The Do’s and Don’ts of Entering a Relationship

Valuable tips and tricks in entering a new relationship

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The Do's and Don'ts of ENTERING A RHHHINSHIP

Includes Bonus Chapter on the Do's and Don'ts of texting Stephen M Robinson

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The Do’s and Don’ ts of Entering a Relationship Stephen M Robinson

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Disclaimer:

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Copyright © 2013 by UK Kindle Creations All rights reserved You cannot give this ebook away free or sell it You do not have resale rights to this ebook This ebook may not be reproduced in any format without the expressed written

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This publication contains the opinions and ideas of its author and is intended for informational

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Contents

That perfect relationship Finding that special someone

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through anything that life throws at you This can happen It just takes the right start

Pll be getting a bit controversial in some parts of the book, so prepare yourself for that But let’s face it relationships are a spicy topic and for many people finding a good relationship is a huge, yet important challenge so they need to be told If you keep doing what you’ re doing, you'll keep getting what you’ re getting right?

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Ok this section isn’t going to be long, firstly because it’s not always the best idea to be

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don’t be logical Logic has no place in actual romance and never will do You hear countless love stories where the poor, ugly nice guy eventually gets the girl, or the girl who’s just looking for a sensible man keeps falling in love with the bad boys This is because our emotions over-ride any logical thoughts we have when it comes to falling for someone

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and start to act on this Now one boy falls in love with the first girl that he has any romantic

connection with He has that ideal teenage

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with someone He knows this because he has experienced many romantic connections with various girls so he knows the things he likes ina girl and the things he doesn’t like

Anyway he pushes these feelings into the back of his mind because he still feels that he’s young and doesn’t want a relationship But the feelings persist He keeps seeing the girl and starts to become overwhelmed by the feelings he has for her He still feels like he doesn’t want a

relationship but the feelings he has are so strong that he’s starting to change his mind Eventually the feelings become that strong that they change what he has believed all of his life, and he decides to enter a committed relationship with this girl because she is exactly what he wants ina girl and the feelings he has for her are so intense

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You need to pace your relationship as best you can You might want to see your new partner every minute of the day, and chances are they feel the same But you can’t do this because it will ruin the fun, excitement and mystery Those early days when you're still learning new things about each other won’t last forever, but if they’re over to quickly then things could become stale fast As bad as it sounds, you don’t want to give too much away too quickly Now I am all for being 100% honest and open ina relationship, I would advise no other way But in those very early stages I do believe that keeping some of yourself locked away for later isn’t always a bad idea

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2 DO keep spending time with your friends — | don’ t want to dwell on n this because there are SO

many relationship books that talk for hours about how important it is to spend time with your friends Yeah, great but what about when I’m with my partner? What do I do then? The reason it’s important is firstly because like in number 1, you can’t see each other all the time But secondly it’s because your friends are just as important, and

they’ Il be the ones who are there for you if things

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to be willing to make an effort with your partner This will make your partner feel more comfortable around your friends and this will ease any tension that had a potential to arise

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3, UXO make time for me — Ok so we’ve discussed not seeing each other al the time and making sure you spend time with your friends, and now I’m telling you to spend time alone too? So do you get to spend ANY time with your new partner?? Well of course, I’m just getting these out of the way now because they are often overlooked

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films as to be honest I think that’s much more enjoyable when you're with a partner or with friends I’m talking about self improvement and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone

You could spend your time alone watching TV and sitting in bed, if you choose to and you genuinely enjoy doing that on your own But I’ve found that when it comes to improving relationships, if a person spends their alone time improving

themselves in different areas then they will become a much more loveable and happy person in their relationship

Ways to improve yourself are endless If you are studying for anything, then study it and learn all you can about that topic If you aren’t currently studying for anything then find something you’ ve always been interested in and study it

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or learn new skills Improving yourself and growing as a person improves every area of your life My Book “Important Lessons for True

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S Do be yourse!{— what I mean by this is do stay the w way you are as a person I believe everyone

should have strong values and morals, and these can’t change just because you’ ve entered a new relationship If you don’t have any particular morals and values already, then I strongly suggest you take some time to yourself and work out what you find important in life

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money, you need to make sure you’re working hard and getting the money that you want When you’ re passionate about your values you become

passionate about getting the things that you want out of life You get drive, you'll work hard for things and not only will this improve your life but it will make you a much more attractive person to others and you your relationships will kick off to a great start

One good way to define your values is to set some goals There are hundreds of goal setting

techniques out there that are all extremely

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#1 Physically write your goals down, and put them where you can see them

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#2 Get yourself emotionally involved when you write your goals out

