I have said in many lectures, “Never abandon a person when you’re leaving.” What does that mean? It means that it’s important for us to honor the eternal nature of relationships. When relationships change form, their content need not be diminished. The ego says, “Look, it’s over with them. It didn’t work out. We’re no longer together. What was, was. I’m with someone new now.” The “ex” becomes a second-rate citizen. Often the new mate feels justified in saying, “Why are you talking to them? We’re together now.” Woe to the person who doesn’t support the healing between a man or woman and their ex. Ultimately you discover that how the person treated the last one is exactly how they’ll treat you. We feel jealousy, the need to hold on to what we’ve got, because in this area, as in every other, the ego says that there’s only so much love to go around, that another person’s good takes away from our own. The ego is a belief in finite resources, but love is infinite. Whenever love is added to any part of the system, there is an increase to every part. Love only gives rise to more love. If my husband or boyfriend heals with his past relationships, it only increases his capacity to love me from a healed and whole place. The last woman in his life is not my competition. She is my sister.