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Top 5 Solutions to Living Your Life on Purpose By Vera Stark Smashwords Edition PUBLISHED BY: Vera Stark On Smashwords Top 5 Solutions to Living Your Life On Purpose © by Vera Stark 2012. All Rights Reserved Thank you for downloading my free e-book. I hope that you will share this e-book with friends and family as an opportunity for them to also gain both the knowledge and the tools that can help them to grow and experience greater possibilities for their lives. This book may be reproduced, copied and distributed for non-commercial purposes, provided the book remains in its complete original form, with the exception of quotes used in reviews. Thank you for your support. Do you feel like the pressures of life are overwhelming and that the belief that everything will work out seems so distant? Well, you aren't alone! I can assure you that whether you are struggling in your relationships, your career, your job, your health or your finances -there IS light at the end of the tunnel. Almost everyone is facing challenges in one of these areas of their lives, feeling stuck and held back from living the life they truly desire. What if there was another way? When you live your life on purpose, you are living from awareness. You are creating on purpose rather than from habitual thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, considerations and attitudes. You are stepping outside of self-imposed limitations and creating your reality from a state of consciousness. Through purposeful living you will experience more meaning and fulfillment in your life. The choices that you make and the actions that you take will support you and help you to deliberately create your future. How does it get any better than that? Solution#1 . Enhancing Your Self Awareness Are You Feeling Like You’re Losing Your Way…Lost in the Dark? Have you ever wondered why you keep experiencing the same things over and over again? Maybe you keep ending up in unhealthy relationships or in other situations that aren’t serving your mental and emotional well-being. There is a key component to living your life on purpose. It’s the only thing that will allow you to change or transform anything in your life. That component is SELF AWARENESS. Self Awareness is really about experiencing yourself. Self Awareness is becoming conscious of who you are, why you’re feeling what you’re feeling and why you’re behaving the way you are. It gives you an opportunity to choose something different for yourself and your life. It allows you to experience more of life in the way that you wish to experience it. Through self awareness you will begin to see things that have been hidden from you. There are many things in your life that you know and you know that you know it. For example, you know your name and you know that you know your name. There are things you feel and think that you don’t know and you know that you don’t know. For example, if you have never flown an airplane before, your thought would be that you don’t know how to fly an airplane and you know you don’t know how to fly an airplane. Then there is that which you don’t know and you don’t know that you don’t know. These are the blind spots that are brought into our consciousness through self awareness. The truth is you know everything. It’s your lack of self awareness and your inability to get out of your own way that keeps you from accessing everything that you need to know. Every single belief and thought that you have ever had, every decision that you have ever made, all the judgments that you hold on to about who you are and who you aren’t, and all the conclusions that you have come to about yourself and your life are imprinted inside your subconscious or habit mind. This, my friend, is where you spend the majority of your time. Is it any wonder why you aren’t living the life you truly desire? It is said that we spend 95% of our time creating from our subconscious mind and only 5% of the time from a conscious state of mind. So what you are creating for yourself and your life is being created on automatic pilot and not on purpose. Being more conscious or aware is your ability to be present in every moment without judgment of yourself or others. It allows you to become clear and to create things deliberately in your life. When you are constantly in your head you’re creating from your limitations. All of the points of view and judgments that you have from previous imprinting put limitations on you which hinder your ability to create a different reality for yourself. There is a saying by Henry Ford that really says it all. “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right” When you become aware of all the areas in your life in which you are either aligning and agreeing or resisting and reacting to any points of view, thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, judgments, conclusions or considerations you begin to set yourself free by reminding yourself they are just an interesting point of view. When you look at it as an interesting point of view, you are allowing it to simply be what it is, a point of view. There is no judgment around it. It is your point of view that creates your reality, so if you buy into the point of view that you aren’t good enough or smart enough or deserving