For every goal, you need to think why you want it What has made you decide that this is something you want? If it’s just a small goal, like passing a test, why do you want it? Will it help you in the long run? Will it make people proud? Think about whether achieving this goal would affect other people If passing a test would make someone close to you proud then that can only add to your motivation to achieve that goal If your goal is un-

selfish, and you’ re just trying to help someone else

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#3 Set 3 types of goals: Short Term, Mid Term and Long Term

Your short term goals are things you can do within around 3 months So things like wanting to be able to run 10 Kilometres by the end the next month, or getting full marks on a test coming up If you actually make a conscious effort to think about these goals you are so much more likely to not only achieve them but do more than you wanted Going through life just doing things as they come around is lazy, and you won’t reach your maximum potential

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choose etc These goals will probably excite you a bit more than your short term goals, and you should use that excitement to boost your passion towards the goals te ora he te , ret t4 T2 NH9 A rt Nits fi “Z4 rs a,

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#4 Write them again as if you’ve achieved them Now that you’ ve written your goals out, you need to re-write them again But when you re-write them, change them to being in the perspective that you have actually achieved them So for example; ““T want to get that expensive care before I’m 30” will be changed into “I have the expensive car I always wanted.” Although, be specific of course in your own goals Be as specific as you can actually, but try to keep your goals to one sentence

I have a co-authored with Jag Chohan called “Successful Goal Setting: Guarantee Yourself Success.” I strongly recommend looking at this if you have never set yourself goals before, or you simply want to achieve more in life You can find it here: http://goo.gl/UvxTs

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relationship Well, it actually ties a lot of the dos and don’ts up If you have your goals set and you're passionate about them, then you will have your values You will be a more routed person so you won't change yourself You will be far more attractive (usually) to others because going for what you want in life is actually quite uncommon as most people unconsciously fear achieving success And finally, these goals will start to take fruit with-in a relationship and will help the

relationship to move forward and become stronger If the goals end up getting in the way of the

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Now morals are different to values, and you will usually have developed these as you grew up and believe it or not they are quite hard to change As far as relationships are concerned, morals include your views on lying, cheating and manipulating If you don’t think these things are morally right and you would be hurt if someone did this to you, then don’t be a hypocrite and makes sure you play by the same rules This also applies if you do think it’s ok to do these things, don’t expect anyone to feel sorry for you if it ends up happening to you too

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6 Don't talk about your ex — Ok if you’re mature then \ you will accept that it is almost impossible

not to compare a new partner to an old one, especially if there hasn’t been much time between the 2 (not recommended!!) Thoughts will often creep up on us about how our new partner does something differently to our old partner, and this is completely normal and I’m sure your new partner does this too But it’s how you see these thoughts, and whether you actually say them out loud that makes a difference

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help it, then I don’t think you’re quite ready to be dating just yet Some would argue that if the topic was to come up, or even if the person on the date was to ask you about your ex that this means it’s ok to talk about them Well personally, I would

say NO! Just don’t do it Change the subject, make a joke out of it and say “I’m not here to talk about my ex, I want to talk about you.” Let’s face it, if the conversation is getting so desperate that your date asks you about your ex, it’s probably not going to work out

OK back to entering a new relationship Talking about your ex all the time is probably going to make your new partner insecure Imagine if they were saying how often they used to go to this place together, or how much they loved it when their ex did this You’re not going to want to go where ever that was and you’re not going to want to do

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7 Go fet them know your boundaries — Let me get this out in the open straight away, ‘this includes in

the bedroom as well as in your general

relationship Ill talk about general things first and then get to the naughty stuff

So everyone has their own boundaries, their limits as to what takes them from being comfortable to uncomfortable And it’s important in a relationship to express this right from the start

Public displays of affection: This varies from person to person and couple to couple but it’s very important that you get this kind of thing out of the way before you find yourself in a very

embarrassing situation Not being open about this could land you in two opposite ends of an

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with public displays of affection and you quite simply are not So you'll get embarrassed when they start playing tonsil tennis with you in-front of everyone eating in the same pizza place as you and you have to ruin the mood by pushing them away Switching to the other hand, you couldn’t care less about wrapping your arms around your new partner in-front of everyone but it turns out they hate it and push you away You're going to feel pretty foolish after that So just talk about it Downright ask them whether they are comfortable with or, tell them if you're not This will save any embarrassment and awkward moments that could completely ruin the mood in your relationship

On a quick side note, it’s possible that if one partner doesn’t like public displays of affection that the other will think this is because they don’t want to be seen with them That’s why getting this out of the way before it actually happens could prevent a serious argument

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