The 100 day promise sandi amorim

The 100 Day Promise A Guide To Changing From The Inside Out by Sandi Amorim Copyright Kindle Publishing Package Copyright © Sandi Amorim, 2015 All rights reserved No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the author Reviewers may quote brief passages in reviews ISBN: 978-1-942646-29-7 DISCLAIMER No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, mechanical or electronic, including photocopying or recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, or transmitted by email without permission in writing from the author Neither the author nor the publisher assumes any responsibility for errors, omissions, or contrary interpretations of the subject matter herein Any perceived slight of any individual or organization is purely unintentional Any resemblance, within this book, to real persons living or dead is purely coincidental apart from my own stories that are true to the author Cover Design: John Matthews Editing: Grace Kerina Author’s photo courtesy of Don Epp Photography Dedication For my Mom, who taught me to read at a very young age and instilled in me a love of learning that has fuelled my soul and gotten me through many of life’s adventures And for you and your relentless spirit, for every time you tried to change and failed, and for every time you picked yourself up to try again – thank you “We’re all just walking each other home.” – Ram Dass Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1: How Change Works The Myth Of Overnight Success The Cycle Of Change The Stages Of Change When You Know Better, You Do Better Chapter 2: The Hero’s Journey Stages Of The Hero’s Journey Start Where You Are EXERCISE 1: Creating An Outcome EXERCISE 2: Reclaiming Your Dream Chapter 3: Shifting Beliefs and Fuelling the Future Where Do Beliefs Come From? Why Do You Believe What You Believe? Unraveling A Limiting Belief EXERCISE: Getting Clear On What You Want What Fuels You? EXERCISE: Write Yourself a Love Letter Chapter 4: Values and Core Desired Feelings EXERCISE: Values Alignment Modal Operators (What Motivates You?) How Do You Want to Feel? The Desire Map EXERCISE: Feel Your Way Chapter Five: The Cycle of Rebirth and Forgiveness EXERCISE: Pause Notice Awaken Act Are You Ready To Forgive? EXERCISE: Karma Clearing Love Or Fear Chapter Six The Power of Ritual Types Of Ritual How Do Rituals Work? EXERCISE: Creating Your Ritual Creating A Visual Anchor EXERCISE: Creating Your Visual Anchor Chapter 7: Acknowledging The Journey EXERCISE: Claim Your Treasures Changing Your Mind Mind or Brain – Which Changes First? EXERCISE: Taking In The Good Chapter 8: Celebration And Completion EXERCISE: One Hundred Day Reflection Chapter 9: The Pitfalls of Change Traps and Pitfalls The Time Trap Additional Pitfalls EXERCISE: The Stop Doing List Interrupting Old Patterns EXERCISE: Checking In On Your Values Conclusion: Final Thoughts on Change Save Your Brain You Are What You Think Practice, Practice, Practice You Always Have a Choice Willpower Is Not The Only Solution Plan For Obstacles SET Yourself Up To Do Well Celebrate! Future Promises Sources Acknowledgements to scientists, we have about 60,000 thoughts a day… And what’s even more startling is that of those 60,000 thoughts, 95 percent are the same thoughts you had yesterday, and the day before, and the day before that Your mind is like a record player playing the same record over and over again.” – Marci Shimoff Practice, Practice, Practice When you practice – and for the purpose of The 100 Day Promise, I mean showing up each day and taking at least one action to bring your promise to life – you wire together the neural pathways that support your new behaviour Pretty much anything you learn and want to integrate takes practice Get over it Go with it You Always Have a Choice You can choose to create habits that empower your promise and make you feel good about yourself and life Or you can complain about why things will never change I know how hard it is to believe you have a choice when life feels hard, but the truth is, you always have a choice You don’t have to like this, but it will make life easier if you accept it Choose Take action Move on Willpower Is Not The Only Solution When you think about the time and energy required to rewire your brain, it becomes clearer that willpower is a limited resource If you count on willpower to get you through your 100-day journey, you set yourself up for failure This is evidenced by the common failure, every January, of New Year’s resolutions Plan For Obstacles You can plan for the obstacles that will likely come up every time you want to make a change in your life They include resistance, challenges, your inner critic or lizard brain, competing desires, sabotaging friends, life events, schedule overload, and so on Thinking ahead and having a plan helps you to get through the challenges and misadventures of the journey, and builds a sense of confidence that you really can do what you say SET Yourself Up To Do Well My clients often need to be reminded that they don’t have to do it alone I’d say at least seventy-five percent of them are like me: a little bit stubborn in the belief that they can’t ask for help, or that no one will say yes if they ask, so they may as well things themselves Sound familiar? The breakthrough comes from taking action and finding new evidence that these beliefs are crap Here’s how to do it: S – Get strategic support Who are the best people to ask for what you need? E – Get emotional support Who are your go-to friends and soul sisters, the ones you can count on no matter what? T – Get the right kind of task support Who are the best people to do the job at hand? One more Lord of the Rings reference: Frodo had Gandalf (strategic), Sam (emotional) and Gollum (task) support, and although you can question the validity of him having Gollum on his team, Gollum did play an essential role on the journey The 100 Day Promise online program delivers all three kinds of support, and I would love to have you join me for the next round For more information and to sign up, visit onehundreddaypromise.com Celebrate! Celebrating is the key to empowering yourself and your future promises There is a lot of evidence from the field of positive psychology showing that you’re more likely to reach your next goal if you recognize and celebrate your current successes So take a moment and let your accomplishment sink in Savour it like the best dark chocolate or wine In my online program, we come together in a celebration call at the end of the hundred days to share the wins and accomplishments Nothing feels as good as acknowledging ourselves in this way and witnessing others as they do the same Future Promises You have everything you need to create a new future You have always had your desires and now you have tools and strategies to create the kind of long-lasting change you’ve always wanted I have two final questions to ask you: What do you now know about making a promise to yourself? What have you learned about the process of change? In Chapter 3, I asked you to write a love letter to yourself from the future Whether you’ve begun your first promise or not, something magical happens when you claim your power to create something new in your life You can claim that power now by reaching out to the future and pulling wisdom from who you will become to who you are now I did so in this note I wrote to myself during the first 100 Day Promise program Dear One, These past hundred days have been incredible, and I am so proud of what you accomplished You did the work, first in listening to your soul’s deepest desire, and then by staying focused and honouring that desire This is both the end and the beginning, and you are ready and willing to continue to walk this path You have the heart and courage to do this again and again, breathing life into many more promises, for yourself and others I am grateful I’ll be there to witness it all Big love for you from the future, xo Sandi May your current hundred day promise be only one of many promises to yourself, and may you enjoy the journey as much as I have Sources Books Campbell, Joseph A Joseph Campbell Companion Dispenza, Dr Joe Breaking the Habits of Being Yourself Firth, David Change Your World One Word at a Time Hanson, Dr Rick Buddha’s Brain: The New Neuroscience and the Path of Awakening Hanson, Dr Rick Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence Johnson, Brian A Philosopher’s Notes - On Optimal Living, Creating an Authentically Awesome Life and Other Such Goodness LaPorte, Danielle The Desire Map Losier, Michael Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t Prochaska, J.O., Norcross, J.C., and DeClemente, Changing for Good Vogler, Christopher A Practical Guide to Joseph Campbell’s The Hero with a Thousand Faces Resources Online Etymology Dictionary FutureMe Org LaPorte, Danielle, “The Desire Map” Katie, Byron “The Work” Acknowledgements This book would not have been written without the love and support of many people I am deeply appreciative and grateful for your presence in my life First and foremost, to my parents, Manuel and Pierina Amorim: Thank you for making sure I knew that I could do anything if I set my mind to it I didn’t always believe you, but the lesson stayed with me To my amazing clients and the participants of The 100 Day Promise online program: Your courage and willingness to face your discomfort and fears so that you could reclaim your freedom has inspired me more than you will ever know To my friend Ellen Berg: Thank you for being my sounding board as I tested concepts along the way Your trust and friendship has been the greatest gift and I feel blessed to know you Your passion for teaching and living life to the fullest is a constant inspiration to me To Landmark Education and Erickson College International: Thank you for opening me up to the world of personal development and coaching Living a life I love and living it powerfully is possible because of the education you deliver To Angela Lauria and her team at The Difference Press: The words thank you seem small for the depth of gratitude I feel Thank you for the love and support To my husband, Mark Faviell: Thank you for your love, and encouragement You are the stable ground I too often forget I need About The Author Sandi Amorim is a Master Coach, NLP Practitioner, and creator of The 100 Day Promise, a successful online program created to help people change with greater ease and effectiveness She’s spent the past 20 years studying what makes us tick, what keeps us stuck, and, most importantly, what helps us thrive As a seasoned professional in the field of coaching, she holds coaching certificates from Erickson Coaching International in the Art & Science of Coaching, and NeuroLinguistic Programming, and is a Master Coach with the Harmony Integration Academy In 2014, Sandi became one of the first coaches in the world licensed to lead Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map workshop Sandi has helped hundreds of people experience more fulfillment in their lives by helping them reclaim their freedom Freedom, one of her core values, is a driving passion and also informs how she lives, works, and creates She lives in Vancouver, British Columbia with her husband Mark and her beloved Scottie dog, Tarty About Difference Press Difference Press offers life coaches, other healing professionals, a comprehensive solution to get their book written, published, and promoted A boutique style