ESSAYOUTLINE(FORIELTS)Topic 8: Happiness –friendship - marriage SECTION 2: MARRIAGE 1. The advantages and disadvantages of arranged marriages. *. Advantage: - Financial security. Lack of money -> stress in any relationship. - Parents make better choice than their children. + Parents are older and wiser + Experience: at assessing characteristics (experiences) -> know what qualities are desirable in a spouse. + Better judges of character than young people, who often let emotions influence their judgement. parents choose with their head not their heart. • Disadvantage: - Misery for 3 people if they have fallen in love with the other. - Likelihood of unhappy life for their children. The basis of the marriage is love. Lack of love -> unsuccessful marriage for their whole life. Love can make people more tolerance (enhancing sympathy to each other). - Unfair for their children: Their daughter and son are mature enough to make their own decision for their future spouse. Parents would rather be the advisors, not decision maker. - Life has changed. Parents choices are probably no longer suitable for their children. For instance, in World War II, hard- working is a desirable character for any person. However, in these days, it’s active and well – educated ones that are desirable for a spouse. 2. Young people should live together before getting married? • Advantages: - Enhancing mutual understanding: + In daily life: cooking, living habit, … + Their family life: behavior with their relative - An effective way to examine if they are a good couple or not. Easy to solve problem if they are not suitable to each other: financial issues and children. • Disadvantages. - Greater likehood of breaking – up relations, which would lead to a lot of serious consequences, due to no legal bond between them. One minor argument can cause their break, for instance. + women are vulnerable if their relation are broken up: difficult to find a replacement because of prejudice. + In case there are children of this un – married couple -> they are of misery: not perfect parents, an unhappy childhood, obsession about their parents. - For society: the increase of infectious disease due to a lease sexual living style: HIV, … -> a great threat to the whole society. 3. Do women usually work after getting married in your country? • A common phenomenon in several countries: many women drop their full-time employment after marriage. Instead they find some part –time job and spend more time caring their family issues: housework, children rearing, family health care, etc. • In Vietnam, it’s not of so popular. In fact, Vnese women continue their employment after marriage. They share nearly the same responsibility of bread – winner like their husbands. Some other relevant questions relating to "friendship": • Are there any famous stories of friendship in your culture? • Describe one of your closest friends. • Do you have any childhood friendships that are still strong today? Tell us about them. • Do you have any long distance friends? • How do you keep in touch with your long-distance friends? • How often do you see your long-distance friends? • Have you made any friends over the Internet? • How often do you write to them? • Have you ever met them in person? • How are your friendships different now than they were when you were a child? • How do you maintain a good friendship? • How do you make new friends? • How many people do you consider your "best friends?" • Is it common to have friendships across generations? • What are the advantages and disadvantages of these types of friendships. • Do you have any friends from a different generation than you? • There is a saying "To have a good friend, you need to be a good friend." How can you be a good friend? • What do you usually do with your friends? • What factors may result in the breakdown of a good friendship? • What is the longest friendship that you have had? • What makes friends different from family? • What qualities do you think are important in a friend? . ESSAY OUTLINE ( FOR IELTS ) Topic 8: Happiness –friendship - marriage SECTION 2: MARRIAGE. -> unsuccessful marriage for their whole life. Love can make people more tolerance (enhancing sympathy to each other). - Unfair for their children: Their