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Find your creative courage today INTERVIEW Keira Knightley “We need to find our own heroes” SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE Take control of the chaos, declutter and get organised Discover secrets to create an easier life today wear a mantra We create meaningful jewellery, designed to inspire and uplift Each piece symbolises a specific mantra, intended to make a postive impact on the way that you feel “A piece of jewellery can’t change the world But it can change the way you feel And that can change your world,” Jo Stroud, Mantra Founder *Use code PSYCH15 at checkout Offer valid until 31st May 2019 Discover the world of mantra at: www.mantrajewellery.co.uk 0845 4509334 READER OFFER 15% discount to Psychologies readers* Contents SPRING 2019 Page 96 * COVER STORY REGULARS Page 38 Page 58 Page 130 Page 17 Page 20 Page 50 Page 64 Page 61 Cover: Maarten de Boer/ The Licensing Project EDITOR’S LET TER LET TERS I’D LIKE TO THANK … 11 THE FIX 19 HARRIET MINTER 42 DIARY 102 THE WORDS 130 * HAPPINESS BOOK CLUB 20 * INTERVIEW Keira Knightley Be part of our club! Our online coaching club is free to all subscribers (see page 80) Access interactive videos, podcasts and downloadable workbooks, plus join a kind community of like-minded people Change your life at psychologies.co.uk/lifeleap-club-new-subscribers “I love a challenge If I don’t get out of my comfort zone, I get bored” FEATURES 17 24 MOTHERHOOD AND ME Stepmum Barbara Meakin’s journey to the heart of her blended family 28 MY LIFE, MY WAY Physicist Melanie Windridge feeds her need for adventure on Everest PHOTOGRAPH: STOCKSY * STOP TRYING SO HARD Instead of slaving away resentfully, Heidi Scrimgeour pleases herself FREE £37! SUCCEED AND BE CONTENT Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim shares his wisdom on fulfilment 38 GIFT WORTH * 44 SHARED VALUES The principles and passions of activist and author Rose McGowan 50 * ‘HELP ME WITH MY TEENAGER’ Agony aunt Mary Fenwick assists three readers with dilemmas 64 * THE DOSSIER Simplify your life 66 THE EASY LIFE SPRING CLEAN Anita Chaudhuri explores the latest psychological insights to find practical, uncomplicated tools for a streamlined life 72 FREE ‘GO SLOW’ COURSE Editor-in-Chief Suzy Walker issues an invitation to launch your own Life Leap Club, and find a simpler way of living together 74 ‘EVERY ASPECT OF MY LIFE IS BETTER’ A few easy strategies at home and work ensure businesswoman Claire Hurst achieves the order and calm she needs 76 WHAT’S STOPPING YOU? If you yearn for a smoother road, but feel overwhelmed, take our test to find out what type of thinking causes all that chaos S P R I N G P SYC H O LO G I E S M AG A Z I N E Contents SPRING 2019 FEATURES 52 TO HEAVEN AND BACK People who have had a near-death experience say it changed them Jini Reddy looks for answers 57 ORGASMIC LIFE: EMBRACING YOUNG ME Karla Newbey’s sexual journey continues 58 * ‘OUR OFFICE DYNAMIC IS TOXIC’ * NOT SO SMARTPHONE Award-winning coach Kim Morgan helps a struggling manager deal with workplace conflict 61 Suzy Walker begins a life-changing experiment in search of a calmer life First up, her phone addiction 62 IT’S JUST A JOB! Analytical straight talker Oliver Burkeman has the Last Word on being happier in work you don’t love THE RETREAT 10 HE AL ME , MOTHER GREECE In need of serenity and reflection, Suzy Walker and Caroline Sylger Jones take time out in the sun #360ME 108 ESCAPE TO WITCH MOUNTAIN Vee Sey and her daughter explore the lore and have a bonding experience in Italy’s Sarntal Alps 110 Sign up now! Get your weekly fix! PHOTOGRAPH: STOCKSY 90 WHEN YOU’RE TRYING to create positive change, it can be challenging to stay on track So, sign up for our weekly uplifting dose of inspiration, with videos from top coaches, practical articles on how to thrive, not just survive, and inspirational and joy-filled quotes to brighten your inbox, and your week Go to bit.ly/2KN0B8z P SYC H O LO G I E S M AG A Z I N E S P R I N G THE OPEN MIND Wellbeing Director-at-Large Eminé Kali Rushton considers the two types of women in her family, and ponders the path her children may follow HEALTHY EVERYDAY PASTA Delicious lighter versions of classic dishes from food stylist and writer Julia Azzarello THE PL AN Expert advice in four holistic sections – Mind, Body, Spirit and Gut – for happiness, and pleasure A COLOURFUL CONCOCTION Treat your rooms like recipes, with vivid elements fusing with love for a soulful and harmonious result 120 84 93 ECO WORRIER Ellen Tout makes it her mission to stop wasting food and introduces us to ‘compleating’ 95 WHOLISTIC WOMAN Bestselling author and nutritional therapist Henrietta Norton discusses keeping our bones strong during the menopause and beyond 96 * JOIN OUR MINDFUL HE ALTH CLUB Develop habits to revolutionise your vitality in our new series with Editor-at-Large Ali Roff, who savours the benefits of intuitive eating this month 99 RE AL NUTRITION Our Nutrition Editor, Eve Kalinik, takes a tea break for a good old-fashioned cuppa – and a biccie! 