alternative to self-publishing, Difference Press boasts a fair and easy to understand profit structure, low priced author copies, and author-friendly contract terms Founder, Angela Lauria has been bringing the literary ventures of authors-in-transformation to life since 1994 Your Delicious Book If you’re like many of the authors we work with, you have wanted to write a book for a long time, maybe you have even started a book … or two… or three … but somehow, as hard as you have tried to make your book a priority other things keep getting in the way It’s not just finding the time and confidence to write that is an obstacle The logistics of finding an editor, hiring an experienced designer, and figuring out all the technicalities of publishing stops many authors-in-transformation from writing a book that makes a difference Your Delicious Book is designed to address every obstacle along the way so all you have to do is write! 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Contact her directly at http://sandiamorim.com/contact-100-day-promise/ Follow Sandi Amorim Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandi.amorim.coach Twitter: https://twitter.com/SandiAmorim, #100daypromise Instagram: https://instagram.com/sandiamorim/ [...]...About The Author About Difference Press Other Books by Difference Press The 100 Day Promise Resources Introduction The idea for The 100 Day Promise came to me when I realized I was having the same conversation over and over again with clients and people going through my online programs Many of them were discouraged because, in spite of a strong desire to change, they weren’t able to create the kind... Desire is a key component to success with The 100 Day Promise, but it’s not the only component You also need to get your beliefs in order Where Do Beliefs Come From? Beliefs are not the truth You may think they’re real because they feel true, but beliefs are not and have never been the truth They’re formed by repeated thoughts, and the reason they feel true is because some time in the past something happened (let’s call it the trigger) and you made a decision that led to a thought... The black moment is the moment when the real message of transformation is going to come At the darkest moment comes the light.” One of the things about change that we don’t necessarily talk about is that there may be people in your life who don’t want you to change They like the status quo and want things – and you – to stay the same Other people may become your strongest allies This part of the journey is learning to tell one from the other 7 Approach: The hero and newfound... How will you deal with your return? Do you make time to celebrate? Do you acknowledge the work you’ve put in or do you immediately move on to the next thing? 11 The Resurrection: At the climax of the story, the hero is severely tested once more, on the threshold of coming home Usually, this test comes in the form of a final sacrifice, another moment of death and rebirth, but on a higher and more complete level This is the point at which you notice that the tension you began the. .. I’ve used it as a tool throughout the hundred day process as a kind of road map, one we’ll revisit in later chapters The hero’s journey is a metaphor that can help you personalise your journey In the online 100 Day Promise, it’s easy to see people going through the various stages because we’re all working on our promises together When you begin your hundred day commitment, you can use the hero’s journey as a... positive action.” He also said, “If you fuel your journey on the opinions of others, you are going to run out of gas.” Painful, hurtful, and often wounding, the opinions of others have a greater impact than we might like They often play out as thoughts, and can drain the energy needed to follow through on a promise About halfway through the online program, I ask people to look at how they speak about themselves and their promises This stage is about finding and using the right words... look at how you’ve worded your promise How might an adjustment of words transform your promise from giving you a heavy feeling to compelling you to take action every day? For example, in the first 100 Day Promise online program, I began with a promise to write every day, but that quickly triggered the rebel in me, who hates being told what to do So I changed the wording of my promise to focus on devoting myself to writing... my life that, no matter how hard I tried, just wouldn’t change beyond the initial phase of motivation So I began studying the process of change, and out of that I developed an online program, the 100 Day Promise The program is designed to guide you over the course of one hundred days to create a promise based on a change you want in your life, and to develop your capacity to follow through with daily actions to bring that promise to life – not only bring it to life, i.e... committed and you’re now moving forward on your promise At this point, you might also think, “What the hell have I done?” “If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while waiting for you, and the life you ought to be living is the one you are living.” 6 Tests, Allies, and Enemies: The hero is tested and sorts out allegiances in the new world The black moment is the moment when the real message of transformation is going to... don’t realize the impact their behaviour can have on their children Things they say and do can unconsciously form negative beliefs in their children, even when that’s most certainly not what they wanted Picture this… At some point in my childhood, I think around the age of ten, someone made a comment about my sister and me He said, Sandi s the smart one and Janet’s the pretty one.” Neither of those