of, then that is the reality that you are creating for yourself. If you aren’t aware of these things and if you don’t take responsibility for what you are creating then you are unable to transform it. Be aware of what you’re feeding your subconscious. Pay attention. When you become more self aware you will notice when you aren't in alignment with what you desire and that allows you to suggest something else that IS in alignment with what you choose to experience. Self awareness allows you to see where your thoughts and emotions are leading you. It allows you to see how your thoughts, beliefs and emotions are controlling you and keeping you from moving forward in your life. It helps you to understand why you feel what you feel and why you behave the way you do. If you don’t fully know who you are, self-acceptance and change is impossible. Living consciously and becoming more self aware opens the doors to endless possibilities. It allows you to make conscious choices and live your life on purpose. The infinite being in you ignites and you begin to make choices from that place of freedom rather than from past experience. The following tool will help you to begin the process of becoming more self aware. Tool #1 – Expanding Your Awareness  When you ask questions it empowers you, opening many doors. An answer is always more disempowering. It limits the possibilities that are available to you.  Live your life being in the question. Don’t look for the answer. Just ask the question.  If you are faced with a challenging situation you could ask a question like “What else is possible here?” or “What will it take to change this?” or “What are the infinite possibilities here?”  If you are making a decision about something you could ask “Will this expand my lifestyle?”  If I am looking to buy something I will sometimes ask myself “Will this benefit me and my life?” or if it’s an investment of some kind I may ask “Will this make me money?”  After asking the question, listen to your body.  If it makes you feel good your body will expand and feel lighter and you know that it is right for you. It’s your deeper truth. Vs.  Something that is NOT going to benefit you or if it is a lie, your body will contract and begin to feel heavy.  You can experiment with this using your name. Ask the question, “Is my name (use your real name) and feel your body. Most often it is felt in the chest area. Does it feel lighter? Now ask the same question and use a different name. You may feel a tightness or heaviness in your chest area. See the difference? At a deeper level, you already know the answer. “The person in life that you will always be with the most is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself. What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it's your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who's not full of hate, who's able to smile and be carefree. So that's who I have to be.” C. JoyBell C Solution#2 Learning to Let Go Is this what you’re experiencing? Are you having trouble letting go of all those things that are keeping you stuck and in a state of emotional distress? Learning to let go of your beliefs, emotions, thoughts, considerations, attitudes and judgments will allow you to move forward in the way that you desire. Are your thoughts and beliefs keeping You stuck? Past programming and conditioning keep you in a place of feeling stuck. It triggers thoughts and emotions that you resist or lock down and you begin to create your reality based on your alignment to those thoughts and emotions. 95% of the time you’re functioning from your subconscious or habit mind. You have bought into point of views that aren't even your own. In fact, 98% of them don't belong to you. They come from your parents, your friends, other family members, the media and many other influential factors. Some things get buried so deep inside of you that you don't even realize they exist, however you still experience the emotions and behaviors that result from them. Usually it is in the form of a reaction or resistance to them. Whatever you’re resisting WILL persist! What if you never resisted anything in your life? What if you just allowed things to be as they are rather than how you think they should be or for what they ought to be? What infinite possibilities would be available to you then? Functioning from your thoughts, feelings and emotions gives you little choice and limited possibilities. By not letting go they will begin to fester inside of you until they eventually surface in the physical body as symptoms of illness or dis-ease. Are you spending most of your time sitting in the problem or in the possibilities? If you spend your time dwelling on the problem then you’re feeding it energy and so you will get more of that problem. We look for answers and solutions while we’re sitting in the problem. When we are putting all of our energy into the problem, we don’t have the clarity to see the answers and solutions that are actually available to us. Instead, ask yourself, “What else is possible?” Dr. Bruce Lipton, in his book “The Biology of Belief”, talks about how we live in either growth or protection. For the most part we live in protection which is all about protecting ourselves and making sure that we are okay. This tells your subconscious that you aren’t okay; that