- Yeu to ba: Vi�c suy ngh i cam nh�n cam xilc tu d u y la do nao b9 dam nh�n Co the t a
Tuoi biet Rau! Sau tu6it
Sau tu6it
La n dau tien, be "ra doi• thtJc slj: vao tn.long ph6 thong, mc}t ng6i truong khac han v6'i ng6i trl.long mau giao ma be tung biet, tung quen va tung yeu men. Truong dong hem, 16'p dong hon, gio hQC dai thoong, gio choi ngan ngun. Moi lop chi c6 mcjt thay ho�c CO, nen can g\ la phai ttJ lo, kh6 ma nho co dl.IQc. Thay co m�t may "mat me" hon co giao cu, "mat" t6'i muc be thay "l9nh· lu6n! Ky lu�t a trliong ph6 thong cung 'm9t troi mcjt vvc·vai trl.long mau giao: khong chay nhay hon nhien nhli 0 mau giao dl.IQC nua ma phai c6 y tu, tiJ ket b9n ma choi, tiJ ph1,1c VI,! toan phan nhung nhu cau thiet yeu, nhung dieu ma khi (J mau giao be van dl.lqc cac co nhac va trq giup thuong xuyen. n =r "' .,, 3 () =r "' 3 .,.
N6i nom na, neu vi tn1ong mau giao la c6i
"thien auang: thl khi vao tnJong ph6 thong la be aa "h.;i canh"tro l9i "ch6n duong gian" voi nhCfng thl,fc te aoi khi rat. . .tra n tn,1i! Va moi ngay be
phai a trong moi truong "duong gian tran tn,ii" ay khoang tam tieng.
f)e Ci9ng vien con, khi vao m6i trllang moi, phl,I huynh thuong "ve" ra nhung vien can h kha Cif;'p, voi mong muon con vui ve toi trllong. Vi�c lam 06 oay thi�n y, nhllng kha nhieu phl,I huynh l;;ii cung cap thong tin theo 16i "to hong� Be khi va chc:im thl,fc te phuc t.;ip 1.;i lam, khong ft be aa ... rOt bjch xu6ng m(lt each ngo ngang! V�y la
nhieu hanh vi phuc tc:ip l;;i lam cung bat dau phat sinh W aay.
8au tien, be phai d6i m�t voi van de tha n h tich -diem SO, k e Oen l a S I/ tj n.;inh cua cac b.;in xung quanh. V�y la sinh ra bu6n rau, giau diem cha mf;' khi bi diem thap, manh nha cho th6i thieu trung thl,l'c.
Ke tiep, ng6i trong lop ph6 thong thl phai tuy�t d6i im l�ng, khong the bu(lt mi�ng xl xao nhu h6i nh6 duqc nua, vi ph.;im la bj . .. moi ra san dung lien, day cung la m¢t cu s6c d6i voi rat nhieu be moi w mau giao len, nhat la nhling be
thuong ng6i suy tu u rO, kh6ng hieu ti;li sao mlnh "phat bieu <; kien" ma bi ra san dung. TU day, de sinh ra thai do thich cai lay voi nguoi Ion.
Roi thl, hay nghe c6 bao "Ba Ion roi, phai .. :; trong khi 0 nha thl lam cai gl m� cung bao"Con con nh6, chua du9c. . . " R6t cu(lc be kh6ng xac djnh noi mlnh nh6 hay Ion, nen phai. . . test: b�ng each tranh thu tl,I <; ra quyet djnh ma kh6ng can h6i <; kien cha m�! vr dv: nghe nguoi li;l n6i ngQt ru di choi, trao d6i do choi do dung voi b9n, "thue muon" b9n chep bai gium de tranh ap h,rc bai vo v.v . . .
Ben qmh 06, vi�c hoc chung v6'i nhung tre Ion cong khien be de choang ng<;ip, de batchuoc nhClng hanh vi khien nguoi khac chu y nhu chvi b�y. aa nh nhau, an m�c kh6ng nghiem tuc.
N h Clng nghien cuu gan day cua cac nha g iao dt,Jc hQc da cho thay r�ng: giai do9n tli so sinh den tam tuoi la gmi doi;ln ly tuong nhat de u6n n�n nhan each cho tre. Sau tam tu6i moi bM dau d9y !ti •t:'
Sau tu6i, nhan each cua be da ajnh hlnh tuong d6i chk nen mu6n be c6 nhClng hanh vi Clung ml,fc khi vao tuoi den truong, thl ta phai c6
< .,,. . :i IQ ::r "'' ' ("\ :T "' 3 ..,,
· - · .!: .!: f <Q.I __,
su chuan bi tu tuoi . . !en hail Cu the: t�p cho be tl,! sinh hoc;it d6c lap theo gio giac, neu be c6 so suat thi nhac nho, kh6ng la mang. Cho phep be
tham gia nhCing buoi n6i ch uyen voi n g lfoi Ion,
muon n6i gi thi phai xin phep. Cho be tham gia
nhClng hoat d¢ng phong trao a cac ca u l ac b¢,
nha van h6a, trong khu pho . . . ca ng som cang tot de be hQC dL1QC ky nang Chung song c¢ng a6ng.
