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(1)Managing Anger 06 January, 2014 The Hulk Photo Credit: Denis Giles, via Flickr Audio Player pop-up player Download Options » Normal Quality (Mono - 4.29 MB) » High Quality (Stereo - 13.74 MB) Voice Welcome to Spotlight I’m Liz Waid Voice And I’m Joshua Leo Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting It is easier for people to understand, no matter where in the world they live Voice (2) Every person feels angry at some time But they may not know how to deal with it Today’s Spotlight is on managing your anger With the right tools, every person can deal with the feeling of anger Voice Dr Bruce Banner was a scientist who worked with dangerous chemicals and radiation One day one of his experiments went terribly wrong! A nuclear bomb exploded and radiation flooded the area But Bruce did not die Instead he began to have super-human powers! He could things that no other person could Voice On a normal day Bruce looked and acted just like any other person But when he became angry, Bruce changed He became a frightening creature called “The Hulk.” The Hulk had green skin He was over two meters tall And he weighed over 475 kilograms When Bruce turned into the Hulk, his anger ruled over him The Hulk would fight And he would destroy things Voice After the Hulk became calm, he changed again He returned to his usual human form as Bruce the scientist Sometimes Bruce would feel regret about the things he had done as the Hulk Voice This story is not real It is from a popular comic story book However, even though it is not real, people feel like they already know it They understand it because everyone knows what it is like to feel anger Everyone knows what it is like to want to hurt someone, or destroy something because they are angry Voice Anger is not a bad or evil emotion It is usually healthy to feel anger It is a natural reaction to fears or pressure from our environment When people show anger because of injustice, or unfairness, it shows that they care about the people around them And this anger can lead (3) people to make good changes in their own lives and the lives of other people Voice But sometimes the way a person reacts to anger can be bad When some people become very angry, they over-react They shout at others and say things that they not really mean Or they lose control of their actions and become very violent They may try to hurt others But there are some simple ways to deal with anger And anyone can use these methods Voice One way to deal with anger is to count before you say or anything It seems like a simple idea - maybe too simple But taking a short break to count can be a very effective way to manage anger If you feel angry, try counting to ten If you are really angry you could count to fifty or one hundred Count for however long it takes you to feel calm again You can also take long, deep breaths Voice Some people also stay calm by imagining a calm situation Imagine sitting next to a river, or in a peaceful field Repeating calming words can also have this effect If you are angry say words to yourself like ‘relax’ or ‘I am staying calm.’ Voice Staying calm is a very effective method for dealing with anger That is because anger can become very intense very quickly Anger can easily begin to control a person But, by staying calm, a person can start to control his anger instead Voice Another simple method for dealing with anger is to exercise or take a short walk Anger affects the body It raises your blood pressure It can increase your heart rate But you can use your energy for physical activity instead of being angry Doctors say that a person’s (4) brain releases chemicals during physical activity These chemicals make people feel happier and calmer Voice Avoiding the thing that makes you angry could also be a solution A person cannot avoid everything that makes him angry But, if he can avoid some things, he can avoid some anger! Voice These are all simple and immediate ways to control anger But for more complex problems, you will need a more complex solution The best way to manage anger is by dealing with it directly - you must learn to express your anger in a healthy and helpful way Voice Expressing yourself when you are very angry can be difficult But it can also be very helpful When people can express their needs, they feel like they are solving the problem They feel better about themselves And most importantly, they are taking control of their own emotions They are reacting to their anger in a good way Voice But there are things people should remember when they express their needs when angry First, stay calm when you are expressing yourself Experts suggest that a person thinks before he speaks It is easy to say hurtful words But, words can be extremely damaging to a relationship It is also important to be clear and direct when you express yourself If you have a need, be sure to tell the other person You should also show respect to the other person Voice It is also important not to blame other people Blaming other people can lead to arguing and fighting Instead, people should express their anger by saying what they are feeling For example, if a person is angry, she should use “I statements” These are simple sentences that state how a person feels For example, you should not say “You (5) never help me clean the home”! Instead, you could say “I am angry that you did not offer to help me clean the home” Voice When people are expressing their anger, they should remember to think about the other people who are involved in the situation Try to look at the situation from the other person’s point of view Often, when people look at a situation in this way, they can admit that they are not always being fair People can admit that their anger is not being helpful People cannot always control what other people or what happens around them But people can control the way they react! Voice These are all ways to deal with normal every-day anger They may not work for someone with a serious anger problem, or a medical mental problem In these cases, it is important to find help This may mean talking to a doctor Or it may mean talking to an understanding friend But not let your anger build up inside of you! As a person once said: Voice “It is not good for me to hold on to anger I am the only one that it is really hurting.” Voice The writer and producer of this program was Liz Waid The voices you heard were from the United States All quotes have been adapted for this program and voiced by Spotlight You can hear this program again, and read it, on the internet at http://www.radioEnglish.net This program is called “Managing Anger.” Voice You can also leave a comment on our website Or you can email us at radio @ radioEnglish net We hope you can join us again for the next Spotlight program Goodbye! (6) Some of the music in this program came from Podington Bear - See more at: http://spotlightenglish.com/listen/managinganger1#sthash.1ERW0VM7.dpuf (7)