You’ll interview 40 people to find 1 good employee. You’ll interview 40 people to find 1 good employee. You’ll talk to 50 people to sell 1 house, car, vacuum You’ll talk to 50 people to[r]
(1)(2)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
Take a look at an apple tree. Take a look at an apple tree.
There might be 500 apples on the tree, each with 10 There might be 500 apples on the tree, each with 10
seeds That’s a lot of seeds! seeds That’s a lot of seeds!
We might ask, “Why would you need so many seeds to We might ask, “Why would you need so many seeds to
(3)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
Nature has something to teach us here. Nature has something to teach us here.
It’s telling us: “ Most seeds never grow So if you It’s telling us: “ Most seeds never grow So if you really want to make something happen, you had really want to make something happen, you had
(4)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
This might mean: This might mean:
You’ll attend twenty interviews to get job. You’ll attend twenty interviews to get job.
You’ll interview 40 people to find good employee. You’ll interview 40 people to find good employee. You’ll talk to 50 people to sell house, car, vacuum You’ll talk to 50 people to sell house, car, vacuum
(5)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
And you might meet 100 acquaintances to find And you might meet 100 acquaintances to find
special friend. special friend.
When we understand the “Law of the Seed”, we don’t When we understand the “Law of the Seed”, we don’t
get so disappointed We stop feeling like victims. get so disappointed We stop feeling like victims.
Laws of nature are not to be taken personally We just Laws of nature are not to be taken personally We just
(6)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
IN A NUTSHELL IN A NUTSHELL
Successful people fail more often Successful people fail more often
(7)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
When things are beyond your control, here’s a recipe When things are beyond your control, here’s a recipe
for permanent misery ……. for permanent misery ……. a)
a) Decide how you think the world SHOULD be.Decide how you think the world SHOULD be. b)
b) Make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.Make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave. Then when the world doesn’t obey your rules, get Then when the world doesn’t obey your rules, get
(8)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
Let’s say you expect that: Let’s say you expect that:
Friends SHOULD return favours. Friends SHOULD return favours. People SHOULD appreciate you. People SHOULD appreciate you. Planes SHOULD arrive on time. Planes SHOULD arrive on time. Everyone SHOULD be honest. Everyone SHOULD be honest.
These expectations may sound reasonable But often, these things These expectations may sound reasonable But often, these things
(9)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
There’s a better strategy Have less demands There’s a better strategy Have less demands
Instead, have preferences! Instead, have preferences!
For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself: For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:
“
“I WOULD PREFER “A”, BUT IF “B” HAPPENS I WOULD PREFER “A”, BUT IF “B” HAPPENS IT”S OK too!”
(10)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
This is really a game that you play in your head This is really a game that you play in your head It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of
mind …… mind ……
You prefer that people are polite … But when they You prefer that people are polite … But when they
are rude, it doesn’t ruin your day You prefer are rude, it doesn’t ruin your day You prefer
(11)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
To be happier, we either need to To be happier, we either need to
a)
a) Change the world, orChange the world, or b)
b) Change our thinking.Change our thinking.
(12)The Law of the Seed The Law of the Seed
It’s not what happens to you that determines your It’s not what happens to you that determines your
happiness. happiness.