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GO TO bit.ly/2KN0B8z SPRIN G 201 PSYCHOLO GIES MAGA ZINE n me wo ca nc er Dream Challenges Cycle Croatia 14 -18 May 2020 Cycle 300km along the beautiful Dalmatian Coast in Croatia and raise funds to support those affected by breast, cervical and ovarian cancers For more information and to register online: www.dream-challenges.com t: 01590 646410 e: events@dream-challenges.com To take part you need to pay a registration fee of £149 and raise minimum sponsorship funds of £1,850 Registered Charity Nos: Jo’s Cervical Cancer Trust: 1133542/SC041236, Ovarian Cancer Action: 1109743/SC043478, Breast Cancer Care: 1017658/SC038104 From April 2019 Breast Cancer Care will merge with Breast Cancer Now after that date all donations will go to Breast Cancer Care and Breast Cancer Now a charity registered in England and Wales (No 1160558) and Scotland (SC045584) Women V Cancer is established under Giving Works Registered Charity No 1078770 PHOTOGRAPH: GETTY IMAGES 118 P SYC H O LO G I E S M AG A Z I N E S P R I N G good thoughts “ SHE REMEMBERED WHO SHE WAS AND THE GAME CHANGED LALAH DELIAH ” S P R I N G P SYC H O LO G I E S M AG A Z I N E 119 feasting the retreat Pasta fantastica! Trying to be healthy and avoiding pasta? You don’t have to! New book Skinny Pasta is full of lighter interpretations of classic dishes that everyone can enjoy RECIPES JULIA AZZARELLO PHOTOGRAPHS TARA FISHER EDITED BY DANIELLE WOODWARD C ook, recipe writer and food stylist, and author of new book Skinny Pasta, Julia Azzarello, sets the record straight on pasta: ‘Many who love pasta also fear it, but it is not fattening, nor is it inherently bad for you Paired with the right sauce, pasta makes a healthy, well-balanced dish.’ PEA AND ORZO RISOTTO Orzo tends to be a bit starchier than other tiny pastas, so I thought it would make a lovely risotto It is also easier than using arborio rice, as you don’t have to stir it so vigilantly The addition of pea shoots at the end gives it a sweet crunch And, with clever swaps and portion sizes, Azzarello has created a book in which each recipe is under 500 calories ‘Meat is used in moderation, or as an addition Likewise, cream, butter and cheese are limited – it is SERVES l tbsp olive oil l shallot, finely only when these foods are consumed in extreme levels chopped that they are harmful,’ she explains Azzarello reassures l garlic clove, minced us that there are plenty of classic pasta main-course l 300g orzo dishes that we can enjoy ‘without feeling as though you l 100ml dry white wine have used all your calories for a week in one sitting!’ l 400ml vegetable Skinny Pasta is packed with colourful, delicious-looking or chicken stock dishes that make the most of seasonal produce and l 150g frozen peas are also practical, easy to cook and less labour-intensive l 50ml single cream than the traditional Italian pasta dishes that nonna l 50g ricotta salata used to make Chapters include Staples, Lunches, or pecorino Romano, Salads, Soups, Fish and Meat Mains and Veggie Mains, grated, plus extra plus there is everything you need to know about pasta shapes and sauces, equipment you may need and for sprinkling l ingredients for your kitchen cupboard There are also suggestions for gluten-, dairy- and egg-free alternatives; chopped l the versatility of pasta means these recipes can be enjoyed by everyone As Azzarello says: ‘Life is too short not to eat pasta!’ We wholeheartedly agree 120 P S YC H O L O G I E S M A G A Z I N E S P R I N G 10g fresh mint, sprigs of tarragon, chopped l 40g pea shoots, to garnish Warm a large, deep pan, then add the oil and shallot and cook for 3-4 minutes Add the garlic and cook for a further minute Tip in the orzo and stir around for minute more, then add the white wine Once the wine has evaporated, pour in the stock and bring to the boil, then reduce to a simmer The orzo should take about 9-10 minutes to cook, but keep an eye on it and stir it occasionally so it doesn’t stick to the bottom of the pan When it is creamy and cooked, stir in the peas, single cream, grated cheese and herbs and cook for minutes Adjust the seasoning to taste Serve in bowls, sprinkled with some extra grated cheese and the pea shoots >>> feasting the retreat GLUTEN-FREE GNOCCHI WITH ROASTED BUTTERNUT SQUASH, BROWN BUTTER AND SAGE The addition of pomegranate seeds rounds off the sweetness of the squash and nuttiness of the butter with just the right amount of acid and tang Plus, it’s a lovely colourful garnish to lift the dish SERVES l 300g butternut squash flesh, cut into small chunks tbsp butter l sage leaves, chopped l 40g Parmesan cheese, grated l 40g pomegranate seeds, to garnish FOR THE GNOCCHI l medium