Huong dan cho be ky nang phllc tc;ip nhu
dan xep - the hi�n trlioc dam dong: xin phe p, n6i
c6 chon loc y tuong va biet chap nh�n y kien trai chieu, de tranh hanh vi cai va. vr dv, M¢t be ba tuoi da dL1Qc m r; huan l uy�n ky nang dan xep nhu
sau: con dang lui h u i thl m� toi da nhe vao mong
con m¢t phat! Tat nhien con kh6c oa, n h ung m�
lo luonl DQi con nfn kh6c, m� h6i "M� da con c6
dau dau ma con lc;ii kh6c?" Con gao len: "Kh6c vi
m� da vao mong con!� M� bao: "Gao len the m� khong hieu n6i con c;i, con n6i nh� nhang thl m�
moi hieu. Vl sao con kh6cr Be nh� nhang hon:
"Vl m� da con� M� lc;ii n6i: "M� nghi mong la de da nen m� da. The mong c6 phai de da khong
con?" -Be: "Khong, mong la ae ngoi''. M�: "A. v�y thi con hay n6i v6i m� la m� Cli, mong la ae ng6i, kh6ng phcii ae aa, tU gia ve sau m� ailng aa vao
ae ng6i, aft la de !. kh6ng phai de da, Ian sau m� dung da m 6ng con nCJa, con kh6ng thich v?y aau" -M�: ·A, m� hieu r6i, m� kh6ng lam v?y nCJa, xi n loi be nha� M<?t bai h uong dan kha hoan hao!
. ::s ::s IC> ::s ,., . Q>• 3 ("\ :Y "' 3 .,. 55
"' en en z en c t> � ,J:; Cl. Lam co n. . . Khuyet t�t! Tre khuyet t�t la ai?
86 la nhClng tre khiem khuyet chuc nang, kh6ng c6 kha nang lam auqc nhClng aieu ma dGii aa so tre cung a¢ tuoi c6 the lam duqc, g9i la tre thieu nang cho ngan g9n.
N6m na v�y. neu nhln tug6c a¢ xa h¢i, chung ta se gi�t mlnh tai m?t vl: tre "khuyet t�t'' a dau ma lam the! Du cac quf tll nay c6 ca the - trf tu� -sue kh6e hoan toan blnh thU'ong, nhung ... : nam tuoi kh6ng ti/ tam rlla v� sinh ca nhan, kh6ng tl/ xuc an. Bay, tam tuoi kh6ng tlf sap xep t�p VO quan ao khi ai hQC. 9 - 1 0 tuoi kh6ng biet quet nha, lau ban ghe ph1,1 mi;>. 1 2 -1 3 tuoi khong biet tr6ng em, kh6ng tlf d9n va di;>p ban an. 1 5 -1 6 tuoi ma khi d6i khong biet w mua g6i ml nau an,
m¢t dc;rng phe pham q u f tocl N h6m tre "ta m gLri" c6 si so ngay cang tang nay bi khuyet t¢t ve ky nang song, tfn h tL1 lap gan nhL1 bang 0 Tre khuyet t�t ky nang a dau ra?
Cau "Con hu tqi m�" la loi aa p cl,lc ky chfnh xac cac be th ieu tfnh ti,1 l�p hoan toan do each giao dl,Jc a gia al nh. Khong ft ong bo ba m�, m¢t ngay . . xau troi, aa "dung h1nh"khi nghe chinh dua con - ma m1 n h nang niu nhll vang nhll ngQc - het vao m�t: "con ra n6ng noi nay la t;;ii ba ma, sao hoi a6 ba ma kh6ng chiu d;;iy conr
Hai ly do chinh thuong g�p cua cai s1,1"kh6ng chiu d;;iy" la:
Ly do thLr nh6t: Cha m� muon "cho rao con n�m, ch6 uot m� Ian� tat ca nhClng cay dang co c1,1c cha m� se dung mui chju sao, de cho con duc;ic song hon n hien!? So phu huynh nQ lu6n
muon giCJ r!t con trong m6i trllong "v6 trung"! Nhlln g h e song o noi "s;;ich" qua thLmat tieu khang the. Ma con th1 khong the o nha hoai
auc;ic, nen khi ra duong, chl can g�p bat ky m¢t "vi tru ng" yeu xlu nao, con cOng "nhiem benh" ngay. Bao da m!
LY do thtJ hai:"T�p cho n6 w l�p. ti,! song dLIQC la n6 kh6ng can mlnh nCla, tui than lam"!? Haha ...
n :::; "' M -"'' 3 n :::; "' 3 ·fD
"' °' °' z °' c 0 ':> .r:: a.. "" --'
day dfch thi la tr9ng thai ma Due Phat Thfch Ca goi la THAM, tham dl16i h1n h thuc rat tinh te: tham duoc la VIP cua cu6c doi con! Ma he THAM la kho lien. Bao da m!
VIP - trong tieng Anh - la chu dau cua ba tu: Yery important Eerson, ng hia la ngt1ai rat quan trqng. Nhllng van chiI VIP ay, cimg con c6 the la cha aau cua ba W: Yery lrressposible Eerson, ng hia la ngtJC!i rat VO trdch nhi¢m!
C6 nhClng dieu that sl,l"bat kha thuyet"! Th6i thi, xin ke chuy�n cho de vay cau chuy�n sau day cua chfnh gia din h tac gia, khi con trai hoc lop m uoi (t\li m6t truong Qu6c te 1 00% a thanh ph6 H6 Chf Minh), ng hia la con moi co 1 6 tuoi thoi. Mot horn nha truong gai giay ve nha voi yeu cau nhll sau:
a/ Hoc sinh se W toi xin vi�c a m¢t doanh nghi�p vua hoac n h6. Phv huynh kh6ng xin gium.