there is something you need, something you lack, something you aren’t getting or that you’re stuck. When you are in protection you are at the effect of your circumstances which doesn’t allow you to heal or evolve. You become the victim of your circumstances. When you are growing, you are at the cause of your circumstances which allows you to be in your power and gives you the ability to heal and transform. As you begin to let go and move the energy out of your body you will start to feel lighter and more expansive. When you start see to everything as energy, whether it’s a feeling, a situation or a problem, it is much easier to see how you’re able to shift or move it. It is our mind that tells us otherwise. The possibilities are endless when you just allow yourself to let go! You have a choice. Are you ready to let go? Tool #2 – Relaxation Breath Here is a tool that will get you started.  When you experience a feeling or emotion that you don’t want or no longer serves you pay attention to it.  Notice where it’s located in your body. For instance, you may feel it in your chest area or your stomach. Place one hand on that area. Now focus your attention at the base of your spine.  Take 10 deep breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth. As you breathe out do so as if you were blowing out a candle. Quick breathes in and out. Let your body soften.  If it hasn’t completely gone after the 10 breaths then repeat it until it has. “And I told him, I said: "One day you're going to miss the subway because it's not going to come. One of these days, it's going to break down and it's not going to come around and everyone else will just wait for the next one or will take the bus, or walk, or run to the next station: they will go on with their lives. And you're not going to be able to go on with your life! You'll be standing there, in the subway station, staring at the tube. Why? Because you think that everything has to happen perfectly and on time and when you think it's going to happen! Well guess what! That's not how things happen! And you'll be the only one who's not going to be able to go on with life, just because your subway broke down. So you know what, you've got to let go, you've got to know that things don't happen the way you think they're going to happen, but that's okay, because there's always the bus, there's always the next station you can always take a cab.” ― C. JoyBell C Solution#3 Take Time for You Have You Lost Sight of What’s Important to You? If you find that you feel emotionally drained or overwhelmed, have trouble sleeping because of thoughts swirling around in your head or if you feel stressed out, it is time to take a mental break. When was the last time you took time for you? If you’re anything like I was, you always have an excuse for NOT taking time for yourself. Usually it’s because you’re too busy. Everyone and everything else comes first. Sound familiar? There are always so many activities, events and distractions going on around you that your stress levels rise which are negatively affecting your health. It means that you need to get out of your head and into your body. Whether you meditate or just do absolutely nothing it is important. When you take the time to relax and get in touch with yourself and your feelings you will find that you are much more productive. You will feel less frustrated and overwhelmed, and more relaxed and balanced. You have been conditioned to believe that you have to work hard and struggle to get what you want in your life. Because of that belief, you tend to continue to do exactly that. You do it because you believe that you have to. Struggle is optional! Taking time for yourself allows you to stop doing and just Be. It is in the being that everything else will evolve. It is when you are able to do from a place of being rather than doing from a place of doing that things become effortless. It is important to honor yourself and connect to your true self. Through this deeper connection you will have greater access to your inner knowing. This is where you will find more clarity and a deeper understanding of the reality that you wish to create for yourself. Be open to receiving the gift of you by taking 15 to 20 minutes each day to spend some quiet time with just you. Take a walk in nature, sit with your eyes closed and focus on your breath as the thoughts come and go, (it is important not to resist your thoughts) or do something that nurtures you like going for a massage. You can accomplish so much more with much less effort if you just take the time. What would it take to make time for you? It’s a priority. This tool will help to calm the activity in your mind. Tool #3 – Calming the Mind  Close your eyes.  Take a couple of deep breaths to relax yourself.  Bring your focus inside your head. Do your best to put your focus on your mind and get a sense of how the energy of the mind feels.  Now imagine the energy of the mind and the mind itself dissolving and turning into a liquid or water and then flowing down into your chest or heart center.  