baking potatoes, scrubbed l egg, beaten l 60-80g gluten-free plain flour, plus extra for dusting First, make the gnocchi Preheat the oven to 200°C, gas mark Prick the potatoes with a fork and wrap them in foil Bake for 1-1 hour 20 minutes, or until tender Leave to cool slightly, for about 15 minutes, then scoop out the potato and pass through a ricer You need about 400g Mix in the egg and flour Dust a clean worktop with flour Divide the dough into four equal-sized pieces Roll each one out to a cylinder 20cm long, and cut into 2cm chunks Make grooves on each piece using the back of a fork, then place on a baking tray dusted with flour 122 P S YC H O L O G I E S M A G A Z I N E S P R I N G Bring a large saucepan of salted water to the boil and cook in two batches for minute, or until they float to the top Remove with a slotted spoon and set aside, reserving some cooking water Leftovers can be kept in a sealed container in the fridge, or freeze for two to three months Preheat the oven to 200°C, gas mark Toss the squash with half of the olive oil and spread out evenly on a baking tray Roast for 30-35 minutes Put the remaining oil and the butter in a deep frying pan and cook for 1-2 minutes until browned and it smells nutty Add the gnocchi and sauté for minutes more, then add the roasted squash, sage and a splash of pasta cooking water and toss together Serve on plates topped with grated Parmesan cheese and pomegranate seeds Reader offer Psychologies readers can buy a copy of Skinny Pasta for the special price* of £10.50, plus free postage and packaging (RRP £14.99) To order, please call 01235 759555, quoting code 9952100021 OFFER SUBJECT TO AVAILABILITY PLEASE ALLOW SEVEN DAYS FOR DELIVERY tbsp olive oil l * l ORECCHIETTE WITH BROCCOLI, CHICKEN SAUSAGE AND HARISSA PASTE This dish is a healthier version of the traditional sausage and broccoli because it is made with lean chicken It still packs a lot of flavour into one meal, especially with the zing of harissa and lemon SERVES l l l tbsp olive oil 250g chicken l 2-3 garlic cloves, sliced sausages, removed l 2-3 tbsp harissa paste from casings and cut l tbsp chopped parsley into 2cm chunks l lemon, cut into or 400g fresh l wedges 320g dried orecchiette 125g Tenderstem broccoli, cut into bite-sized pieces l 40g Parmesan cheese, grated Sauté the chicken sausage chunks in a non-stick pan for about 3-4 minutes, until cooked through Drain on kitchen paper and set aside until needed Bring a saucepan of water to the boil, add salt and cook the pasta for 1-2 minutes less than the packet states, or until just al dente Add the broccoli to the pasta for the last minutes of its cooking time Drain, reserving a little of the cooking water Meanwhile, heat a frying pan over a medium heat, add the oil and garlic and cook for minute, then remove from the heat Add the pasta, broccoli and sausage chunks to the pan and toss with the harissa paste and a little of the reserved pasta water Serve in bowls with a squeeze of lemon and a sprinkle of grated Parmesan and parsley the retreat Purple haze Ultra Violet oven mitt, £27; 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Buon appetito! Italy and pasta are synonymous and pasta is so versatile: ravioli parcels of meat and cheese, cannelloni filled with spinach and ricotta and myriad shapes for different sauces Many chefs have passionate love affairs with Italy: Jamie Oliver’s Jamie Cooks Italy (Michael Joseph, £26), Nigella Lawson’s Nigellissima (Chatto & Windus, £20) and Gino D’Acampo’s Gino’s Italian Adriatic Escape (Hodder & Stoughton, £20) And don’t forget the godfather, Antonio Carluccio, whose legacy lives on in Carluccio’s restaurants These new cookbooks will show you the way The Dirty Dishes: 100 Fast And Delicious Recipes by Isaac Carew (Pan Macmillan, £20) Where Cooking Begins: Uncomplicated Recipes To Make You A Great Cook by Carla Lalli Music (Penguin Random House, £22.50) Wine: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Red, White, Rose & Fizz by Jane Parkinson (Ryland Peters & Small, £9.99) Midnight Chicken (& Other Recipes Worth Living For) by Ella Risbridger (Bloomsbury, £22) 124 P SYC H O LO G I E S M AG A Z I N E S P R I N G Blogger spotlight Federica is an Italian living in London with her husband, son and dog, and who blogs about all types of food, including that of her homeland, at blog.pastabites.co.uk As well as book and restaurant reviews, Federica shares her travel tales and recipes, such as her family’s ‘Ciambelle al vino biscuits’, ‘Pappa al pomodoro’, ‘Salame di cioccolato’ and a dish that reminds her of her childhood in southern Italy, ‘Pasta e zucchine.’ PHOTOGRAPH: STOCKSY feasting Liven up with pattern Kosmo dinner plate, £3.50; large bowl, £5; mug, £4, tesco.com Handy reminders Shopping list pin board, £8, tesco.com essentials CURIOUS ABOUT PEOPLE AND WHAT MAKES THEM TICK? 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