of Thrasea and Euandria Marble, ca 375-350 BC Antikensammlung Berlin, Pergamon Museum, 738 Various ways and its meaning of Handshake The Two-Handed Shake During this handshake, the person's right hand will grab yours while the left hand grasps your wrist, forearm, biceps, shoulder, or neck The higher the left hand, the greater the manipulation and control  This is the favorite handshake of politicians Because it implies a quick sincerity and intimacy This person is trying to sell you something that's not really there, e.g., "we're great buddies." He or she would probably not make a good salesperson because other people will tend not to trust this "used car salesman" shake The Push-Off • At the end of the shake, your hand is pushed away • It could be read as a negative message • This handshake implies that the other person has a strong need to establish his or her own power The Pull-In • It speaks of a controlling body language • This person holds on to your hand to pull you closer • This type of person may not be a good team player • If the organization's goals conflict with this person's goals, there will be a problem The Topper • This handshake says "I'm in charge, I'm the Boss." • It tends to be the handshake of the boss or manager who manages through control • If this person is too controlling, this can limit his/her effectiveness with other people The Palm Pinch • This person just offers you two or three fingers • It is usually given by a woman who hasn't learned how to shake hands properly • This person will tend not to be very good at interpersonal skills The Finger Squeeze • This kind of handshake will hurt your hand • This is a very insecure type of person who equates brute strength with personal power • They use their hands as weapons to dominate and overpower other people • These days, some women are misguidedly using this kind of handshake The Dead Fish • It tends to drain your energy • This individual tends to be somewhat passive • Dead Fish hand shakers probably won't have the energy and interest necessary for that type of work Some notes in the first meeting • Never truth anyone who can not look you in the eye • Immediately after introductions are made, there is a small talk Usually speaker initiate start small talk with such questions as: “do you live in this area?”, “what’s your job?” • It’s considered to be impolite to ask “how much money you make?”, “how old are you?” They are too personal for the first meeting Questioning • Is shaking hands with your opponent after playing a tennis match a good sportsmanship whether you have won or lost? • Why should we maintain eye contact while engaging shaking hands? • Why a man should wait until the woman extends her hand first? Question Why a man should wait until the woman extends her hand first? • Most businesswomen feel comfortable shaking hands However, many women are not acquainted with shaking hand so she may be uncomfortable or ashamed • So it simply prevents the embarrassment of waiting to shake the hand of a women who doesn't follow the practice Question 2: Why should we maintain eye contact while engaging shaking hands? • We should maintain eye contact while engaging shaking hands because nothing will communicate self-confidence, sincerity, and camaraderie more than this gesture Question Is shaking hands with your opponent after playing a tennis match a good sportsmanship whether you have won or lost? • It is a good action in sport When you don't shake hands, you are really just telling someone I don't like you and I don't want to be here, nor I deserve to be here ... part:  Eye contact The definition ? ?Eye contact in different cultures In the United States In Western Europe In the Middle East In Asia, Latin America and Africa  Handshaking Origin and definition... Handshaking Origin and definition of handshake Various ways and meanings of handshake  Conclusion:  Questions and suggested answers Definition of eye contact • Eye contact is a non-verbal communication... A handshake is a short ritual in which two people grasp one of each other''s opposite hands, and most cases accompanied by a brief up and down movement of the grasped hands Hera and Athena handshaking