Now imagine the inside of your chest and just sit and breathe in and out. Do this for 5 or 10 minutes and you’ll find your mind becomes very quiet and very calm. “Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs Solution#4 Lead With Your Heart Who is in Charge of You? Are there times when you feel that your life is falling apart? Like you’re losing control of what’s really important to you? If this is what you are experiencing then you are spending most of your time in your head. This is the part of you in which the Ego lives and dictates your life. It is your limited sense of self. It is from your Ego that manipulation, competition, jealousy, hate and all other negative feelings and emotions attached to your mind. The Ego is all about material things and power. It is everything that you have identified yourself to be based on past experiences. When you first stop identifying with the Ego, you get confused as to who you are. You have lived your life believing that you are your name, that you are your body, and that you are your mind. What if that wasn’t who you were at all? You have placed separation between good and bad, right and wrong. You have lived by what others have told you to feel and think rather than what you really feel and think. True authenticity and a deeper understanding of who you are, comes from being within. The Ego leads from a fear based consciousness rather than from awareness. This fear controls how you live your life and tells you how you should do things. Leading with your Ego creates doubt which limits your possibilities. Leading with your heart comes with being in your body and being present rather than being in your head and will allow you to make choices from awareness - which only exists in the present. It is where your deepest inner being resides and where you will discover your true potential and passion. When you lead with your heart first and follow with your head it allows you to make choices that resonate with you and are in alignment with the reality that you choose to create for yourself. Most people lead with their head and then try to persuade or force their hearts to follow. Leading with your heart may not feel like the logical thing to do, so often you ignore the feelings of your body for the sake of doing what you think is the right thing. There is nothing more magical than being in your Heart. It allows you to love yourself [...]... like Tolstoy's fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under him the whole time Your Treasure your perfection is within you already But to claim it, you must leave the busy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart.” Elizabeth Gilbert Solution #5 Learn To Love Yourself Unconditionally How Many Times a Day Do You Judge Yourself?... judgmental and critical of yourself? Do you blame yourself when things don’t go the way you expect them to? You are your own biggest critic When you judge yourself you are imprisoned by your own limitations and false perceptions Where there is judgment there is no love They can’t exist together Learning to love yourself unconditionally allows you to be who you truly are Dr Bruce Lipton also talks about how...and others unconditionally It allows you to see others as mirror for your own evolution To see all of yourself as a magnificent being who is here to serve a purpose What would you rather be led by? If you’re unsure of whether you are leading with your head (Ego) or your body, try this next tool Tool #4 – Getting in Touch With Your Body  In any given situation remind yourself that you have... you can learn to integrate them and love even those parts of yourself Do you tend to hold grudges and resentments, not only towards yourself but towards others? It is that unforgiving nature that most of us have where you tend to beat yourself up internally then all of a sudden wonder why you are doing things in the outer world to beat yourself up This is where pain and suffering come into play It is... thighs It is your resistance and reaction to your thighs and the emotion that is triggered that doesn’t allow for the possibility of anything different Whenever you place a judgment upon yourself, you are either resisting or agreeing with it That is why you continue to attract things to you that you don’t really desire You have a perception of what you should look like and be like based on a point of... to the reality of love you let go of judgment You accept who you are at this moment and realize that you are who you are because of a multitude of reasons As long as you buy into the point of view of others rather than allowing you to be who you truly are, you are missing the opportunity of being unconditional love When you love yourself unconditionally you open up to loving others the same Tool #5. .. teaching me how to cleanse my body of negative feelings, anxiety and center my body, mind and spirit.” Brian ……Kamloops, B.C Are you ready to experience instant transformation? 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Top 5 Solutions to Living Your Life on Purpose By Vera Stark Smashwords Edition PUBLISHED BY: Vera Stark On Smashwords Top 5 Solutions to Living Your Life On Purpose © by Vera. well-being. There is a key component to living your life on purpose. It’s the only thing that will allow you to change or transform anything in your life. That component is SELF AWARENESS. Self. creating for yourself and your life is being created on automatic pilot and not on purpose. Being more conscious or aware is your ability to be present in every moment without judgment of yourself